I am pregnant for a man who has been married for 20 years
Dominica News Online - Tuesday, June 5th, 2012 at 11:35 AM
I am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years.
I’m 16 weeks pregnant with his child and his whole demeanor towards me has changed.
I use to get a thousand phone calls and text messages from this man and see him every single day for the majority of the day/night. He positively refuses to talk to me at all and avoids all situations that could possibly involve seeing me.
When I found out I was pregnant I went and talked to his wife which I now realize was a huge mistake for one she made it obvious that she doesn’t care what or who he does as long as she is provided for and two I destroyed any chance I had in this man being a father to my child.
I am not asking for his money or even for him to be with me I’m simply asking him to be a part of this child’s life. I’m so hurt and confused by his actions and reactions or lack there of where as my unborn child is involved. My friends say just leave him alone and give him some time he’ll come around I doubt that seriously.
What should I do or not to for this man to be around for our child. He is Dominican and is behavior towards this situation is outrageous to me because Dominicans are such family oriented people. What should I do please help me.
Confused and Hurt
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Dear Confused and Hurt,
If I were you I would take part of your friends’ advice, just leave him alone. You were taken for a ride by this man and he really didn’t love you. You were just another source of free sex.
Don’t expect him to “come around.” There is no way this man is going to leave his wife of 20 years and family.
Hence I encourage you to forget about this man and move on with your life. Obviously he doesn’t want to be part of your child’s life, so let it be.
Hope this was a lesson for you. In the future always make sure you ‘do your homework’ on the men who claim they love you.
Bella
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137 Comments
I once had an abortion with a much older married when I was in my early twenties. Herb J’s life and his family’s lives would have been destroyed and tht poor child would have been caught right in the middle. I beg all women to leave that type of relationship immediately as these men would never let their daughters do what you are doing……so why do they think it’s ok for you to be doing it? It’s simply because tht have absolutely no respect for u!!! Get out and dont make the mistake of wasting your precious youth on a LOSER!!!
anonymous I do not agree with you. I know women who have good wives everything on time take care of them they are always neat and clean but they are just blatantly nasty. Some of them have more than one outside woman. I know some who have women coming from overseas to spend time, they may rent somewhere for them and when their wives think they are at work they are with them. No man every admits to his wife that he is having an affairs. As a women I should ask myself if a married man is having an affair with me and he and his wife seem to be getting on ok why should I be there, only for sex and maybe pay a bill for me at the end of the month; thats what I am worth? Wake up women! wake up! He goes nowhere in public with me, cannot call him after work time what am I doing there, for him to come and spend a little time with me it has to be from work or when he is out and steals a chance? why make myself so cheap can’t have him when I want to?
Yes let the man go! If you really didnt know he was married ,He’s pathetic & you dont need a loser in your life. As for the child and the support of your child, I would collect child support!!!! NOT for revenge or to try to have him back, soley for the help to raise your baby. Its never cheap doing it alone. The fact is, BOTH of you made the child and BOTH should support the baby. If he’s there or NOT!
she didnt know the man was married….some of allu maybe never fell inlove and life is very perfect cause some of the comments are pure rubish…..she is as innocent in the situation as the child…didnt u see the comment she got from the wife.. the wife dosnt care that jus says what kind of woman she is she is all about that man’s money…..keep ur head up my girl dere is a door open for u and ur child..there is plenty time for change and for u to find a good guy who will be willing to take care of u and ur baby..dre are a few good guys out dre still dey are not all gone rotten….
pple are so judgemental.
what is wrong with all u dominican woman since when all u come so nasty stop let money full all u keep all u legs close and do not blame people for all u mistakes wake up and smell you all coffee am sick of all u
thats how woman bringing children on this earth to just suffer its high time dna testing be brought to the law for men to support their children i dont care married or not,,,its a child life at stake …..
them lil girls like their thing and money
when did u find out he was married? And not one or two children but 6!!! At the moment I hate men so Good Luck! But don’t wait for him 2 contact u coz you’ll be waiting a very long time.
Good for you too nasty!
IT TAKES TWO TO TANGO! NOBODY DIDNT TELL YOU GO AND SLEEP WITH A MARRIED MAN!
well you to damn nasty to get involved with him in the first place. so whatever you get take and he have all his right if he never want to check you, i just hope he take care of his child.
Darling…..There is one thing we all must learn to do before we fall in love with someone. It is called INVESTIGATE.
I LIKE THAT!!!!!!!….WHOEVER U ARE, U ARE VERY SMART!
that is right!do your homework.Some people are bold-face liars!
Women and men alike… I think women lie more because they alao lie to themselves.
pure careless you need to make a checklist
1)medical
2)wife kids where about family
3)what are your future plans and the list go on don’t look to hear love sex money it could be aid you get than a fatherless child ladies be wise sex not running away buy a toy make yourself happy
lol do your homework
this thing gets to me when some young lady use their body instead of their head and when it back fire on them they cry fowl. My dear when ever you getting into a relationship, you have to find out about the man. They do that’s why they know who they can fool. Both men and women, when they meet the opposit sex their head going wild, they in love before finding out about the person. It is your life girl you have to protect it, bella wasn’t their with you.when you were sleeping with him you didn’t find out if he is married, when you found out you going to the woman, you to bold face. she gave you a nice answer. stop using you all body for a little cell phone and dollars and cry later. I am just so upset about that. he is married for twenty years he is not going to leave his wife. your child is growing inside you, let it grow and take care of your child, you will just have to tell him the whole truth and nothing but the truth when he ask about his sperm donar. and think and do your own investigtion the next time your head sweel over a man.
belle beff
You all really need to stop blaming the wife when the husband goes astray. A wife can do everything she possibly can to make her husband feel special, satisfied and happy. It doesn’t matter.
If the husband wants to stray, he will.
yes every one talking about the woman and the man,what about the child he/she is going to need food and clothes,when the child fall sick the mother need money to take that child to a doctor,people the child come first,Ti is time that d/ca men stay home with their family,take his ass to court for him to support his child,is big man he is playing show him a lesson,so that he will not go and have sex with other young ladies.Ask god to forgive you and just be agood mother to your child what ever you eat your child will eat to,the man will come around when that child get biger and have a job or going to high school he will tell his friends that is my child and you the mother will shame his ass in front of his friends.woman take care of your unborn child and your self pray to god he will answer your prayers and next time ask the man if he is marry,he mit not tell you the truth,when a man want to have sex with the young ladies they come up with all kindsof stores and the women believed them,so stop blameing the women,the men are the ones to blame.She didn’t get ptegnant by her self.
Bella do you make up these stories? If you are not then there is something very wrong with our young women. I’m not judging just making an observation. I’m a young woman myself and when I read these stories or see these young woman dating a married man or a man that already has a g/friend it sickens me. What happens to morals and values? Don’t these women value their self worth? I’m single and I know it’s not easy finding someone who loves you but settling for “mr. good enough” is the the way to go. Young lady you put yourself in that mess and as my grand parents would say “you make your bed now lay in it”. Hopefully you will learn from this and make better decisions the next time.
First off, you should have thought of family orientation before spreading your legs. His “family” is at home with his wife and six children. You were just a piece of fresh meat who would do everything and anything wifey would not be dared asked to do. So think of fending for yourself and your child and leave the people’s “family” in tact. When are we women going to learn that once a man is married, he only f for enjoyment with no care in the world, except getting a high “my wife will never find out”. Sometimes they use you to get aroused and runs home quickly to finish off with their wives, because she may be too tired caring for the children to give him the whole nine yards. If you are lucky he’ll stick by you or, once the belly starts growing out in the way you will get pushed aside and he moves to the next, unless his wife can’t bare children, then he uses you as a surrogate. When are women in the Caribbean going to learn the laws of the bible? What God has put together let no man put asunder. Men stick to your wives, women stick to your husbands, also adultery is disregarded.
They always think they better than the wife, but they cannot cook, have little paying job, the man twice their age, and they think they heavy. The married man take them out to get chicken and chips, lie to them about their wife and home and just used them. While the husy calling home and say they working late etc etc. These young women stupid, nasty and have no brain.
At the end of the day, they end up with child, no man, sometimes on their parents account while the man sits at home well comfy with de wify and children. However. sooner or later he drop dead from all this stress and wify move on will nice and happy with someone else.
Please remember, adulterers will not even see the kingdom of God. living an adulterous life is terrible. Young women, wait. seek god and he will send you the right person.
SHUT UP FOOl!!!!! its all you married women dat causing that. some of all you more nasty, wicked and like to make people think all you good and is your husbands that bad. SHUT YOUR MOUTH DERE EH.
if you don’t do your duties as a wife the man will leave. Is women like all you that drive your husbands to the grave and then latter on all you enjoying what he leave behind. LEAVE THE POOR GIRL ALONE AND STOP BEING A HYPOCRITE OK.
SHUT UP FOOl!!!!! YOU KNOW HOW MANY WICKED MARRIED WOMEN WE HAVE ON THIS ISLAND WHO ALSO CANNOT COOK, WASH, CLEAN, IRON AND CANNOT EVEN GIVE THEIR HUSBAND A GOOD …..?its all you married women dat causing that. some of all you more nasty, wicked and like to make people think all you good and is your husbands that bad. SHUT YOUR MOUTH DERE EH.
if you don’t do your duties as a wife the man will leave. Is women like all you that drive your husbands to the grave and then latter on all you enjoying what he leave behind. LEAVE THE POOR GIRL ALONE AND STOP BEING A HYPOCRITE OK.
Typical….It seems to me that you are offended by the person’s comment because you are guilty of adultery. Let the people make their comment, and stop criticizing them..this is so stupif….You are acting like a child, with no sense at all. A woman can give her man all sorts of different positions, and he will still go out if he wants to.
Once a man have a bad habit, that is all it is a bad habit. Some men cannot even give a woman an orgasm, but she will still love him. You coming and talk about things you are not even sure of. Every body have their problems at home, man or woman, so don’t play like you are naive….leave that for young children that don’t know better.
For years now women are coming on to my husband, do you think he would tell me when he is unfaithful..he will only tell me those he don’t care about. I got a lift twice on married men cars, and long before they reach my home, their hands reach on my lap, I had to lash the hand for it to leave my lap. Some men just plain nasty, and cannot see a skirt pass.
The woman and other young girls, have to find out who they are first, the man could be any kind of crimminal. She could have gotten Aids or something. Sometimes some women know that the men are married, and they still believing what the men say….It is a story, how else will he get anything from her, he must say anything she wants to hear. The man has 6 children already, he was taking time away from them, he does not want mor.
SHUT UP FOOl!!!!!you know how many wicked, lazy and even nasty married women we have in that country who cannot cook, clean, wash, and cannot even give their man a good ….? its all you married women dat causing that. some of all you more nasty, wicked and like to make people think all you good and is your husbands that bad. SHUT YOUR MOUTH DERE EH.
if you don’t do your duties as a wife the man will leave. Is women like all you that drive your husbands to the grave and then latter on all you enjoying what he leave behind. LEAVE THE POOR GIRL ALONE AND STOP BEING A HYPOCRITE OK.
On another note Anonymous When a man cheat, it is the woman’s fault, but when she cheats, she is nasty. Read your comment, and re-read again. You must not be so judgemental. I don’t excuse adultery, but you only see one person at fault….THE WOMAN. But find our how man men doing nonsense while all you making excuses for them, but all you calling the women nasty. Well it is the women that know about the wives, and they still having relationships with those men that are nasty, and they believe that the men are always telling the truth. Some women fool themselves for years and trying their best for some men to leave their wives, but some men like to play, and they enjoy what they getting so the will just continue to make excuses, and the women and them getting more frustrated, because they not living their wives for them.
What do we expect, when a good many cheating adults are no good examples to their children. They have no morals and cannot correct their children, because they have taken a page from thrir book. The children come out no better, but worse. Why put Lucifer before God?
Thank God, finally someone that speaks truth. What is wrong with people? All I am hearing is how wrong, how bad, how low, this young lady is. Where is the outrage for what this man has done? Yes, she committed fornication but did he not also commit adultery? When are we going to whole men responsible for their actions? NO one held a gun to his head. If anything, he is more wrong than she is. He broke his vows not only to his wife but to God himself but all I am hearing is what a whore the young lady is, unbelievable.
We as a society want to take the time and effort to raise our girls right; but throw our boys aside like if they don’t count. Who are our girls supposed to marry? It takes two people to make a relationship work. How do we except our boys to grow up and become real men when we constantly make excuses for their bad behavior.
The fact is this man lied to this woman. He deceived her. He impregnated her while married to his wife. Now he is neglecting his responsibilities by not acknowledging the existence of his unborn child. He created the problem to begin with. And if all we can say is, “well, she shouldn’t have opened her legs”, then shame on us. We are just as bad as he is.
S. Delight
Girl, I feel your pain, and sympathise with you. However, I don’t believe you only recently found out he was married. You only said that to try and escape ridicule. If you’re with a man and you only have sex in his car, or in a guest house, or by the river, or on donkey beach, then you know what time it is.
I know a married man who told me that his mistress was hurt when he wanted to have sex one day. She asked him if it always has to be sex everytime he came to check her. He told me he told her honestly that he has a maid at his home and a great wife, so there is absolutely nothing else she could do for him. Then the waterworks began. Its the money they like for true. The young ladies must start turning these married men away.
just learn from your mistakes. u should never be with a married man in the first place. just make it be the first and last time. by the way you had no reason to go to the wife. the wife is not your best friend u and her have no relationship. going to the wife was an act of stupidity. u should talk to the husband first. carry on with your life, if the husbands comes back then fine. if not then file for child support. raise ur child in the best way possible. next time beware of dogs
another single mother,its a shame.there is no more man left in dominica,only man-gos or zaman
Im reading alot of foolishness on here. Many of you are quick to crucify this lady. Why? She said she found out about it after the fact. He deceived her and I dont hear anything about him being foul!
He is indeed foul. Some of you are too quick to blame women and let the men go free. Stop being foolish! She was vulnerable enough to come and tell her story and seek for advice and instead many of you are condemning her.
Lady in life you live you learn. Unfortunately you got caught up in a messed up web. Take heart…..all will be well in the end!
My dear, it is not a matter of blaming the young lady, the young lady should have found out who the man was first before having any relationship with him. Visit his home, family, friends, ask questions, if they don’t add up thenstop it before it starts. She could have gotten sick. This is foolishness. And she still has the guts to go to the man’s wife? Can you believe that. Did she hop to gain anything by doing that. The man wanted to play so he got a toy, now the toy, no longer fits his fantasy, so he is off until he finds another one to play with, and that he will. It is obvious that is his habit, and his wife has distanced herself from him. Women have to learn to have more pride for themselves, and make sure that they are not treated like things.
You cannot love a man more than he love you, it has to be equal, and I am not talking about physical attraction, everywhere you go there are beautiful women, so a man has to have respect for you, if not, put the brakes on him.
These are the consequences of fornication and adultery my girl.
I am sure if you had opened your legs or contemplated opening your legs after marriage you would have found out that the man is already married. He would have to register that marriage.
Our young girls are too cheap (meaning they open their legs for stupid men) and greedy that’s why they get busted. There are good single men out there who are serious about having a family but too many of you women are busy with acrylic nails, weave and extensions and materialism thus you all are blinded by these things.
Keep your child, don’t add another sin by aborting and don’t harass the man for his money, the child is a bastard child in any case so he is not obligated to spend on it. This is what happens when people have sex out of marriage. Take what you get!
continue to open ya legs like a prostitute…. u r 16 years and involved with a man that has been married for 20 years that means that man must b at least 38 and you are in love child please… who are u tryin to fool…. now sugar daddy gone u a cry… stupes… go get work to do… and stop being a young whore!!!!
she said she was 16 weeks pregnant, not that she is 16 years old.
best you shut up!!!!!!!!!!
only fools speak like you are doing now….
empty vessel.
shame shame shame, take your time to read read READ! Toneh!
shame shame shame on you who can’t read and understand basic english!!!!!!!!!!!!
One time I was talking to this woman and I saw she was getting a bit warm towards me. I told her I was a married man. She told me that was not her problem and that I would have to deal with my wife if she found out. She was there to have fun and whether the man was married or single, it did not matter to her.
nasty them woman nasty but i know i will catch one on fire for mines…need to teach them a lesson stay away from people’s relationship, look d/ca have dildos now go buy and use them and leave those married men and woman man alone
oh please yo women need to start blaming the men and you wives need to start doing your job right so that your husbands can stay home, from time you all make children u all doing like you all old thats y u all husbands have o go out, they even remover their rings to go behind these young girl, they make up so much stories for you, what do u expect an innocent young woman to do when she is not experienced, you wives need to take back control of you all marriage and make some family time, stop getting married for the wrong reasons and then blame young women out there when they are involved with you husbands, stop sitting by the streets and minding peoples business, check you pot of water first. thats what you need to do and stop saying people getting involved in allu marriage allu husbands that going after them, dam it man.
I’m one of them who sells dildos and everything else…to bad I can’t put the site on here but friend sarah Jane on fb you’ll get all the glory details.
What u saying there aint making sense whether the wives doing their job is nasty like all u that going to destroy the relationship so shut the F UP
@ SEASONING PEPPER
and what the heck is your point? some men more nasty. they want to have woman and a wife on the side. And what about those married women that go out and sleep with single men too? some even come back and next thing husband know later on he have a ready made jacket to support.Yes the young girl was wrong but she say she did not know he was married. Maybe she will learn her lesson. let us not crucify her ok.
That is some kind of boldness eh….I can believe that. Now this is where you the married man have to ask the question. How many times has she done this? How many men have there been before? Why is she so accomodating, and calculating? Does she have something to give you?
We all know that the revil one is working overtime to destry families, and when you have nothing he lives you alone in yoyr misery. Faithfulness is the key.
after couple years de child will ask about his/her father an i wonder if you will write bella again…or explain to him/her what you just ask bella…hmmm you are not confuse or hurt, de baby that inside you that gonna be confused and hurt because of your reckless relationshit, and yes i put a T at de end n not a P because is shit you was doing and not taking time out to get to know de man properly…
Norm mayay ki ka quitez madame yo epi koowi jeune femme…a ya yai…allu have an international geeyon. Women respect allu self because allyou will pass in de curse too. those man cannot hear to leave single girls for us single man. Zhore paka tan? instead allu going taking viagram and all other nonesense to stay up? Bondieu epi zhore wi.
Y did u have to go to the man wife. Is not the wife that breed u. I think u get breed on purpose to try to get the man thats y u went to the wife. If i was the wife i would beat your ass so bad for coming in front of me u would have had an instant miscarriage. Stay away from people husband.
Breed u…. lol I agree with u she should never go and confront de man wife. I find she well brave to do that.
With respect
Leave the man alone
after the baby born
Sue for sole custody and Child support and have nothing to do with him again. He wanted to play macho so let him pay his bill
amen to thatttt!!!!!
Did you find out he was married before or after you got pregnant? If you knew before you got pregnant would it have made a difference to you? I doubt it because as you yourself said you are “madly, deeply and truly in love with the man”. You used to see him for the majority of the day/night? Does he have a job?
Girl, when you agree to be with the man, did he promise to stay forever? Did he spend the whole night with you? Did he ask you for a child? We women like to say we got pregnant. Women don’t usually just get pregnant. You got pregnant because you were in love and careless. So now he supposed to just drop everything fro you and your child. Right?
The man did not ask you for child. Women need to protect themselves and stop ” just getting pregnant” without the man’s consent.
Come back where that man have 6 children with his wife most married men are just enjoying them selves with young single woman and when these things happend they disappear
i wonder why bella didnt advise her about child support,for the child
Girl…you not the first. I know of somebody who went thru that too. The man refuse to take care of the child although he was a law officer. But the person just leave him alone until it was troubling him that he and wifey come begging for child. Now where he is now? six feet under and child big woman now and wifey playing part mother dearest. Only Jah knows our weakness and wickedness.
YES I KNOW DAT PERSON TOO AND IT WAS THE MAN WIFE THAT HAD TELL HIM TO DOE SUPPORT DE CHILD. THEN WHEN SHE SEE THE LITTLE GIRL SHE LOVE HER SO MUCH AND WANTED TO BE MOTHER DAT SHE EVEN TURN DE CHILD AGAINST DE POOR WOMAN. BUT U RIGHT ONLY JAH JAH KNOW THEIR WICKEDNESS.
Hot topic: I think the grammar was incorrect! I think the young lady is 20 years old and recently found out that dude was married.. Don’t want to jump to conclusions . Good luck!
Nah it was right on Q
“I am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years.”
6 children married for 20 years seem logical. She may well be a 20 year old too, but this is so commonplace young women, with big old men.
Plenty of Dominicas’ young women like to sleep with senior citizens thinking they are stable, have money etc. Who fool you tutu? I refuse to believe you spent many years in DOMINICA with this man and had no clue he had a wife. You simply were carefree and madly in love according to you, so you ignored the warning signs. He may have spent time at your house, but I’m sure he told you he had to be home with his family on many occasions! Why set yourself up for such obvious failure? The man already lived his life and has his family, you think you can upstage that? Not even Monica Lewinsky gracing the President could make him leave Hilary!Sure he got work done, a happy prez is a happy country, a happy old man, is a less grumpy old man at home, but really what were you even thinking? What he told you he never did something like that before little angel? It’s better to work together with a young man and build something from scratch together than to slither your way in and have expectations. You better demand child support even if is his social security check he getting.
its a sad comment from the wife and that is why married men will always sleep with other women cuz when found out thier wives always defend or remains with them. Garcon you mad he gone, Act like a Woman Think like a Man.
Did i warn you all about that sex thing no sex before you get married.For if sin willfully after we have receivved the knowledge of the truth, there no longer remains a sacrifice for sins, but a certain fearful expectation of judgment.Do not cast away your confidence, which have great reward.If you are ready to repent of your sins and believe in Jesus Christ so that you can receive his forgiveness, take a moment to pray like this;God i ‘m sorry for my sins.I Turn from my sins and i ask you to forgive me.Thank you for sending Jesus Christ to die on the cross for my sins.Jesus i ask you to come in to my life and be my lord and savior and friend.Thank you for forgiving me and giving me eternal life.In Jesus’name I pray amen if you meant it God have forgiven you well come in God family.
When I found out I was pregnant I went and talked to his wife…….LOL
Some woman really bold and BRAVE! Talk to his wife to say what? All the time you was in bed with the husband, you never went to her, now you pregnant you gone infront wifey?
Girl you lucky you still pregnant because if i was that wife i would put blose on you!
All you still doesn’t hear to leave married man alone? One day you will married too and you will not like that for yourself, DO NOT DO IT TO OTHERS. You put distruction in the man home and you want him to talk to you?
Girl go and clense yourself from that blight before it starts to haunt you. Leave the man alone, when baby born he may come by but break all ties with the lady man. SIDE TING!!!!
well said Ann what u don’t want in your bed don’t bring it to another bed … its a sin and we fail to understand its not right leave married man and woman alone
First of all….this woman should slap her yes….not for sleeping with her husband…but for telling her that she is pregnant for Mr: Husband….second…she should hit Mista two cull mache pelou in his waist….pack a little bag for him and put him to sleep in the pack coucon….
It was not her duty to respect and protect his family it was his..
How ever as much as we see reason to condemn the young! we should put some blame on those nasty old men out there who has no respect at all for young ladies/kids…
he should be afraid and be very….afraid..who know what may one day happen to his 16 yrs old daughter…we seem to think of the moment and not the repercusion..
But in saying all this young lady..you could have said no to grandpa..
Guess monkey knows which tree to climb….
We are all asking why sie went to see his wife. Question…When did she find out he was married? How did she find out were he live? Who showed her his wife. I am not judging you young woman, but I suggest that you knew he was married, but you thought he would live his wife and family for you, because of your affair with him. A man can find pleasure anywhere, but this does not mean he loves any of the women, he plays around with. You acted desperate by going to his wife, but you should not have the affair in the first place.
It is because of loose women that married men feel they can get to have a secret affair and get away with it. The only thing is that those women wants more than a ‘VOLAY CHARCE’ ‘A SECRET AFFAIR’ they want more, and that is when the affair does end, and he looks for another woman to play around with. It is only when the woman goes and do her thing that she is branded’NASTY”.
I know of a man that spent years messing around on his woman, and now he cannot perform, he want her badly, she quickly left him, now he is all alone. He spent too many years being unfaithful, and now he is paying for it. And is now the woman young.
da married men are worst than the single ones. they are nasty, they have no respect for young woman. they leave their wives at home and go after young girl,s i myself i afraid of them. u see them going church with wife alas is sheep in wolf clothing that there. me i hate da man they nasty especially those mnarried ones. nasty men
But our young women entertain them. Where is our personal responsiblity, self worth and accountablity. If our young women rejected them outright, even publicly embarassed them, they would take their fastness elsewhere, but you see many of our young women are easily impressed, a little shoe, a kfc and vep in the middle of the night to the far away village where no one knows them, a sleep over until douvant jour when he makes his exit and we think we on. We in market moving big and fussing, eventually when it withers away we cry foul.
Women have to take blame for their own circumstances too, and by the way some young women are sorting out older, married men, must be challenge of sorts to the wives.
excuse me mam? Did you put all DA man under the same category?
All men are not the same. One day you may marry too…would you like them to put your man under that category? Guard your tongue
ANN u sound like a complete IDIOT …. You are a complete idiot STFU women like u give woman a bad name man walk over allu and its ok is the other woman fault. Really……
“He is Dominican and is behavior towards this situation is outrageous to me because Dominicans are such family oriented people. What should I do please help me”….LOL…
until they get you all bloated up
You old enough to put him between your legs, so I am assuming you old enough to know what to do
“nough” said
MY DEAR CHILD, I AM NOT DISSING YOU BUT I AM OLDER THAN YOU ARE AND I WILL NOT BELIEVE ALL THAT YOU SAY.WE WOMEN HAVE THIS GUT FEELING OF DISHONESTY AND SECRECY IN A RELATIONSHIP. YOU MUST HAVE KNOWN HE HAS A FAMILY AND WHY DID YOU CONFRONT HIS WIFE? I BELIEVE THAT YOU WERE IN LOVE WITH THE SEX, NOT HIM AND BEING A MAN, HE GAVE YOU EXACTLY WHAT YOU WANTED, PART OF HIM, A CHILD. YOU ARE NOT THE FIRST BUT I DO HOPE THAT YOU ARE THE LAST WOMAN WHO WILL DELIBERATELY TRY TO HOLD DOWN A MAN, BY GIVING HIM A CHILD HE WILL WALK AWAY FROM. DONT MAKE YOUR BABY SUFFER FOR YOUR MISTAKE, GIVE IT ALL THE LOVE YOU CAN AND THE BEST EDUCATION YOU CAN GIVE IT, `CAUSE THE BABY DESERVES THE BEST.
Aye boy Dominicans have kixxs!!!!!!!!!!Tanx for the laughter…..
God is your only judge. He forgives us all for our errors and sins. Take your worries to Him. Ask Him to make it right for you and to give you a clean start.
Firstly, how did you not know he is a married man, sorry to say but news in Dominica travels quickly. Investigate your men before you have sex them, not when he starts acting like an.
Secondly, having a child with a married man is a tricky situation. Maybe it’s best you leave him alone. Right now the only woman he is thinking of pleasing is the woman he married.
Take you friends advice.
you there in your glory land when you get plug u wanna go to wife de wife do right tell you that…..is good time all you like well it doesn’t last for long
Drama
Ohh well, another child in D/A that has to grow up without a father figure…. Apparently condom not 4 u.
I am not even going to touch the fact that the man was married and therefore you had no business being with him. However, not using a condom is foolish. Mais papamente, when you know someone is in another relationship and you still refuse to protect yourself that is pure “donkeyness.” AIDS kills.
Best comment! If you can get pregnant, you can get HIV!
@Mouth of the South…….I support u in this one. Take his wretched behind to court and get child support. Your child deserves that! Bella I’m surprised you mentioned nothing about child support.
Remember that being a sperm donor doesn’t make you a father in the eyes of the real world.
My advise to you is that raise your child by yourself if you can and shower that child with all the love in the world. If you do it right – your child will come out better for it.
Yes, it’s going to be hard being a single mom, but frankly, many women have done it. My mom did it, and many others. Yes, it’s great going up in a 2 parent family, or so i’ve herad, but it’s also great growing up in a one parent family especially if you have nothing else to compare it to, because it’s not part of your life.
Raise your child right, and you’ll not regret it.
I for sure am ok after having been raised in a single parent family…..
I agree wif mouth of da south. Ol bella did is give harse remarks. She was not the only one commitin adultery. He needs to pay also. Take his to court. Leavin it be is givin him a get out jail free card wile u face ol d hardtime an d critics. Let him pay. U both did da crime. As for the wife, u had no rite to go to her only if is to apologize an to explain to her that u were tricked by her husband. Good luck. Sori bout yr unfortunate circumstance.
When you found out he had a wife? no you eventually found out, and like many of Bella famous town criers hoped he would leave his wife for you, since you may be a spring chicken flexing with a man married over 20 years. Why didn’t you tell his wife when you started messing with him and found out about her existence, no you waited and now he left you hard and dry she must do what? when you all were rolling in the hay was she a part of it? I would put my foot in your arse if I were this woman for bringing your fastness to me.
On another note, stop with this foolishness about you don’t want his money! He breed you, the child is his responsibilty and yours, if anything open a college saving fund for the baby with the child support money but by all means he must be made to pay financially. What if something happens to you unexpectedly who should bare the financial burden of this little innocent person you chose to breed for a married man? Woman wise up, stop being emotional and remember if you plant potato you can’t reap tomatoes!
No you overdoing it woman. Really? 20 years a man married must be a hardback, ain’t no way in hell you could be that clueless, not even if you live in a different state, country/island. I’m the last one to be hard on people but geez louise you take the cake.
Jezeebel dat der. You answered your own question. ‘I am madly deeply and truly in love with a man who I recently found out has six children and who has been married for 20 years.” YOU ARE WHACK, SELFISH and NASTY!
You knew all along he has a wife and kids, what possible outcome did you expect from your nastiness?
Why all the blame on young women or women in general who have affairs or relationships with married men? Do you know that some of those men are to be blamed as well? Many there be who are just out there taking advantage on the vulnerability of the single woman due to the fact that their wives have grown cold with them. They then seek the companionship and love from those women who only feel sorry for them.
All married men need to realize that they made a vow to their wife before Jehovah for better or worse to stay married and behave! No matter whether your wife is cold or old. no matter if she give you false child, TAKE IT like a man and pray for deliverance or end it legally. you cannot want to live the married and single life at the same time. When you go playing that game the wrath of Jehovah will not be easy on you. Some married men realize the danger of that habit but only when it was too late. My people, the price of sin is death. believe it or not.
To you my sister I advise you to ask the almighty for forgiveness,give your life to him and take care of that child. Raise him/her up in the right way, especially to respect people and his/herself. Who knows this child might become in the future another great citizen of this country. Most of all my dear, do NOT repeat that same mistake again.
Ye who have no sin cast the first stone. Sister,go and sin no more. AAMEN!
you see…..is the same ting. young man like me so all u doe want, is hardback coshony allu like. is when allu hook allu does come but the man lay his egg already…… sorry 4 di child not u cas if is 4 you self is twins or tripplets u shoulda get
I like your answer.
But is a style now in d.ca for young girls to have sex with married men smh. Why are they so stupid n what’s funny after they fall in fire that’s when they realize that they make a mistake, and they sorry. Check clear harbor fr a job my girl, before was drugs man tht had allu but now is married men tht manipulating allu smh think before u do what u do. Tht is a sin as a man I dnt see de point to cheat, n I’m not married! Muchless fr when I’m married. If de woman want she can do, but I’ll be on to the next one.
i feel sorry 4 u but dnt love men way old than u cuz u nvr knw if they are married jus move on with ur life nd do every ting u can 4 ur child to have a perfect education.
Young lady you go about it the wrong way first you should have talk to the man first . you had no right to go to his wife when you and him were in bed or when he came to you the first time why you did not go to his wife. we a man come to you and say he love you get to know them first go out with them ask question so visit them at home find out about their family and who there friend’s are before you sleep with them.
Why you calling the wife now, all the time u were enjoying her husband day and night you never called her, now the man has left you in the dark and all alone, like how he had neglected his wife for you, you calling her. Your motive was to tell her and break up she and her husband but it backfired on you.
Anyway a child is coming due to you unconcerned actions so the best you can do is care for the child and give that child great love. You wont be the first without a child father, you just need to shake and shape up your life.
The man is not yours and will never leave his wife so just look at this as a learning experience.
These youngs girls are IDIOTS, they think they can take people’s husbands by giving them good sex…well that is what she get, first of all she should have more respect for her self and not allow a grown man to convince her to sleep with him…. at her age she should be in school educating herself for the future…instead now she has to be a single mom…..let this be a lesson to all these young girls…A MAN WILL SAY ANYTHING TO GET YOU TO SLEEP WITH THEM, WAKE UP YOU YOUNG PEOPLE…..THEY LOVE YOU UNTIL THEY GET THE SEX OR YOU GET PREGNANT….. WHEN WILL YOU ALL REALIZE THAT…. THEY NEVER LEAVE THEIR WIVES…….
how are you so sure that it is a young woman who wrote this? stop jumping on young ppl back. is not young ppl alone that does do things. stop blaming them.
shes not the 1st nor the last to b with a married man n end up being a single parent. hope what u saying she should do doesn’t happen to you since u seem like you knw wat 2 do
Boy allu something else…how do you know how old the woman is? Much less to say that “at her age” she should be in school? She in your house or what?
And the wives (like u) so stupid stays it never fails … stupid stupid women
Talk to people who have been in the situation say about 3 times in 7 years – yeh like a doctoral degree. What about a pastor he might be able to advise you on that you know. Just call the hotline 1-800- SPEAK IN TONG OR WWW. 50 THOUBIRTHDAY.COM
u r just silly!
Sorry I didn’t see Lee I saw Lee’s sister
Leave Mamizoo alone. Mamizoo you have me dying. Mamizoo you are the best
Ah Ha that one is just like the last one Bella had on there some time back. Stop making stories up and sending to Bella. I know it have people with real stories that need advice on here. Stop wasting people time especially Bella.
In any case if this is a REAL one,you found out he was married and have six children; leave married man alone with his wife and go find someone that can love you and your child.
Haven’t u thought that the frequency of those stories reflects something that is going on in Dominica?
I know three ladies who have children for married men. I am sure there is more.
Young ladies in Dominica need to wake up
Three alone? I remember one saying, with regards to loving a married man, “but is that that in style”.
You are spot on with this being a reflection of what is going on in Dominica.
Too much bashing on young women!!! How about the old men who are married and because they don’t have a happy marriage go and take advantage of the vulnerable women here?
Some of these women maybe are just too weak, nice or sympathetic to these men. Married men here and everywhere must realize that they made a vow before God to marry for better or worse. Even if the woman had man on your head, not giving you sex, give you false child, take it and pray to God for deliverance or divorce her! you cannot want to live the married and single life at the same time. GOD WILL BRING DOWN HIS JUDGEMENT ON YOU!
Some of these men like others will realize that but only when it is too late. The price of sin is death!
So my sister just ask Jehovah to forgive you and turn your life to him right now. Take care of your child and raise him/her up in the right way so that in the future she/he will not do the same wrong you or his/her father did.
GO AND SIN NO MORE. GOD FORGIVES ALL SIN and who knows this child might grow up to be one of the greatest citizens of Dominica.
stupes…ya’ll women ‘never knew’ or toujours ‘recently found out’ but it takes two to tango.he aself more .. girl move on wit ur life. when your child is graduating wit honors from university daddy will jump in to claim…smh..pig.
BELLA!!!!! U NOT SERIOUS…. i have come to the conclusion that there are different people taking the role of Bella… just live and let it be??? no steps on how to go about doing so?… oh if life was just so easy… lady you have every right to take this man to court… he should play some part in the child’s life…
Take d man to court for wat. She wrong. We in dominica we like to talk somebody most see her with d man and tell her that.taking him to court just going to make things worst.I hate to hear women taking man tio court. It just show women week.and we need a man.
Are you me? I would like to know how long you’ve been in a relationship with him? Then by your own testimony you claim you “recently found out he has been married for twenty years and has six children”, however, you already found his wife to seek consolation?
This trend is becoming more and more predominant? What is the ratio of men to women in Dominica? Yes Dominican men are family oriented. But as humans we have weaknesses and sometimes allow our vices to control our emotions and positive thoughts, men and women alike.
P.S If he is Dominican and has been married for twenty years, you should have, could have, would have known.
I just cannot understand young women of today. You knew he was married and u got involved with him and even getting pregnant. His wife do right, she should have kicked u in ur face. All u women have no respect for ppl’s relationships. You see now u reaping just wat u sow. What goes around comes back around.
U can’t read!! She did not know..it says she recently found out!!
Ohhhh plzzzz recently found out my *******s. She knew, doh make that fool u
She recently found out? How daft can u be? Was he at her home every night ? She knew self, she was just trying to see if he would leave his wife for her. Your salpet take wat u get!!!!!!!!
so many men does that to women,and we let them get away with it,why cuz we love them,but we got to stand up for our children rights,and stop make them get away with pullin their sperm into use and when we tell them the outcome of it then they turn their backs on us,it’s not really us that is gona feel it in the long run,but them kids so young lady i would go seek some lawyer advice on the next step you should take in getting so financial help for you unborn child,and its not all time you give a man his space he go come round cuz there are lots out there who got a heart of stone and don’t give a damn,all children needs a father figure especially now there are so many wayward children on the street,cuz alot grow up with a dad or sum1 they to look up to,to play the role of a dad….
Darling all mouth will eat leave the man alone and care for u and your unborn child God has bless u with a fruit of your womb accept it God will provide…………next time don’t just take the man word for it keep away from complicated situations
Alas girl you have kixs wi. what makes you think married men are truthful? they always claim they love you but they love theor wife. d amn have 6 children wi and married for 20 years. he doesnt call or text cause his gonna act like the child is not his.lmfao
And next time use birth control pills or condoms.
Omg god dno.y,all must be more professional at your job.the headline reads I’m pregnant for a married man for 20 yrs. Sounds like the woman has been with the man for 20yrs and been making kids for him.common do better than that plz.
Way papa….all you quick to criticize eh. If there was an error just point it out nuh. SMH….for all the good work DNO doing and is not like they making big mistakes all the time. Geez.
Keep it up DNO, you keep me connected to Dominica.
I did not get that impression..this is a clear sign of ur weakness in reading comprehension!!no hard feelings..it happens all the time…
i think you are the one with the problem, because it clearly reads “I am pregnant for a man who has been married for 20 years”…dang you want to be correcting people and your grammar and understanding is worst that a baby learning ABC…Miss.T always said read between the lines…
Wallhouse you can’t read… the headline reads “I’m pregnant for a man who has been married for 20yrs” so is you talking….
Common sense dear….I read the headline and did not even see the error but I understood what it meant. I am thinking she said she is pregnant for a man who has been married for 20yrs and has 6 children (with his wife obviously). Somebody needs a selfcheck.
I marveled at the advice that was given. Wow! What about the responsibility and accountability of the man. Confused and Hurt, you better ask for his money because that is probably all you will ever get from him. And, if you think it’s cheap to rasie a child, you are in for a rude awakening…worse than not having the father in the child’s life.
Oh boy! That is just soooooo not cool. This man is a bastard!
that’s what we get for wicked intentions you wanted to brake up a home and you knew he was married stop sleeping with married me only thing some have to give all you is sex and bus money its just a disgrace on we woman
The woman should have known better…he didn’t ut a gun to her head.
Dominican are family oriented people and instead of spending time with his wife and family he is busy send you a thousand text messages and phone calls? Same goes to you. You know he is married for 20 years and you going around with the woman’s husband? Now you are surprised he wants nothing to do with you after you told him you were pregnant? What planet do you live on?
Last weekend I was in the company of a friend and this woman, who is not his wife. This woman is his mistress. You should have seen how she was all over the man hugging him, holding his arm and I am there thinking “what a fool!”. He was in town for the weekend. I know this guy will neve rleave his wife for that idiot, wasting time with another man’s wife who will never leave his wife for you. Sometimes, I really have to wonder what some women have in their heads.
listen to friends just give him some space and see if he will come back for his child…… he did used u for sex and dat was wroong and he didnt love u he wanted what dat in ur leg. take ur friends advice for real………
my question is did you know that he was married and why did go speak to his wife ? wrong move young lady i need to give up and deal your unborn child in and learn from your mistake your child is not a a mistake dont look back just look forward and make sure take care of your child god gave you he or she may bring joy to your life .
am a man and things happen leave that alone and just move on years down the line he will come round but not now
so what happen when woman meet man these days they doesn’t do background check on them. Now alone u finding out he have a wife and 6 kids. well you fini bat!
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