Dear Bella: I’m a 24-year-old female and have been in a relationship for the past six years. My boyfriend andI have been living together for the past four years. We have had our issues but now I think it is getting out of control.

I forgave him once because he lied and cheated; it’s only because I love him. But now I realize that he has an 18-year-old female friend calling him every day. Keep in mind that he is 38 years old and has a 15-year-old daughter. He can be this child father.

Bella, I have told him about it and he refuse to tell this child to respect our relationship since she have been calling him all odd hours of the night.

What should I do since he don’t want to put an end to it?

Please help.

Dear Miss:

My simple advice is that leave that man if he persists. It shows he has no respect for you and he probably has gotten tired of you. He has cheated on you before. Apparently he is having an open affair right in front your eyes. It is probably a nice way of saying “I don’t want you anymore”.

Miss if you can’t see the signs then you must be love blind.

It is time to do a new transition: a transition out of this house and out of his life.


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