Dear Bella: I know I am going to be scolded for this but I am 17 years old and for the past months I have been talking to and occasionally seeing this guy who is 24. He has a girlfriend or shall I say a ‘main ting’ while has me, and I’m pretty sure he has other girls as his “side ting”.

My problem is while we’ve been talking he seemed to be a really cool person and it was only then when I started to have feelings for him, he told me he had a girlfriend, whom I’ve known all my life. He’s getting twins for another girl whom he doesn’t care about; he claims to love his girlfriend but wants to be with me.

We recently met up and had a ‘session’ but after it was over I felt used, and I’ve been feeling that way for a while now. I’ve been telling myself that I need to stop talking to him, but everytime I see him the feelings I have for him keep coming back. I know that a guy like him is just looking for one thing from a girl like me, please give me some advice on how to forget about him and move on with my life!

Need Advice

Dear Need Advice: First thing I have to say is “mad, sick, head nuh good”. Miss, if you “know that a guy like him is just looking for one thing from a girl” like you, why do you need any advice from me? You’ve hit the nail on the head. It is clear the guy is a womaniser. He is a sweet talker and a cooperative guy, and that’s his net to haul in the girls.

I believe you should end this relationship now or else you’ll be one of his plugged side waste.


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