My name is Stephanie and I have been having issues with my boyfriend for a couple months now because we argue a lot.
It used to be because I don’t trust him, he has lied to me in the past and its very difficult to believe him now. I don’t know what to do because it causes a lot of stress and now that he doesn’t text me calling me ‘baby’ and other sweet stuff, I get upset.
I know it was wrong but I logged into his Facebook without his knowledge. I know the password and I saw messages of him giving his number out and afterwards he deletes them.
I don’t understand his attitude, out of the blue he tells me he doesn’t want to text me any sweet stuff anymore because he said just doesn’t feel like it.
Am I being too clingy or is he doing wrong. I have been in bad relationships before and I just can’t distinguish right nor wrong.
I’m highly confused and I just want us to get a long but it seems like he doesn’t put effort.
Stephanie
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Dear Stephanie,
I think you should give you boyfriend some breathing space. It appears as if you are choking him and he need some space to wiggle around.
Despite the fact that he has lied to you in the past I sense some major insecurity on your part.
So you need to identify the roots of your insecurity and speak to your boyfriend about it. Then you need to start having confidence in yourself and confident that the relationship can actually work, despite rough patches in the past.
You also need to learn to trust your boyfriend. Both of you are attracted to each other and love each other, so why would you want to snoop around or look for ways to catch your partner red handed. Learn to trust your partner, unless you have solid reasons to doubt him.
Be an optimist and go out with your friends. It’ll help you in two ways. One, you’ll understand that no harm is really done to a relationship by spending time with friends. Two, if you do exchange a few glances with someone else, you’re not really cheating on your partner.
Bella
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this is interesting. i agree with kitty- ditch the boy. you’ll be better off and he obv doesn’t luv u and u don’t luv him
oh my. u dont love him (dur) so ditch him. so simple
He does not necessarily have to have another woman he is probably just too comfortable and laid back in his
relationship with you and sometimes you the woman have to spice things up a bit. Wispering sweet nothings to you like baby and honey is just terms of endearment you can call anybody you should never have to beg for that. A man can call you honey and baby all day long and still busy cheating on you. This is trivial !
A man doesn’t le a woman who doest trust him at the begin of my relationship my bf lied to me once and because of the bad relationships I had in the past I did nt trust him. Yes I use to snoop through all his personal stuff includin his fb. We argued a lot n he started pushin me away until on day I took him out n we spoke about the entire situation where he told me wat was goin wrong it took me a while to gain trust in him but the level of communication we developed aloud us to b open about any situation n presently we have been havin a gr8 time together rite nw ting has gone bak to normal n he treats me like a queen. N this sunday will b our anniversary. I feel that u should do the same and take time n speak to him it doesn’t necessarily means he has a bf it could jus mean dat he needs u to show him dat u trust him n dat he can build a life wid u. If this does nt work den I think u should get out of the relationship allow urself to love and trust sumone else while bein on ur p’s n q’s
Stephanie Do the right thing get a new guy! Dump your current one. Many fish in sea find one that will swim with thee!
From a guy point, sometime calling you sweet gets old, especially if we are together for years. You should alright know how sweet you are to him
Stephanie, I know where you are coming from. If you did not have a reason, you would never search to see what was going on.
We women have always feel when things change in our relationship with out boyfriend or hushand, no matter what people may say, if you feel the need, search, because some men are great liars, and they may never tell you the truth. If he cannot be honest with you, just break up with him, and keep to yourself. Do not move from one man to the next one. And take time to put your personal life in order.
Can someone tell me how u can email bella?
awa wi steffie….makes me wonder how old you are….cuz thats just childish and stupid
Confucius say, what was sweet no longer sweet.
Text him and say, man thank you for the space, and that you had the best cocoa last nite…change your phone number, dress up sexy when you see him just keep laughing…and make sure you with other chicks eating ice-ream…
Well lady; your man is with me. so go take a hike.
We text each other all the time. I have a good job and yet the fool takes the little scrap that he has and tops me up all the time.
LOL LOL! papa met! so is u that have the man woman busy until he cant even text his woman! leave de woman man alone!!! lol! but who that would put their name on that ner? embarrassment for so!
If that’s true, you don’t have no class about yourself. Remember it’s going to come back on you. If its scrap why you want. Just a plain ho, nothing good about
Stefo baby just give me your number noh honey,you will sweet text you will get.
No more sweet things? He is getting tired of his pretense. It is time to exit out of this relationship. He is doing and saying some things to another woman; hope it is only one.
Give him the cold shoulder. Do not show him that he is more important than you are and you want him more than he does you. Leave him. Why remain in such a relationship? Do not fight it and try to remain in it for it may do more harm and good.
He has another woman period. When they do these things that the sign of another woman in the picture.. LEARN THIS .. EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW THIS.. And those wicked girls they know the man have his girlfriend or wife but they still clinging unto him like he is theirs.. . I HATE THIS!! Get your own man and stop leaching unto other ppl man like is YOURS.!!
Its simple how i see it is you have insecurity issues plus the way you say your man is getting on he is not helping settle ur issues however i think 90% of ur insecurities can only be settled by you .. and on an extended note if you are not happy in a relationship,you dont trust ur partner until you find it necessary to look for proof that he is doing something wrong you have no reason still being in a relationship with that person both men and women need to stop settling for partners when they know well its not going to work
With all the smart phone technology I programmed my phone to send my lady a sweet text every 5 hours . You see Bela women smart but something’s they never catch because their emotional needs are met. So far the recycled sweet texts are working great and the brother seldom get the cold shoulders. As for the hanky panky I get that without going out for dinner or having to negotiate. In fact hanky Panky waits for me at the door. As for the trust thing Why would I bewitch a next woman when sweet text coming in in every 6 hours
Doo doo the honeymoon over just roll with it,what u use to give him don’t give him none no more,like the vitamin S.
Dump this guy! He nah worth it! Move on and find someone who makes you feel special and someone who is worthy of your trust!! Good luck, sweetheart!
Are you still giving him sweet something, maybe thats why he’s not texing sweet F.A
I think u should take a breather
Give de man some breathin space
Step-hanie you’ve lost your honey or are you harny.
I suspect this girl is bored, what did you on Community Day of Service?
Sweetie it’s clear you have issues with his lies. A relationship CANNOT servive without trust so if you have trust issues you probably need to take a break from this man. Find your happy place and clear your head. Follow your heart and don’t be so desperate for a man that you’ll settle for anything. I’ll tell you like I tell my sister “There’s plenty of him and only one of you”. Good Luck.
some people need better stuff to ask bella
my girl mr text someone else move
on
but i though the very essence of being in a relationship is to get to know each other and trust each other…………and if there’s no trust then its not worth staying in the relationship at all!
Stephanie you stayed in a relationship knowing very well that the man isn’t worth trusting, so just deal with it…………………….talking about you doh know right from wrong no more!
STEUPESSSSSSS
Maybe he found someone else to whisper sweet nothing in her ears.
is she sending sweet messages to her boyfriend? A man will always remain a man. I had the same issue with mind.( we are together for 6mths now) All I did was court him and to my surprise, it worked. he still lies but now he tells me which girl is after him(even if it is the other way), if he goes out without me, I know not only a part of what he did but even who the person is. let go and try gaining him back. good luck
not”mind” but mine
How is your screwed up relationship helping Stephanie? Your man is still lying and he tells you which women are after him…smh. Are you saying he’s innocent in all this….you people settle for anything just to say “I have a man”
“he need some space to wiggle around.”
Bella is deeerrrrttttt!!! wiggle like a worm wii lol
Stephanie either you making up story or he is so going to leave you for posting this crap. Worse yet sounding so silly.
Bella you not serious? Where are u coming from?
yeah ikr..bella needs some counselling training..but where dey get dat bella nuh..dno viewers beware of bella’s advise.
LMAO NORRR MAN BELLA
lmao