I have a small problem. It started like this, the other day my husband came home and I was watching TV. He told me he is interested in doing a ménage à trois and asked what I thought of the idea. Without thinking I said sure, why not.

Two days later he told me that things were “looking good” for the ménage à trois and he would give me more details soon. It was then I decided to go and look up the meaning of that term on the internet. Unknowingly, I had said ‘yes’ to a threesome because that is what ‘ménage à trois’ means.

After I learnt the true meaning of that term I told my husband I not into those kind of things. Now he is angry and is saying I am going back on my words.

Honestly Bella, I did not know. I was distracted by the TV and I simply said yes. Does that mean I am being dishonest as he is saying? I am a Christian, I don’t do these things.

Please help.

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

Apparently this was a genuine mistake on your part. It appears you never know what your husband was talking about as your were distracted by the TV.

Be honest and talk to him. Tell him how you feel about this situation and I am pretty sure he will understand.

But this brings out a larger issue. Men and women always go looking “for something else” when things get a bit boring at home. It appears the bedroom spark has gone down low and this could be the reason why you husband wants to explore other possibilities. So, work hard on re-igniting that spark and see how things work out.

Bella

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