My mother wanted to have an affair with my boyfriend. Several times she tried to seduce him by calling him and talking to him like a lover.
When all this started happening I thought she was just concerned about me but my boyfriend told me that my mother is inviting to sleep with her.
I got frustrated with him because I trusted my mother.
The I caught her red handed with the help of my boyfriend. I told my boyfriend to call her and put the phone on speaker.
For the first time I heard her talking like a promiscuous woman. I am so devastated and shocked.
I know my boyfriend did not do anything wrong but I am not sure now.
Please help me to decide.
Frustrated
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Dear Frustrated,
I think you gave me half the story. Why are you now doubting your boyfriend? That mystery keeps me from giving you an informed response.
We will however deal with the situation that was highlighted. Why is your boyfriend entertaining your mother’s flirting and eventual invitation to bed? I think as an adult, he should be able to confront your mother and let her know what he thinks of what she is going.
Being upfront with someone does not necessarily mean being disrespectful. He can very calmly ask her to stop the calls. He can even threaten her by telling her that he will let you know if she persists. As long as he encourages her advances by listening to her, she will only get more crude as to what she wants because she will start operating on false hopes. Whatever the case, if your boyfriend is enjoying it, or not, this needs to stop.
You also need to open your eyes and mind to understanding what is really going on. You are becoming suspicious of your boyfriend and there must be a reason. If you are looking for a monogamous relationship (the steady), you need to know the level of commitment that your boyfriend has invested in this relationship and if what he is giving not what you have in mind, then you need to ask yourself if this is a relationship you want to continue giving time and energy to. Never think that you can change an individual. You are only guaranteed to change yourself.
All the best as this mystery unravels to you!
Bella
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We draw to us the kind of person we are ourselves.
Obviously, you are a fornicator (somebody who has sex with somebody he or she is not married to) because you are having sex with your boyfriend. So the man you have drawn to yourself is also a fornicator otherwise he would not want to be with you.
You do not trust your boyfriend because you know he would have sex with somebody he is not married to because he is having sex with you! Even if the two of you married you would never be able to trust him because you know he believes it is O.K. to have sex with a woman who is not his wife.
Couples who do not practice chastity before they are married do not have a good foundation upon which to build a marriage. The trust is not there. Neither is the respect for each other that is the basis for true love and closeness that should grow stronger over the years.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
first off all that mother do not like her children to even sleeping with her child man jesus is near
The man is either stupid or very smart(smart) he must have tried the mother and find out she wasn’t as sweet as the daughter, so he decided to tell his girlfriend,(stupid)he had a chance to keep it in the family and blow it. MACHO
wat hapen all you doesn’t watch mauray and jerry springer show
The boyfriend should have kept it a secret between him and the mother, I know I would. Just think of what he lost. The maturity and experience of the mother. She must be a lot sweeter than the daughter. He had an opportunity that most men crave, and he could make it work smoothly. A sweet family love triangle, and he blew it, and now he faces losing both of them
smh.Repulsive
You are a vile person like the other three.
If this is the lifestyle you want for yourself nobody can help you unless you repent. But you will not have a good life. These are the people who are writing to Bella for advice, going into therapy, or checking themselves into psych wards. Eventually, their children grow up just like them and their homes are filled with chaos.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
How I wish I was in that guy’s place. What a rare opportunity to have mother and daughter. It would be a sweet love-triangle all the family. I’ll bet the mother is much much sweeter than the daughter. If I was in his place, that would be the most closely guarded secret of my life and I would do anything to make sure it never ends. She must be young and attractive enough to get her daughter’s boyfriend to want her. Just think of all that sweet meat at his disposal. Makes me drool
smh.Repulsive
mother go for what u want.you will just be fullfilling your dreams my girl.
When you not giving it to him in ALLWAYZ then he will run to your mamma.
Maybe she doing another man and she feels sorry for you.
Have u considered a 3some lololololol
Improve your skillz
you shude be shame that your mummy bettering you in d bedroom…u are a bad learner>>>>>??????<<<<<
Bella lordness. so long i send u my letter up to now u can’t give me advice but u talking about my mother trying to take my man.
i can see his point the mother is more experienced and wud be able to do a better job.
lol
seriously Bella!!>> Putting blame on the girl BF instead of her nasty, two timing, hoe of a mother? the BF actually told her, to me that’s proof enough that he is truthful, if he wasn’t, he would be eating from both plates like a lot of men I know would do. the mother is a down right nasty woman to go behind her daughter’s man! quite frankly I believe that she the mother cannot get her own man, or she is the type who goes behind other woman men and mess up ppl’s relationships instead of finding her own.
Dirty people dat!!
Nasty, Nasty, Nasty. The mother and the son in law should stay with each other, and you daughter and girlfriend, get someone else. Your mother nor your boyfriend don’t have respect for themselves, nor you. Dump both of them.
Every one is looking for themselves these days. They don’t care who they step on. Ask God for a way out of this situation. Even though u stay with him, the trust is gone. Likewise trust in you mom. LET THEM GO.
Why is Bella blaming “Frustrated” for not giving her the full story??
There is no evidence that her boyfriend actually lied to her about, or slept with, or is holding back data concerning her Mother!
Or that “Frustrated” is holding back information herself.
She is frustrated because of her Mother’s odd behaviour and the “disturbance” it caused in her relationship with her boyfriend.
good trick! the young lady was looking for an excuse to leave the boyfriend,and he fall for it.not often we get good times like this one I could do with a bit of that,if you cannot handle get my phone number and call me
look nastiness
The majority of women cheating that’s why most men is scared to get married. who would want something people using in their house? yuck!
there’re “MILFS” everywhere lol… besides women always want what they can’t have it’s a well known fact. that’s not the first time i hearing about Mother and Daughter “Lay Lay”..lol
This is just plain disrespectful of the mother. Learning of another woman seducing your man is bad enough, much worst when you learn your own mother is the one doing the seduction( the person you look to when relationship problems arise). Girl, if I were in your place upon hearing her voice on the speaker phone….she would think I got possessed by the devil. I would go crazy
ok
Dominicans and thier stories ,cheap mother
Why Dominicans and there story its all over the world my dear
Girl, your mother obviously admires your taste. You have her seal of approval. Its a “family affair”.
stop posting those stupid comments. this is just rubbish
Lighten up folks. As far as I’m concerned the Bella column is just another “Agony Aunt” product , designed by newspapers many moons ago to provoke their readers and sell more copy….it still works toay! Go on, have some fun.
but Bella, u need to get sum spice to add to ur stories…its getting rather boring lately….what about them women that take leave from work to cry cuz skerro marry on dem woshhhh….hit it to me!
what de did i just read?
my pardner should be eatin d female family tree once it of age eh
Most likely your mother uglier than you because only a that would do that. No such thing as ‘love’ exist nowadays it was thrown out since 2007 Get a life lololol
@ Trolol…why since 2007? I’m curious. Tell me nah.
Just now the mother will wants rights to date her son in law
awah wi bella u really making up them stories
That’s pathetic. The mother needs councilling. That mother could also be a married woman. She should seek counselling. Dominica cannot take more sex scandal. She already has enough anus roro going around.
counseling
CHEWPS ! I doe believe that coshunee
How sad ………. for all three
Mista an de mother hav something boi tht is the reason it took him so long to tell his girl an ge probly fraid if he try to confront the mother while the girl around she will sell out de seen
Bram bram mee joOgooom!
lol yes my boy, you want to eat the stems & the branches …..
strupes
papa met……………….. i too long to get a mother in law like dat . mista doe have good head, mista telling his woman about that instaed of having mother and daughter…… why dem chances dere doest come my way nuh
he is an idiot….eat full yr belly…. get fat ….doh tell nobody wat you eat and where u get wat u eat…take it to the grave…
are u a woman?
(-: I want a chance like that wii….
LOLOL!! boi that one have me laughing like a soucouyant in those ppl office!!
Do those people work for them
Belllllllllllllaaaaaaaaaaaaaa