Secret lover admits she was being used

I feel like the most stupid woman in the entire universe. I met this guy just over a year ago and I know he had his girlfriend from inception. They live together and have a son but from the moment I met him I knew I wanted him.

I think I look so much better than his woman and I figured he might just have left her for me. We had this secret love affair and he even slept at my home a few times. I had fallen in love with him and he told me he loved me but refused to give me 100 percent.

Whenever I call him at nights he wouldn’t answer or his phone would be turned off. I am guessing that’s when he is home with his woman and child. Also he never acknowledged me as his girlfriend. I was getting tired of being a secret so I asked him to decide if it’s me or her he wanted.

He says one thing but acts another way. Anyway his woman found out about us and from that time things went haywire. He started to distance himself from me. I would call and text and he never replied until I decided enough was enough and asked him to “stay with his woman”. I feel bad that I let him use me like this because it seems like he will never leave her.

He told me so many things about her, like she is a nag and she doesn’t trust him and she snoops around and goes in his phone…yet he just wouldn’t leave her.

What do you think went wrong Bella? I was obviously used.

Sexy Shorty

Dear Sexy Shorty,

Obviously you were used. If you knew that this man has his woman and his child, why did you even let him pursue you? Men have the tendency to tell another woman things about his girlfriend just to jump in her panties.

Why would you want to come between a relationships especially where a child is concerned anyway?. You need to stay clear from men who are already in committed relationships. You said you think you look better than this woman but maybe it’s her heart he see’s and not necessarily her appearance.

The fact that he never left his girlfriend is because he obviously loves her and didn’t love you enough to cut the strings. Hey…Life goes on if you look as good as you say, you should be able to dust yourself off and get another man. This time try finding someone who is single and not in love with someone else. I was taught that if a man loves you, nothing will keep him away and just the same, if he doesn’t love you, nothing will make him stay.

Bella

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202 Comments

  1. March 31, 2015

    The man was bored with his relationship so he used you to a little excitement on the side.

    You knew he was in a relationship but you went with him anyway. You did not care how it might hurt his live in girlfriend and their son. This shows you are no better than him. You are both cut from the same cloth.

    A good woman will attract to herself a man who will want her as his wife (not his live-in), and who will marry her and stay with her. A man who gets bored with his wife and ends up going with another woman is not a man who would make a good husband for you.

    If you drew to yourself a man who is living with a woman he is not married to – a fornicator – you have no reason to even think he would not leave you just as he left her.

    This kind of relationship always ends in disaster. :oops: These are the people who are writing to Bella for help!

    Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  2. Diva
    January 24, 2013

    zeh zeh! dats wat you get! shoulda leave di man and his woman alone.. saqweh s _ _ _ _!!

  3. September 7, 2011

    Sexy Shorty you have evil sprit in your body that want you to break up relationships,what you need is prayers not sex,The devil was a dam ass living the good life above to come to the earth and screw in menstruous flesh and now waiting in hell to laugh at all who make the same mistake as him,If you think you are hot and sexy take your little finger and put in a coalpot with fire and see if you are still sexy.
    The evil sprit want you to fall and use you
    to satify his lust by seduceing you and controling you,think of the fire in your body
    the man had enough of you with all your sex he is still with his woman and child
    It will take 20 men to satisfy you, this sprit in you will drive you crazy until you become a nymphomaniac and even a horse will satisfy you.
    Take control of your life and keep away from men before you spread disease and contaminate men on the Island. :( 8-O :-| :cry: :-? :-x :twisted: :oops: :?:

  4. Waww wawwwww
    June 1, 2011

    hot gal don’t fight over man ok pal..you were selfish and stupid..never heard of cheat with you cheat on u? n for crying out loud…the guy has a child in this mess..stupes

  5. eh sa!
    May 30, 2011

    stupes…. you to sort! he get nuff pumpum from you. lol

  6. sweet pum pum
    May 30, 2011

    O.k. so no woman whether they are married or just shacking up wants a woman from the outside to
    just come in and screw up their relationship. You’ve been by that man’s side through thick and thin,
    you cooked his meals, washed all his dirty clothes made sure he had a clean bed to fall in to…yes
    fall into because that’s what they do in that bed simply fall into it. You bore him a son, a true duplicate of himself. As you pour your heart and soul into this relationship hoping against all hopes that he will eventually marry you and you all will grow old together, please don’t lose yourself, please don’t neglect to make yourself beautiful and sexy. Too many times we are so into the relationship that the time and money we need to e.g fix our hair, do our nails, go to the gym and/or buy a nice outfit, stop sleeping with that big old t-shirt and jazz things up or sexy shorty will. Every now and again get a babysitter for your son or let “Daddy” watch him and go out with the girls what the hell ! SOME men have big and very fragile baloonlike egos, don’t be afraid to make him jealous
    don’t go crazy about the cell phone. You have one too right ? play on it let him think someone is texting you, and last but not least LADIES STOP LETTING MEN THINK THEY ARE DOING US A FAVOUR BY BEING WITH US. Stop giving sex shorty a reason to even exist. Short of giving the bitch a proper beat down let them both know you not [email protected]&king playing ! But sometimes you gotta be that big bad bitch :wink:

  7. ObserverDom
    May 30, 2011

    Good Lord, is it so difficult for people to comment without having to resort to all the name calling?
    Everyone in this situation willing made their choice.
    Women always want to name call the other woman and by doing so expose their own fears and prejudices. Name calling and verbal abuse resolves NOTHING.

    Your issue is with your man at home; he was a willing participant . Focus your attention on him not the other woman. Ask him what he wants to do, he must make a choice and you must make yours.
    The problem is there are too many boys and girls going into these relationships who have no idea what it means to be a MAN and what it means to be a WOMAN.

    As for the lover, “sexy shorty”, walk away, learn to be a WOMAN and learn your lesson, forget him, make your own life with someone who is available for you and only you. Until you find that person, work on your education, your job, helping others. Woman, know yourself so that you will make better choices for YOU in the future rather than reacting to events. It is wisdom to know others but it is enlightenment to know one’s self.

  8. AWAY DOMINICAN
    May 29, 2011

    SHORTY SAID FROM THE MOMENT SHE MET HIM, SHE WANTED HIM then she crying she was used.. well sAH SMDH!!! is she stupid lol????? Shorty BEAUTY is only SKIN DEEP…. He know his woman worth so what make you think he would leave his main course for a snack… smdh!!!! and what make you think he would answer his phone when he is home with his family.. YOU ARE THE SIDETHING… sidethings are on call lol… standby lol

  9. nuts
    May 28, 2011

    whaat goes aaround comes aaround …….HARDER!

    leave my husband alone and my daugther hates you too……… He told us you are a BITCH!

    • AWAY DOMINICAN
      May 29, 2011

      ummmmmmmmm :lol: :lol: :lol: not to put salt in your tea but she said the woman have a son not a daughter… you are addressing the wrong mistress lollllll :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

      • wow
        May 30, 2011

        lol

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      • nuts
        May 30, 2011

        Away D…….u too sott!!

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      • juice
        May 30, 2011

        Is someone interfering with your husband nuts ? You have a daughter ? just make sure you
        address the right person too many of all you taking that shit personally and behaving as if is all you the man in question cheating on save your energy for when your turn come :lol:

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  10. wow
    May 27, 2011

    Sexy shorty..I have no sympathy for you! You knew the man was in a serious relationship even if he wasn’t married. I was in a similar situation with a woman who said that she fell in love with my husband and pursued him until she got pregnant. Long story short, I divorced him, I am now the happiest woman in the world and the stupid bitch is now a single mother….guess what, now he realizes his mistake and is constantly telling me how much he misses me and he has yet to recover and pursue a serious relationship of his own……these hoes are just dumb!!!!!

  11. DeMisses
    May 27, 2011

    Home wrecker and a damn fool Anyways why be wit a man like dat wat you tink goin happen if you get him leave his baby mama come live wit you?……..Chance are he will be bangin the next pretty that come along and he leave you jus as easy as you is foolish to be messin around like that. Wooooosh girl u dun been played and now you mad next time don’t be looking for someone you know already involved LEAVE DAT SH*T ALONE!!!!

  12. B.
    May 27, 2011

    Allu still on that Bella? Eh beh…Get over it already. Sexy shorty maybe all get another person man already while baby mama trying to battle with another sexy shorty…Nuff said

    • wama
      May 27, 2011

      u dat is the next sexie shorty, continue trodding from one involved man to the next lets see when you finish if your P&&ssy to888NG DOH REACH D GROUND, BABY MAMA OWN IN CHECK DO, U DAT RUNNING LIFE AND COMPETING

  13. D
    May 27, 2011

    STOP PUTTING BLAME ON THE LITTLE SHORTY…..LOL Dominican woman to like to fight for man…. get a life… get some education… so something other than worry with man… There are more important things in life than chasing after men. If a man really love and care about you then he would marry you and treat you like a queen and all others would look and say what a good husband….

    • big coco
      May 27, 2011

      i knw them man just good for nothing they dont want to marry the woman, they more bring dow the samewman that fighting for them not me, i bringing him down instead we

    • juice
      May 27, 2011

      You know :lol: stupesss big damn stupesss :mrgreen:

  14. Confused
    May 27, 2011

    most men i no does dat. and darlingnoing he has woman and child u tryna break da relationship. hmmm adultery dat papa. even though them nah marreid.

  15. Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
    May 27, 2011

    Bella, your response is correct. She should leave him for he has nothing good to offer her.
    It is sad though that some women will accept second best and for a long period of time. In the end they will only suffer heartache.
    He lives with a woman and fathered a child with her. Why doesn’t he marry her? He is setting a bad example for his child.
    Do you note how many people are living sinful lives and deny themselves the blessing and grace of God and on their household, family and undertakings?
    What will be in store for this man and the woman whom he is living with? What will the future hold for them as they continue to co-habit and may have other children? They are not smart people.
    There are some women who will settle for less, if nothing at all, who are satisfied with their present manner of living and will accept it as normal, a way of life, saying, “I have the man” as some of them have done and others are doing as they are growing older and life is passing them by. He is satisfied with their arrangement of cohabiting and may never marry her.
    Lack of personal pride and lack of interest in her present and future happiness for the better is what is wrong with this woman. She is blinded by settling down with a man who is not married to her. There is no guarantee that he will continue to remain living with her. She does not have the ring and she cannot hold him to anything other than having a child with him. He may also be using her for his own means.
    It is beyond my comprehension why men would want to co-habit with a woman and vice versa and having a child at that without getting married.
    I have a feeling that if the other woman could accommodate him and that she could offer him a comfortable place to live, he would leave that woman. However, this man does not appear to be a serious person and not one to enter into a relationship with.
    This other woman should leave this man. As the saying goes, “There are many fishes in the sea.” She is not yet over-the-hill and has a lot of years ahead of her. She will meet someone and hopefully one who is free of such a tie.
    There is a saying, “Before you meet the handsome prince you have to kiss a lot of toads.” :lol:
    Lady, look for someone better who can love you for who you are and marry you. Do not waste your time with a wimp who appears that he cannot stand on his own two feet and needs a crutch to hold on to.
    Yes! He deceived you. He is a cheat. You will get over him in time. Many have done that and live happy lives. Take your time. Hope you find the right man. Good luck!

    • Sunny......
      May 27, 2011

      For once i agree, with your comment 100%

      The other woman and the woman at home, whether girlfriend or wife also need to realize that they do not own the man, the can leave anytime he wants and they both lose. Women need to stop saying “MY MAN” it’s not ur man, he is his own person. Even if they are married, he can still file for a divorce. I just don’t understand some of us women.

      • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
        May 27, 2011

        I do know that no one owns anyone. We are all God’s children, owned by Him and Him alone. Yet he gives us our freedom and to do as we please, hopefully, good.
        There are some men as well who think they own women and that women are their possession whom they bought and harness to cater to them at their every whim. They can do as they please but the women do not have the freedom to do so.
        Which country practices this, that even if he is not married, living with a woman he can still file for a divorce? I am not aware of this. Am I missing out on something? Or do some countries differ from others pertaining to divorce of single people who live together?
        I am aware that if they live together for three years or more and they split, both can claim a share of the estate. I am not certain if living together for one year qualifies them to share their estate. It probably does. This is something a lawyer would know.
        However, there will be no legal divorce in a Court of Law for those who cohabit if they were not married in the first place. There is no legality of dissolving what which was not made legal in the first place. The wise thing to do is to get married.
        If they are married be it for a short period, less than a year and they split up they will be able to file for divorce and also to share their estate.
        If people intend living together as man and woman and share their income, etc. and have children, why not get married? What are they afraid of and what are they waiting for? Make it legal right from the beginning!
        In this so-called modern times of ideologies and myths, some couples decide to have a trial marriage without marrying. There is no guarantee that those trial marriages, cohabiting prior to marriage will work anyway.
        There are times that some couples live together for a certain period of time and then decide to get married. Some of those marriages break-up in a matter of months. I reiterate make it legal in a Church and receive God’s blessings. If their marriage is Christo-centered, it will surely work through thick and thin and will weather the storms of married life. If not Christo-centered, the marriage or relationship, in anyway stands a chance to breakdown.

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      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        i think u need to re-read my comment, bcuz i have no idea, how u came up with this statement…… “Which country practices this, that even if he is not married, living with a woman he can still file for a divorce?”

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      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        THANK YOU :mrgreen:

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  16. thinking about your self
    May 27, 2011

    You know the man had his family and stile you did not care you was planing distruction you did only think about your self and not the youg boy and his mother .

  17. Muslim_always
    May 27, 2011

    Then if baby mama continues her life since men are polygynous, then she will go from man to man to man to man, what a never ending cycle. If she gets a man to settle down, her hole has lost all its grip.

    Independent woman rubbish is killing this society! Man and woman must understand they are interdependent of each other, it’s a team not this selfish rubbish! 1 in 2 marriages end in divorce in Dominica…Dysfunctional society.

  18. Francis Francis chicago
    May 26, 2011

    1 CORINTHIAN ; CHAPTER 13 – 7 – 8 .

  19. fire
    May 26, 2011

    How can a woman own a man? is that possible,where allu get that from,some american movie,where men are treated like toys. Why allu woman does dress sexy and smileing fo us? Why when we say hi sweety allu does say thank u.Why allu so quick to give up allu name then playinjg games to give your number. I can’t believe some things allu saying. Let me tell u, all allu getting use.

  20. LOL HaHa
    May 26, 2011

    shakin my head…….

  21. rahted
    May 26, 2011

    I THINK THEY BOTH ARE TO BLAME THE MAN OUT THERE SLEEPING AROUND AND WHEN HIS ASS GET HIV OR AIDS WHO HE BRINGING IT FOR THE SAME WOMAN AT HOME HE TURNING OF THE PHONE TO SLEEP WITH AND U KNOW U WAS THE SIDE THING YOU SHOULD STAY SO I KNOW WOMAN THAT HAD OTHER PEOPLE MAN AND THEY KNOW THEY WAS THE OTHER WOMAN AND USE TO BEHAVE THEIR SELF SO WHY YOU WANTED TO MAKE YOURSELF KNOWN IF IT HAD TO HAPPEN YOU SHOULD GIVE IT TIME NOT SAYING THAT IT WOULD BUT U THINK PUSHING HIM WOULD MAKE IT BETTER ….HAD A FRIEND MAN BUY TICKET AND INVITE HER BY HIM IN A WHOLE OTHER COUNTRY FOR 2 MONTHS ONE DAY WHEN SHE GO OUT AND COMING IN SHE MEETING WOMAN THERE SAYING IS EX WHEN THEY STILL HAD THEIR THING WHAT WOULD U CALL THAT THEN ABUSE IF U CALLING WHAT U KNEW ABOUT AND WANTED USE ….WOMAN SLEEP THAT OFF YOU SHOULD BE READY FOR IT CUZ U KNEW IT WAS ALWAYS A MAYBE AND NEVER A MUST

  22. fire
    May 26, 2011

    Allu woman realy crazy.Allu realy think man is a pet. If a man get a fu(k on a sexy shorte,he must say no.CRAZY BITCHES.

  23. Jer
    May 26, 2011

    In other words: the man did not use you, it was you who used the woman’s man because you just dont understand how love works. I dont have any intentions on cheating on my girl, but if i should someday to come SHE BETTER KNOW I ONLY WEAK AT THE TIME WHY I POUNDED HER WHORE HOLE WITH THE EXPECTATION THAT IT WILL BE A QUICK FIX / PERMANENT SOLUTION TO MY PROBLEM, BUT I’LL REGRET IT AND DEFINITLY WANT TO KILL HER 1000000000000X !

  24. just cyan understand
    May 26, 2011

    shorty u do d nasty… u a real crck head n home wrecker… how dare you even admit that u knew he had his girl and the big one and a child yet ur ego got the better of u and u even playing referee is me or her aa oo sortee..pwon sa ou tape. sakway gas man

    • mzbootilicous.
      May 27, 2011

      i really cant understand why some side ting like to make themselves know. :twisted: . wonder why they like so much embarassment. @just cyan understand i agree she is a home wrecker, mamsel doh have no brains. how the f**k u expect de man to choose “you” over his woman and his child at his home??? and the fact dat he told u this from start should ring a bell.. sexy shorty i find u come out.. sexy shorty u was just another object, sucks to be u.. :lol:

    • kokoy
      May 27, 2011

      mabouya mabouya….se sa ou ke tapay ou se un mabouya….lol

  25. Dont Act Innocent
    May 26, 2011

    Hm but I wanna ask ,what if the man shows u all the love u dream of,goes everywhere with u,spends quality time,talks about his kids his family with u,takes care of u give u what u want and need,treats u like his queen,what’s the comment now?I’m livin that life and not tryin break up anything,love is love,u just can’t help who u love.I think this is life and we can’t be hypocrite about it!if there was a ring on his finger I wouldn’t even think about it,I don’t cause drama don’t throw words I’m better than dat,respect his kids(dam I love them like my own) respect his life but me and him found love and I’m not ashamed of that,yea DNO hot beff,I’m proud to say I love my man

    • Muslim_always
      May 27, 2011

      Yes one cannot help who they love, actions must be curbed or else we will have dysfunctional societies.

    • Hmph!
      June 1, 2011

      @ Dont act innocent

      Chick he’s not going to leave his woman for u. they r still together n too much in love so stop fooling yourself thinking ur the queen of his heart. ur just a passer-by.
      stay within ur reserve!

    • Anonymous
      June 21, 2011

      Of course u choose who u ‘fall’ in love with… it starts off as attraction/like/ infatuation, then IF u decide to let it happen, it GROWS into love! SO u chose.. yes he may treat u good, but if u love him so much you can deny it as much as u like it must hurt ur heart knowing he goes back to his “personal woman” every night! Its simply a matter of conscience & morality man.. do unto others as u wud like 2 be done.. and hear this.. it MUST fall back on ya hun ;)

  26. juice
    May 26, 2011

    Dear Woman at Home,
    I read all of all you vibes and all you sound like you have a victory many times the man stay with
    all you not because of love but convenience. You all cook, clean pick up after him, pay the bills
    be his mama, I know a lot of you all going to be mad at me but guess what ?? I don’t give a [email protected]#K
    I tell it like it is word up. I have seen married men leave their wives for the outside woman yes…
    and I’ve seen the unmarried ones leave the woman at home who was paying all the bills for the woman outside too aha…you all have a nerve to call those men “property” they are not property
    they have their own minds and they are their own man not yours. You all mad at the woman because she called herself sexy shorty damnnn!!!! that’s where the anger and bitterness came from so now all you on a witch hunt oh wtf. :lol: o.k. sexy shorty lose out because the man in that
    case decided to stay home but that is not the case for all men puhleeze some of you all even reach as far as caco those men for them to stay with all you learn how to keep those men happy and you won’t have sexy shorty to deal with. To you sexy shorty don’t give up next time make sure he spend some money to do your hair nails clothes anything you want. :lol:

    • Anonymous
      May 26, 2011

      Woman u sick u sound like u self is just another home wrecker

      • Anonymous
        May 27, 2011

        it aint about being a home wrecker. it’s the truth. if the man wants to leave he will. the things he’s been telling sexy shorty was not enough for her to think he would leave. what woman won’t search her man’s phone if she feels he’s cheating…that makes her a nag. Sexy shorty was to put herself in the woman’s shoe. But…Juice is right. this guy just decided to stay at home. Sexy shorty next time a taken man comes your way, take him for all he’s got. then he’ll really have to decide whether he invested too much in you to leave.

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    • Muslim_always
      May 27, 2011

      I started agreeing with you but at the end your statements were lousy. Second, polygyny is man’s nature. Simply look around from the beginning of time.

      • the boss
        May 27, 2011

        she sounds like a s8X FOR MONEY

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    • Sunny......
      May 27, 2011

      I totally agree with u Juice, it have so many men i know that left their girlfriends or their wives for the other woman, they are happier than they had ever been. My mother-in-law was the other woman, she and that man have been happy and married for 15yrs now. I know if he had to do it all over he would have.
      Sometimes men find the love they’ve been looking for the second time around!!! So let them think they own the men and they can tell them what to do, when them man ready, or when they get tired of being unhappy, is go they will go!!! You do damn right!!! Tell them like it is!!!! All of them sounding like “the woman at home de man cheating on” thats why they so bitter!!!

      Muslim Always… sometimes u self just need to shut up and go sleep with one of ur wives!!!!

  27. country Girls
    May 26, 2011

    Oh Father! have mercy on my Beautiful D.A Girls. hey most men out there running around does not have how to please a woman. Shorty girl, I feel for you and as for home gyal ‘wifee” you should ask him if that is the only shorty he has. If you are smart with you degree as I think you should be, you should know better. did he use a condom on shorty? does shorty have Aids, was sorry enough for you, if you are that good and smart, don’t you think you deserve better? how many time has he cheated, and you are not aware of it? why is it that all the people of my generation thinks that once the man got money he can be forgiven as mush as he pleases.
    Sweet heart money cannot cure Aids! have you ever heard of vaginal warts… it can end up in your mouth by he kissing shorty, and even worste, it can go from the tongue to his Dick.. outside women love doing blow jobs.. then if it ends up on your ovaries, you will never have another child. there is no cure for this. let us all stop behaving like thermometers, we have degrees but no brain!

    • rahted
      May 26, 2011

      sooo trueee

    • Muslim_always
      May 27, 2011

      That’s generally the nature of women, if the man is taking care of her financial needs and the family then women generally stay in this relationship. They cannot stand breaking up over sex, another woman will come right in to enjoy the pleasures. Also, perhaps this degree woman has her student loan to pay.

      • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
        May 27, 2011

        …And do not think it does not happen in the Muslim world. These are not perfect people and are not exempt from the temptations of the flesh and world.

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      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        Tell them country girls….. lmao, u see there i agree with u Muslim, because u finally telling it like it really is, we don’t always need to hear u preaching, just tell it like it is, stupes!!!

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  28. Anonymous
    May 26, 2011

    why would any woman live with any man for so many years without being married? yet still the man has n intentions of getting married to them, yet still they fighting for him….SMDH,

    • Muslim_always
      May 27, 2011

      You are absolutely right, what an abomination to be in a fornicating relationship! When will many so called christians apply their own scriptures in their lives, 1 corinthians 6:9

  29. MAY
    May 26, 2011

    YOU ARE TOTALLY WRONG BE WITH A MAN WHO LIVES, WITH HIS BABY MAMA . YOU GET
    YOURSELF PLAYED, YOU WERE A SUBSTITUE ANY TIME HE GONNA PUT YOU DOWN. GIRL
    WAKE UP ANS SMELL THE COFFEE

    • Sunny......
      May 27, 2011

      and he can put baby mama down anytime too, so whats ur point 8-O

  30. Belle
    May 26, 2011

    …..and for all of allu dat talking about dem woman is homewrecker and sin.is true dey shouldnt mess with involved men but…..allu need to shut up becuase if YOU was doing your job your man wouldnt have to be goin and find SEXY SHORTY for his needs.. STEP YOUR COOKIES UP and you wouldnt have to worry about who cokayin your man..

    • juice
      May 26, 2011

      I agree with you and tiny 100% with their “stop taking people man” I did not know those men had a freaking sign on their forehead these women are talking as though women are just walking about
      grabbing man black is white stupesss. Man leave their woman at home for outside woman already
      all you too damn stupid other people property my foot I had no idea man was property smdh and lmfao. Married man left their wife for outside woman already stupess :mrgreen:

      • the boss
        May 27, 2011

        no class

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      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        I agree with both Belle and Juice, they think they own de man!!! stupes, just wait till he find real love with someone else they will see how long he gonna stay with them, stupes

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  31. Muslim_always
    May 26, 2011

    1. Practically everyone praised the mother with the child not realizing that all these so called christians here have forgotten their values, the fact that fornication is an abomination unto the Lord Most High. A bastard child once again was born thus we see people here support a relationship not built on marriage. The child is innocent however, our nation is really immoral. I do not have a problem with people who want to build a sound family but disobedience to God does breeds unhappiness and I must say it as it is.

    2. This sexy shorty woman is very immature. Her intention is to destroy ultimately the child’s life knowing fully well the status of the relationship. Shorty has shown that she is insecure, she feels that she has to compete rather than having confidence in herself. She is so silly and immature, she calls the man’s home at odd hours of the night. Don’t you know shorty it’s by turns generally it’s done?

    3. If polygyny (the allowance of a man to have plural wives) is not regulated, then issues like shorty will never be curbed.

    4. The sad thing about women like shorty, there must have been single good men who have approached shorty, but due to her stupidity and perhaps materialism she ignored these men.

    Shorty, get a grip, you used yourself. You had evil intentions thus it backfired, pure and simple. Now get a life, seek God.

    • BMI
      May 26, 2011

      You can never answer any of my questions because I am a woman. But, your notions are always flawed.
      Muslims as well believe that marriage is a state of mind. You don’t need a piece of paper to say you’re married. This child is not a bastard because a piece of paper didn’t marry this couple. A relationship is a commitment they are common law. I have a Muslim friend who has a child with a black guy. She can’t marry him because her family wouldn’t allow it. So she and her common law spouse are living a happy life without the typical marriage. They have an understanding.
      Whether anyone realizes this as a marriage it is, he made a commitment to her and his child. Even “married” men stray. It’s not any different.
      Also, Allah teaches that a man should not have more than one wife if he can’t take care of them equally, giving time, sex, financial etc. It’s hard enough for a man to have time for one woman needs for him to be able to take care of more than one woman

      • Muslim_always
        May 27, 2011

        I agree with you, marriage is not a piece of paper, that’s why even if you marry in court without doing the Islamic rites of marriage, one is still a fornicator. If a christian performs the rites of marriage in church for e.g, in Islam that marriage is considered valid if the christian couple embraces Islam.

        Common law is not marriage, that’s how satan makes people’s deeds fair seeming to them. Common law is fornication clear and simple, marriage and fornication are clearly defined.

        Also, if you are saying this woman is muslim and with a ‘black guy,’ this is not permissible under Islamic law. If the guy is muslim and the family opposes then the Imam performs the marriage without the consent of the family (providing the family’s objection was based on racism)

        BMI Allah gives permission for a man to have 2,3 or 4 wives but if he fears he cannot deal justly with them then he takes one wife.

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  32. Belle
    May 26, 2011

    shorty i see what you saying uno..but where u mess up is you fall for his game.. if a man have his woman and he messing around with you DONT EVER think he go leave dat woman for you..because if that was de case she would have been dismissed from de beginning..(if is tolly u want, get ur ting and let de man go about his business and u check ur own sin)..and you doh want no man dat cheatin on his woman…because de same way he cheatin on her, he will cheat on you too.. and Ladies DONT EVER FIGHT OVER A MAN..DAT JUST MAKE YOU LOOK LIKE AN IDIOT..WHILE YOU FIGHTING DE MAN DON SCOOP UP ANOTHER WOMAN AND CHECKIN HIS SIN..

  33. Lol
    May 26, 2011

    Dear Sexy Shortie at the Bus-Stop wearing skinny jeans, heels & a push-up bra;
    Exactly who are you trying to impress?!
    Sincerely;
    Impressed!!!!
    hehehehhehehehehe

    • juice
      May 26, 2011

      you sound like a hater go and wear your skinny jeans and heels too nuh stupesss who stopping you

      • the boss
        May 27, 2011

        Juice one thing that was a good response, Lol cannot wear that she pop down or she mayb like a gallon bottle, SHES SO JELOUS

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    • Corboss
      May 27, 2011

      Jalousie cest met sorcier

      • wama
        May 27, 2011

        corboss stop borrow tolly if u all that get yurs

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      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        yah I know the corboss should buy the tolly in the same store you buy yours woyyyy look roro :lol:

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  34. G
    May 26, 2011

    ALL I KNOW THAT SHE KNEW WHAT SHE WAS GETTING HERSELF INTO.

    99% OF THE TIME WE GUYS JUST TELL THE WOMEN WHAT DEY WANT TO HEAR.

    AS FOR THE MAN, A REAL MAN, HE SHOULD HAD STRAIGHT WITH THE WOMAN AT FIRST. LAY DOWN THE RULES.

    • juice
      May 27, 2011

      And we do the same to you like tell you we “come” when we did not such thing ! We tell you
      a whole bunch a lies just to stroke your ego word up :lol: come again !

  35. B.
    May 26, 2011

    I had a similar situation where this woman tried to windle her way into my relationship. He got to know her when he got a job near her workplace and this woman has always had an issue with me. When i come around she would either laugh loud or make silly statements. Before i knew it…she was calling his phone…and even getting upset when i answer my man phone. Although he denied even laying a finger on the heffer, she said he slept with her on many occasons and he got a taste and kept coming back for more. Some freaking nerve the old slut have. Now everyting is perfect at home…he no longer speaks to her…and my life have gotten back to normal. When i found out i left him and he came back saying he cannot live without his son and me. Since that time things have been great at home and my family is back to normal. Relationships will always have problems but is as if some women are sent by the devil to mess others life up.

    • lisad
      May 26, 2011

      only marriage is a commitment. Unless he says “I do ” to u, he belongs to anyone.

  36. Ki cah
    May 26, 2011

    Eh Beh Dominican women have issues papa. It have plenty unsexy shorties around D/ca u know. Texting people’s man…I guess they never really want to be a secret because their goal is to mash up homes. But little do they know…when bomb bust…man doh want to see them again because they dont want to lose baby mama. And is woman who have sences eh that doing them assness there. Women who have children and mothers themsevles. Its just upsetting. Calling the man and texting the man when he home with his family. That self is trouble. If u know you are a fling…just wait until is ur turn…

    • lala
      May 26, 2011

      u cudnt say it better, those spare tyres are no were to be seen BABY MAMA COME FIRST, SHE IS D QUEEN LOL

      • juice
        May 26, 2011

        say what all you like but they giving all you nuff sleepless nights and all you spend all your energy
        searching all you man phone and looking for numbers calling everybody and feeling insecure :lol:

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      • the boss
        May 27, 2011

        BUT ALL YOU WILL ALWAYS BE THE BITCH on the side not the main course, ofcourse we have to keep what we have relationship is hard work, from shrks like all you who have no life, and only badmind, god not sleeping

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    • G
      May 26, 2011

      I HAVE TO AGREE 10000000000%

      WHY CALL, WHEN YOU KNOW HE IS AT HOME.

      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        TO; THE BOSS…. You don’t get to decide that don’t fool yourself . You are just the slave :oops:

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      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        that’s why he did not marry you you fool :oops:

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      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        lmao!!! l love Juice, 8-O u just like me!!! Tell it like it is!!! :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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  37. Booklet
    May 26, 2011

    I said i would just look on and listen and observe but that story there just upsetting me more and more. First of all, men will be men no matter how hard we women cry. But I am 42 and i realise that men knows where their heart is. I have seen men out with women in wee hours of the morning that’s not their girlfreinds. They hand around a popular night club and bar flirting with women. Now any decent woman wouldnt be out at 3am drinking rum…so here we go. These guys are there flirting…trying to get some snack and that’s where it begins. But the irony on Valantines Day, Birthdays, Big shows, Family dinners, weddings, partys, carnival, independence and other major activties, these men are with their women and hardly even say hello to the woman they just screwed lastnight. How does that feel? The other woman is never really important.

    • the boss
      May 27, 2011

      tell that to juice, HOW SHE FEEING YOW YOW RAMBAM

      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        Boss lmfao just keep on lying to yaself keep on living your little pathetic life in denial

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      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        Do you know its around that time new romances start when all you looking for all you man on
        carnival day he with the new shorty huh yes that’s right that valentines day card and flowers is to console you. When he buy one for you he buy one for the outside woman too. Ask any man
        they will tell you that’s where the excitement is OUTSIDE. OK LADIES ON A SERIOUS NOTE
        You all familiarize yourselves with Lady on the street and whore in the bed ? Get that man to
        screw you in the backseat of the car, behind the house, under the tree outside, Go gardens, that is
        where the outside woman does get her thing. Believe you me you can’t go wrong :lol:

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  38. Dear Sexy Shorty
    May 26, 2011

    I have been with my man for a long time, and yes, we had our share of problems like couples do but that’s nothing. We always get through them. We have a lovely child together and he is a complete family man. It was just that time we had an issue and you find it the ideal time to come and tear us apart because you want him for yourself. Because you find my man have have business, vehicles and his own house….because you find he looking like big money….Bitch, know your place.

    My man was weak at the time, you lured him into your house and took advantage of his emotional state. You whore, of course he regretted it fully….he didn’t want me to find out at first, he was so ashamed. So he kept giving you a little bit of attention so you wouldn’t come out in public about what happened. you were his dirty little secret….but he couldn’t take it anymore and he had to tell me. He begged for my forgiveness, I forgave him because inspite of it all I love my man.

    Leave my man alone, he doesn’t want you and never did. Your looks ain’t nothing as far as I’m concerned because I myself….I am a stunna. I look like a supermodel and dress like one too, I am not short like you, dwarf, I’m tall. My man can’t resist these sexy long legs and tiny waist. I take great care of my child and I can cook up a storm. I have a degree and a great job. So who the hell do you think you are with your stories…wanting to use my man to get somewhere, bitch please.

    • look trouble
      May 26, 2011

      SO THAT WAS FOR YOU HOW U SURE?

      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        No I don’t believe that story was for that one dat just looking for attention she wish someone would
        waste their time and give her a challenge for the old drunk she have at home :oops:

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    • lol
      May 26, 2011

      lol. well look it!!!!! first time i see that on dear bella. story reach home.

    • charmed
      May 26, 2011

      lol…..you hit the girl hard…

      tell it to them sister…how they expect to get the man and they know they cannot do half of what we do for our men…how do you expect a man to leave his home where he gets his lunch, clothed washed, well pressed and can relax iin the comfort of his family and knows also he has a respectable woman.. those young girls Lord help them ….. you all are just flings learn that!!!!!!!!!!!!

      GOT IT!!!!!!GET IT!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      HAHAHAHA!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • KAYA
      May 26, 2011

      8-O

    • Belle
      May 26, 2011

      woshhhh… look ro ro on DNO,, Both of allu is two damass..de man using both of allu and maybe even have more woman..but allu dere allowing it and even want to argue about him…stupppesss….

      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        sot dey sot, de man will do what he want when he ready, married or not!!! :lol:

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    • shiloh
      May 26, 2011

      LOL c cinema haha

      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        Then why he did nt marry you sexy long legs ?

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  39. low flyer
    May 26, 2011

    ladies please!!!!!! allu know shorty was speaking for all of u. ooooh yes i said it,,,, and u men shot up cuz most of u all jus talking but full of sh…..t! and u know y? cuz most of u all hve a shorty somewhere ….

    • fire
      May 26, 2011

      trueeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee

    • juice
      May 26, 2011

      lmao u know it :lol:

      • shiloh
        May 26, 2011

        PAPA GAWD c cinema lol

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  40. orange
    May 26, 2011

    at the end of di day…she di boss ah di yard..yu jus a side fling..at di end of di day dat is lol

    • juice
      May 30, 2011

      Di boss ah di yard is di one wid ring pan finger lol :lol:

  41. haha
    May 26, 2011

    woman y would want to break up a happy home?and yes it is happy men always want more that’s y they keep looking but that is not to say that they aren’t happy at home.i think it is really sad that u would knowing try to break up a family.take a father away from his child and a boyfriend from this woman.u must remember u are a woman too how would u feel if u were in the woman’s place?with someone else trying to break up your family?

    • look trouble
      May 26, 2011

      and they does want to play giving d man woman talk and watch them big eyes we, boy dominica have some good for nothing woman

  42. CONCERNED 1
    May 26, 2011

    You were not used!!!! you were just an idiot. you knew the man had his girlfriend and child. i believe that you have commitment issues thats why you were with someone who was already committed to someone else. thats always the case with people who have commitment issues.they always seem to want what they cannot have and not only that ,you also lack self respect and integrity. you were the other woman and the other woman never wins. she is always the one whose heart is left broken because when all is said and done the men always go home to wife or girlfriend and kids. get your own man .there are enough of us around.had it been you , would you have wanted him to leave you and your kid for someone else? what an idiot you are

  43. tiny
    May 26, 2011

    @the boss

    i wish i was your man…………… telling you……………your man is one happy man………he can sleep around as much as he wants …………….stupid stupid women.the truth is most these women feel sorry for the ones in the relationship wit such men like yours……………i know men like your boy freind speak to me they chase after me you poor fool

    • the boss
      May 26, 2011

      and you taking men like that left right and centre, i guess u are like sexie shorty too well read the 66 comments and take it for yourself cause u ar SEXIE SHORTIE NUMBER TWO

    • pakatay
      May 26, 2011

      tiny, marjority of the woman thinks sexie shorty is dumb, just like you so please shut up, u are the bitches who encourage the men to sleep around cause you want money, you man doing the same thing as you go and peepee he f*cking another girl in secret so dont fool urself, he telking to other woman just like other men talking to you —whos the poor fool, plus the man f*cking and using you when he want.

      • lala
        May 26, 2011

        But tiny u good stupid we, so u feeling good the man talking to you, in his head laugh he laughing you we, and what you think he treating his woman bad, nopw when man know they messing up thats when they treat there woman the best, why u think the woman stay not because of you its because men are good, so how can u feel sorry for a woman in a relationship when you yourself not even in one, somebody man you hoping will make you feel like something

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      • mzbootilicous.
        May 27, 2011

        hahahaha.. u damn right on dat on lala.

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    • wee/wee
      May 26, 2011

      stop riding other man woman and ride your own……

      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        tehbeh, u don’t revise before u post ur mahjie??? seems like somebody need to be riding u, cuz ur an ass!!!
        A man has a mind of his own, just like his Dick is his own. No woman can take ownership of a man, he is not a material thing….. not even in marriage can help u keep him, cuz there is something called DIVORCE!!!!

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  44. wikilee
    May 26, 2011

    You sound just like my husbands wanna be lover. You too sortttt.

    • ccc
      May 26, 2011

      u sottt jus like the woman, cause ur husband have woman and u still there. infact u more sottt

      • charmed
        May 26, 2011

        NO SHE NOT SORT ……SHE KNOWS WHAT SHE IS GETTING FROM HER HUSBAND

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  45. tiny
    May 26, 2011

    both you and that woman needs help. after finding this out this woman is still ina relationship with him. unbelievable. man gets away with everything. if it was his woman cheating on him he would be gone in a istant. why do women tolerate such crap.

    • Muslim_always
      May 26, 2011

      Bc we are polygynous by nature, put that in your pipe. Men can love many women once, that’s our nature. :-D

    • faulse
      May 26, 2011

      in fact he would get a gwo-pwel….ehben lookiittttt

  46. big coco
    May 26, 2011

    A A, d spare tyre say they use her LOL, damn wicked all u too like to borrow tolly and play heavy, next thing the man and his woman passing all you straight on the road DO I HEAR DOG, and they think the man only saying things on his girlfriend u knw, the man telling his woman more things on you we, dem spare tyres head under der feet boy

    • hmm
      May 26, 2011

      dam right!! i dont kno y some women dont know how to find a man of their own!!

      • big coco
        May 26, 2011

        because they cant get, they run around too much everybody knows der life history

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    • .....
      May 26, 2011

      LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!!!1

    • DR
      May 26, 2011

      Big coco where can i get one to drink?

      • big coco
        May 27, 2011

        DR one what lol

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      • mzbootilicous.
        May 27, 2011

        wayyyyyyyyyyyyyy.. mi daybar.. but u right big coco. they must be feelin well small when they know de man sleep with them last night and next day he passin them like he dont know them.. how she must feel eh. lmao :mrgreen:

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  47. the boss
    May 26, 2011

    it had a ting dat thought she could take my man, now the joke is on her she up again on another man, that same man have to do her worst than what she try on me, he have to let her reach psychiatric unit AGAIN, the only difference with that story is i looked way better than her she cudnt come in my shoes, i so wanted to kick dat. TIE UP kinda females searching for love cause they so worthless.

    • Anonymous
      May 26, 2011

      you are worthless, wish i was your man……………i would be one happy man……your man can cheat on you whenever he wants

      • the boss
        May 26, 2011

        the man tolly too small so long i leave him, my son and i have moved on anonymous

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      • juice
        May 27, 2011

        Is not the same tolly that give you the son ? I guess your elastic stretch out after a while :lol:

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      • dumb anonymous
        May 26, 2011

        Anonymous u sound really uneducated boy, and i bet u are a man stealer yourself, what happen you are a victim too lol cause you know the man have his woman, men will be men, its woman like you that encourage it cause all you agreeing to be the spear tyre, who more worthless, u meet the girl with her man, go get yours and i bet you ugly too lol, the man happy either

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      • the boss
        May 26, 2011

        yes he sure can cause he know it have woman like you that will accept it anytime——-he is one happy man—–but you not happy you know is not your man, i sure your a man stealer yourself did he leave you for his woman—-lol exactly what i mean—who worthless

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  48. LadyJ
    May 26, 2011

    Wappp!! Take it like a man!! (It’s WOMAN TIME!!)

  49. BMI
    May 26, 2011

    You’re definitely not a victim; you’re only upset now because he does want you.

    It may seem easier to you to have a relationship with a man who is already situated. You don’t know the time and efforts his girlfriend had to put into their relationship to set up house and home or an understanding where he would have to turn off his phone in her presence at nights. A beautiful face can be shadowed by insecurities; you’re trying to replace what he already has. Why?

    Telling you about his girlfriend’s faults is to keep you in line, so you will know what he expects, which is your silence. I am sure you tried not to be annoying like his woman.

    • Roz
      May 26, 2011

      Realest comment on here. Men does tell women about their girlfriends faults to keep them in line. We women so think is woman better woman, we does fall for that. Take note ladies, and dont try to up-one on other women. WHen we act like that, both women lose, and is the men that win in that situation.

  50. Delishus
    May 26, 2011

    SO YOU WILLFULLY, WILLINGLY, DELIBERATELY AND KNOWINGLY ENTERED INTO A RELATIONSHIP WITH A MAN WHO WAS ALREADY OCCUPIED?……..AND YOU FEEL LIKE YOU HAVE BEEN USED?………..TRICK YOU TRIPPIN……STUPESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS

  51. TOMIAN
    May 26, 2011

    girl i find u have no sense at all. First of all,it was a secret; and that should have been your first clue to get out.You knew the man was living with his woman and child, and as u said, he would never answer his phone when he was home; that was the second clue. “He never acknowledged me as his girlfriend.” third clue and the fact that when his woman found out he stayed away was the nail in the coffin to let u know that u meant NOTHING to him. Get a grip u were USED and u are the only one to blame.

  52. okkk
    May 26, 2011

    Y u all beating up on sexy shorty so nah. The man is as much to blame as her. Now sexy shorty, u were a problem, u cannot tell me u no de man living with his family and you still calling him at night. U should have respected that aleast and u wanted too much too soon. I eh dogging you cause the guy was not married so it was your choice but u were maybe to demanding, you should just let it flow and maybe u would have gotten ur man.

    • Let it flow
      May 26, 2011

      just let it flow okk? You know the amount of lolo she would have received following your advise? Now she would feel stupid when she could not check the number of times she faced the sky just there hoping and hoping and hoping hoping and hoping and hoping and hoping and hoping and hoping…..she would have him leave his tall wife lol!

  53. queen j
    May 26, 2011

    i dont think that woman was used at all ………..wen a woman was used by a man its she did not know any thing about his woman an child an his playing a single roll but…………she dam well new about the family an try to win him over wit looks girl plzz thats if she can cook an clean..woman like u are call homerecker. think about u wat if u was the woman in house wit the child an ur man alover wit another woman …………

  54. U for Real
    May 26, 2011

    U too freakin weaked.. I try not to make any comments but i couldn’t hold back.. Is women like you that cause problems in a relationship. I am blaming you because u were fully aware that the guy had his girlfriend and well as a child. A functional relationship at that. I also blame the guy because men are never satisfied. They are always searching… SEARCHING… When what they have is gone thats when they sit and wonder… U acted like a real SLUT…

    Have some pride and dignity and leave people relationship alone…..

    Disgusted….. U use urself because u were aware

    • fire
      May 26, 2011

      One woman can never satisfy a healthy black man. strait.

  55. Caribbean Lady
    May 26, 2011

    I read this over and I still vex! The arrogance and ignorance of this so-called ‘sexy’ shorty.

    I find Bella too kind in saying “The fact that he never left his girlfriend is because he obviously loves her and didn’t love you enough to cut the strings.”

    Guess what – he did not love you at all. You were just a piece he was using for sex – and since he knew that you knew about his girlfriend and child from the start, he was NEVER going to respect you. Good looking or not, a slack woman like you could never become his girlfriend.

    Put dat in yuh pipe and smoke it.

  56. JESUS LOVES US
    May 26, 2011

    papamet, woman still STUPID so ner, when he enjoyin himself in his woman tight ****** you think is a homewrecker like you he studying, he know his good ting at home so as a man he was just jumping in your hole till u tell him stop. FOOL

    • mzbootilicous.
      May 27, 2011

      woyyyyyyyyyy.. hahahaha. de man see is a soft head dat so he have dat dere.. but when he go home is a whole different ball game.. lmao. silly bitches. find ur own man.

  57. Reality
    May 26, 2011

    Women are the own biggest enemies. I am sure if madame sexy shorty had a man and a child she wouldnt want him to cheat like that. Who knows…Maybe she does have kids and maybe he did her the same thing so she taking revenge. Well good for him…He didn’t leave his woman. Way to go Bella…I love the new attitude. Bold face and brave…ahahahahah

    • nuts
      May 26, 2011

      i agree with you… She wouldn’t like it for herself and she doing with knowin the man “MARRIED”… some women to WICKED. i readin that and i getting vex……..
      let me go and cook my husband food eh before SEXY SHORTY spread her wings and find him.!

      • brap brap
        May 26, 2011

        lmao nuts ou ka chweh mwen

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      • ccc
        May 26, 2011

        where in d letter u read d man marreid, u really need to go cook ur husband food

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      • nuts
        May 26, 2011

        but is a married man she talkin about! you self not reading between the lines

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    • big coco
      May 27, 2011

      u doh see ccc CRAZY

  58. easylikesundaymorning
    May 26, 2011

    i suspect that story suit me…at first i was like…she tell bella about me….but certain parts of the story did not apply to me, cause i never slept at her home.

    • Long john silver
      May 26, 2011

      you like toys/shorties too???? lol ! Sexcitinglikearainysaturdaynight

  59. Caribbean Lady
    May 26, 2011

    Sexy Shorty, quite simply – yes you are stupid.

    Arrogant too.

    You did not even give a thought to how the little boy would feel to have his father torn away from his home. You just wanted what you wanted and you got what you deserved.

    Be serious now – do you really think a man who is cheating on his girlfriend is going to say that his girlfriend is really a wonderful, loving, caring person? No! Because then that would make him look like the dog he is.

    So the problem is alllllways with the woman – she nags, she this, she that. But yet they not leaving, so what does that tell you?

    But then again, maybe it doesn’t tell you anything – since as you pointed out, you’re damn stupid.

  60. nom nweh
    May 26, 2011

    Girl all you woman that know a man have his woman and try to break it up when it doh work all you vex, THATS JUST NO CLASS, the woman that was der before you hold the man long time already she better than you cause the man wont leave her for you, once he not leaving after three months he wont leave again, all you woman to LOW AND DOGGGGGG

    • Reader
      May 26, 2011

      Spoken like a woman scorn!

      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        hahaha, most of them talking like dat wi, u can hear the anger in they way they writing!! :twisted:

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  61. Just Giving My Two Cents
    May 26, 2011

    USED!!!!!

    Some people are so blind that they’ll only find fault in others but not themselves!!!

    Important lessons to learn:

    1) You can only be a victim when something is unknowingly or forcefully done to you! You said you wanted the man, you knew his stats, and yet you went for him therefore, there’s no element of surprise in this affair

    2) Looks can only take you so far! You sound shallow to think that beacause you look better, that you were better and as such he’d have left her for you! Girl wake up!! Prettiness, sexiness, dressing well are not standards by which men choose partners. Yes..that might help the initial attraction, but trust me…a man sees beyond all the makeup, nice clothes and figure.

    3) A man can smell an easy lay a mile away! If you were so easy to get, what makes you think he would think highly of you? Get real – men may be NASTY, but they are not all DUMB!

    4) what goes around comes around!

  62. Here2Stay
    May 26, 2011

    I live together with my man and my child and this reminding me of a past situation where this little golddigger tried to tear our family apart at a time where we were going through a little conflict….all becuz she wanted him and what we have.

    I held strong, we worked out our issues and presently my man and I are engaged, baby number 2 is on the way and we are happier than ever!

  63. Gaza
    May 26, 2011

    That woman there well arse eh that good for her she 2 stupid

  64. GET REAL
    May 26, 2011

    yes indeed, you are stupid!

    Why would he want to leave his woman for you? remember “cheat with me, and you will cheat ON me”

    That was the mantra in his head!!!

  65. Pnuts
    May 26, 2011

    1. U were an equal player in that game sister, u knew he was already taken so U were not used.
    2. I guess U do not look as good as U think U do, he stayed with his lady.
    3. U were not important to him when he was out of your bed, he turned off his cell @ nights, or did not answer your calls.
    4. He never acknowledge u as his girlfriend bcause u were not his girlfriend.
    U need to wake up, and leave pple man and find your own. U 2 like OPP (other pple property).
    SEXY SHORTY mY @$$.

    • Children Meelay
      May 26, 2011

      Napolean syndrome or Ideas of grandeur ? I cannot make up my mind onthis one. The Jury is still out. Short peeps have complex.Girl U making me laugh. Shortie and sexy?? that doh go together. Bitter /sweet .soft and hard beer don’t go with cake ,bad taste in the mouth.Shorties are toys to play with ,play things.If a woman is looking good men and even other women will tell her so.Self praise doh count shortie lol Who fooled you????

  66. Cal Fawin
    May 26, 2011

    lol it took you that long to realize that you were just a bit on the side, And she had Good reason to not trust him. He prolly have another spare tire all now. trick!

  67. Honey Bunches of Oats
    May 26, 2011

    My dear, whenever a man complains about his woman or wife and stays with her…don’t make yourself a fool in love. Men will say what they have to to have the cake and eat it too. Besides he would have to abandon all his inhibitions for him to leave his child and his child’s mother to be with you. The thought of that alone would be disturbing and uncomfortable to him. Leave taken men alone. There are more free, sweet, straight men available than we think. Oh and the fact that you may think you are prettier than her doesn’t necessarily have to be his view as well.

    • COCOA PUFFS
      May 26, 2011

      Don’t know if I totally agree with you fruity loops towards the of your little narrative.More free ,sweet ,straight men than we think. First from what am seeing & hearing there more married sour kinky-bordering on gay you men out there. than before.So I cannot agree with you on this one.nuff macos around. remmeber all kind of wood make closets these days.That’s one reason the older married men getting all the nice nectar around.You can even ask Shortie. Oh and by the way I recommend for shortie’s viewing “FIRED UP” great movie. No girl left……………. is every man’s mantra.

  68. I heart Bella
    May 26, 2011

    QUOTE OF THE DAY

    “if a man loves you, nothing will keep him away and just the same, if he doesn’t love you, nothing will make him stay”

    • prikk
      May 26, 2011

      only a fool breaks his own heart……sing it baby

  69. KAYA
    May 26, 2011

    Sweetheart you went into this knowing that the man had a family. You honestly think that he would leave her for you? Men will say and do anything to get in a woman panities, including liying about there relationship status or the situiation at home. If you say you look better than his woman what are you worried about :-? . Men will ALWAYS cheat because their is always a woman who will cheat with him. It’s us women that need to have a little respect for ourselves and stop falling for their sweet lies. Just leave this man alone and take your time and find a single brother. :lol:

    • Muslim_always
      May 26, 2011

      I advise all single or divorced brothers against marrying this woman because she is too dumb. :-D

      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        LMFAO 8-O she really is…. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

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  70. lol
    May 26, 2011

    u giving up your pum pum, so of course he will eat it on the side, he have the MAIN course at home. u just a snacker so get over yourself

  71. dnt throw stones
    May 26, 2011

    were not used..u knew from thw beginning he had his lady so why are u saying that u were used…hmmmm..accept the consequences of being in love with a man who already has his woman…
    women never learn , men alway say i will leave her just so they can hve both of you at the same time,,its ok though, we learn from life experience….aso move on just knw u should never get involve with a man who has his woman,, wife or many women altogether…. :-D

    • Reader
      May 26, 2011

      So she should stay by herself then? If you exclude those in prison, those that gay … how many do you really thing is left from our small population that doh have wife, woman or women? I say exclude the gay, the incarcerate and the married!

  72. alepie
    May 26, 2011

    Dumb, plain dumb!. It’s that simple.

  73. Nubian Princess
    May 26, 2011

    well said bella…some women just need to leave other women’s men and husbands alone. I really dont know why people insist on breaking up families and relationships. Men, please its better to be honest with your partners…be a man and tell us what going on…lets us decide whether we want to remain or move on

    • Reader
      May 26, 2011

      Nubian, you know you don’t mean!! The majority of women want to stay blissfully ignorant!

      • Sunny......
        May 27, 2011

        AGREED!!!

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  74. m
    May 26, 2011

    stupes! either that woman stupid or dumb… go firgure

  75. so sweet
    May 26, 2011

    to ccc, you couldnt have said it better. I didnt find she was used at all. She chose to go there inspite of so therefore she should be willing to take whatever the consequences would be. Some of us women to think we can take our looks or how we dress or just because we are WOMEN to get to men. Learn women learn. We can do better than that.

    • anonymous
      May 26, 2011

      YUP these women do not realize that men fall in love with ur heart and ur mind although beauty and body plays an important role its not the main factor

  76. Shame on You Woman
    May 26, 2011

    Used? Oh No! This was an affair between two consenting adults.

    You gave it up. And he took. Simple. You consented while knowing about girlfriend, child and home.

    Why do women even enter relationships because they feel superior to the other woman? Beats me.

    You said you wanted him. So how did he use you? You knew just what you got into. And No relationship is perfect. I’m sure he’s not your first man, so you know very well.

    Summary of your behavior: You are a home wrecker. Shame on You!

    Next time, put yourself in the shoes of the other woman. One day, you too will have a family and a home.

    In the meantime, consider yourself nothing but a lil B. Control yourself. Learn to Respect people’s homes. :-x

    • March 31, 2015

      Theses are the people who write to Bella for help,…

      or see a counselor,…

      or go into therapy,…

      or check themselves into a psych ward,..

      or commit suicide!

      They ridicule people like myself who teach the New Testament moral code that says sex outside marriage is a sin the Bible calls ”fornication” that has dire and far reaching consequences according to First Corinthians 6:9,10, and vs. 18, Galatians 5:19-21, and Jude vs. 7.

      But thank God here is a better way to live. Jesus said ”…I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10)

      I invite you to visit our website at

      http://www.livinghopeministries.ca

      Click onto SERMONS.

      Listen to the sermon THE NEW BIRTH by Donald Hill.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. international Evangelist.

  77. juleep
    May 26, 2011

    I an understand if the man lied to you?….but you went into it knowing he had a steady woman? Girl,you just plain dumb.He did not use you,you allowed him to use you.I will not help you blame the brother……..take your heartbreak like a soldier,you brought all of that upon yourself.IDIOT!

  78. Be Real
    May 26, 2011

    I hate when people do their thing and then try to play victim. Yes their are guys out thier that do and say thing and use woman just like their are woman that do the same. but let be real here people. this woman is not victim. you knew the guy had his woman and child and you decided to go with him, because as u said you look better then her. i guest that’s why u thought he would live his woman for you, cause of your looks. Did u ever thing that maybe the reason why he refuse to live is woman for you is that he is thinking that the same way you decide to have a “secret” relationship with him knowing he have a woman and child. That he cant trust that you wont be doing it with another man while you with him. let me be clear. I am not condoning any of this cause you both are wrong. you for knowing he have his woman and getting involve and he for also knowing he has some one and getting involved with you.

    But don’t say you were used by him cause you were not.being used by some one is falling into something when u don’t know the fact behind it and finding out after. you on the other hand knew what you were getting into and went into it anyway. the fact that it did not turn out the way u wanted it to does not make you a victim.

    Their are to many innocent woman out their that are truly being used by guys. Don’t insult them by playing the victim.

  79. nectar
    May 26, 2011

    Man want woman that can wash and cook and clean and have a big heart. they not going to commit themselves to woman that just pretty and cannot do nothing else…..wise up.

    • Anonymous
      May 26, 2011

      word up!!!!!!!

    • Anonymous
      May 26, 2011

      I thought that’s what men wanted in a woman but alas, some of them only want the looks – then again maybe these are the boys in mens’ bodies

    • Miss Marigot
      May 26, 2011

      That uis called hiring a maid. This is 2011

    • me too
      May 26, 2011

      who ever mentioned anything about wash cook and clean! please stop that notion that every pretty well-dressed woman cannot cook clean and wash! This is definitely not the issue here!

      • grace
        May 26, 2011

        that’s the ugly a** women and them talking some men like the show piece too :lol:

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  80. Take Note
    May 26, 2011

    Excellent words of wisdom Bella! Single ladies out there, please take note.

  81. Oh brother!
    May 26, 2011

    Girl, please!!!

  82. open ur eyes
    May 26, 2011

    Bella if I knew who u r I would find u n shake all your ten toes.

  83. ccc
    May 26, 2011

    my dear u wasnt used at all cause u knew b4 hand that he had his woman and u still find u want him. i guess u thought that because u look better than her that u wud be able to steal his heart. but when it comes to relationships most men look past appearance.so while u say”he was using u” u should hve been using him too. well i guess now u know better and u will tread more carefully.

    • Here2Stay
      May 26, 2011

      I agree with you 100%….playing like she the ‘victim’…..pfffff, some women just not easy. Mister will never leave his child mother for you, girlfriend. Worse yet, they living together….just becuz u find you looking sexy then, hahahhahahaha. you know they in a relationship and you coming and cry…..tricks you have, u using him too. Get over your infatuation, darling.

    • Must Laugh
      May 26, 2011

      One wash next man welcome. You have to get banged up afew times to wise up shi*head.You /he wanted Nectar you both get it to your hearts delight.
      Sort! How you expect the man to answer his phone at nights when he trying to put his child to bed and to get some from wifey?You not on call at that time.You are on per diem work.(will call you when needed) Now explain to us: How you more beautiful than his wife!!! :-D Who deciedes that? :-D LMAO and making matters worse you are a shorty lol! :-D There will be more to fool you SHORTIE cause apparently you do not understand how this thing works lol!Check fred he’ll work you and pass you on to bill then bill pass onto Frankby 2015 you’ll have a soccer team of a list.

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