Can long distance relationships work? Yes, they can if you have tracking device embedded deep in the sex organs of each individual and a satellite video manning every move, or a jet to visit each other at least twice a week.
Otherwise, it cannot work.
Yea, I can see them nodding their head saying I am talking sh** again. But you very well know a long distance relationship cannot work, so shut up. It is over even before he/she flies or swims overseas. Give it two weeks for a male and six months for a female.
The fact is that we all need some physical intimacy, especially for men. The sweet talks on the phone, emails every day, the affectionate emoticons on MSN and Facebook, aren’t enough. It gets boring and ordinary after a while.
We need to see, touch and feel all the time, and that’s where technology fails. Yes, it is possible to strip naked in front the cam and flash your boobs and get swef, or talk nasty on the phone but that still ain’t enough. We need to stick our bat in a wicket. Watching you doing a mini-porn show does nothing much for us because many of us masturbate every day watching porn online, so what’s new? I mean we see you naked most of the time when we’re together, so it’s just stale. We’ll get off more with a girl we’re seeing for the first time.
In time, we grow bored of hearing the same *^&^%&^: “how was your?”, “Are you ok?”, “I had a good day”, “Baby, I miss you”, “Baby I love you”. Shut the 8** up. That’s what some of us want to say sometimes. Imagine doing that for two years?
Everyone cheats in a long distance relationship. That’s a fact. If cheating does not take place, she will dump you for a next man or woman, or vice versa. So let no one fool you.
I remember I had an ex long ago. We were so in love. When I was leaving we cried. I thought my world crashed but we vowed to stay together until she can come over. My friends knew I was depressed but told me to stop because it was unnecessary, and that soon I will meet some hot chick to screw.
Of course, I protested, saying that’s bull*** and that I love my girlfriend; I would never do anything to hurt her. Well, it turned out that my friends were right. Less than three weeks later – after burning hundreds of dollars on phone cards and daily web cam stripping – I met a chick. We had sex and my girlfriend was history. Well, I did not tell her. However, she cheated too. I heard rumours shortly after I left that her granny caught her screwing a long-time ex of hers. I asked her about it and she denied it (of course you know women lie lol). Well, she later confessed she kissed her ex and nothing more. (Oh please; I’ll believe women when donkey grow wings).
It’s just that long distance relationships won’t work. I know a lot of people who are cheating in long distance relationship.
Today, however, I have a greater message for everyone: do not trust anyone who tells you that their girlfriend or boyfriend is overseas and they don’t think it’s gonna work. Most times that’s a trick. They will date you seriously and three years later when that so-called ex is back, the fire is re-ignited and you get dumped. It happens all the time.
A lot of people are going around telling people they are single, simply because they have a secret long distance relationship. And of course you fall victim because such cheaters appear to be truly single – but they are far from that.
So if you’re thinking about maintaining ties, stop fooling yourself and wasting time. I know it is summer when a lot of people reunite, screw and go back to the same crap, OR the time when people are preparing for a long distance relationship because their lovers are flying out later this year to start school.
But enjoy it while it lasts because even before you take the plane, his willy wally is already dipping into some sauce or her butter cup already has a spoon in it.
Alternatively, either may be getting friendly with a substitute so guard their feelings.
So peeps stop fooling yourselves about making it work. My advice is that if you love each other so much, prepare to move together and make a life. One in and one out won’t work.
A long distance relationship works when either party agrees to date anyone until they meet again.
See ya next week!
Being in a long distance relationship is never easy, especially in the “bye bye, see you again part”. I was in a long distance relationship before so I knew the feeling, that feeling that your heart is being torn apart especially if he is walking away from you. My husband and I met 4 times before we finally closed the distance, and I must say that it was the best time of my life, to be with the love of my life. Open communication, be open with each other, trust each other and loyalty is the key to have a successful long distance relationship. Many people will discourage you and will say long distance relationship isn’t working but the truth is, it will work if you are both committed and And always believe in God and let Him be the center of your relationship nothing will go wrong. Just trust and be loyal with each other, it will be a happy ending.
That guy must be one ugly ……. LDR difficult but perfectly worth it . just plan on where De relationship leads to and when next you guys gone meet ..
I will like to share my testimony to you all.i just got married to my husband about a year ago we start having problems at home like we stop sleeping on the same bed, fighting about little things he always comes home late at night, drinking too much and sleeping with other women out side.i have never love any man in my life except him.he is the father of my children and I don’t want to loose him because we have worked so hard together to become what we are and have today.few month ago he now decided to live me and the kid, being a single mother can be hard sometimes and so I have nobody to turn to and I was heart broken.i called my mom and explain every thing to her, my mother told me about Dr Jatto how he helped her solve the problem between her and my dad I was surprise about it because they have been without each other for three and a half years and it was like a miracle how they came back to each other.i was directed to Dr Jatto and explain everything to him, so he promise me not…
I date a girl on social network, we never met and we never talk. we only chat with each other. i grow very fond of her. she’s beautiful and friendly. we’re cybor dating for like 3 years now. i never cheat on this relationship, i swear to God. but i’m not sure about her. she always show the picture of her and a dude hugging and kissing each other claiming that’s her friend. i feel that i’m stupid but, God, i love this girl. she still keep contacting her Ex. i feel awfully awful about this. all her guys friends are getting to hug her and kiss her and she might talk on the phone with some guys… her ex perhaps. but she refuse to talk to me. i feel like i’m an idiot for believing in her bull**** thing. she stated that she doesn’t want to give me her number because it’s like she giving me her body. do you know what i think? i think: what the f?! she gave her number to her guy friends and even talk to them, isn’t that the same as she giving them her body? maybe she take me for granted or just to entertain her on her free time.
I’m 18 an I’m in a long distance with a 17 year old girl… We are together for 6 yrs until she went away 2 yrs ago.. She cried wen she was going away n promise she’ll never hurt me.. She provide me with crdt for 1 year to call her right, until she stop doing 3 months ago… She argues for everything as if she want to leave she even spoiled my last bday….. Since reading dat article I believe that long distance relationship dnt work ….
Great subject N Guy.
Soulmates don’t cheat..
If they do then they aren’t soulmates.
Long distance relationships work .
The truth is we are lopsided with our bias on sex before marriage.
95% if premarital relationships end up in sex.
That is why we fuss a lot about this adjective “cheating “.
This whole article is the opinion of one man ladies, do not be fooled.I have been in a long distance relationship with the woman I love for over a year now and we do not even talk on the phone we just text each other.She is still married and is going through a lot when it comes to getting out of that.Who would I be to push her knowing that?I knew she was married when I got with her and while she did take some time away from her husband in order to spend time with me, they are still together.Do I think she lies to me when she tells me they are no longer intimate? It can be hard for me to swallow but I know how much she spends talking to me and how much she loves me so I have to take her word.I know I have been faithful this whole time because I have chosen to be.If I was going to sleep around then I would not be waiting for this woman to come to me.I would wait an eternity for who I truly love!Would any of you shallow and sex driven people do the same for someone you really loved? If you would not then it is not love.So if your long distance relationship does not work out then it is because of lack of love and commitment.The day I leave is if she ever tells me to move on with my life.
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Why I resetly got in a long distance relation an itso far so good
Tell me, is it still good?
This same dufus would cheat if the girl was living in his own hometown. Some people cannot see past the end of their own noses. He probably screws his new chic while crying about his long distance girlfriend hoping she isn’t being a cheat like him. We cannot expect fidelity from someone when we cannot be faithful ourselves.
My and my fiance are in a long distance relationship and he was with another woman while lying to me regularly about it. I never cheated on him, but I just wish that instead of jumping on someone else first he would have just broken things off with me.
Apparently she was just a booty call (though he claims he cares about her) and he wants to be with me, but unfortunately now I cannot trust him not because he had a need that needed to be filled, but when I asked what was going on with this woman he was seeing and talking to daily he lied about it. I could forgive the cheating. I cannot forgive the lying. My trust is broken and I do not believe anything he tells me.
He clearly does not love me or he would have told me the truth from the beginning regardles of his claims that he wants to spend his life with me. Tough shit with lying comes consequences.
I think that if you want to sleep around while you are separated then both parties need to agree to that up front. If one party cannot agree then you should break off your relationship. Otherwise lots of people get hurt. He hurt me, he hurt this other woman that claims to love him and he hurt himself. There you go…
Me and my boyfriend have agreed to an open relationship. We met on a blogging website and grew close for 2 years, then met. now we are eachothers best friend/dating/open relationship. because he has school and I am stuck here with a house I just bought. we wont be able to be together for 2 to 4 years. So far we have made it 6 months, we call eachother all the time. Even though he can date he doesn’t he was a virgin before me. I know I dont want anyone but him. I was single 5 years before him. I had given up on dating, now all I see is him. I worry he has a lack of dating experience and sometimes mention how he should date. He seems offended when I bring it up. Some people can’t handle this kind of thing, bit in our case I think were doing just fine.. Both of us only want eachother. We both make sure the door is wide open if one of us wants to stray, that has really strengthened our foundation. By far this is the most stable relationship, with the most trust I have ever had. Oh and he is my best friend lol at this point I think if he wanted to have sex I could imagine him calling me to see what I think lol and honestly I would put money down that he would hope I said no. I on the other hand have no interest in anyone bit him for many reasons. making a blanket statement is a risky thing only a fool would believe one theory fits all. psssh get a real blogging topic cause you blew this one.
I was in the same situation. he was my hignschool sweetheart and this was our third time dating each other. he went out of state to work. i thought he was my soulmate and swore neither would cheat. i never concidered it. a year later i found out he was cheating. broke my heart in a million pieces. im not saying your man will do it but it happens.
In my opinion, life is more than sex. I have a long distance relationship too, and I’m a male.
I don’t say that I don’t feel the urge to “touch, feel”, because I do. But for me trust and patience are more important. If you think that you have found what you are looking for, the girl of your dreams, a nice, beautiful, a magnificent girl, in who you trust and cherish, and she shows the same affection which you know it’s real (it’s hard to know, but not impossible), than you would be a fool letting someone else intervene in your love for that special person you found and who you know that you won’t find someone like her ever again (of course, people say they do, but it’s not actually the real thing, it’s just an illusion which they use so they can fill their “heart” with something).
If you or your partner cheat on each other, than that is not love. Sacrifice an entire relationship for just some sex? Doesn’t sound like love to me. In love, you also suffer for the loved one. You wait if it’s needed until the last moment. Patience is more rewarded. The same goes for trust and any other feelings that should really exist in a relationship.
I have found what I wanted. That is what I believe and I will have patience the same as this person has for me.
Thank you. This really helped me.
I know the man I love, is also in love with me, he wants to marry me, and he has told me I’m his one true love…but my far-away man stopped talking to me as much, so I get very nervous. I only hear from him once/week. I have asked him to talk to me more, but he said he is very busy. I know he loves me very much tho, so I believe him….even tho it still hurts
im in a long distant relationship….my girl just call me and told me she cheated…but could only go 4mins as she felt discussed with her self..and she’ll do whatever it takes to make it up to me..
..its been 2years since I’ve seen her……any1 just hit me up….I’m a smart guy but at the moment my head is messed up.
I’m pretty much in your gf’s shoes. almost.. If there’s any advice I could give you that would be to break it off. Not because she’s a horrible person. But because she’s only human – she made a mistake. She feels horrible about it. It is horrible but it is only natural. I’m letting my bf go when I see him over Christmas. Don’t have the heart to do it over the phone. And I don’t think I live with myself if I ended up sleeping with someone. It might be the biggest mistake of my life. But right now I feel like it’s for the best.
That is really harsh
If my girlfriend waited till i was in person to end it , i would be even more heart broken! Don’t wait just tell him the truth, it would hurt me so much to know my gf was planning to break up with me when she saw me…
Dude im in a long distance relationship, we have been together for maybe 6 months long distance but 1 year and half overall! If she cheated on me even if it was 4 mins, i wouldn’t even think twice! Dump her, because if she could do it once , maybe she wont physically do it again but it doesn’t mean she wouldn’t be imagining, wanting to / emotionally cheating on you still. That is how my logic would go! you’re lucky she told you now deal with it the only way you can ! atleast you are not that guy that ends up staying with a girl who cheated on him because she never spillt the beans.
i am in a long distance relationship. we are apart more than we see each other. we are both in out early 20s so pretty poor.. this is the second year. first year, I sacrificed making friends here and talked to him often. now its just going down hill faster everyday. It hurts cz I love him. but i’m not in love with him. he doesn’t turn me on. sometimes phone calls with him bore me to death. and in addition there’s this other guy who I think about a lot. him and I kind of hit it off. we didnt have sex. but the chemistry is too right that neither of us could stay put for too long. I know I got closer to this second guy cz i’m not attracted to my guy anymore. I’ve had crushes before. never got to the point where I lost my mind though. I probably am not making a whole lot of sense. But I really am confused as to figuring my life out….
I’m a guy and I’d happily stay faithful in a longterm relationship. Then again, I only enter relationships if i feel like its going somewhere. I think the gender stereotype is wrong…i know far more women that cheat on their significant other than i do men that do the same. What boggles my mind is, when someone cheats, dont they think about how the other person they “love” feels?
I think the issue is more human than gender-based. People need to trust eachother more, something that’s becoming rarer and rarer each day.
Of course they think about the other person! It doesn’t mean they can deny themselves the basic need of touch and intimacy. That is stronger than any ‘Oh, this is going to crush my SO.’
And there’s no such thing as more women cheat than men. That’s utter bullshit. Both cheat equally because both are equally capable of cheating.
Nice Guy is totally correct!! I have been in a long distance relationship with my bf. We’ve been apart for 2 year. the first year we don’t get tired of sending emails to each other but after that we kinda got tired and made ourselves busy. I remain faithful inspite of my busy schedules and i thought he was too because eventhough he’s busy he tries to call me twice a week. With that routine I thought nothing wrong is happening to our relationship. Im bragging my boyfriend to every friend I have saying that he’s not a cheater. But actually eventhough I thought that he’s really not cheating I prepared myself, because I know men are easily tempted.
so his vacation came and we were both happy. I was planning to make a surprise anniv gift to him so I sort of checked his mail and fb account. to my surprise, he was cheating on me. chatting other girls. he have accumulated 3 chicks for less than a year!! it hurts a little because i was preparing for this but what hurts alot is that i was asking him if he cheated on me, he said he’s not. i showed him his chats with the other girls and he said he’s not doing anything wrong. Why man having a hard time admitting that they really have cheated?
My heart breaks everytime i remember this event in my life. but inspite of this, I still accepted him because that’s a part of a relationship. All i know that once given a second chance, he will have a hard time doing it again because of guilt (because 7 years staying together he never cheated on me he was only been influenced by his evil peers there abroad).
LDR will work only if both parties have broad minds.
The question is when entering a long distance relationship is WHO IS MOVING! that should be brought up within 6 months of dating and then plans should be set in..but reality is, no one wants to move and give up their job, apt, or whatever..its a big pain in the arse to start over again…so you just keep dating, hoping it will somehow work itself out..but bottom line is someone has to move and if you are lucky enough to do so, you may find that you both cant stand each other after a while and all those things you thought were cute at the beginning are now annoying..as in any relationship, long or short distance.
Anyway, good luck to you all.
Irrelevant,LDR is based on trust,respect and love…you’re so wrong,ive been in this kind of relationship and it works good.It’s just a matter of patience and time.And keep the communication open.
hell yea!! cannot agree more ! finally someone dares say the truth about long distance relationships!! btw im in one thou
I am currently in a long distance relationship of 6 months, knowing him for two and a half years, and I think this article is complete and udder bullshit. As some of the people have said already, if you base your relationship off love and trust it can work. Waiting all the time in between sucks a lot, but when you do finally see your other half, it’s like the world becomes brighter and more worth living. I think that long distance relationships are stronger than relationships where people see their loved one everyday. The distance really tests your love for each other. Just being able to wake up next to him is the best feeling in the world. As for sex, it is a major factor, but we do get by. For both of us, it’s not that big of a deal, we both like to masturbate and sometimes even send photos/videos. Yeah, I do miss having sex with him, but it’s not all about the sex for THIS relationship. It’s about letting our hearts and souls mend together as one emotionally.
im a guy in a long distance relationship with the girl of my dreams. We are in love with each other ad plan to be with each other for as long as we live. recently she’s been crying or being upset. i ask her whats wrong and she tells me all this stuff. but to me, those things aren’t things to get that upset about.. she has been talking to me considerably less lately and i had some bad thoughts that she may be seeing someone else and feels bad about it whenever she talks with me.. dot get me wrong, i trust her and love her more than anything in the world. it was just a bad thought that worried me.. I read what you said and it made me feel kinda better.
Hey mr. Nice,Whatevr u r saying that’s totally untrue,, the fact is not everybody cheat in long distance relationship but the fact is everybody isn’t same,, it depend what kind of girl/boy u hv,, I’m in long distance relationship nd it work if we want or we can,, nd the topic is sex,, when u will really find ur true love u will feel u dnt have share ur physic with else, nd thts fact of true love, nd abt ur girl tht ws with u maybe cause of ur money or ny benefit,,, u really need to feel love nt only sex,, nd nd don’t blame any1’s feelings,, ur girl did tht, meanz nt everybody do,, hell wit u,,, go back nd bring a new brain to think,,,
I got no idea. But i wish my cbf doesnt do the samething lik mr. Nice guy did.
what a foolish piece of advice!
you got dumped because u picked the wrong girl. find someone who really values true love and she will not dump you.
you should be true to yourself. if you love cheating on your girl, then long term relationship will not work for you.
hi mr nice guy thanks am just reading and learning a lot.
One of the most typical problem of writers nowadays is their ineptitude to engage their readers. This article is definitely one of a kind.
It’s not convoluted I don’t know why some persons have not figured this out yet.
I agree on both counts but long distance can work I know it cannot work for me period…! and I’m not gonna front…sorry…I can probably stay 3 years or 4 years without a man on my own but to sit down trying to be faithful and wishing and hoping the man is probably being faithful to me …??? smh lol hmm I don’t know… what I know is this I know of a guy right now who is in a long distance relationship with a woman from his own country for 4 years she has the magic jack and she calls him like 5 times a day and he answers her and calls her honey and baby and explains to her exactly what he is doing and where he is (but not who he is with) he tells me she trusts and believes in him and won’t believe a word anyone tells her about him….(LADIES AND GENTLEMEN BLIND TRUST) and that can make a long distance relationship work..we can’t see or know what each other is doing behind out backs but we can hold on to the blind faith and trust that they are being faithful and of course we can convince them that we are also faithful just like my boyfriend does to his long distance partner…lmao to all those who believe it can work then hey …who am I to say otherwise…the woman on the other side in my trio thinks her man is faithful to her . We sleep together practically every night I pass him the phone when she calls and listens to him (While we cuddle) telling her that he is storing up everything for her and other nonesense talk and I do everything to keep from bursting out laughing..for some women want to believe everything a man tells us lmao at this one…
u r a whore ..!! and not just that,even whores can have humane feelings..u r worst ..! Not only r u watching somebody kill someone’s feelings, u r part of it.it’s bcz of sluts like u dat men are able to cheat on gals who deserve so much better.BURN IN HELL !!!
And you are an idiot. It takes TWO to have an affair. There are trashy women like the girl above and coward men like her boyfriend who don’t have the balls to end their relationship before jumping into one. They deserve each other. Both are liars.
basically you and him are moral cunts? Some of us can keep our pants on when we are in a relationship and others would not laugh at the demise of a sweet girl who is getting owned by her current boyfriend. People like him that make long distance not work and people like his ” 1st gf” that do make it work.
I was in a long distance relationship for 11 months, we never cheated on each other. Now we have finally moved in with each other, its been 2 weeks.
Whether or not individuals cheat, is up to how strong they are, and how committed they are also. It may be difficult yes, but its not impossible.
25 years in a long distance relationship and still working great. I wouldn’t have it any other way.
wow that is amazing, how do you manage it
WOW. 25 years!!! How? Why?
@hi: I am in a long distance relationship and it doesn’t seem like anyone believes in them :'( I pray for our relationship every night.
It will work. The beauty of it all is love does not fail. The Bible says this in 1 Corinthians 13vs8. So if you are both true to each other and have real love and pray every night nothing will separate you. It’s hard no doubt but not impossible. It all goes down to how much you want to be together. Its not glamorous moving from relationship to relationship.
Although i get so tempted, so much at times to dabble in uncommitted sex. I try my best to fight it though. At times i wonder if what he says is the truth when he admits that he is not cheating.
i am sad to admit that i am in a long distance relationship, however as much as i would not like to admit it, what your saying has some truth to it. i am scared, because i am so in love with my boyfriend, but he is back home, while i am here in New York. I do believe that he is the guy that God created for me, but i have decided to leave our relationship in God hands. Although
hey mr nice i visited urs website for sum motivation of my long distance relationship but after seeing ur article i lost my moral .u r simply a joke hahhahahahahaha i belief in the power of love i love my gf soooooooooooo much and trust her like hell we both are away from our home town it has jus been a month but i rely fell as the days are passing i kn feel her presence more nearer and w have decided and dedicated our life to one another we belif we are meant 4 eachother and always be no matter wat i feel it is the test of our love and we belief we can rely overcome these walls ,,,,,,,,,,,that alllll
In the Name of God, Most Gracious, Most Merciful.
Of course there may be a few exceptions to short or long distance relationships. The reality is we live in a very sexist society and it is very difficult for people to remain faithful. Recently in the newspapers it states that last year divorce rate is 1:3. This is very appalling.
I believe that couples should do their best not to allow long distance relationships. The temptations are much stronger and this is dangerous to the relationship. I would suggest that couples try to move together to accomplish their dreams. Some couples who are in close relationships, one or both partners may cheat. Long distance relationships are very challenging and this increases the chances of infidelity. Why would one risk his or her relationship?
Practice temporary marriage, this is the solution to the issue.
Long distance relationships work if you trust each other and you put God first. It’s difficult at times but you have to believe that things will work out at the end. I was in a long distance relationship that didn’t work because the man cheated on me and have two babies by two different women…he claims the long distance thing was hard on him as if it wasn’t hard on me. I have no ill feeling towards him. I see it as a lesson learnt..it wasn’t meant to be. I will no doubt try a long distance relationship again if the opportunity presents itself.
Mr nice guy, there is a big flaw in your reasoning because i am in a long distance relationship that is working just fine. i am highly offended by your statements…everyone in a long distance relationship doesnt cheat. when u speaking sir speak for yourself because there are still GOOD men and woman out there…we not all pouwee like u…change yur name please…even sarcastically u dont deserve it.
@ Honey Man,
Good point buddy, but keep my God name out of your filth. Thank U.
HONESTLY MR. ‘niceguy’ i think you are an idiot. it is because of men like you, the world is swiftly craSHING INTO HELL. HOW ON EARTH CAN U WRITE SUCH AN IDIOTIC THING?! IT IS TRUE THAT IT MIGHT BE DIFFICULT FOR LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS TO WORK OUT, BUT YOU SPEAK AS IF MEN AND WOMEN ARE JUST FILET MIGNON STEAKS, AND WE ARE ALL JUST WAITING AROUND TO SEE WHO GETS HUNGRY FIRST. YOU DON’T HAVE THE FAINTEST IDEA OF THE POWER OF LOVE. BUT I SUSPECT I AM THE NAIVE ONE IN ALL OF THIS BECAUSE I SEE SO MANY PEOPLE AGREEING WITH YOU UP THERE. LONG DISTANCE RELATIONSHIPS WILL WORK WHEN THEY ARE CREATED OUT OF A LOVE THAT WAS FUELED MY GOD. BUT SINCE MOST RELATIONSHIPS TODAY ARE BASED ON SEX AND MONEY…PEOPLE DON’T EVEN HAVE THE DECENCY TO AT LEAST PRETEND THEY NOT HAVING SEX BEFORE MARRIAGE. JUST LISTEN TO YOU SHOUTING,’WE NEED TO PUT OUR BAT IN A WICKET’. MEN NEED TO GROW UP AND STOP ALLOWING THEIR SEXUAL ORGANS TO MAKE DECISIONS FOR THEM. AND WOMEN NEED TO RECOGNISE MEN FOR WHAT THEY ARE, AND HOLD OUT FOR WHAT I GUESS YOU WOULD PROBABLY CALL A ‘PUSSYBOY’ (a christian man who loves you and will appreciate you and support you and will wait to have sex with you because he loves you) BECAUSE BELIEVE IT OR NOT, AT THE END OF THE DAY…YOU AND YOUR ‘PUSSYBOY’ WILL NOT GO HELL like ‘MR. NICEGUY’ AND HIS PARDNERS.
my name is beth, i am from D/A I live in Ft Lauderdale and my beautify=ul husband lives in d/ca we meet at a creole festival 5 yrs ago , we dated for 2 yrs and we got married and life is sweet. people cheat close much more for near. i kep my beautiful self sacred for him , and know he kept himself for me. so mr nice guy every thing works as long as we put god in to it , my relationship worked due to GOD, THANKS A LOT
Well, well, well….Mr. Nice Guy, you are so wrong…..whatever you want to make work, will work. I was involved in a long distance relationship for four years before getting married and i’ve been married for eleven years now. My husband and I have two kids and we are a happy couple.
Like previously stated by others, it’s not easy (nothing is) but you have to give it your best shot and of course there were times when we both strayed (but it happens when both parties are together and even share the same household). At the end of the day, both parties have to be honest and true and it will all work out. It boils down to commitment and honesty — without these two, IT WON’T WORK, LOCAL OR LONG DISTANCE.
I WAS IN A RELATIONSHIP SINCE I WAS IN THE 1ST FORM AND I WAS MADLY INLOVE HE WAS MY HIGH SKOOL SWEETHEART AND BELIEVE ME I WAS SURE HE WAS THE 1. HE WAS THERE FOR ME IN ANYWAY U CLD IMAGINE. WEN I FINISH SKOOL SIX MONTHS AFTER I GOT A JOB IN ANOTHER COUNTRY. I WAS SO SURE THAT THE LONG DISTANCE THING WLD WORK. BUT AS YOU KNO I WAS THE 1ST 1 TO SLIDE AFTER SEEIN ALL THESE SEXY MEN WHO CLD OFFER ME SO MUCH MORE AND THEN I STARTED LITTLE PETTY ARGUMENT WITH MY BF AND WAS HOPING 4 HIM TO SAY THE WRONG THING (WHICH HE DID) JUST SO I CLD BREAK IT OFF WITH HIM I MEAN I WAS FEELING GUILTY BUT THATS TO SHOW HOW LONG DISTANCE CLD NEVA WUK REGARLESS
of course there are a few that work but the majority doesnt people! And out of the few that do work how many of the men in that relationship kept their pants up.. can u as a woman put your 100% certainty and trust in that! Oh please, and those in these so called long distance relationships make sure u both do STD tests everytime he or she comes back to prevent any passing along of those diseases, trust FACTS not Fiction people! Atleast then u will know u are safe!
No offense Mr Nice Guy but plz get your facts straight. The points you brought foward are not concrete and substantial. You need back up when making such statements.
Also I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 4-5yrs now and its working perfectly. I can tell you its difficult and frustrating. There are times all you want to do is end the relationship but then u think of how much you love each other and its enough motivation to keep it going. Persons involved in L.D relationhips need to know that its committment and communication that keeps it going. In light of this I can surely say that L.D relationships can work.
My Long distance relatinship worked both people just gotta be commited to it. II am actually Getting married from that long distance relationship…So ypur article is not totally true
boy boy boy it aint working for married people abroad, u think it will work for a single sexy woman or man.once your gone thats it. IT DONT WORK PERIOD.
agree 100%
I don’t think it can work…why because I was in one for over a year and it ended up falling apart. A person can end up forgetting about there relationship and finding other attractive because it is true people need physical intimacy. The phone talks can be good but after a while gets boring. It’s better to find a mate closer to home so these situation don’t ever have to go down…
@lol so true i wz in a long distance relationship n it did not work he cheated n i cheated haaa haa so they don’t work .
First time I agree with your article. All those that saying is trust is because they believing everything their man or woman tell them so in the end it “works”. What you don’t know can’t hurt you
Anonymous & Nice girl Glad U are anonymous, that protects your identity good for you. Three (3) three hours is a long time in the real world let alone three yrs without a little noni juice or nectar for stud. I am laughing at you honestly. Ladies love it more than we men think. You are just more protective of their image unlike guys who wear it as a medal.Not my fault, that’s how society has conditioned us over the centuries.
As for you Nice girl ! You are to nice not to have heard of the terms false positives and false negatives.Well i got news for you . In this case of your studies say. bla bla bla glad for you!Have you ever thought the studies in question you used as reference could be false negatives ? lol! Fool urself sweetie.
Mr.Nice you rock but at the same time you suck lol!
I was in a long distance relationship for 3yrs, the first year we hadnt seen each other at all then next 2 we saw each other 2 times a month…Now we’re happily married and successful so good luck.
Interesting Nice Guy!
Here are my thoughts:::: From a lady POV (point of View) Ladies are more trustworthy and will give up everything for what they believe in. Therefore if they are in a long distance relationship we tend to believe that because we are faithful our guys will and are doing the same. The truth is most of the time thats not the case. Studies show that guys are more prone to cheat than woman are!
Guess its in their DNA ladies, perharps we can’t blame them. Am gonna challenge us all to do alittle homework on female and male- find out how often does the mind sway to sex and intimacy, i bet you men would have the higher percentage – thats one their mind 24/7 365! thats why it HARD for them to keep in thier pants! no pun intended.
Ladies am not excusing you either! some of us, need a guy present to define us and once that one is not there we would settle for the sloopy secords! come on you know its a fact! In reality Long distance can work if both parties are truly in hands, foot, mind, soul excluding body! LOL. Technology will have to babysite in the interim.
BLESS UP
NICE GIRL!!!!
Of course a long distance relationship isn’t going to work if the persons involved are immature, have no morals, lack character, and have low self esteem. I say low self esteem because when any likkle somefing look at you and make sweet eyes for you it making you feel like big man or big woman and you wnat to jump in bed with it, You doing that with no regard for how your girlfriend or your boyfriend will feel and the diseases you can bring for them. So, if that’s who Mr. Bad Guy talking about, then I agree that LD relationship don’t work.
ok.so whats the differnt between short distance and long distance relations..
ur wife or husband can be living in same house with u and cheating with the guy next door.
i do believe any relationship can work..they both require patience, trust, love, faith, hope and GOD.
i am in a long distance relation for five yrs i study and my fiancee works..its our life now, but after my studies i intend to migrate to meet him.and it works just fine..i dnt put any negative thought in my mind nor does he…i dnt try to assume, yet am not being naive to the fact that we can both falter along the way..but when i think of what i hve with him, thngs we have been thru, cheating is not worth it..NO ONE SAYS IT WAS GONNA BE EASY, BUT IT IS WORTH IT..mr. nice guy stop being so bais in ur atricles , have a lil faith , u seem to be very against women in most of ur articles…while some relations dnt work there are some that really sacrifice to make it work…
nice guy, i loved this week!!!!!!
that is so true it haappen to me before lol.
yes fada u hit the nail right on the head.
Mr. Nice Guy, there are testimonies of Long Distance Relationships that worked!
It did not work for you and others, because of the Trust, Love and Will that was lacking in the Relationship, but they do work.
Yes there are a few exceptions, but we cann’t let them to deter us.
So what about the Short Distance Relationships? I mean home, around home. Do they work too?
Whether Long or Short Distance Relationship, its your ingredients you put into it to work!
stupessssssssssss totally disagree u know a lot of people who are cheating in long distance relationship but u dnt no who are not ,, there are faithful partners out dere who are willing & keepin the faith to make it work, it can work it do work
@NAMaMaco:
lol dude….so many of these women on here talking bout it can work, their man is different, he’s faithful..FAIL!!!!!
Silly women ur man is not being faithful, just be happy he chose not to dump y’all for the new piece of azz he’s getting overseas..
I guess it’s true what they say, what you don’t know can’t hurt you…
You’re pathetic and disgusting! You will never find true love, and if you trick a “piece of azz” to like you enough, to stay in a relationship with you lying, cheating, piece of sh##, her “azz” prob isn’t that great.
A good woman, will only fall in love with a good man.
My far-away man is faithful, because I’m the best piece of “azz” he has ever seen, (and he doesn’t want to lose a girl who wants to have sex, 5 times a day, for the rest of her life. )
I love him, and He loves me, he wants to marry me, I’m his true love.
@texas: nice guy have a point, but not everybody is the same or have the same thought…look, i was in a long term relationship for 1 yrs n some mnths and y guy and i had it locked down, it was like we never even departed. we were constantly at each other using all the technoligies we kno of, although we had mis believes n dis trust n fights…but right now we are re united and none of us have no doubt in our minds dat either of us cheated..cause u kno y?, we love and trusted each other…and besides dat, it depends on the type of relationship u have with this person……..plus this is just an excuse for cheating!!!
What more needs to be said he is on point. May be some men or women can tell us the amount of Horns they got from their long distance lover.Case in point my friend was shocked to learn his long distant christian girlfriend who promised him that by the grace of God only death can separate them. Little did he know whenever his girl friend was on the phone talking to him and calling God`s name in vain and at the same time she was siting on my friend`s wood geting jacket up. I guess God was my friends name. IF the walls could talk lots of people would drink some jesus juice to the end. So my friends keep dreaming while i keep your girl satisfied with some honey. Look in the mirror. Horns, Horns, on them.
For a change Mr. Nice Guy I gotta agree with you!!! While there are a few exceptions where it works out but in the majority of situations people are just fooling themselves!!
Sometimes the emotional feeling you get in the absense of the person you are dating long distance can be very filling, simply because it is not ful-filled, and the anxiety is really about how much you cherish the memories you’ve had, especially if when you all were together it was really real. But so what, we all seem to have a need to be told the things we need to hear from time to time, whether on the phone or through othter electronic means. If circumstances have brought it to that level. Love knows no distance, and while trust is best displayed through transparency, the conversations themselves have a way of revealing how far you are willing to go with the person you cannot see.
In the end we all know if it was trully mean’t to be. True love never dies.
Nicfe graffics!… Thats all i have to say.
ya fool urself you know how much coco he get when he was away lol! tickle me wow1 Dotish
Anti Hate !WoW!
What kind of fool are you man !you just put some ideas in some girl’s head if they had not thought about it yet.
Once many years ago a few of us were traveling to a christening and passed through fond cole . My friend who was driving girl friend saw an icecream truck and requested her boyfriend the driver to stop to purchase it for her. What she did not know where the icecream truck was parked infront of a shop my friend had a girlfriend in there too. My boy was quick with his response and kept on driving.
You are wondering what was his response tothe icecream response! lol
He told her in D/can parlance ” when we coming back” She said okay. It’s beem many many years . I met this girl in England she still does not have a clue. You can imagine me and another friend in the rear of the vehicle try to contain our laughter!
This is so sad tho. I just don’t understand why our world has to be filled with so many lies. It breaks my heart that guy didn’t love his girl enough to only be her man.
Nice guy has relationship issues. The only thing that makes any relationship work or not work is trust; with trust comes love and respect, without it…we already no.
So irrespective of whether you are in the same bed or thousands of miles apart the long and short of it is, do you trust each other.
Nice guy, that’s your excuse for cheating? STUPES.
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i think he is right, no matter how much we say we going to stay true (on both sides) it just doesn’t stick. u want to believe that, and maybe deep down u do. but then life throws u a curve ball and BAM! just like that. it’s a little harsh but that’s areality check!
@Teddies:
u never thoughth that sometimes the woman just pretending to be digging the guy, when she really couldn give a rats A** about him? His ego will keep him believing she really digs him and when she ditches his A** the next day he will call her all kinds of name. when infact they were both playing the same game?
well nice guy u’re right about the cheating part lol. But that doesn’t mean the relationship isn’t going to work…
If it’s a permanent migration then yeah i agree call it quits..But if for example you’re studying and will be back home on holidays all you got to do as a guy is not let your wifey know bout ur jump-off in the other country…
It’s not that hard..That’s what I do lol and now i got the best of both worlds …
You’re a terrible person.
I disagree with Mr.Nice guy ..I am a true testimony of a long distance relationship..i must say that it was not easy but today i am happily married to my husband and we hve a healthy handsome 3 yr old son.
it takes alot of patience, communication and trust and prayers..I always use to pray to god that if this relationship was meant to b let it be..
AS I always say if a man really wants u there is nothing or no distance that will keep this man from being with u…
So to the people who r in a long distance relationship dnt let this article discourage u..
To b honest for the relationship to work , at some point one has to move to meet the the other..
90% of what is written here is true. The 10% is the exception to the “assumed” general rule. There are those of us women who fight tooth and nail to make the long distance relationship work by doing all there is to do. We remain faithful, we come home often, we don’t do certain things just so we can maintain our faithfulness, and then the males give u the kick u deserve for being a darn fool!!! They move on to women who cannot compare to you on any level and you are left wondering “was it even worth it?” It is left to reason therefore that long distance relationships work because both parties may WANT them to work, whereas those which fail do so because one party or both DID NOT want them to work!
yes it can, It;s not all easy but at the end love conquers all……….. talking from experience
Mr. Nice Guy, u sound like a broken record. That woman that did u over there did a number on u buddy. It cannot b a woman who gave birth to u man, maybe u fell from a coconut tree. Anyway man get yourself together, collect all the broken pieces that is left of u and move on. There is always hope when there is life. I do look forward to reading next week article. Pnuts that say that.
i really tink dat long distance relationships wrk.. not for all but they do.. its about learning to trust each other and be there for each other.. its not easy i kno for a fact but things are not bad evrytime.. just put god first and trust dat he will help each step of the way…
blessings..
Choo mama zont, tout moon!—haha
I like so disagree wit that article…..love the topic though……………… and yes long distance relationships do work……………………I can attest to that cause I’ve been in one for more than 4 years…………………….. a long distance relationship on like any oda relationship is based on trust but with the long distance relationship its also based on understanding………… DON’T make it look like the only reason why pple cheat is because their man or woman not their and they horny…………….. so wats the excuse wen their man or woman living in the same country and they cheating……………..??????…………………….. a man will have his woman sleepin in the same bed wit him and he will still cheat……..Visi Versa….. if a man and a woman love each other and one of them have to go overseas for a while …………………..they will be together if they really love each other…………. The distance between them has nothing to do wit cheatin and whether or not their relationship will work
Well Well Well……………………….. i can say for a fact long distance relationship do work…………………… it all depends on if u all trust each other…………………….. cause men and women have thier love one sleepin on the same bed wit them every night and yet still they cheat on their man or woman………………….. so do not make it look as if is because of long distance relationship pple cheat……………… thats just bull sh**…………….. if a woman respects herself and her man she will not go cheat on him……………… if that man f***s around well then thats another story…………. and its visi vera
I suspect Mr. Nice guy started going to school. He getting real smart lately……..lol…………Well said Mr. Nice guy.
I disagree with this article. Long distance relationships can work. I was in one and now my husband and I are married. I will not say it was easy and I cannot say for a fact that he was 100% faithful but I trusted him, but I know I was (100% – not even a kiss or anything with another man). I even got disaccustomed to sweffness after a while. So, there is an exception to every rule and just because it happened to you Mr. Nice Guy, doh pass your stress on the rest of us.
wa boy i just love it…..one and one i think short or long they do cheat men when they make up their mind is that they want it that no one can change it
as for women men fooling them to much but why that does happen i pull up watching a man making break behind woman and the woman all into falling for the man girls all he want is a lil p and move out the same night omg where are the brains
Nice guy holds women in low esteem….and he sounds like he has been bitten a few times too many.
my padna just venting his hurt man. he just trying to warn the dreamers that he preceded but i think he lacks some balance. there are genuine people out there. just not plentiful and not properly matched to their kind. sad thing but he is right for most of the long distance relationships.
My N***a !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
This righht herrre iss theee Truth!
stupesssssssssssssss!!! nonsenseeeeeeeeeeee
everything said in this article is true I was in a long distance and the guy and I never broke up distance drew us apart but the day I set my eyes on him old fire sticks will light… I never believe that long distance relationships work….
I love the when donkeys grow wings part, lol.
great article can’t wait for next Friday.
ABSOLUTELY LOVE THIS ARTICLE.. you could not have said it better for once nice guy. I dont know why people wana fool themselves into believin oh my man not goin n screw another woman.. no no he waiting on me and i waiting on him…. wat the ****! Women and some men need a HARD SLAP back into reality