DEAR BELLA: I’m thinking of leaving my partner for my son’s best friend


Tell me if I’m wrong? My boyfriend for six years has seemingly gotten tired with me and it seems like I matter no more.
We don’t go out. We don’t even watch television together. It’s like we live like brother and sister in the house.
And then there’s a young man, who is much younger than I am. In fact he is my son best friend. And he comes to my house and he has been making subtle moves on me.
To be honest I like the feeling that I am getting. I like the youthfulness, I like the feeling of being looked upon.
He was in the kitchen last week Sunday and he kissed me. I enjoyed  every bit of it. And I suspect I want it to go further. I am 56 and he is 24. It’s like I can’t control myself around the person’s child.
What should I do? We are both adults. And he makes me feel good. Wanted. Desirable. I just have a good feeling about it.
I am worried though, about what my son might think or how it may look.  But all concerns aside, I would leave my current partner for him.
Young love
Dear young love,
I don’t believe you love this boy. I believe the lack of attention from your current partner is the real issue.
I also believe that you would jump at the first opportunity from perhaps anyone who can fill that void.
I am not against love whether there’s a huge age difference in age or not. What I am worried about is whether you’re just looking for some kind of comfort and would grab it anyway it comes.
Leave your son’s best friend alone. Talk to your partner instead. Let him know what his lack of attention is doing to you. Try to work things out.
Sometimes when people live with each other for so long they become accustomed and the fire can fade. It is your business to keep the fire burning in your love life.
Dont mess up your life and that of a young man. He should really be dating women his age rather than being entangled in a situation that could turn ugly.
Think of it this way; you are old enough to be his mother.

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  1. Truth
    August 15, 2018

    Thou worry with Bella. …. his brain out!!!!

  2. Jessie
    August 14, 2018

    ay ay, I doe understand allu, I am in the same situation as her and we have to look for our self now, we think of others happiness what about ours .. for now keep it under wraps just the two of you see where it is going and then do what you have to do. some of allu to damn hypocrite, in allu mind allu saying yes and on media allu want to condemn the woman like she do something wrong, if a man do it then its alright but once a woman think of doing it allu vex and have so much to say. lady if he making you feel young and alive do what makes you feel alive

  3. mention
    August 14, 2018

    @Zandoli i agree with your suggestion but you must remember sexy is a very dangerous and powerful vibes. At the end of all that even if she still has her man it will still affect her relationship even if she knew what she was getting into. Sometimes we get into things thinking we can get out easily and that doesn’t be the case. Let sleeping dogs lie.

  4. Danziger
    August 13, 2018

    Lady behave yr self leave the young man alone.

  5. Danziger
    August 13, 2018

    Lady behave yr self leave the young man ALONE OK.

  6. Danziger
    August 13, 2018

    @ waypapa, you are so right she will end up in trouble with this young guy.

  7. mine
    August 13, 2018

    Lady are going to have problems with your messing with his best friend that might even end their friendship. You can be his mom, would like his mother do it to you son , do unto others as you would like them do unto you. Talk to your companion find out what is the problem. Lady leave the young man alone if you had set him straight he would not get as to kiss you.

  8. AA
    August 13, 2018

    How Stella got her groove back just came to mind.

  9. Aye idk your son do hit me up….my number is 1(767)-pas d cyat

  10. DA Fails
    August 13, 2018

    According to them laborites give the young man a chance :lol:

  11. Ya Boy
    August 13, 2018

    SooKoo!! ebeh look it :lol:

  12. free
    August 13, 2018

    Lady leave that alone. I find the young man is totally disrespectful to come on to you and he is your sons friend. You must have been flirting too. This is going to bring big problems for you leave it alone and check your pardner. It’s not worth it

  13. free
    August 13, 2018

    Lady behave YOURSELF. That is going to cause a lot a lot of problems.i fine this young man is out of place to make moves on his friend mother. Disrespectful. Leave that alone.

    • DA Fails
      August 13, 2018

      The young man is a MAN, and is at the peak of his sexuality, treat him as such. :roll:

  14. waypapa
    August 13, 2018

    Part 2…..As I was saying if you were married both of you would spend time trying to find the problem and making it work. As it is now you waste six good years, younger stronger years for nothing. Don’t jump into any little boy that pass most likely he just want to service an older woman and fulfill a fantasy. I am not saying age difference matters but in this case where he comes to a home of his friends with a mom in a relationship nothing good can be in his mind. Stop it before he puts you on facebook and whatsapp.

    • anne shillingford
      August 13, 2018

      @ waypapa, I second what you said cuz I suspect she will end up in trouble with the young guy. Madame, take my advise RESPECT YR SELF and you will leave A HAPPY LIFE.

  15. waypapa
    August 13, 2018

    Bella message always mixed up. You want to tell the person child what age he should date? This lady here should first analyse what the issue is just like Skerrit and supporters should have done with Ross instead of blaming Mia and turning around to say don’t blame Mia. Anyway I degressed, back to the issue. If its not working out with your partner see what the problem is, if it can be fixed kindly leave the man alone and fix yourself, heal yourself, build your confidence, learn to enjoy your own company before you go seeking attention elsewhere. IF you don’t you may end up in serial relationships, changing partners every time it gets boring. Another thing stop leaving in house with man that you not married to this is a waste of a woman’s time only the man benefits. He gets wifey benefits and still has the option to just get up and leave to marry his choice. Don’t worry with “new age” women, there is no benefit in living in house with man. Part 2 coming…

  16. zandoli
    August 13, 2018

    Here is an idea. Keep your man as your companion and get your groove on with that young man until he is tired of you and he moves on. Trust me, when he has done you a few times his desire for you will also fade.

    This is just infatuation playing out.

    • DA Fails
      August 13, 2018

      Exactly, she talking about child… :lol: 24 is a Grown man

    • mention
      August 14, 2018

      @ Zandoli, while i agree with you, sexy is a very dangerous and powerful vibes. At the end of all that knowing what she dealing with she still could get damaged emotionally and god knows if she could cure mentally.

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