I just wanted an opinion on this. I think you might laugh and saying I am bit stupid if not paranoid but my mother is getting to close to my boyfriend.

My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. When I first introduced him to my family, my mother showed very little interest. But that began changing and within the past four to five months, its like she is all over him. whenever he comes at home she treats him really nice, sits next to him, serve him drinks and stuff like a king and so on.

Now I never thought anything. As a matter of fact at first I liked the idea and was hoping she was ‘warming up’ to our relationship. But it is getting worse, she even calls him numerous times when we are out.

I haven’t spoken to any of them about this because I think they might beleive I am being stupid an immature. But it is really bothering me.

What do you think?

Paranoid?

Dear Paranoid?

I don’t think you are being paranoid. You are just trying to figure out something that appears rather strange to you.

I think you should mention this to your boyfriend and let him know how you feel about the whole matter. I think by now you two should have developed a relationship where it is comfortable to share feelings and thoughts and the like.

But on the other hand you don’t want to alienate you mother. However she need to realize there are boundaries that is to be respected. And you need to talk to her also.

Bella

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