Did you know that God hates divorce?According to Irina Bahcivanji in http://blog.legalbistro.com/author
“The dissolution of a marriage is a legal act that may not always coincide with a couple’s emotional tearing asunder. Divorce is typically a painful process for all concerned. While it can take adults time to regain psychological equilibrium, whether or not children ever recover a stable perspective continues to be debated. Post-divorce hostility between adults, in addition to directly harming kids, is a sure indicator that the emotional split is incomplete.”
Before you took steps to divorce your spouse did you ponder on the vows you made…that holy covenant?
Many couples in preparation for their wedding day invite hundreds of guests and spend huge sums of money in preparation for it. They want the right dress, to look dapper in their expensive suit and shoes, to have numerous bridesmaids and groomsmen, the limousine ride, the lavish wedding reception and the exotic honeymoon. But while this is just in preparation for the ceremony, after those vows have been said then the marriage begins. The wearing of rings is suppose to be a constant reminder that you have made that commitment to each other and that other persons should stay clear.
Some people get married for Love, Greencard (migration), Companionship, Family pressure, financial security, Security for children, Getting older or Sex.
The Bible is very strict on divorce. Malachi 2:16 states “For the Lord God of Israel says that He hates divorce.” Further in Matthew 19:9 God gave only one reason for you to divorce your spouse and marry another i.e. sexual immorality.
Divorce ends a marriage, therefore whether one looks at marriages and divorces from a biblical or legal perspective …whatever the reason for getting married, the same or similarly worded vows were said.
Canon John Rohim of St Michael’s & All Angels Anglican Church in Diego Martin Trinidad and Tobago said the modern lifestyle was contributing to the destruction of the traditional family. “Everybody is busy. We rush to work, rush to eat, rush to bed and there is no communication and no quality time. We are living in a time where progress brings hurt and destroys the family as well…There is a devaluation of the relationship between husband and wife taking place. The thing about love is that it’s an ongoing process of loving and caring and I feel we have devalued intimacy…” (Written by Zahra Gordon December 6th 2012 Trinidad Guardian Newspaper).
According to the website “Online news point” the top 10 countries with the highest divorce rate in the world are (from highest to lowest) USA, UK, Aruba, South Africa, Russia, South Korea, India and Canada. See http://www.onlinenewspoint.com/top-10-countries-with-highest-divorce-rate-all-our-world/ In Dominica in the year 2009 there were 250 marriages recorded and 85 divorces, which worked out to one divorce for every three marriages. By June 2010, there were 73 marriages and 33 divorces: one divorce for every two marriages.
Bishop Gabriel Malzaire of the diocese of Roseau, Dominica in an article published in the Chronicle newspaper on 25th June 2010 entitled “Disturbing divorce rate” stated inter-alia that while in the past there were fewer marriages, the people who tied the knot then, stayed together because they feared God. At that time people felt that what the bible said was true in relation to marriage that what God has put together let no man put asunder. He said people get married for the wrong reasons or with ulterior motives. “You don’t just get married because the person is nice, the person’s family has a good name or because the person has money. People believe that these things will give them happiness but it is not so. Genuine love is necessary for a valid marriage because the transient nature of human inclination causes you to lose taste easily because it was not based on something solid.” He said another reason why there are so many divorces is because of the lack of preparation for marriage by couples. That many people enter marriage with the attitude that if it works it works, and if it doesn’t, I’m gone.” Others get married to fulfill their sexual needs.
“Once a nation is lacking a sense of God, everything else, even the good thing, is converted to bad and marriage is the prime area where this happens because it is motivated by the flesh and nothing more.”
So, if your marriage has broken down seek counseling first from your elders, your priests and your friends before you decide to get a divorce. At least you can say with some level of certainty that you gave your marriage a try but there is no hope of reconciliation. Remember, God hates divorce but if your divorce is grounded in immorality of the other spouse then according to God’s law, you have nothing to fear.
Getting a divorce can be a very emotional and distressing time for some spouses and sadly there is a tendency to feel a great deal of hostility, resentment and bitterness towards each other. This is most evident when the time comes to divide up the assets acquired during the marriage such as the house(s), the car(s), the business and the bank account(s.) Much bitterness also ensues when it is time to deal with the issues of maintenance, custody, visitation and access to the children if any.
It is hoped that married couples would strive to make their marriage work. However they have to work together as one hand cannot clap. Pay heed to what the Canon of Trinidad and Tobago and the Bishop of Dominica had to say about the reasons for divorce and make the changes if necessary. See if that helps.
The writer is simply stating what the bible states. She is not passing judgment. She may well be divorced. Who knows?
Hmm, are all these people quoting the Holy Book plagiarists?
Are they capable of original thought?
Rev. D.Hill..
I say a big amen to that..
As the Messiah said,( those who have ears let them hear) HE who said it not I. And HE placed a pair on each of us head.And today,for those who can’t use theirs in the advanced countries there’s what we call sign language.And where there’s no such opportunity, I’ll leave it up to HIM, HE’ll decide on that one..it’s not for me..
Our portion is to sow the seed and pray about it,as you rightfully said.And I’m sure you must be well aware of the different places that the seed falls upon,again there’s nothing that we can do about that for HIS word has gone out and it is yeah and amen..
End of story..
Thank God, the U.S.A. has its first amendment of the Constitution!!
You people are too judgemental when the very same bible say judge not! One size does not fit all.
All dreamers.
people can be led into miscalculations by their culture.
Yearwood pointed lots of mechanisms but interpreted them wrong because of her culture an upbringing.
Ms Miss Yearwood stated:Some people get married for Love, Greencard (migration), Companionship, Family pressure, financial security, Security for children, Getting older or Sex.
Miss /Mrs Yearwood this is illogical to If a young lady wants/has her plans to travel and live in the USA ej meets a coonumoonuo who comes home on vacation looking for a good time and intersects with that young woman a deal is reach both getting what they want. She goes up say to NJ where he lives. They got married before he left quick thing
She has a Degree he does not .All these were not calculated before . She arrives in jersey 7months after his carnival or say creole fest trip. These things happen. He get a year of wood /sex from lets say Donna. Now she says to self 1 yr of this wood business is over time to make some moneytired of being a housewife & wife. Time to move on as that was the original plan.
Divorce is inevitable for Mr & Mrs oneyearsevenmonthswood affair ends a marriage, therefore whether one looks at marriages and divorces from a biblical or legal perspective …whatever the reason for getting married, the same or similarly worded vows were said.
Mrs Yearwood w woman is educated coonoomouo ain’t going no place soon, written or whatever vow is history Donna 1yr 7 months wood is out of there.
Legal or biblical same shit different plan.
Oh ! this was the immigration one as she forgot to add the generalization word opportunism more so from a Caribbean/Dominican stand point.
“God hates” a very strange way to describes God’s attitude towards his children ,when a writer quotes what ever he or she wants to suite themselves at the time they want …Where in the bible that God states “do not protect yourself and children”? Do you think that God is happy to see the husbands or wives illtreat each other ,by breaking arms,legs,bursting eyes, lips,cutlass and knives infuries etc? You are a happy person in marrige stay where you are ,stop quoting God in each and every thing that is taking place ;where each house hold is going through a different problem..How many women could have asked for a divorce and be alive now before being killed by their husbands?Many. Same for husbands ,but women are weaker than men so more women are killed by their husbands …Do you think God loves spouses who keeps a marriage going for Gods scripture sake while they are very unhappy..No ,I do not think so and if this is the case I personally think that God is an unjust God to see his children leave unhappily in pain…
I have never been divorced ,but i have been illtreated once,but I have my character ;an eye for an eye,I took a knife and I push it into my husband ribs,that was my solution…He never did it again,he finally said that he was afraid of me.Till his death..The only advise that I can give to women specially do not accept illtreatment from any partner , leave as soon as possible..if a man illtreats his wife he does not love her ,love is not shown by illtreatment ,,move on !get a hero and dump that zero..,
I really don’t see the need of going back and forth,back and forth with folks that have problem with the word of GOD..
When it’s only the HOLY spirit that can bring about that change in any person’s life..
I ones was like that,disputing the word of GOD and when the time came it all turned around so fast that I could not believe it.
You pass the word on and that’s it,there’s nothing more to be done.The HOLY spirit is very much alive and is at work..So leave HIS portion for HIM,HE is taking care of things…
Chris, you have made a good point
Some of us post comments on DNO because we like to write.
But when we have shared the Word of God with somebody and they have rejected it I wonder if they are worth the time it takes to discuss the matter any further.
When people reject the Word of God they are opening themselves to the devil and his deceptions. This is why there are many people who now belong to Anti-Christian cults who were once in the gospel but turned away from it.
The Bible tells us exactly what happened to them. “…they received not the love of the truth that they might be saved. And for this cause God shall send them strong delusion, that they should believe a lie: That they all might be damned who believed not the truth, but had pleasure in unrighteousness.” (2 Thessalonians 2:10-12) This will have its ultimate fulfillment after the rapture. Multitudes who did not believe the truth that they might be saved at the rapture will receive a strong delusion and believe THE lie that the anti-Christ is the true Messiah.
You are right when you say it is the work of the Holy Spirit to apply the Biblical truths to he hearts of men and women after they have heard the Word. Our responsibility is to tell people what God says by sharing the Word of truth.
But there is one more thing. We should pray without ceasing for those we witness to. Pray that he Holy Spirit bless our feeble efforts by using the “sword of the Spirit which is the Word of God” to convict their hearts.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Well for sure god is not a lawyer because when lawyers hear divorce te chi Ching bell goes off.
So now that we knw God hate divorce why did the priest marry the young man to the young lady tat was already married in America.
My only question is why are there so few marriages in Dominica. This is not new. During slavery, black people were stripped of moral values and were bred like cattle. Men were rewarded for producing more little slaves for “massa” with as many women as possible.
Legally slavery has ended a long time ago, but our people still carry this curse. Illegitimacy is the norm, and often children don’t even know who their fathers are.
When will Dominican wake up and claim some self respect?
Free yourselves from mental slavery.
Poor excuse Lori. That argument is so old I getting tired of it. Always blaming someone else for our bad behavior. Who says we can not change that man? I looking forward, not backward.
We cannot always prevent what happens to us in life nor can we always avoid how people hurt us. However, we do have a choice how we react or respond. This is what makes us what we become as an individual or a people. Our choice determines if we become victims or victors.
Many years ago when I was ministering for ten weeks in Jamaica a black preacher in Spanish Town called Elder Walters (later Bishop Walters) told me when he heard his people moaning and groaning about how they were being stepped on or kicked he would tell them to get up.
Slavery was one of the biggest blots on the page of human history. It was evil beyond words. But slavery cannot be blamed for the choices people make today. The fornication, illegitimacy, sexual child abuse, and divorce in Dominica in this 21st century cannot be blamed on the vileness and stupidity of white Americans and Brits over 100 years ago.
Stop being influenced by the ungodly behavior of people who lived and died before you were born. Stop letting them rule you from beyond he grave. Nothing that was done in the time of slavery and no wrong done to your people can make you less than a person of infinite value. According to the Bible you were worth Christ dying on the cross. This is what it cost God to be able to call you His own.
If you receive Jesus Christ as your personal Savior you have a destiny to rule with Christ for a thousand years upon the earth, and then throughout this expanding universe and beyond for the ages to come.
Let parents in their homes begin teaching their children that sex outside marriage is a sin.
Let pastors and priests begin preaching in their churches the moral code of God from the New Testament.
Let teachers in the schools begin teaching Biblical morality and traditional family values.
Things can be changed and turned around by people who decide to do it
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
“God Hates Divorce” (Malachi 2:15) by Dawn A. Yearwood.
Christian leaders and all who take the Holy Scriptures seriously will appreciate this article by Dawn A. Yearwood. It contains teaching that obviously our nations need: Dominica having a 50% divorce rate and my own nation (Canada) being a close runner up, and getting worse every year.
Christ Himself referring to the Old Testament scriptures gave us the model for marriage in Matthew 19:4-9. Obviously, marriage is to be one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others united for as long as they both shall live. No human government has the authority to redefine marriage. St. Paul wrote the blue print for a happy and lifelong marriage in Ephesians 5:21-33. It includes such things as submission, love, and pursuing what is best for the other.
The words from Canon Rohim and Bishop Malzaire remind us that couples experience marital breakdowns when they fail to communicate while talking about everything else except their relationship, and rush into marriage without receiving counseling, and marry for the wrong reasons. Wise people will heed what these leaders (Protestant and Catholic) have to say about marriage.
Many pastors and priests will not marry a couple unless they first see them for pre-marital counseling. Some churches are providing pre-marriage courses and marriage enrichment seminars. In light of the increase in the divorce rate these things make good sense. These activities show that the clergy wants what is best for the people of the parish, and the church cares for the wellbeing of the community.
Let it remind the public that the churches still have something to offer the world! Many of our pastors, priests, and bishops are trained counselors. Besides being a trained counselor with the Canadian government recognized designation C.P.C. (Certified Pastoral Counselor), the fact that my wife and I have recently celebrated 50 years of married bliss gives me some confidence when it comes to writing or speaking on the subject, and helps me counsel others!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill, D.D., International Evangelist.
Mr. Divorce i agree with you 100 percent. the problem i have is that why does a court have to come in an d share a mans property half half, as a man, if i am at fault i may just walk away because i want my freedom or want to be with somone else but there are these wifes that would sleep with all sorts of men and then fight you for everything, and some of the lawyers help them..
Anybody going through a divorce should talk with a lawyer who has experience in this area of law. I expect the laws differ from country to country. But a lawyer will explain how the assets must be split up or divided. There are lawyers who specialize in divorce issues. Usually they are called “family lawyers” although some see a bit of irony in this.
Whether I personally agree or disagree with divorce is not he issue here. If all else has failed and you are getting a divorce I do want each party to be treated fairly when it comes to dividing the property. I want what is right and best when it comes to the custody of children. For these things you will need a reputable lawyer, one who is honest, and compassionate. You may need to appear in court.
Seeing a marriage counselor or a pastor who does marriage counseling can sometimes help a couple avoid a divorce. A marriage does not breakdown overnight. A marriage counselor or a pastor who does marriage counseling has an interest in saving the marriage. A lawyer usually will want to move in the direction of a divorce. He or she is paid to divorce people. You should be willing to take the time with a competent counselor to work at healing your relationship. First give love a chance!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Timothy 3: 2, 12.
Religion has attributed strange things to God from their holy Books. The word of God always comes in handy, using it to justify almost everything as in this case divorce. The objection to a divorce on religious grounds especially within the Catholic Church is based on manipulation and control of it’s followers, look what happened to The people of Ireland who fought to break away form such control and manipulation forbidding divorce.
A divorce can be a painful experience for some people and it can also mean a peaceful transition for others. People get divorce for many reasons just as they get married for many reasons.What gives a religious Institution the moral authority to judge people and decide their fate and future to obtain a divorce. When the writer of the above comment quotes various Church leaders regarding their opinions of marriage and divorce I find it very silly since these religious leaders are forbidden from entering a life of marriage but they are quick to give advice on something they will never experience first hand, I’m not saying that their advice should be ignored neither should their stature make them an authority on such matter. Let us not forget the old saying it is the person in the kitchen who feels the heat.
Why should a Christian presume that God HATES to begin with.
Dawn,a very simple remedy then., Don’t get married in the first place!! On a more serious, and pertinent note. I certainly would not want a lawyer handling my divorce case if he/she is going to bring religious parameters into play.
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What a silly, self-righteous article!!!! I am a divorced man and I can attest that this is the best thing that ever happened to my daughter and myself. We are very happy together. In fact, everyone concerned is happier. My ex-wife is so happy she looks even better than when we were married. When my daughter visits her they create their happy times together, when she is with me, we make ours…so divorce is all relative. circumstances will most likely be different for each couple. A quick example to consider is: Why would an abused spouse remain in a marriage? Is it just to say to the world, ‘I am married’? Consider the human aspect of it; therefore, don’t judge.
Mr. Divorce:
I am glad your divorce did not turn out badly for anybody concerned. This is not always the case.
No decent person wishes emotional pain or suffering on another human being. I am happy things have worked out as well as they have for you.
Please allow me to add this comment. God has put a hedge around marriage. By this I mean simply that HE has given us laws to safe guard and protect the institution of marriage HE created in the beginning according to St. Matthew 9:3-9.
These laws are for the benefit and well being of couples and families. They are also for the well being of society for as goes the family so goes the nation.
I don’t know the circumstances of your divorce. If I did know it would not be my business. I am not in a position to judge you.
When we stand before God we will each answer for how we responded to the Word of God. We will not be judged by how we felt. If we were happy or sad will not be the question. All that is going to matter will be did we conform to the clear statements and commandments of God.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Sorry, but you are missing something here.
Christians are not PRESUMING anything!
It is God Almighty who said HE hates divorce. (Malachi 2:2:15)
Obviously, when God says something and we quote Him we are not presuming.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
You would not use the services of a lawyer who would bring religious parameters in to play?
A couple of things you are refusing to accept.
(a) God is the supreme law giver of the universe. You are able to reject His – heaven’s – laws now and get away with it.
Someday you will stand before Him and be judged by Him for breaking His laws.
(b) They may not mean anything to you now but God’s laws and legal parameters are binding upon you even if they mean nothing to the government and politicians of your nation.
(c)) Many of the laws of the western nations were based on the Bible. If you despise your government and break its laws you should know that you are also violating the laws of God Almighty. This is because God has delegated to human governments the responsibility to hand down to us laws to govern our society. (Romans 13:1-5) The only time we have a “right” to break a law made by a human government is if that law is contrary to the law of God such as a law that said we are not allowed to pray, read he Bible, or share our faith, etc. or a law that ordered us to worship a false God, or commit sin. (Acts 5:27-29)
(d) If you are a religious person or as we sometimes say in Canada “a person of faith” your lawyer if he or she is a Christian might “bring religious parameters into play” by telling you what the Bible says about the issue. Of course if you are not a “person of faith” this would mean nothing to you and you would have a right to tell your lawyer that. However, in the day of judgement you will stand before God and answer to him for how you responded to HIS laws.
(e) A lawyer does have a right to refer a client to the Bible or any other religious writing. Of course they would have to make it clear that even if that book was the Bible the statement being referred to may not be the law of the land. So normally you would talk to a lawyer about the law of your country and how it pertained to your legal problem and talk to your pastor, priest, or rabbi about a religious matter.
Me, I must conclude with this. Divorce is both a legal matter, and a religious issue. A lawyer must be the one to help you through the legal issues. Your religious leader is the one to help you with he religious aspects of a divorce. Hopefully, you would have one who would guide you to the proper scriptures and show you what God says.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.
Everyone knows that, the question is, what should people do when they cant get along should they stay together till one of them killed each other? the Lord also says if you ask for forgiveness he will forgive you. I already know where this story is going, this is laughable, bring these things will not stray the fact off plagiarism. So now your usual suspects will say the head honcho wife was married before allegedly, it wont change the fact of plagiarism.
God hates divorce. He also hates liars, thieves, lustful people, coveteous people, you know, the ten commandments. Let us not single out one thing God does not like and inflate it. God does not like murderers. If you are living with someone, married to them and the relationship has changed into hate, your best bet is divorce rather than murder!
The bible also says the wages of sin is death. If a person sins should they be killed? These people take some things in this great history book so literally sometimes to suite themselves, and choose to overlook other things. ha
That’s Exactly what it says. All were born sinners therefore all must die in flesh but those whom are born again and are truly washed by the blood that Jesus shed on the cross of Calvary will leave forever.
God bless you Affa
That’s Exactly what it says. All were born sinners therefore all must die in flesh but those whom are born again and are truly washed by the blood that Jesus shed on the cross of Calvary will leave forever.
God bless you Affa
This is not necessarily true.
There are rules we must follow when it comes to interpreting the scriptures.
When the Bible says “The wages of sin is death…” it refers to spiritual death which is separation from God. It means because the human race sinned it became separated from God. When Adam sinned he was cut off from communion with God and no longer had fellowship with the creator. At that time he entire human race was in Adam. When Adam fell all future generations of mankind fell in Him. After that each and every person was born with a fallen sinful nation so all of us sinned. I invite you to examine Romans 5:12.
“The wages of sin is death…” never did mean we should go around killing people who sin. The rest of the verse is “…but the gift of God is eternal life through (or in) Jesus Christ our Lord.” This means because the Lord Jesus Christ accepted our guilt and became our substitute by dying for our sins (1 Corinthians 15:3,4) we can receive the gift of eternal life by receiving Him as our personal Savior! (1 John 5:11,12 and St. John 1:11,12 and Revelation 3:20)
It takes years of study to prepare for the ministry. Much time is given to learning the science of Biblical interpretation. Then we must learn how verses or passages of scripture apply to the problems of life. Usually a verse or passage of scripture must be taken literally unless the context shows it is symbolic or figurative. The idea that we “cherry pick” verses we like to support what we want to believe is absolute nonsense.
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist
What a silly, self-righteous article!!!! I am a divorced man and I can attest that this is the best thing that ever happened to my daughter and myself. We are very happy together. In fact, everyone concerned is happier. My ex-wife is so happy she looks even better than when we were married. When my daughter visits her they create their happy times together, when she is with me, we make ours…so divorce is all relative. circumstances will most likely be different for each couple. A quick example to consider is: Why would an abused spouse remain in a marriage? Is it just to say to the world, ‘I am married’? Consider the human aspect of it; therefore, don’t judge.