I know this is going to sound cliche, but I have no where else to turn.

I fell in love with this guy who apparently already has a girlfriend. We’ve been seeing each other for over a year now and I am started to get a little frustrated, he says that he is going to leave her to be with me but I see no actions leading to that.

Sometimes I think about leaving but when I think about all what we have been through I tell myself that it will all be OK in the end.

I am in desperate need of your help because I want to know what decision is the right one.

Should I leave and move on with my life and find someone for me? Or wait and see what happens and hope that it will all work out in the end?

Yours truly
Confused Lover


Dear Confused Lover,

It is apparent you are in the wrong relationship. If you have been seeing this guy for over a year and he is not making any moves to leave his girlfriend, then there is no way he is going to leave her. He is just using you. Some men have the tendency to tell women sweet things just to jump in her panties.

Now it was wrong on your part to get involved with that guy. You knew he had a girlfriend and yet you still went on and had a relationship with him. Admit that you were wrong and move on. Leave that guy with his girlfriend. I am sure you will get someone out there that will accept you and love you.

Good luck.


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