“She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.”
– Proverbs 31:17
If you are a wife and you are hurting because of all that you have gone through or still going through, know today that God still loves you.
He cares and He has not forgotten you.
Sometimes you may try your best to put on a show in front of people and smile in the midst of the congregation or at work, but when you get alone you hurt so much that you cry and cry out to God.
You feel like giving up; you’re weary of the battles. You’re battered, bruised and wounded by words and actions that have been launched at you.
You feel so lonely, because you feel there’s no one there for you. You need to talk; you need godly counsel. You have friends, but are afraid to really share the cause of your hurt and pain. You don’t know who to trust with your personal business because of being burned in the past or maybe when you’ve shared, you felt people didn’t really understand. You know what the Word of God says, but the temptation to take the situation into your own hands and do and say what you feel is so strong.
There are some who feel like just leaving, taking the next plane out but then they look at their children and know that they cannot desert them. Yet they are not in a position at this point to go on their own. I’m talking to hurting Christian wives, who might be sitting next to you in church or in the next cubicle to you at work or is the pastor’s wife.
You have tried to be Christlike; you have loved conditionally, hoping to receive love in return. You have forgiven; you have held your tongue; you have tried to ignore what you see and what you hear; but it still hurts. I am talking to hurting Christian wives who are being abused verbally and physically by your Christian and non-Christian husbands. I am talking to wives who live in constant fear of contracting stds or have contracted std and aids because of their husbands’ adulterous and/or homosexual affairs. I am talking to hurting wives who are getting physically sick because of the emotional and mental stress. I am talking to Christian wives who smile and laugh on the outside but weep bitter tears whenever they are alone. And now the cry goes out loudly from in your hearts “Lord, please help me, strengthen me; I cannot go on like this.” For many wives, this is reality. They would have already committed suicide – But God… They would have already taken off – But God … They would have already lost their minds – But God …
I am talking to Christian wives who are married but live as if they are divorced. Their husband put on a show in public for the church people and the family and friends but once they get home the show ends and it is back to living like strangers under the same roof. I am talking to Christian wives who do not know the last day that they were intimate with their husbands because he is always too busy with the church or at work (he says) with continuous late hours and when he does come home he is busy on the phone or on the internet and does not want to be bothered. When you try to ask a question about his whereabouts of anything else all hell broke lose in the house.
For some of you, there are no boundaries in your home. People are coming and calling all day and all night. Your house is not in order. The ministry has taken precedence over the family. You have no privacy, and people do not respect you. The sister, brother or just a friend female seem to be more important and is treated with more respect than you.
Yes you have prayed, fasted and confessed the Word and are waiting for God to bring many breakthroughs in your life, to your family, and the situations around you. You believe the promises of God, yet sometimes it seems like God is so far away. Sometimes the pain is so great that it seems too much to bear. Oh how you long for relief and for rest. Oh how you want the pain to stop and for you to just wake up and it all be a dream.
Woman of God, Jesus loves you today and He wants to bring healing to your broken heart. Even as you read this and the tears are running down your face, He knows what you’re going through and He’s with you every step of the way. He hears your cries, He feels your pain and He wants to touch you today. Cast the burden and cares on the Lord and allow Him to give you the strength to press forward. Do not lose yourself in the maze of the hurt and pain. Do not despair and you cannot afford to give up your faith, hope or trust in God.
In the midst of the rejection and the feelings of not being loved, needed or appreciated – in the midst of the abuse and misuse — God is with you. If you’re being abused, allow the Lord to tell you what you need to do because nothing in the Word of God condones abuse of any kind.
You’re special to God; you’re precious to God. He wants to comfort you. Reach out to the Lord — He wants to give you rest. God wants to give you His peace; He wants to give you His joy. He wants you to rest in Him and be able to truly rest at nights instead of looking at the ceiling or watching the clock change from one hour to another. You’re a daughter of promise and a daughter of destiny. Don’t allow your pain to steal your dreams, goals, and joy. Don’t allow what you are going through to rob you of your faith in God. Ask God for His peace and His strength. God is more than able to see you through.
God has called you and chosen you for such a time as this. Don’t allow the enemy to divert you from God’s divine will and purpose for your life. Don’t allow the devil to rob you of your self-esteem to the point you feel like are nothing. Don’t allow the devil to destroy your self-esteem and drive you to living in constant fear, blaming yourself. If you need godly counsel, seek God as to who He wants you to speak to, and be obedient to God’s instructions.
Pray, praise and press into Jesus like you never have before. Draw your strength from Him. Reach out to Jesus today, for He has come to heal you and truly make you whole. Always remember, Jesus loves you and Jesus cares. I speak the life of God and the strength of God into you this day. I bind the spirit that has come to kill, steal and destroy from coming against your mind, body and spirit in the name of Jesus Christ. I command every evil hand against you and against your marriage and family to be stopped now, in the name of Jesus Christ. Every evil word and every curse spoken and prayed against you and your marriage and family, I bind those words now in the name of Jesus Christ and command them to be null and void. I speak the peace of God into your life in the name of Jesus Christ. I bind the spirit of depression, discouragement and every suicidal thought in the name of Jesus Christ. I bind the spirit of death spoken and proclaimed over you in the name of Jesus Christ. I declare this day that you shall not die but live and declare the work of the Lord. I speak healing to you emotionally, mentally, physically and spiritually in the name of Jesus Christ. I pray that God will send you help and comfort and deliver you this day in the name of Jesus Christ. Arise, woman of God and walk in strength of the Lord. In the midst of this fire, trust God to make a way for you. We are praying for you today.
Be encouraged by the Word of the Lord!
“For no temptation (no trial regarded as enticing to sin), [no matter how it comes or where it leads] has overtaken you and laid hold on you that is not common to man [that is, no temptation or trial has come to you that is beyond human resistance and that is not adjusted and adapted and belonging to human experience, and such as man can bear]. But God is faithful [to His Word and to His compassionate nature], and He [can be trusted] not to let you be tempted and tried and assayed beyond your ability and strength of resistance and power to endure, but with the temptation He will [always] also provide the way out (the means of escape to a landing place), that you may be capable and strong and powerful to bear up under it patiently”
(1 Corinthians 10:13, AMP).
“The Lord will give [unyielding and impenetrable] strength to His people; the Lord will bless His people with peace” (Psalm 29:11, AMP).
“For we don’t have a High Priest Who is unable to understand and sympathize and have a shared feeling with our weaknesses and infirmities and liability to the assaults of temptation, but One Who has been tempted in every respect as we are, yet without sinning” (Hebrews 4:15, AMP).