Dear Bella,
I am in a situation that is giving me a major headache.
A young lady I had relations with two years ago met me recently with a baby girl, about two years old, telling me the child is mine.
She said she kept it a secret because she didn’t want to break up my marriage.
She said the child is mine and she would never ever give me a “jacket”.
Bella, this took me by surprise. I do not know what to say or do. The child does not really look like me. She looks like her mom. But I do not understand why she would keep that a secret.
I knew it was odd when she just left without notice. She just ended the relationship and left Dominica.
Now, she is telling me all that was a lie. She is now telling me that she left to have the baby and stayed with relatives abroad.
I do not want my wife to know about this as it could mash up my marriage but I cannot live knowing that I might have a child out there that I am not supporting.
I am a family man and knowing that this baby could be mine is killing me inside. But it all makes sense to me now. I always knew that there was something more why she would leave me especially when we had a good thing going on.
Help please!
Daddy2B
Hi Daddy2B,
First things first; You need to first establish that the child is indeed yours.
If it is your child, one of the things you cannot do is shirk your responsibilities to the child.
Irrespective of what it might cost you in with regards to your wife, you need to take responsibility for your child. If this is your baby your wife would have to know eventually.
A child should never suffer because parents are irresponsible.
Best,
Bella
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but wait awhile nuh. go on related articles and y’all will see that was posted already. just that the title is the one i talking about is “baby surprise” but same story.
Well apparently they they tried to recycle the story, I guess for attention
you want to talk about you’re a family man and you were cheating on your wife? wicked soul! i hope the child is yours and the wife leaves you… all you men are real dirty
scroll up and go to related article. bella post that already
You now need help? You need to get a DNA test to verify paternity. If the child is yours, you have no choice but to tell your wife and hope for the best
You ought to have known having unprotected sex could have led to getting the woman pregnant.
That Ex-girlfriend is trying to give you a baby jacket, lots of men in Dominica is fathering the wornd child be smart the choice is yours only.
cuckolds gonna cuckold lol
First thing, do a DNA or rather let her do it but go with her, you can refund her it its yours. Were you married two years ago when you all had sex? If you were not married just tell your wife how it is and that you did not know until now. If you were married it will be more difficult. But if you don’t do something it will haunt you anyway. If you were married seek counseling for you and your wife and any children you two may have. whatever happens just be HONEST! No use to start any lies now or you will end up deeper and deeper. If you don’t act the girl has grounds to blackmail you or really mashup your whole life. Take it a step at a time and be honest, I feel you will be ok in the end. I pray that you are, be positive and its nice that you want to take care of your child if she is. Who knows she may well clean you mess if you get old and sick.
He wasn’t thinking of his wife while he was having unprotected sex with someone else
but now that there’s a child he’s concerned about his “wife”
What a joke of a man
Calls himself a “family man” while his actions is breaking apart his “family”
Go do a DNA and pull up your socks if it’s yours