DEAR BELLA: I don’t want to stay in the same house with my brother’s mistress


My Brother is coming home for carnival with a woman who isn’t his wife and my mom is allowing them to stay in our Christian home.
He lives in Houston and his wife is in medical school and he is coming home next week with another woman.
He told mommy the woman is his mistress and he is bringing her for one week here.
My mom wasn’t happy but it’s like she cannot tell my brother no. He is doing well in the US and gives her all she needs.
But Bella what about principle? What about honesty? I mean can money just cloud a person’s judgement and allow them to throw away everything they taught us as Christians?
I’m surprised mom would allow that.  I won’t stay under the same roof with them, Bella.
I’m a teenager but I wasn’t raised like that so I’m going to my best friend’s house in Wallhouse when he comes.
Am I being irrational?
Hurt sibling
Hello Hurt Sibling,
Most adults don’t practice what is right even when they expect others to.
And yes money, the love of it especially can make people totally disregard what is right.
There’s nothing you can do to prevent your mother from doing whatever she wants in her own home.
The onus is on you, however, not to support anything that is wrong.
It seems obvious that you cannot talk your mother out of her decision.
I’m pretty sure that she probably just longs to see her son.
Whichever way, it doesn’t paint a good picture.
And to answer your question, I don’t think you are being irrational.
If your mother consents to you spending time away from that surrounding, then that’s fine but if she doesn’t approve, you might have to remain at home.

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  1. christwarrior
    February 22, 2019

    my advice: stay home and invite some of your mother’s christian friends over. host a prayer night and make sure to always say a special prayer for your sister in-law in their presence. matter of fact, face time your sister to join in and make sure you introduce everyone. I’d even hang lots of wedding pictures around the room in which they are staying. If you were bold like me, i’d straight up ask the chic how long she’s been a prostitute and let her know you’d be praying that God reveals himself to her and teaches them both a life long lesson.

    Main point: don’t leave your comfort so the adulterers can be comfortable.
    Final tip: The night before jouvert make some special cacao tea and drop a few laxatives in to ease their tensions. :) When sin becomes bold, Christian warriors must fight back!

    February 21, 2019

    You should introduce his mistress to some single Dominican men.

    February 21, 2019

    Young, lady I totally agree with you. Your mom is only allowing her son, your brother to behave that way because she feel if she say no to him, he would be very upset. In mom’s eyes her son does no wrong. Don’t worry, she’s the one who has to live with that. Your brother will be punished too, one way or the other. SIDE chicks are only that, he has to spend his money on her, get her hair, nails, eyelashes done. His wife will find out, take pictures if you have a smart phone. Don’t share, keep it as proof. As your mom how would she feel if “his wife” came to Dominica to visit with another man?

  4. Peace
    February 21, 2019

    The piglet asked its mother, why its mouth so long. The pig said, don’t worry, one day you will find out.
    Some things we don’t understand until life experience teaches us.
    Pull up by your friend in Wallhouse if that helps BUT REMEMBER no monkey business while you there.

  5. As if
    February 21, 2019

    I find it rude and disgusting that some of you will just tell her to mind her business, let him free up ……. If he wanted free up he should not have gotten married. Maybe his sister has a good relationship with his wife. Not because someone is helping you, you have to agree with everything they are doing.

  6. Concern dominican
    February 21, 2019

    Unfortunately this practise of deception and corruption is the noum at home.
    Young lady it’s all the way at the top. This is why we need young ppl like you to stand up where there’s injustice.
    Others will take note by your action. Thanks for standing for what is right . May you champion the cause for justice in our beautiful country.

    You can only control your destiny, leave your mum and brother to deal with their business.

  7. Dixie Normas
    February 21, 2019

    You a punk plain and simple

  8. Didymus
    February 20, 2019

    So tell me, no hotels in Dominica?if he doing so well why doesn’t he go to a hotel?

  9. Didymus
    February 20, 2019

    ofcourse money makes people forget whats right to do.that’s what that have labour in power, dominicans will do anything for money,I am sure your mother is a laborite.

  10. Bella
    February 20, 2019

    Don’t worry your brother have the behaviour just like someone from savanne paiile I know one day she sleeping bacatelle one day Picard next day by her cousin next week by her child father sometimes by with the boys in the village ……

    • lula
      February 20, 2019

      ????? 8-O 8-O ???? wa happen?

  11. Deleoncourt
    February 20, 2019

    Mind your own business, your morality is your own. I don’t understand how staying under the same roof with {sinners} makes you a sinner or encourages sin. Stick to your lane, love your god mind your business, when he sends barrels, don’t take in it to because it might have sin in it ,also if he files for you refuse it, because there. Is sin in it too.

    • lil right
      February 22, 2019

      Are you serious? Thats your advice about accepting blatant sin? So what was his reason for getting married and taking vows in front of his family. That wife now became a daughter and sister, so there’s no regard for her or the institution? Your logic is why there are so many broken families and immoral activities all around. Everyone turns a blind eye and then wonders why so much sickness abounds. Shame on you! My advice to you is to know that we are all flawed and rely on each other to help stay on the right path. He should be Grateful to God that his sister has some moral sense and looking out for his best interest!

  12. Bwa-Banday
    February 20, 2019

    Dear Hurt Sibling

    Please mind your own darn business and stay out of adult things that you don’t understand. Please be a little more discretionate the next time you you intend putting your family business out there. Right now I am certain there are people in Houston reading this and going hmmmmmmmm or maybe his wife in medical school can’t even study tonight because of you long tongue. In my part of the world we refer to people like you as “LANG KARKAR”.

    Now I understand your mother is en-viege (Very very greedy and money humgry) but throwing her under the bus in public is not nice.

  13. lion conqueror
    February 20, 2019

    Child let the man free up. When he go back he’ll hook you up. I bet you doesnt say No – i dont want the iphone when he sending tings down. Now the man coming and free up and is pure tie. Stuppessssss

  14. Silver fox
    February 20, 2019

    What’s wrong with you? Your brother is intitle to have ladies friends as much as 🚹 friends, most of my best friends are ladies you only have to worry when your brother starts taking home male friends or maybe mother knows something that you don’t know!!!!!

    • I am mine own
      February 21, 2019

      So adultery is okay, as long as it’s heterosexual?

    • nastysickmen
      February 22, 2019

      wth? you all are sick freaks! I hope when this young lady reads your message and that of others she learns to be very very very picky about the partner she chooses and don’t think his family will neccesarily be honest with her. Clearly, Dominica (and the world over) is filled with two-faced, hypocritical, immoral, and just plain dangerous men, even when they play religious. Lesson learned here: Watch your back!

  15. Not paranoid just hyperawareness
    February 20, 2019

    Hurt Sibling, If 10000would have your values even if i don’t agree totally with your line of logic
    DA would be a better place.
    UWP ites please don’t take solace your 1995-2000 was doing the same there were lawyers (silly once extremely poor ones}who flaunted it with US 100 notes in their shirt pockets.
    Dif is the 2004-present new DLP ites took it to the next level. and it is soon to continue even if pappy wins hahahahaahahahha.You maybe saying this writer is nuts Pappy! yep maybe I am But when it occurs just remember I warned you. It goes on &on & on.

  16. Dat too is
    February 20, 2019

    Hurt Sibling & Bella. This is part of the society today.

    Mom’s accepting$ from John her son normal.
    Son wants to take side piece home normal.

    Hurt Sibling prefers wife coming home instead

    Lawyers who ought to uphold law selling passports like hot ahfouahwe bread on the road side in ahfouarethem land.

    Lawyers again supporting messy voters list rejecting use of ID cards and not cleaning up the voters list

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