DEAR BELLA: I kissed another girl and I liked it

Dear BellaDear Bella,

I have always made the right decisions in my life. I went to school, college, university and then got married. I have a daughter and a great husband.

Recently I went to an event with my best female friend and we had a few drinks. When I dropped her home, she kissed me on my lips and it lasted a few minutes.

Things got so intense that we went into her room we got passionately intimate. Then I went home to my husband. Since then we never spoke about it but I feel terrible especially after being intimate with my husband.

It’s playing a lot on my mind because I loved how she made me feel. The thing is Bella, my husband isn’t into foreplay and many don’t even understand that women enjoy the foreplay more than they do penetration.

Oral in my house is ancient. He never wants to give it and so I accepted it as something I have to live without.

But after this night with my best friend, I am beginning to think that perhaps the lack of it drove me to my behavior.

Bella, do you think I should tell my husband? Because I am worried it might happen again.

Good Girl Gone Bad

Dear Good Girl Gone Bad,

“You are worried it might happen again” …therefore it appears that you have lesbian tendencies and your concern about your husband might be related to your own security. Notice that you did not express remorse. You need to examine yourself to see who you really are before you load up your husband with this. Once you establish who you are, you will be better able to determine the kind of lifestyle you wish to live.

You alluded to doing something wrong by your concern that you might do it again.

Could it be that your conscience was awakened because of what’s written in Romans 1:26? “God abandoned them to their shameful desires. Even the women turned against the natural way to have sex and instead indulged in sex with each other”.

We should all be able to judge ourselves and thus have a reason for doing whatever we do.


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    May 25, 2017


  2. Mahaut
    May 5, 2017

    Ungodly you dominica getting nasty u nasty

    • mary waner
      May 10, 2017

      hypocrite!i bet u worse

    May 4, 2017

    Some people were taught that sex was sinful so whenever they go there they are ashamed.
    Real Foreplay
    1 hr no touching the business no penetration.
    woman tell where you need to be touched everytime is a different spot
    You control when you need the price. That when your body begins to vibrate.
    Time yourself you will reach to the sky and back together.
    from a lady on the street and a professional behind closed doors, Clean stuff

  4. DA/
    May 4, 2017

    The help you are looking for is far from who you are not.. You are not a lesbian , nor a single woman. You have acknowledge something great about your husband and it’s your task to help keep him that way . You can also assist him in those areas concerning your personal wishes or emotions, but it is far better and healthier to work on such simple things, than to go down a path that will change , disrupt and possible destroy your family. A friend true friend wishes best not only for you, but your household…Of you are not strong enough to stand, just stay away from that environment and let that “friend” know that’s not who you are..Alas,you say you have a great guy, please don’t seek to break his heart. Just ask God to forgive you and reject that seduction and temptation.

  5. freshwaterlake
    May 4, 2017

    I have no issues with girls liking or loving one another. yes it is a double standard. but so it is. What i have a problem with is when women want to dress walk talk and act like men to the point where they walk around wearing strap-ons. these are the same WOMEN who want to get in for free and enjoy the benefits of being a lady at events that have ladies free nights. NOPE! if you want to dress and look and talk and act like a man you will pay that entry my partner. But thats ok if you liked kissing a woman. Lets hope she was pretty.

  6. Dominican West Indian
    May 4, 2017

    That’s why I never in favour of that “girls night out” business.

    May 4, 2017

    I think bello is sending you all on a wild goose chase. Down Below is where all the germs are. CATCH diseases from each other and pass it on to others. One cannot control their temper, their urges and feelings what does that make you. From the start, oh no,,my husband won’t approve, If my wife ever found out I am being unfaithful she will kill me. work those out and see what kind of life you are living.

  8. bigger
    May 4, 2017

    The question you must ask yourself how would you feel if your husband was intimate with another man? would you honestly want him to make love to you?

  9. town man
    May 4, 2017

    Bella, you must have been born by a highway, because that’s where most accidents happen. SMH

  10. May 4, 2017

    Your husband is a DORK. Tell me a woman who doesn’t like having her lower regions being orally pampered. If hubby will not do it it will happen elsewhere. You had a lady administer it to you and it really did not matter whether it was a woman or a man and it was done damn good from what I can see. I get woken up at times by my better-half for such administrations and I gladly give her a tour of the universe and that satisfied lazy smile when they have been satiated drifting off to sleep is total satisfaction to me. I cuddle her up in my arms and also drift off to sleep. I don’t have to have penetration to feel satisfied. The gift of giving pleasure is enough for me and I do get it in return too, not as often, but I make sure my partner is always fulfilled.
    So if your best friend is gratifying your cravings, ENJOY. Treat hubby like a mushroom, keep him in the dark. BTW you are not really bisexual, just sexually short changed for many years and now getting your rewards.

  11. Preacher Married for many years
    May 4, 2017

    You’ve been married for many years with kids, and this happened once where you were not even the instigator. You are not a lesbian you just have sexual desires, although misguided. What you need is couples sexual therapy. Every man does not know how to please a woman nor does every woman a man. Some things are to be taught and learnt. Both partners in a marriage need to learn how to please each other or else the risk of what just happened increase. It could be with either male or female. At the end you just needed pleasure and that’s what you got but in the wrong place. It does not matter if it was another woman or man. Teaching your husband, going to therapy with him is much better that you breaking up your marriage or family for.

    • Preacher Married for many years
      May 4, 2017

      Also take into account your spiritual life before God, if indeed you are a spiritual person. The cause of all our problems is sin, brought about by our own lusts.

  12. Peace
    May 3, 2017

    We’re all just one drink away, babe. You’re not a lesbian, just craving some good, good loving. Good luck

  13. Della
    May 3, 2017

    Bella self even need advice. Kekeke

    • HAHA
      May 9, 2017

      Thats damn true :lol: :lol: :lol:

  14. mine
    May 3, 2017

    IF she was’nt interested in her best friend after the kiss she should go home not to the friend’s room. She and her friend they both have feeling for each other. If my best friend should try this crap on me, I would give her the time of day.

    May 3, 2017

    Let us act as human being for a change, be honest and truthful. Down there is no pretty site, the men who chose to go down, weaken at 40.Married lady you’ve got a husband who could go forever, what more do you want, a quick and short excitement, or staying power with durability.

    May 3, 2017

    Stop telling your best friend your business. You told her what your husband was not doing in your bedroom so, she played on your emotions and disrespected your marriage. Does your best friend have a boyfriend or girlfriend or both? What can your best friend do that your husband cannot do or at least learn to do?
    You tired women want so much from a man, yet you run to another woman for the things you say a man cannot give. Wait and you will see what else your best friend will give you. The same thing you are running away from she will strap it on and give it to you.

  17. Ras
    May 3, 2017

    BELLA you way off on that one. The woman not Lesbian, she just erotically starved.

  18. dady b
    May 3, 2017

    remember god do not like it.with all the people u wasnt to please time will tell on u look outside the window and look up u have to stop

  19. Your female friend may be a lesbian. She was the one who initiated the action by kissing you on the lips. It seems she is not married. She took you to her room.

    On the other hand it does not appear you are a lesbian. You are married. You crave a fuller sexual relationship with your husband. You feel yourself drawn into a sexual relationship with your female friend because she provided a pleasure your husband is not providing.

    Good Girl turned Bad, First, you should know that same gender sexual relationships are forbidden by God in both the Old and New Testaments. This activity is called an *abomination* in the Bible which also says those who do these things * … shall not inherit the kingdom of God.* (1 Corinthians 6:9,10) Second, you may wish to tell your friend you are not going to pursue this activity with her in the future. This would make it easier to close the door on your past failure and leave it behind you.

    • zandoli
      May 3, 2017

      Rev, not everyone believes in the bible or god. Unless you only want to talk to believers, keep the bible out of the conversation.

      • I am speaking to both believers and unbelievers. If you do not want to hear me do not read my comments.

        I am a minister of the gospel. We give believers and unbelievers the Word of God. It is what we do. I have written four books. My articles have been published in over 40 newspapers and magazines in Canada and the USA.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill

    • Hmmm
      May 4, 2017

      Why do Christian believers always seek to judge other ppl, always ready to quote scripture for ppl. You live your life according to your beliefs, stop annoying another ppl with them. You don’t see muslins or anyone of any other faith doing that crap. And you Bella need to stop that crap, you don’t know of what faith your writers are but you always ready to hit them with some scripture.

      • Dominican
        May 5, 2017

        You must not have travelled if you believe Christian faith is the only people forcing their point. Al least they don’t kill in the name of Allah. Good think we anonymous or you would be laughed at for your ignorance

  20. DA Born
    May 3, 2017

    Woman. You need not to entertain this and to stain your wonderful marriage you spoke of and the daughtet you are no doubt proud about
    . You should recognize it’s an attack on your family and should be defended sternly..your friend needs your support to help her through and you have a good opportunity to do just that with all the love and respect as friends..Do you recognize how far this can go?

  21. Jessie
    May 3, 2017

    Girl i understand with you and the foreplay we women want that ….. I dont judge you…yes tell him. lets hear what he has to say, men is so macho as long as it is not another man it is alright with them…tell himI would like to know his reaction. :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  22. Queen
    May 3, 2017

    I wish I knew the person who wrote to Bella…sweetie there is nothing wrong with wht u did. I think you need that in your relationship. check me… I’m no lesbian but we all need to get freaky sometimes. wish my bestfriend will come down on me like that.

    • bad advice Girl
      May 4, 2017

      That’s just bad advice and selfishness. your type of mind set is what brought about such behavior in the first place. Sick minded individuals need help even if they do not know it.

    • Bestfriend
      May 4, 2017

      Bestfriend here, Queen, meet me behind the coconut tree in Ochobando at 8 pm. Wear a blind fold please, I’m no lesbian either, but I can play one by de river.

  23. Sousay Sel
    May 3, 2017

    Bella come one – lesbian tendencies? wouldn’t it be bisexual tendencies? It’s called curiousity. Nothing is wrong with that. I do not believe that the individual is a lesbian. She was truned on and succumbed…she’s just curious.

    explore you curiosity – you only have one life to live.

    • Continuation:

      Third, there is no need to tell your husband. It would hurt him deeply. I am sure this is not what you want.

      Christ bore the punishment for all your sins when He died on the cross (Romans 5:6-8). You only need to BELIEVE this (John 3:16) and RECEIVE Him as your Savior (John 1:12).

      The Bible says

      *… … … the blood of Jesus Christ (God*s Son) cleanses us from ALL sin.* (1 John 1:7)

      *Come now, let us reason together says the LORD: though your sins be as scarlet, they shall be white as snow; though they be red like crimson, they shall be as wool.* (Isaiah 1:18)

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

    • If she has bisexual tendencies she would have to have lesbian tendencies because that is that makes it bi.

      Being curious leads people into all kinds of perversions. The same is true of drugs and crimes. Curious is not a license to break the laws of your country or of the Kingdom of God.

      You say *Nothing is wrong with that.* What :?: You are morally bankrupt and have lost your compass.
      Obviously you have no sense of right or wrong.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  24. Citizen Kane
    May 3, 2017

    lol … Bella and that righteous indignation
    Tell the lady as is … Get her straight one way or the other and move on … or have the best of both worlds … It takes two to tango but I am sure three can do it too!! :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

  25. Me and Me alone
    May 3, 2017

    I think Bella you you not a good person to seek advice from. what make you think that she has lesbian tendencies ?By just having a one night stand with her best friend ? Please . I have read many of your response and they are pure crap.

    • Hmmm
      May 3, 2017

      Like you I’ve read many of these stories on here,
      they are entertaining, I think Bella makes them up, she has a very vivid imagination. But her advise is always crap. She can tell a good story but she can’t give advise at all.

  26. May 3, 2017

    Hmmm no turning back for as long as you get what u get from another woman.. hmmm she spoil you
    When ur husband u only think of her.. that other woman
    I alway say I would never let another woman get close to my lady..
    That’s why you want more…

  27. Kumbaya
    May 3, 2017

    Bella was a little vague here, so I will add my two cents. Firstly, why does her husband not want to go down under and does he want her to go down on him? Secondly I don’t think she is a lesbian just because of that one act. I believe her best friend was able to give her what she’s been craving. (Case in point, Ive been intimate with a woman, and I aint no lezbo). Thirdly I think she should really express how she feels with her husband regarding oral sex, if she has already, do it the “white” way i.e counselling.

    XOXO Peace&Love

    • LawieBawie
      May 4, 2017

      Would you please define the meaning of lesbian to me? Its either that you are confused or you are confusing me!!!

  28. papa
    May 3, 2017

    Girl do your thing nothing wrong in that once u no she is clean and I can trust her men now adays full of it

    • July 24, 2017

      It is wrong to encourage anybody to do something that

      (a) The Holy Scriptures forbid. (Romans 1:26,27. The fact that the word of God condemns same gender sexual activity makers it a sin, and the word of God clearly says *…they that do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.* ( 1 Corinthians 6:9,10)

      (b) Could spread a disease and be a health hazard. Sadly, wives and husbands have both brought diseases even AIDS home to heir marriage partners.

      (c) Could explode into a relationship difficult to break free from.

      (d) Could become known to the husband or wife and lead to the break up of the marriage.

      (e) Could leak out and become known at the place of employment and in the community creating gossip hurting the reputation.

      (f) This type of behavior is an unpleasant burden to the one who must carry it and this in itself shows it is not meant to be. How do I know it is a burden :?: Because they find it necessary to unload by telling somebody.

      Sincerely, Rev…

  29. Shameless
    May 3, 2017

    :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: ! Grown folks make grown decisions. Just maybe you need to include foreplay in your relationship instead of waiting on your husband to do it. Lesbianism involves “penetration” with artificial feel good devices. Why would you leave the real deal you have at home for counterfeit :mrgreen: :mrgreen: ? But, if it makes you happy them keep playing yourself. 8)

    Assertive like Moses’s rod!

  30. May 3, 2017

    Lady , one night while you and your husband getting it down ask him what do you feel about a threesomes? By his reaction you will know if you should tell him or not. And sometimes is best to live sleeping dogs lie.

    • Mike
      May 3, 2017

      Lol..I like that ??? What he don’t know won’t hurt him ….

  31. Dominican
    May 3, 2017

    I believe the lack of intimacy that you crave but do not get from your husband drove you to this. You may not be a lesbian but you need more from your husband. You two should seek counseling about this. Because you are married I cannot suggest you just walk away. Your husband need to reconsider. This is the reason we should be careful whom we marry and what we accept. Because you accepted it its difficult right now for him to want to change but give counseling a try. Hope you get this resolved.

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