DEAR BELLA: I think my much younger girl friend is two-timing me

Hello Bella,

I am a 58-year-old man. I consider myself young enough. I have been dating a young woman for around 3 years and something isn’t too right. She is 24 years old but she is very mature.

Bella, I have been helping her with everything. Home, car, bills and even her young daughter because I believe a man should take care of his woman. She comes to my home but I haven’t been at her home. She says she likes my house better.

We wouldn’t go out during the day because she always has an excuse. When she sleeps over, more less on Saturday nights, she wants to leave in the wee hours of the morning.

I sometimes say she feels ashamed of me but I am good looking enough. She refuses to take photos with me and for some strange reason we call and whatssap all day but when she goes home at nights her phone is off.

Another strange thing happened this weekend. She was at my house and couldn’t find her phone. I rang it and my name was saved as three dots(…).

I don’t know Bella. Maybe I need to trust her and not think of anything bad because after all I did for that woman, if she is two timing me there will be a war.

I didn’t fix her up to look good and live sweet for another man.

Mr Suspicious


Hello Mr Suspicious,

You have every right to be concerned but at 58 years old, you should be wise enough to know when a woman is stringing you along.

The signs are very apparent. Three years in a relationship and you haven’t visited your girlfriends’ home? She wakes up early to leave your house? Her phone is off at nights?

Now every woman in love would want to talk to her partner, especially before bed. Why would her phone be off?

Your name is also not even in her phone. Mr Suspicious, something is indeed amiss with that relationship and you need to just come out straight and ask the relevant questions.

You may think you are in a serious relationship but perhaps in her mind she sees you as a provider and nothing else, just saying.

So, instead of speculating, ask her some serious questions. Based on her answers, you can know whether she is serious about you but from what you have claimed so far, this woman is far from being serious.

I am also concerned about the use of your word war. Whatever the results are, your future should not be placed on the line for being violent to anyone.

If she lied to you, two-timed you, used you and hurt you while you were being loyal then that’s on her. Perhaps leaving her alone is the best bet. Be wise


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  1. Sweet Lies
    October 13, 2020

    I had to come and read this to make sure is not my man writing this, the numbers slightly off. I am 105 percent sure, you are an atm. Sucre Papa

  2. sugarmamadom
    November 23, 2018

    my broda awa wi ! leave mamzel

  3. Brotherhood
    November 21, 2018


  4. Be wise to keep wisdom alive
    November 21, 2018

    Diffinitely pure she using you, you have to open your eyes, to save your name as …on her phone is  high disrespect, that amazes me most people use initial or the opposite sex name when there cheating her case is would be a woman’s  name eg Sandra but … 3 yrs frankly your with a player and your setting up your heart for hurt and pain. In this situation your more like friends with benifits try a pretence proposal you will see excuse place on the table this is not wife material this is cashing in material your are like the vending machine but you doing both jobs. Your  putting in the cash she takes everything setting you up for downfall by the time you realize I see murder and, Suicide. Don’t allow delliah to destroy you that a spirit of destruction this woman is leaving with a man and lying for both of you. Please she is a shame of you, playing you, stop this relationship ask God to send you a good woman don’t touch her don’t do her anything love yourself her blood don’t run…

  5. November 20, 2018

    “Blinder than he who will not see is the fellow who has his eye on a woman.” — George O. Smith

  6. Ja Da
    November 20, 2018

    Man, she carling in your head plain and simple, follow her when she leaves and see where she going

  7. Shabin
    November 20, 2018

    Let me back up bella, i have a friend that put a story on dear bella and it was very real… what happen all you think dominica haven’t got people that actually need help for simple little things. Look at de other day it had a story about a soon to be father in law suspect his daughter in law had feelings for him, walking in panty…all you remember that one and see what that happen in ….. with de child father pluging her and making video. Things happening in d.a and that is why i love bella cause her advice is free, you dont have to go by Dr. Benjamin for help.

  8. bwk
    November 20, 2018

    ok bella you overdoing it now. its pure entertainment with you stories. i do enjoy readying it, but you making it way obvious that the stories are fabricated . so you mean to tell me the man not seeing he is the sugar daddy or the side ….. as they say… anyways keep making up the stories we love it. :lol: :lol: :lol:

  9. Karl Orndem
    November 19, 2018

    I suspect them bella stories does be made up. Maybe not made entirely up but they are not genuinely submitted. in the 58 years you alive on this earth, you mean that you expected that little girl, who just start to know what life is about, to be faithful to you buddy? know your role, you are the benefactor/ATM, taxi, shoulder to cry on, travel sponsor, bill payer, everything that the good time boyfriend is not. The thing with all you dirty old men is that you think those children stupid. But they know exactly what all you good for – paying money and eating the feline. Go and find a nice lady in your age group to settle down with instead of looking for a good time that out of your range.

  10. The third eye
    November 19, 2018

    All you need to do stop giving out the money, if she loves she will stay and if not she gone. Good riddance.

  11. Uncle Cocks
    November 19, 2018

    3dot sugardaddy( as
    Jamie done use the name lol!) So I added 3dot or …sugar daddy. Man we in DA say toutes l’homme maco.
    You know the deal. You getting something to keep you happy and feel useful so just take what you getting and shut up. In JA they would say you paying down pon it. hahahahahahahahhToutes l’homme maco

  12. Dominican
    November 19, 2018

    y’all just there with pity, first of all sir i find u to not east u 58 years and u want 24 year old woman what you expect with your old self. and yes she is embarrassed to be with you obviously! why don’t you get someone in your age group you to up! its obvious is money and help she want not for people to know is an old man she checking. it is what it is ok… and you talking about war go seat your old self down. someone put her on earth for you? you’re talking about war SMH!

  13. WATCH IT!
    November 19, 2018

    Mr Suspicious, you are just an ATM.Dot dot dot(…) ou tu sot

  14. Kermit
    November 19, 2018

    My brother you even have to ask us that. She 24 you ready to touch 70. You know what never mind.

  15. As if
    November 19, 2018

    I’m going to be very blunt.
    The girl doesn’t want you at her home, she has you like Dracular, doesn’t want to be seen in public with you in daylight, only at your home on Saturday nights…..Stupes
    You have 58 years on the earth, you should have a tad more common sense.
    I didn’t want to sound harsh but come on, these huge age gap differences hardly work out in the long run. She is 24 with a young child, she wanted a sponsor and you figured you get a young ‘ting’ to give you ‘some’.
    “if she is two timing me there will be a war.’&”I didn’t fix her up to look good and live sweet for another man.” What is this supposed to mean? You helped her cuz you thought you were in a relationship; sometimes it’s just best to wash your hands and walk away. Next time if you want younger woman look closer to your age range, at least early 40’s man. Inquire about the person, do your own research.

  16. jamie
    November 19, 2018

    Partner your a sugar daddy and am sure she lives in the counrty,she tell the guy she going to spend weekend with her aunty but is you she coming and meet,walk away from her now,when the boyfriend find out,will be pure trouble,your money alone she wants.

  17. Overseas
    November 19, 2018

    Wow. Very interesting.. U seems to have ur head on as you continue doing all needed as a man. In that way u could notice what’s going on . Not knowing where she lives ?hmm. Just saying. Maybe she has a so call roommate.. or as they say it (her cousin).. one thing I will tell u sir is DO NOT LOOSE UR HEAD OVER THIS WOMAN. U CAN GET IN TROUBLE WITH THE LAW.. JUST PLAY IT COOL. Remember everything in the dark will show up some day and u said she has a young daughter.. hmm someone might do the daughter the same thing and more.. Remember most of the things u do is material things they have a life span so sir dnt mashup urself over her she is just ANOTHER ONE.. I WON’T SAY THE WORD..

  18. Questionable Stuff
    November 19, 2018

    This whole “Dear Bella” thing… I’m starting to think this entire thing is just a bunch of made up stories. A lot of these stories just seem hard to believe in Dominica.

    • browneyedgirl
      November 19, 2018

      OH MY goodness I was just saying this to my coworker.

  19. Daily Bugle
    November 19, 2018

    Mr Suspicious, it looks like you are just another guy with nice guy syndrome. It is not your responsibility to take care of all your girlfriend’s needs (car, home, bills etc). Doing those things does not obligate her to give you sex in return or cater to your needs. If openness is a trait you value highly in the relationship, you need to express your views to her and set your boundaries. From experience, the longer you take before you speak, the more likely you are to part-take in passive aggressive behaviours. These behaviours can be giving the silent treatment or overreacting to very trivial matters. Take Charge! Steer your ship! I wish you all the best, and remember we live in a world of abundance. Plenty o’ fish in the sea.

    • Uncle Cocks
      November 19, 2018

      Plastic sex, sweet females are being sold so you can buy one and ……………………………urself away. no two timing bc you can just leave it on ur bed or put it in a closet when you 1/2 dead with fatigue.
      use the money you spend on her. hahahaahha.
      Nuff orgasms no real woman no cry.

  20. Maybe
    November 19, 2018

    Well as far as I’m corncern she have a younger man you just her sugar daddy stop being a fool and get a woman your age group not someone you could be there father

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