DEAR BELLA: Is my womb cursed because of abortions?

Dear BellaDear Bella,

I cannot get pregnant anymore. All the tests that I have done indicate that I can have children because I have a daughter.

However, I had her when I was pretty young. She is now 10 and I recently got married to the man of my dreams however the baby won’t come.

My husband did a test and he’s fine. I did one and I am fine. All reproductive organs are fine.

But Bella I believe my womb is cursed because I had three abortions when I was younger.

So now I get this feeling that it’s because I killed these babies in the past that I can’t get pregnant now.

What are your thoughts? Do you think my womb is cursed?

Maybe I should go for prayers? What do you think?



Dear Barren,

Quite Frankly, I don’t know if your womb is cursed or if that’s the reason the baby is not coming.

If you have truly repented for the abortions you had, my thoughts are that it would have been forgiven and forgotten.

I believe that you are probably too anxious about getting pregnant.

If you say both you and your husband are healthy then enjoy the art of conception. That baby will come.

And if it doesn’t…then the hard truth is that perhaps it wasn’t meant to happen.



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  1. Bill Clinton
    February 7, 2018

    I believe that your womb is indeed cursed. Why did you have abortions and now you’re trying to plug. LIKE OMG. Get real ok. its cursed

  2. small mouth
    July 18, 2017

    woman your womb is not cursed and who are we to judge you,ask God for forgiveness and relax yourself,enjoy your husband daily and you will see how fast child will come.

  3. DA
    July 15, 2017

    Nothing is impossoble with God, but in reality , a number of abortions could affect production . Nevertheless, since the medical checks have not proven any abnormality, then the possibility remains..Of course God will forgive a broken spirit and contrite heart, as much as you must forgive yourself. If you believe God is great and able, well do not be distracted or encouraged by antone to seek answers elsewhere. There is power in prayer but you and your husband may need to couple it with fasting.. Remember, certain stronghold or obstacle won’t go or move without prayer and fasting.

    July 14, 2017

    you throw 3 children… I cannot bring myself to give you any kind of advice. One maybe… but 3 is nastiness, stupidity and wickedness. wow just wow!

    • small mouth
      July 18, 2017

      i sure you’ve done worst,judge not and you will not be judged.hypocrite

  5. July 13, 2017

    @ commes . The Loer is coming, make sure you are ready for HIS coming

  6. hmmm
    July 13, 2017

    my girl \”Go and See De Lady\”..cuz that is hocus pocus bizness.

    De Lady from Haiti..

  7. Sayitsnotso
    July 13, 2017

    I’ve had 3 abortions just like you; cause I had just begin college and couldn’t afford the cost of a baby. Today I have 2 healthy girls; a 13 year old and a 3 year old; same dad for the abortions. I’ve never forgiven myself and God saw it fit to still bless me. Once you trust God there’s nothing impossible; just believe and claim it. If not then God has other plans for you. Maybe a child out there needs a wonderful couple like you to be a parent to them.

  8. Daughter of the soil
    July 13, 2017

    WOMAN YOUR WOMB NOT CURSED download a woman’s log on your phone and have sex around your fertile days and u will be surprise to see u with child u all are doing it the wrong day just relax enjoy your husband and stop stress yourself

  9. analy thomas
    July 13, 2017

    Matthew 19:26 ESV
    But Jesus looked at them and said, “With man this is impossible, but with God all things are possible.”
    Jeremiah 32:27 ESV
    “Behold, I am the Lord, the God of all flesh. Is anything too hard for me?
    Luke 1:37 ESV
    For nothing will be impossible with God.”
    Genesis 18:14 ESV
    Is anything too hard for the Lord? At the appointed time I will return to you, about this time next year, and Sarah shall have a son.”
    There are many more verses that show the power of trusting in Christ Jesus but this must be done primarily;
    Proverbs 3:6 ESV
    In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths.
    God is not interested in half of you! He wants all of you! There are two sides on this earth today. Good and evil. There is no in between. That’s why he said let you answer be yes or no in the book of Matthew!
    More than ever he wants to bless us but we hinder those blessings! Just make time for him like you you are doing for your lover and see for…

  10. July 12, 2017

    Bella shut up with your repent!

    • analy thomas
      July 13, 2017

      hmmm. You repent to God because you are ashamed and tired of your past and you want a new leaf with him which i think is wonderful! As a matter of fact it is the best decision. If you don’t want to repent then it’s your choice…. you have a free will but there is a beginning and there will be an end!
      I know that there is a spirit which hates God and it is the Antichrist.
      It is very merciful of God however to love everyone even if he hates the opposing spirits. I wonder why? Could he have a plan that the spiritual enemies are adamant on trying to destroy? Could these spirits really destroy some members of creation? How do these human members take authority?
      These spirits don’t need rest but we do, they don’t need food but we do, they don’t get tired but we do, there is no salvation plan for them but we do have one. Hmmmm
      Knowing all this i don’t think we can destroy them without the help of another being who loves us and wants only our soul just to make us happy…

    • July 13, 2017

      The word repent means to change your mind or direction.

      Many people who write to Bella have a problem that calls for repentance (change). She should probably be using the word more often.

      The Bible says *…. God …. now commands all men every where to repent:* (Acts 17:) This is a different matter of course. It means we all must repent of our sins because *… all have sinned, and come short of the glory of God.* (Romans 3:23) Along with this repentance we must believe that Christ took our punishment upon Himself and died for us on the cross according to Romans 5:6-8. *Believe on the Lord Jesus Christ, and thou shalt be saved, …* (Acts 16:31)

      The simple principle of repentance can be used to solve many nasty problems in life. But people continue to suffer because they are too proud to admit they have been wrong, and too stubborn to change.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  11. ddd
    July 12, 2017

    you told you husband about the abortions

  12. MysticT
    July 12, 2017

    You and your husband can be totally healthy and capable of having kids but maybe you guys are not compatible to have kids with each other

    • Don't worry
      July 12, 2017

      Absolutely true….Maybe she should get a test to see if they are comparable. ….Because being not comparable could be a major issue.

  13. Patty Cakes
    July 12, 2017

    If your abortions were done by a professional then there’s no reason why you cannot conceive. If, however your are already in your late 30s going on 40s, then your chances of getting pregnant decreases every year.

    You don’t have to believe me. Google is there at your fingertips.

    TL:DR: There is no such thing as a cursed womb.

  14. July 12, 2017


    First congratulations to you and your husband on your marriage. You have made an honorable decision to begin a new life together. I wish you all the joy in the world with the blessing of God.

    As a Christian and a minister I am a pro-life person. I believe abortion is wrong. But honestly Barren, I do not believe God has cursed your womb. My understanding is that repeated abortions can cause difficulty in conceiving in some women. However since you have been examined by your medical people and they have found nothing wrong it seems this is not your problem. Personally, I do not believe God would curse your womb. Trust me, God is pro-life :!:

    Confess your sin (or sins) to God. Believe He has forgiven you. In fact if you have not yet received Christ as your personal Savior for ALL your sins why not do it now :?: The Bible says *… … the BLOOD of Jesus Christ (God\’s) Son cleanses us from ALL sin.* ( 1 John 1:7)

    • July 12, 2017


      You must RECEIVE Christ to make it personal (See John 1:12)

      You and your husband should stop trying to have a baby. Relax and have a great sex life! Give God thanks for all things. If God wants you to have a child I promise you it will come.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

  15. zandoli
    July 12, 2017

    There has to be something wrong with a lot of Dominican women. I cannot believe we have that many stupid Dominican women.

    • Me
      July 12, 2017

      Well, I’m a woman and never had an abortion but I’m unable to conceive….Maybe I’m cursed another way then :lol: :lol: :lol:

  16. Concerned
    July 12, 2017

    Young lady I do hope that you have confessed for the 3 abortions that you had. God forgives and he gives a clean slate if you just allow him to come into your life. Continue to pray about it and he will deliver.

  17. papa
    July 12, 2017

    Woman go and pray did u ever think of that before u do it its murder get a life

    • July 13, 2017

      Whether this woman did many abortions which you chose to call murder; neither you nor any other person is perfect. This is the reason why in the bible there is a scripture which supports that “The one sinless among you, let him cast the first stone at her.” John 8:7. Lack of quality eggs in the ovaries, damaged or blocked fallopian tubes, tumors in the uterus, male or female infertility, hormone disorder, Endometriosis, premature menopause etc. Sometimes we have to be satisfied and accept whatever we get in life. My friend was married for 16 years and never got pregnant. This situation created serious problems between her and her husband.He decided to get a divorce because he was not happy to marry a sterile woman. After the divorce; two years after the wife had tweens for her new partner and up till now the ex-husband doesn’t have a child.

  18. Dominican
    July 12, 2017

    You too osha for child maybe you think that will keep the husband? If he will leave you because of this you are better off without him.. Now enjoy your marriage and let nature have its way. Stressed minds never conceive, it will come when you stop stressing and least expect. As Bella said if it does not it was not meant to be. God is on your side, babies too early in a marriage can cause plenty strife so relax.

  19. darky
    July 12, 2017

    SMH awa wii Bella you is something else wii

    July 12, 2017

    Papa …Lord come…End this world of madnesss

    • Man bites Dogs
      July 12, 2017

      @LookCommess, My advice to you if you don’t like this world you can always get out of it you don’t have to wait for God help!

      • July 15, 2017

        God has a purpose and a plan for each life. When our work on earth is finished God will take us away by whatever natural means He chooses.

        For you to encourage someone to end his (or her) life is wrong and inappropriate.

        God wants to give each one of us an opportunity in this life to prepare for eternity.

        God provided Salvation by giving His beloved Son to shed His blood and die for us according to Romans 5:6-8. We must personally believe this and receive Him as our Savior. *…as many as received him, to them gave he power to become sons (or daughters) of God, even to them that believe on his name.* (John 1:12)

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

        *That whosoever believeth in him should not perish, but have eternal life.* (John 3:15)

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