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I am in a situation where It feels like I’m caught between the devil and the deep blue sea. The thing is I’m in love with a minister. We met about a year ago in a casual setting and we hit it off. I have been having secret rendezvous with him and stealing love on the side makes everything very exciting.
However, over the past couple of weeks, he seems to be acting strange. He seldom wants to hang out and he only comes over at wee hours of the morning. He stopped taking care of me financially the way he uses to and he hardly messages. I think he’s fallen out of love with me. What should I do? Please give me your advice.
Hmmmm… Let’s see. Sometimes we bring things upon ourselves. I am pretty sure you are not the only one this minister is seeing. I am in no way indicating that this man is incapable of loving you, but most often than not, their “love” comes with all kinds of attachments.
Stealing love on the side is nothing to be boastful about. Love should be given freely. It shouldn’t be a secret or stolen.
Anytime a woman finds herself in a situation where her love has to be “hush hush” then she needs to rethink her position. It is clear that this man is no longer interested in what he once had with you. Face the music and move on. The next time you fall in love please; for your sake ensure that it’s the real thing and not just some love affair that ends up with you being hurt.
Chances are he’s probably doing the same thing with someone else. You’re better off without him. Girlfriend kick him to the curb.
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