DEAR BELLA: My wife eats like a pig

Dear BellaDear Bella,

My wife eats like a pig. I am not being critical of her. I love her but I am using this forum because I have tried everything else. Bella, our grocery bill is too much to even mention and now it’s causing a financial strain.

Bella, she wakes up makes breakfast. Six eggs, an entire chicken frank pack, baked beans, two mastiffs and a big jug of juice.

I keep telling her we can do four eggs, four sausages and use the baked beans with something else on another day. I also suggested four slices of wheat bread shared equally or some fruit. But ah wah…Is like a pig she eating.

Bella, the woman would eat all that in the morning. A typical lunch would be a feast and snacks and dinner, another feast.

I can’t do anything to get her to stop. She is over 310 pounds and climbing and her cooking is making me overweight too because it’s all greasy stuff.

When we go to family dinners, her plate is always sky high and I sometimes feel embarrassed because people are watching. She would go for seconds too and maybe thirds. I kid you not.

I am worried about her health and since she is a housewife I am the one paying the grocery bill.

We would usually shop together on weekends and I pay by check so whatever she puts in the basket is what I have to pay for.

I will never embarrass my wife by putting things back on the shelf but alas Bella, that woman can eat. She eats too much and now I am very concerned.

What should I do? I have talked about it for years and nothing has changed except that the grocery items became more expensive and she has increased in body mass.

Worried Husband.


Dear Worried Husband,

Your wife seems to be suffering from an eating disorder or she could just be simply greedy.

You need to find out for sure which one is the truth.

Wives must be submissive to their husbands because they are the head of the home so if she disobeys your directions on the quantity and quality of your meals then that’s another issue right there.

It means she has no regard for your advice.

Have you thought about getting someone you trust to speak to her about her eating habits and consequences for her health? A close family friend, the family doctor or even your church leader? Perhaps she may listen.

I know it can be embarrassing but what is worse? Telling someone you trust or walking around with an obese wife who stacks up plates at restaurants that have the entire world talking?

Old folks have a way of saying “who don’t hear will feel”, and I hope it doesn’t have to come to this because, at 310 pounds, hypertension and diabetes may be already knocking at the door.

Don’t take that matter lightly. And to protect yourself, try preparing your own healthy meals so you won’t fall prey to the health risks associated with the way your wife cooks.


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  1. Houston
    March 4, 2019

    Oh my gosh 😂, Bella you need to expand your knowledge and way of thinking. I spent some time reading your response and I got to say that they are dense and backwards in every way possible. Living in Dominica doesn’t mean that your mentality has to be so closed off to how everything has evolved throughout the years. Gender roles are not the same like the old days and society are more open minded about individual’s choice of life style and identity. So, my advice to you Bella is to be more open minded and grow out of the Stone age if your going to keep giving people advise on life.

  2. Man bites dogs
    September 26, 2018

    I don’t believe that man story his wife eats like a pig. Having said that i might get Tony Astaphan on that case. He is the only person that could smell a Rat 2meters underground if you don’t believe me just asked the boys at that so-called UWP propaganda service station.

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  4. Bring back the kidnapped parrots
    September 26, 2018

    Put a lock and chain on the refrigerator door and the pantry. Keep all the food locked up and under your control and ration it.

  5. Ou fou compere
    September 26, 2018

    I know a coshon like dat. When we go out 2 eat she always have a reason to check the washroom or go to her car to get something ( when the bill comes) then she disappear : only to call later say 4 hrs saying she had a headache and could not find an advil in her car or some silly justification. It has been observed by me for the 4th time.
    That sucker doing her nails every Friday and ordering from the diaspora out fits for Fri, Sat & Sunday action.
    Bella what would you do with such a friend?

    • zandoli
      September 26, 2018

      She thinks you are a fool and she treats you as such. Nobody does that to me four times. I will give you the benefit of the doubt once. The second time something like this happens, I would cut you off from my life. No parasites.

  6. may
    September 26, 2018

    I agree with some of the comments that this sounds like a made up story.
    1.The style of writing of the story and the reply seems like it came from the same writer.
    2. The complainant never mentioned his wife stacking up plates at restaurants. How do you know that in response to your answer?

    • Krab
      September 28, 2018

      But May you retarded? The person was just saying she have a friend that stack up plates. I dont even think the person was referring to that aspect. I think they were talking about the fact that the woman eats like a pig. Tehbeh

  7. DA Fails
    September 25, 2018

    Look it… My boy say a whole pack of franks, 6 eggs and a jug of choose for breakfast, shaite… Meself that is why is only slimmers I does check, nobody doh have time for that :lol: :lol: Mamzel diet plan feeding de whole of africa

  8. Trying to help
    September 25, 2018

    Bella your advice is poor and lacking. This man clearly needs help with his wife and this is your response? Smh He says she does the cooking right? How about if he prepares a healthy meal or maybe even suggest recipes they can try. Also maybe going on morning walks or whenever convenient in thier schedule. I’d suggest a doctor rather than any other seeing as a health could be at risk. They both see a family doctor who would give professional advice.

  9. zandoli
    September 25, 2018

    This sounds like a made up story to me.

  10. WAPAP
    September 25, 2018

    Let her pay for the groceries lol

    • Look kicks
      September 26, 2018

      With what money the cash in the hairy bank??? Ou pas tan femme la pas ca twavaye man

  11. Rev. D
    September 25, 2018

    People like to change the word as they go along. Wives must be submissive to their husband and the word never changes. I am a man of God and the word of God never changes. People want to change things as they go along so they can continue in their Sodom ways. This woman is in rebellion. She should listen to her husband about how she cook eat and behave. Like Bella said he is the head of the home. The world is just about finished, Come Lord Come

    • September 26, 2018

      I do not agree with the archaic nonsense that a wife supposed to be submissive to their husband. Men and women are equally created by God and we supposed to work together as a team. We are all kings and queens; no subordinates. I am a man and a vegan and sometimes I used to eat the wrong food, and my Queen had the intestinal fortitude to tell me, even though I am the one paying for the groceries. Other people used to tell me too if they saw that I was gain or losing too much weight. Today I have completely stopped using any kind of grease or consume sugary drinks. I am not perfect, I am still using a little salt, but I have started to slowly remove it from my diet. As other persons have said, the lady is in need of serious help.

  12. b.w.k
    September 25, 2018

    bella does be well boring at home..and just think of all krazy stories to write on d.n.o…u go get a life girl!!!.lol :lol: :lol: :lol:

  13. Dhestinee
    September 25, 2018

    The way u say d ‘I kid you not’. As if I know u ??. On the other hand Bella that is the most retarded reply anyone cld give to somebody seeking advice. Who in allu office that just sit down and making up these kinda stories? Link me nah. Befor u know it that column international we

  14. waypapa
    September 25, 2018

    PAPABONDIEU! sorry DNO but I have to use the caps. JESUS!

  15. FED UP
    September 25, 2018

    Wives must be submissive to their husband. What the hell? I can’t even comment on the wife that eats like a pig after reading that. This is 2018 – wives, women, girls, submit to no one.

    I still can’t believe I just read that!

    • rickross
      September 25, 2018

      no wives must not respect their husband ….but instead eat like a pig and run man……smh..what happen to them lil wilder na…lol

    • SMH Black People
      September 26, 2018

      I love my black people but most of y’all women (especially in Dominica and the Caribbean) are seriously Ignorant, Hostile, Selifsh and Immature. It is sad. Thank God y’all not the only option because all you offer is sex and disrespect but expect God level admiration in return. Thats why good men run from y’all and the rest just use you for entertainment.

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