DEAR BELLA: Step Daughter Tempting Me

Dear Bella

I am marrying a woman and her daughter is 17 and would have to eventually move in with us.

I am worried because that girl just looks like trouble. I would visit her mother and she would literally wear nothing. Walking around with t-shirt and panties in the house. I would ask her mom whether she thinks it’s appropriate and she said “it’s a Dominican thing, girls don’t wear clothes in the house”

I also notice when I am around, she sways in a seductive way and she would keep going to the fridge for water. She must be really dehydrated when I am around.

I love my wife to be but I smell trouble with this wild child of hers because I see the way she looks at me and shakes her behind when she passes near my sitting area.

I am a Christian and we decided to wait so we sit in the living room or we hang out on the gallery. Sometimes we go out.

If this girl has to live with us then there has to be some rules. Because everything about her spells trouble and I won’t allow her to walk around half naked in my home.

Help Me

Dear Help Me

You have every right to be concerned. A lot of men would speed up the wedding just to have the excitement of her walking in her undies on a daily basis.

Your concern means that you are aware of the situation and wants to nip it in the bud.

The response from her mom is immature and irresponsible. She needs to instill respect in her daughter.

The daughter too can carry herself better than that especially if she lives in a home with someone else.

Have you said to her mother that she looks at you in a seductive manner? Or that she does the catwalk in an apparent attempt to get your attention? You need to bring these things to the table.

Let her mother know she won’t be able to do that once she moves in with you. Communication is key in these matters.

You say you’re a Christian man. Then start to pray because based on what you’ve said you step daughter may have the hots for you and that could be detrimental to the family that you are now trying to build with her and her mom.

All the best


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  1. bwk
    November 15, 2018

    too late is his cry.. the videos are already out.. he fell to temptation …

  2. Rass
    November 14, 2018

    Many daughters walk around in there house in panties and Dad have no issues with it but you sounds like you enjoying the view MARCO! look at her as your daughter and don’t get a HARD ON when she pass by :mrgreen:

  3. Iwantyoutoo
    November 14, 2018

    You are right. No ands ifs or buts. This is trouble with a capital T. This little girl wants you and she wants
    you bad. The mother needs to nip it in the bud and fast. She is very much aware of her sexuality and wants to prove it to herself. She is trying to make you uncomfortable. She has no respect for herself, her mother or you. Hold strong and let the mom know that you are not comfortable with her behavior.
    Some people will put their own meaning but you are only human. She thinks you are hot and she wants you baby

  4. Not Yet Ready
    November 13, 2018

    If you are a christian man then when you look at your future daughter you should not be tempted, i.e. looking at her to lust after her. You are seeing what you want to see, its clear you are paying close attention to her and may even be attracted to her. sounds like you would say she is tempting you if she in on the beach wearing the same kind of clothes, which is what it sounds like. you never said she was naked. sounds like the mother is also expecting you to be able to see her daughter so clothed and not be attracted to her the way you are displaying.

    You should focus on seeing her as you would if she was your daughter. Doesnt sound like you have brought your mind and body in subjection as a christian.

    • budman
      November 14, 2018

      you realise that at no point did you suggest that the daughter ought to operate differently? additionally, if his account is accurate, his daughter would not be sashaying and catwalking in front of him. you immediately blamed him and disregarded what he wrote regarding her behaviour. so if he is never tempted does that mean she should continue as is and not be more respectful?

      • Concerned
        November 19, 2018

        No where in his post said he was tempted though. The man is noticing something and trying to find a solution. Next thing he does nothing and he gets wrong in the end. What if he ignores it and she comes on to him? He still wrong right. The man did the right thing. Leave him alone

    • Smdh
      November 14, 2018

      What you are saying makes no sense. This step daughter is a damn Jezebel. She is 17 maybe already sexually active. If he said he was turmed on and in love with her also all hell would rain on him. But he is asking for help to deal with a problem. He sure dont want to lose his wife to be. And im.sure the mother will defend her child. Stating facts foes not mean he is a pervert of looking at the young lady in any orher way. Yall quick to damn judge . Only he know exactly what he is dealing with.

  5. Shabin
    November 13, 2018

    Faaaaaddddaaaaaa, de devil comes in many form, ok if you pass it on her then you will be cheating and then wedding done, you will have to eat all de devil eggs for de wedding now. What kind of woman you marrying to allow her daughter to pass with panty infront of you, is best she send her to walk so in roseau, wa happen fada you fraid de woman, tell her you dont like it and then tell de victoria seceret to stop passing around so her panty not pretty or even better yet video tap her in a way so you have proof. STAND FIRM MY BRODA NOT MANY MEN ARE MENTALLY STRONG.

  6. Karl Orndem
    November 13, 2018

    Fella have some sort of decency. Sit with the young lady and set her very straight. Guide her along with her mother to make better decisions. Because clearly she is lacking something in her life.

  7. Badbaje
    November 13, 2018

    You have done what you can as regards to the mother in this situation. You are expected to be a father to this young lady, and as such you are to correct her words, and or actions accordingly, now is a good time to start. Let the mother know you intend to speak with the young lady about this behavior before things to any further, and speak with her as a father would who is trying to correct and teach a child, nothing wrong with that. If the mother does not agree and consent to your decision that my friend is an indication of how she will react to your raising and correcting the children in your future home.
    To be forewarned is to be forearmed.

  8. IssaJoke
    November 12, 2018

    Throw some holy water on her!! Pray fi her!!! And say not today satan then move on.
    But you should really put a stop to it, and get it handled it before it gets out of hand
    Or before she runs to her mother and say shid you never did and her mother blames
    It all on you.

  9. stop
    November 12, 2018

    The mother has no problem with her daughter parading in front of you in her undies? Huge red flag. You’re about to ruin your life. Do not marry this woman.

  10. Hot stuff
    November 12, 2018

    And whats your problem sir….. the young lady is over the age of consent. Check her irie then again the mother maybe testing you…

    • really?
      November 12, 2018

      There are actually descent men who respect young girls. They really do exist. They will see a young girl and not even entertain the thought of taking advantage of her sexually or otherwise. Hot stuff, you are a sick person, you’re messed up in the head. I am glad for this post, it exposes a cancer in our society.

    • November 13, 2018

      Your god should keep you on the right path with your intended wife !
      Seems like you are already being tempted !!

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