DEAR BELLA: Young man texting my wife’s phone

Dear BellaDear Bella,

A young man has been texting my wife’s phone. I know I have been neglecting her and now I am worried that the young man is keeping her company.

I see her always smiling at her phone and she is no longer questioning my whereabouts when I come home late.

It’s almost as if she has something going on. Anyway, I tried looking at her phone but there’s a password. Why have a password if you have nothing to hide?

She is such a wonderful person. Hardworking and loving and I agree I have been spending too little time at home.

If she’s flirting then it’s my fault. I hope it’s not too late to restore what we had.

Should I confront her?

Worried Husband


Dear Worried Husband,

How about staying indoors when it’s not necessary to be outdoors? And spend more time with your wife.

Confronting her about something you have no solid proof about could cause contention at home.

And knowing women, she will use every opportunity to tell you what you already know; that you don’t spend time with her.

I think you should just show more appreciation and attention to your wife.

If you do, there may not be a need for her to smile at her phone. She may begin to start smiling at you.


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  1. Woman
    September 24, 2018

    That good for you. Not on road you want to stay na? I wish is a hot sexy young man that tending your garden for you..woyeee

  2. Wooshhhhhh
    September 18, 2018

    But even if he decides to pay more attention n she lost interest that s not gonna make it better again.
    When a guy neglects me. My interest self is can’t be brought back cause I found another interest.

  3. watching
    September 18, 2018

    i’m always reading these posts. but i find they are repetitive man. they would post them and after a while change the title and put the same story. scroll up and go to related article and y’all will see “younger woman texting husband’s phone”. now this article is saying “ young man texting my wife’s phone” is this a coincidence or what?

  4. Joseph Thomas
    September 18, 2018

    The woman just playing a trick on you making you believe she talking to a new man. it could be a whatsapp joke somebody sent to her, If she is such a good woman she not going to disrespect you in your face making you see she smiling another rap words to her if its such a case she would do that in secret.MAN STAY HOME AND STOP FOOLING AROUND WITH OTHER FEMALES AND THOSE PARTNERS OF YOURS YOU HANGING WITH, ITS NOT WORTH IF IT COULD BE ONE OF THEM TEXTING YOUR WIFE TELLING HER YOUR BUSINESS.

  5. Paul
    September 18, 2018

    Boss any woman that lock her phone from you is not your woman my brother… most woman that lock there phone is something they have to hide… if you been neglecting her then thats you … I wud be happy to pipe her for you espeacially iF is a thick shabine.. doe matter if u was treating her good or not good is same result…. that’s how some of them good for nothing DA girls be…

    • Agirl
      September 18, 2018

      All that you have to say Paul? Strupes.

    • Shabin
      September 18, 2018

      You to stupid boy, women don’t just jump to another man just so…. A man have to do a DA woman a bad thing for her to do him back. When DA woman make a home for you and then you just neglect her so…aa… we going to just stay there and cry…HHHHEEELL Noooo… She’s not wrong for locking de phone, you forget it have thief man… and what he going in it for is not his business… He maybe all have his flexs and them and now de woman happy without his ….he saying is man…IS SO DA MAN ISSSSS!. and what pipe…WOSH.

      • under the radar
        September 18, 2018

        haaaaaaaaaaa hahahahahahahahahaha

  6. Badbaje
    September 17, 2018

    The man has no proof yet assumes it is a young man texting his wife. It may be an young woman, and older man or an older woman. Old people do the same things young people do. Women do the same things men do. Think of that.

  7. AP George
    September 17, 2018

    By him not giving her attention, is no justification for her messing with another guy. Absolutely not! She has an obligation to uphold her marital oath and loyalty. It indicates some serious issues in the way she values her husband and relationship. If she has to find satisfaction in the arms of another man, she needs to come clean and tell her husband up front. If she is happy and excited for every text she receives from another male, then she is cheating… her affections are no longer directed to her husband but the other person, offering a cheap thrill.
    To assert that this guy is at fault for not paying attention to his wife is just wrong! So, what happens on the day he loses his job, or when he breaks her favorite China! This is a heart issue… and she needs to stop.
    NOW, this guy needs to let her know of his concern. If it’s true they both need to re-commit to improving their relationship. And yes, he should spend more time at home/with her, buy her flowers, etc, etc.

    • under the radar
      September 18, 2018

      you truly are dreaming…

  8. JusticeJ
    September 17, 2018

    How do you know he’s young? Sounds like you know much more than you are mentioning.
    Great advice Bella

    • Pipi
      September 17, 2018

      Exactly. You know it ‘s a young man but you have no access t her phone? I think Bella slipped up this time an this is a B .S. story.

  9. Black beauty
    September 17, 2018

    Way to go bella

  10. zandoli
    September 17, 2018

    Padna, if your wife is such a good woman, why have you been neglecting her? Taking a good woman for granted? Thinking she will always be there to take care of your business? BIG MISTAKE!!

  11. waypapa
    September 17, 2018

    Good job Bella you are getting there.

  12. Sams
    September 17, 2018

    Why do u worry if u put problems in your home her phone is her privacy it’s like going in her purse maybe u should make more time for her

    • under the radar
      September 18, 2018

      it’s always the man’s fault… stay away from marriage…

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