Dominican woman stole my husband

Dear Bella: I have heard Dominican women can put a hold on a man – a hold so powerful that he would tell his children he was willing to take a chance on her and lose them.

My husband met a married woman from Dominica. She was having marital problems at the time and apparently he was unhappy. When he finally told her he wanted his family and could not see her anymore she went ballistic and called me to tell me about their relationship, claiming she had been pregnant and had a miscarriage, even though she was still married. He chose his family at the time.

Due to the type of work he does being in the military she was able to locate and continue to contact him. When he told her she could not go on a trip with him she would threaten to tell about e-mails and phone calls so he would give in. Three years later he left me when I was seven months pregnant. She talked him into leaving. Over the years she sent me numerous e-mails and text messages. Is it really possible she has some kind of hold on him? Or is he really just a weak man? Is there a way to reverse this? I must also tell you he lives in Texas and she lives in Missouri. Is he really in love with her or does the long distance relationship make it ideal.

Dear Miss,

There are some women who just do not know when to give up, despite being in a relationship. Your husband’s mistress has no pride and shame. There are many women like that out there when they are well aware the man is in a relationship they still try their best to get at the man no matter how much he refuses. At times women like this get so personal with other people’s partners and spouses they claim to be just friends, although there is a hidden agenda.

However, your husband too has entertained this woman; he was not strong enough and gave in. They both lack that respect, after all it takes two to tango. Still I do not blame your husband for his charm and charisma which presumably caused him to attract this woman innocently, if that is the case. But to the extent that she would jeopardise her marriage as well as his for her desire says a lot about her. I think when a man loves his woman he tries his best to save the relationship.

Only if you are implying that this woman has hypnotized your husband via some supernatural means, then that is a whole different situation which I can only advise you to pray to God about.

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  1. Dominicana mami
    August 5, 2017

    Stop hating on Dominicana s because your man want our Toto

  2. July 16, 2014

    What chance does a young girl have to grow up to be a respectable woman with good values when her parents are not married, and she saw nothing but immorality all the years she was at home :?: Her chances are even less if she was not taught God’s moral code in school, or even in church. When was the last time you heard your pastor say from the pulpit that sex before or outside of marriage is a sin the Bible calls “fornication”, and “…they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.”
    (Galatians 5:19-21)?

    Parents, teachers, and pastors need to accept their responsibility to teach the young generation the difference between right and wrong when it comes to sexual behaviour and human relationships. There is only one basis upon which this can be done. The Word of God (the Bible) is the foundation God has given us to build society upon. Those who don’t want this DO have a choice. They can choose not to live in a Christian nation!.

    A woman who was raised in a nation where fornication is considered normal and 50% of the babies are born to unwed mothers, is not going to produce many virtuous women who their husbands can afford to trust. A woman who will have sex with a man who is not her husband BEFORE she is married will have sex with a man who is not her husband AFTER she is married. The FORNICATOR of TODAY will be the ADULTRESS of TOMORROW.

    Your nation and mine (Canada) needs a revival of righteousness that will only come when God’s moral code is taught without compromise beginning in the homes, then the schools, and the churches. The laws of our countries must affirm and reaffirm the moral code God has given us in the New Testament until they echo the laws of the Kingdom of God on earth!

    Let us pray, “They kingdom come, thy will be done on earth as it is in heaven.”

    The alternative to this is to see our society degenerate into a state of complete moral chaos and collapse.

    Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill, D.D., International Evangelist

  3. Anonymous
    April 16, 2014

    A Dominican woman married my husband while he is still legally married to me in the us.

  4. Anonymous
    April 16, 2014

    Theses women need a green card and they are willing to do anything.good luck.

  5. Anonymous
    April 16, 2014

    I think they are truly disgusting no shame.

  6. Anonymous
    April 16, 2014

    These women are in poverty and most of them will do anything to come to America take someone husband and do witch craft to keep him..shame

  7. Anonymous
    April 16, 2014

    What goes around comes around.lesson learned

  8. I love u but i love
    November 12, 2011

    i know its wrong but think of it that way too. sometimes the mens might say they are not married this i way is hard to prove.if u living in a another country its hard to tell.i was in a situation like that so called husband cheated on me .when i spoke to the girl i ask her if she knew that he is married she said yes she know we living together.they have a child now she is married to someone else.

  9. Be real
    July 20, 2010

    I do not condone women going out with married man, but as far as I am concern, when he is not married he is single, how many of you today have met a good man, and I mean credentials and everything, that is not already dating someone else?

    • smh
      October 21, 2013


  10. cookoon satti
    March 18, 2010

    It is true what this woman says. A Dominican married woman from New York also was sleeping with my husband for years before I found out. And the %%% claims she is a Christian.

    I should have listened to what an old lady told me and make him eat me every day so he wouldn’t be able to cheat on me. women learn the lesson. While you have the man and things are going good, tame him or one day you will regret it when some bimbo takes him from you.

  11. Anonymous
    February 23, 2010


    well my Dominican people i am amazed about the way
    we talking about love. reading those comments in this story it seems that some of us have no respect for d heart of each other. we really don;t know the real true story about what has been going on behind close doors so when we hear such stories we should give good and supportive advice or simply don;t say anything to hurt d poeple that is already hurting. because a hurting heart is not an easy thing to carry about in your everyday life. let us pray that non of us don;t have our loved one taken from us. as a Dominican Empess i believe true love never fail as hard as it is to find when you find it love it and look after it cause love will love you BACK.

  12. CB CUZ
    February 22, 2010

    Honey wat goes around comes around you think he will stay with her? NO! he going to leave her just as he left you..And is not dominica woman is the man that is a weakling just tell him good riddance..Your husband is a dog…..and please let it go it happened a long time ago…just dont take him back

  13. Hi
    February 21, 2010


    If you take someone’s husband,If you do get married,someone will and must take yours!
    Would you like that to happen to you?

    In this round world,How you make your bed,is so you will lie down,What you sow,is that you will reap!

    So if you having sex with someone’s man,when you do get one you truely cherish,Some one else will be banging him on your head.

    So People,Leave People man alone and Go find your Own, CAUSE WHAT GOES AROUND DEFINITELY COMES AROUND!!!!!!!!!!!

    • R i p my sex life
      November 12, 2011

      sometimes we tend to do things without knowing from right to wrong and sometimes we do it anyway. i dated a wan who had a wife and kids,i had no idea.we living so far apart that i was in the french island and he in the state.we knew each other from school days because we from the same island. he went away and years later we met away. things unfold from there so we started dating.he living alone because i visited him many times,his wife living in another state.i ask him about her he told me they are not together he even ask me to marry him but what i did not know is that he was living alone because of his job.when i found out it way into the so call affair.being at his home all the time, when am not home with him we on the phone or the computer.i was a dam sometimes we cant all ways blame the other woman find out what happen before u go calling the woman bitch and all that.cause am so sorry i did that.i then find out who the wife is and i told her i never knew that they were married.she said she do not hate me .all to this day the man do not want to leave me alone. am not dating anyone for now cause u dont know who telling the ladies be carefull out there.he knew that if he tell me he have a wife i would never date him,but do u know what i prove from all this,he never love me cause when u love someone u dont hurt them.

    • tete
      January 27, 2012

      excellent. what you sow you reap
      evil humans will taste their own medecine

  14. February 21, 2010

    You talking about the woman but what about yourself… maybe you wasn’t putting it on him right that’s y he had to turn to the other woman… you know all of that and saying all of that and you not talking bout how things was between u and ur man… in all ur investigation u should have found out what the dominica woman was doing that made ur man leave you… hahahahahaha dominican girls are the best eh girl lmfao

    • sexy
      November 15, 2011

      she wasn’t doing her homework right so someone else did it for her

    • tete
      January 27, 2012

      listen up whore
      you people are so ulgy you all look like gorillas and monkeys..not good looking
      very jealous and envious
      you are unable to find a single man that is why you go for married men.cause you so damn ugly and have sick issues in your life
      god will mlake you pay..ugly looking dog

  15. February 20, 2010

    this is crap….woman you should have always kept urself marketable…………..because u married doesnt mean u have to stop taking care of urself………….men will always be men………….if he wants to go let him go…………wake up and smell the coffee…………….and stop blaming dominican women…………………….

    he wanted the fling just as much as the other woman.

    HE WHO CHEATS WITH YOU WILL CHEAT ON YOU……………put that in ur pipe and smoke it

  16. February 20, 2010

    when allu so cannot keep all u dam man all u sayin bout DOMINICAN women this and that………..woman if u were studying ur man u would neva have to fear………..we dominican girls no how to take care of a man…………darling he was never yours to be in the first place……….so dont go blamming dominican women.

    the man should no well he have his family ………blame him not the other woman……….he well wanted to be there too.

    bella u self sometimes u make me think u are crazy………………..

    ANd SMALLY AXA be careful the guyanese will dry u and u wont even no wat hit u………… beware

    • tete
      January 27, 2012

      you take care of your man so much dominican women that is why they cheat on you latinos
      obviously there is a problem monkey looking pigs…..your own culture does not even
      committe to you ..they going looking for white women….get help fast

  17. HMMMM(1) the psychic
    February 20, 2010

    It is so sad just reading some of the comments posted by women in response to this story. Just put yourselves this woman’s position for a minute and I’m quite certain majority of you would act the same or even worst (unless if the cap fits…then you have no shame and selfrespect).

    My dear , right now the only answer is to pray and put your trust in the Lord and he will take care of things for you.

    Many a times those who go wrong come running back with their tails between their legs asking for forgiveness when there is nowhere else to run to

  18. i taking her man self
    February 20, 2010

    so sorry about ur lost..sweety get over it an accept the fact that he is gone an int comin back,atleast he’s in good hands…hahahahahaah…..all wat u just said bout us dominicans is soooo not u no y he left u like the fluzzy tht u r since u wants to talk bout us,he left cuz u wasnt doing it they asked u earlier :can u cook an clean?i guess not .was.he happy wit u ? i guess he happy wit that dominican…hellll yeaaaaa!! ….lol…we no how to get a man an keep them…u still need practicing…i can help u get him back …..hahaha

    that man did not want u, u were just there until he could figure out wat he going to do,which he did at the dont blame the woman for stealing ur man blame ur nasty man an urself…..i just want to let u no marriage dont last for eva an to some men thats just a PASS so they can say i aint cheating i have a wife but as soon as they get to tht other girls house RING OFF

    SORRY BOO THT IT HAD TO BE U. just take care of ur kids an 4 get him cuz he aint comin back

  19. February 19, 2010

    Get out of your stress call me or tiger wood.

  20. finally seeing a little justice
    February 19, 2010

    Kaabeff,u always put things straight out there and i like that.u are so right about what women are like before and after the wedding.

  21. smally axa
    February 19, 2010

    i find dominica woman is to sweet me my self had more than 1 of them they r toooooo sweet but forget them i gone to guyana woman now they r even more sweeter

  22. Roses are Red
    February 19, 2010

    It is a real Shame to read some of the things written by other women. “Bag of sugar” ? no just another fool. why is it that one woman always think that they are sweeter than the other, when the truth is that most men don’t have a clue what that sugar is?

    Please women respect yourselves and, there is nothing sweet about another woman’s husband.

    It is always a sister that hurts another sister. In the name of I am sweeter than you. well when your turn comes don’t cry. THE WORLD IS ROUND.

  23. February 19, 2010

    How do you know the woman was harassing, calling and threatening the man? How do you know she was having marital problems, lost a baby and needed help? Did your husband tell you that?

    Hahaha, wake up and smell the coffee. Darling he played you big time. For the most, he was having a nice sweet relationship and was making up these stories to fool you. Most likely that child was his, TRUST ME!

    Are you that naive? Oh please… Three years after he left you? It means he was in a steady relationship with the woman for at least 4 to 5 years. And you accepted the cheating because you wanted to blame ‘obeah’ Dominican woman, and not yourself or your husband.

    My dear, you were played and blame yourself. So just cut your losses. The man left you for another woman. It’s that simple, and don’t look for any excuses about Dominican women holding men.

    This is 2010. A 16 year old would have figured it out and stuck her foot up his butthole.

    But besides… do you know how to cook fish braf and chiway had? hmmmmm. Learn.

  24. Mentally Disturbed
    February 19, 2010

    Believer, I feel your pain mama, but everytime you say “men are dogs” you are essentially saying “women are female dogs” (I believe you know the term for that). Men cheat more so than women but so do women.
    Miss mama the other woman have no hold on the man, as disgraceful as we think the other women are, the issue is always the one doin the cheatin. If I’m married and some woman try to disrespect my wife, well, she’s simply out of my life. I ain’t gat 2 ask u twice.

  25. Karkabeff
    February 19, 2010

    Yes mam. Dominican women are sugar and spice. They have that sweetness down there that creates a vaccuum action on you. LOL

    Anyway, if you had treated your man better he would not have left. Some of you women take us men for granted too much. Before marriage you all do everything in house, bed and public that make a relationship great.

    Once the ring go on the finger and the surname change with a little Mrs. infront it all start putting rules like I dont like this, I dont like that, I dont do this or that. All before marriage you use to it like it was a natural! No one was better than you no matter how hard they try. I hate to sound like Mr.Nice Guy but if you had take care of you bidnezz the Dominican women regardless of how sweet she is would not have taken him. May the spirit of the ancestors be pleased…

    • dominican beauty
      April 24, 2010

      so true

  26. .......I.........
    February 19, 2010

    If a man cheats with another woman I don’t think he ever wanted or refused. He might have been playing hard to get but please..if your man left you for another woman its because he wasn’t yours in the first place! Yes I saidd it1

    February 19, 2010


    February 19, 2010

    Sweetheart, there is no hold. There’s a saying “men are dogs” yes they are. A man that cheats will always cheat regardless of whom he is with. If there is a man that don’t cheat, he is one in a million. My husband used to tell me he was working on a roof, had to fix kitchen cupboards, a bathroom, had to hang a door or whatever job he could think of. Because I knew that’s the job he does I would not question him, although I suspected him cheating and his many denials; one day I called a woman that left him an urgent message and engaged in a conversation with her – she said he was fixing her bathroom. Later that evening I confronted my husband about the bathroom repair, he did not know that I had spoken to that particular woman, he said and I quote “I wasn’t doing any repairs in that house”. I would take calls from different women about jobs. He knew I was suspicious so he had then say ‘work’, stupid me, would give him the messages. The messages were clues of which ones that called and when. I was fooled by my husband and the women he had affairs with. Using the phrase ‘my wife and I are having problems’ are not reasons for women or I should say so-called-women to get involved. There’s another saying ‘there are more women than men’ so not true. God created ADAM and EVE do you think he would have more women than men in the world. Have you ever thought of the number of women that are without a man in their life and the same of men? I say to the women out there if a man tells you he is having problems with his wife send him home to fix the problem. You can not repair their problem, with you getting in the midst you are making the problem worse, YOU are the problem. When are you all going to tell the men that they should stop lying and when are you going to stop inteferring. Men talk, women respond. Women, YOU know the men are MARRIED, if not in some cases, don’t YOU have the RESPONSIBILITY to INQUIRE. I don’t understand why when a man has no woman in his life he is not good enough and as soon as he has one every other woman wants him. There’s no hold, well, I personally don’t believe that.


  29. Anonymous
    February 19, 2010

    I know of a couple where, this mistress had practically taken over someone’s husband. After the wife saw a few texts from her on the husband’s phone, she literally called her and told her to leave her husband alone. And had a serious discussion with her husband.
    It appears that the women out there have absolutely no regards for other peoples relationships these days. But as you rightly said it takes two to tango.
    Now the mistress, has her man and a child, I wonder if she would like someone to do this to her. If this wife wants her relationship to work she should have a serious talk with her husband.

  30. Young Man in Dominica
    February 19, 2010

    lol dominican women have that bag a sugar down dey lol no joke Dominican women are the best

    • tete
      January 27, 2012

      dominican women are monkey lookings alllll
      so damn ugly..hey animals cause you do look like animals ..why do your husband cheat on you latinos are you were that good or that animal looking…hahahhhahahhahahahha
      get plastic surgery
      i am curious why do you all look like animals

      • rt
        December 1, 2012

        Why are you so angry Tete? Don’t think that you’re gaining the respect of others with these insults, on the contrary. Find another way of dealing with that anger, ow it’ll eat you alive. Good luck.

  31. dr love
    February 19, 2010

    woooossshhhhh my dear lady you have to beat the compition is just a bitty i can not tell you every thing on here but i would have you get your husband back in no time but any way hope that you still sees him and my girl do your best to get him back and there is no hold on any man some one does is best you can do it better you were not doing something or you was doing something wrong correct it and you will have you man back

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