18-year-old in affair with 49-year-old married woman

I am 18 years old now and lately I got entangled into  some affair with a married woman. It happened rather simply  enough: we met at a party, she invited me to her home and before we knew it we were having sex. And it is really good sex, I have to admit.

She is 49, has three kids and has been married for 25 years. She said her husband is not satisfying her anymore and they are just basically “living together”.

I know this is wrong but I don’t want to get out. The sex is just too good. But I know I must get out because eventually this whole thing will come crashing down.

What should I do?

Confused

Dear Confused,

Like all teenagers you are thinking with the wrong head. You are in this just because of the sex, nothing else. For a young man your age this is a very unhealthy relationship to be in because there is nothing ‘long term.’ Eventually, as you fear, this whole thing is going to come crashing down and you will be left ‘hanging.’

I suggest you cut contact with this married woman, who by the way could be your mother. Stay away from her at all cost. Don’t call, don’t text. Stick to someone your age, someone that has the potential for a long-term relationship. Enjoy your young life while it lasts but not in the way that you are doing it now.

Bella

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143 Comments

  1. March 11, 2013

    Confused: Since your letter was posted I expect your situation has changed. I know there are other young men out there in similar circumstances so I am going to use your case as a teaching tool. The strength you need to break free can come from deep within your own consciousness. If you will ask yourself these questions you will want to leave the woman. The more you think about the truth the stronger that WANT will become. You will find yourself running! (1) How do you know there is nothing left between her and her husband? This is the oldest story married people use when they are trying to entice somebody new to become their “lover”. The more often they tell it the more convincing they sound. (2) If it is true how do you know it is not her fault? (3) If she could turn against her husband how can you be sure she will not do the same to you in time? (4) Do you really want to be in a relationship with a woman who would do this to her husband? Is this the kind of person you can respect and trust? Don’t you know she is the type of “lover” who will talk about you behind your back? First she will brag about the young stud she has servicing her. Then she will tell anything you have confided to her and she will tell your faults. There is no honor in this kind of relationship. The people she will be talking to are not high class individuals. They are people like herself because these are the only friends a woman like her will have. They keep no secrets. They will tells others because that is he world they live in. (5) Would you want a man 31 years younger having sex with your mother? This woman has three children. They will never feel the same about her once they find out. You are taking their mom from them. (6) You should be afraid that her husband or one of the kids will kill you or have you taken care of. This is not a normal case of adultery if there is such a thing. Your situation has enough shame attached to it to envoke the ultimate wrath of the whole family. (7) This woman is taking away your life. No respectable young woman your own age will want to partner with you once she hears about this. And believe me, there will be people who make sure she hears. You are locking yourself in a world of low life people. These are the only people who will socialize with you. So to Confused asnd other like him out there I say this. Decisions have consequences. People make choices that only consider the present without looking ahead based on pleasure or gain that cannot last. Often mistakes cannot be reversed. Please break free – and run – from that illicite relationship. No explanation is necessary. Just be gone! No personal contact, no phone call, no letter, and o texing. Start to re-build your life. begin attending church. Join a youth group. Volunteer your time to a good cause. You will begin to meet some good people. A whole new world will opoen up to you – if you haven’t waited to long. Do it NOW – not tomorrow. Visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca click onto my 12 Lesson Workbook for new Christians called EAGLE COURSE. It can be studied from the screen or copied absolutely free. Let it be your road map into the future. I have nothing to sell. I have nohing for you to join. Only a lot of good stuff to share! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. diva girl
    April 5, 2012

    lol wow!! young man do you have a mother?? maybe you should ask her what she things about that??

  3. bunty
    December 20, 2011

    what is wrong that is wrong, when you yourself know that this is wrong then wrong then discontinue this practice , there are many way to engage yourself in another activities , the sex is not last and first work in the world make your carrier , study etc. if cant do then do what u like this is a temporary thing by time it will die itself you will yourself get rid . becoze now u r not too much high by ur mind it happens with everybody u r not alone person.the excessness of the everything is itself goes to end i mean destroy after sometime that old lady herself will search another guy who will be more younger than you so lets the thing happen or control ur sexual emotions

  4. Arab
    October 25, 2011

    My boy you gave too much details. All married men with a wife 49, married 25 years with 3 children will be asking questions. Hope you na get no one killed.

    Now to help you with your decision. think of her good and ask yourself will you marry her.

  5. Mane
    August 12, 2011

    Wait the man will blow your brains out one day.Have some respect for your self young man. Don’t be a spare tire you got all your life before you. She is just using you to satisfy her own needs not yours monkey.

  6. real
    August 2, 2011

    my brether i would live in the moment yea..up until i get caught and then oh well..especially if she have a dough..i would eat all de husband money..that that is in style now, older chicks, younger guys..hahah

  7. asitis
    July 19, 2011

    dem big woman like likkle boyz

  8. lala
    June 18, 2011

    D OLDER D GRAPE D SWEETER D WINE…..BUT IT CAN B BITTER TOO
    :-o

  9. Dimitri
    June 18, 2011

    This is just bad advice but no one can force you to do what you dont want to do. Just make it clear to her that you will ONLY be the SERVICE MAN, and nothing else. Simple as that.

  10. idi amin
    June 15, 2011

    vieux bowik lache’ wed is the best cause police cannot knock your door for child molestation.

  11. Aiai
    June 15, 2011

    Muslim need to be BANNED for pushing islam on everyone. Taking advantage of people in vulnerable situations and promising his religion will solve all their problems. DECEITFUL AND DISPICABLE.

    BAN HIM DNO

  12. Juice
    June 14, 2011

    She old, she wheezay, she wrinkled, she is granny, she is all kind of derogoratory name but mrs. old wheezay pumpum still powerful enough to attract an 18 year old boy smdh and laugh at some of all you and all you comments.

  13. Doggy mr no moral
    June 14, 2011

    :-| Old woman we taking home.

    • Anonymous
      June 18, 2011

      old woman will take him home too

  14. loco
    June 13, 2011

    pup pum rule…. dat we a say!!!

  15. June 13, 2011

    He ‘s not the only one,
    yet she is a married woman,he should leave her alone,and if she;s readiing this leave the b0oy alone,although I too had the same exsperience when I was 16-19 yrs old,if it was a girl,I would have said the same,and it still happening right now,up .. woman in 38yrs with a .. no more than 20 yrs old,but one thing…..she dont have money neither job,
    boy get out,go college,I did now I have damed good job payes real good

    • June 13, 2011

      correction kingshill woman

  16. Anonymous
    June 13, 2011

    This is not a new thing but it is an absurd thing—-Young buisnessmen do it with their elderly secretry,,,.. ITS ALL ABOUT SEX ! ! !

  17. shaggy
    June 13, 2011

    sweet woman i understand man she is a natural. the older the grape the sweeter the wine.

  18. Anonymous
    June 11, 2011

    Get out of there boy right now while u can

  19. seashore
    June 11, 2011

    boy tru ting!!!….somewoman playing like is GOLD THEY POOOPOOINGG.sacway gass….big boooo boooo they be…you will get a good one soon

  20. Anonymous
    June 11, 2011

    well i guess dat d young man is d only one to judge the situation all the comments i read are some a**holes who dont know sh** age is just a number

  21. nervous rex
    June 11, 2011

    THAT mister boasting there nuh? when i was 16 i had already cokay a 35 year old and a 48 year old. By de time iwas 18 i cokayed a 50 year old woman…no big deal

  22. Quen J
    June 11, 2011

    make her spend on u to cuz all now it maybe all have an 18 year old girl tht well want a bf an she have u spoilin ur life.while u could be enjoyin it wit some one ur age :lol: :-P :mrgreen:

  23. I like It
    June 11, 2011

    As a man the only thing I have against the young man is that, he is committing adultery at such a young age, but because of his youth and inexperience, he doesn’t want it to end and I can see why. I am sure she taught him all the nicest things about sex, like sucking her and great ass penetration which she probably want but is unable to get from her limp husband. I am sure the oral sex she gives him must be out of this world which is why he doesn’t want it to end

    • DR
      June 11, 2011

      Bro who ever you are throw wood on this B****untill she she cannot walk thats the way of life in Dominica and the wider World. Regardless of what those hypocrites say God will judge you later and as a matter of the World is always ending take yours while you can. Now let them who feel offended eat their Heart out while I seep my Hennesssy on the Rocks.

    • sam
      June 12, 2011

      he that commiting Adultery or THE WOMAN?

      SHE IS THE ONE COMMITING ADULTERY
      HE IS A FORNICATOR

  24. me
    June 10, 2011

    wat boy do you thing, u getin take.what if u neva get again :lol: :lol: ……if u doh want her let me knwo i will give u my #….. :lol: i a licle olda dan u (25)

  25. SPD
    June 10, 2011

    MU HAM MAD was a fales prophet :mrgreen:

    • Muslim_always
      June 12, 2011

      True prophets teach that Allah/God is One, unique thus should be worshiped without any mediators.

      True prophets prophesy about events to come to pass and they did.

      True prophet perform miracles.

      True prophets have impeccable characters.

      The prophet Muhammad peace be upon him had those characters and much more that befits a prophet.

      • oracle
        July 11, 2011

        Teach them the words of wisdom Muslim_alw. Their minds are to shallow to fathom the depths of the might of Allah. with Peace, enlighten there thoughts. Assalamu Alaikum wa Rahmatullahi wa Barakatuh. shalom!

      • March 11, 2013

        None of these things describe Muhammad. Those who knw history know differently. The Lord Jesus Christ said he was the door to salvation (John 10:9), and the ONLY way the heaven. John 14:6) No other religious leader ever dared to say such a thing. But wait! He also predicted his own death and said how he would die. He said he would rise again on the third day! On the morning of the third day when he stepped out of the tomb HE VALIDATED ALL HIS CLAIMS! I challenge you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca in the right hand margin click onto SERMONS. Then click onto my sermon MANY INFALLIBLE PROOFS. Let me share with you the evidence for the literal bodily resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead! I will give you the actual names of modern lawyers who said the evidence for Christ’s resurrection would stand up today in a court of law. Sincerely, Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  26. eh sa!
    June 10, 2011

    Bella making up stories!

    • Bella Hella
      June 11, 2011

      bella has nothing to talk about! Who the hell writes in with this

  27. Anonymous
    June 10, 2011

    Hahahaha…this could be any one of you Mama…remember no name no warrant..yow guys picture walking in on the act, and scream MAMA!!!!!!! what are you doing??????? ya that’s what am talking bout…

    Stella getting her grove on.. if Daddy can’t deliver…..

    yesterday man would do the nasty…..while mama sit on the big stone and cry….not any more…mama can do the nasty too…..mama fool your belly….and give the messenger turkey wings and fig as a reward….in his lunch bag, and send him to school…..just make sure his home work is done….

  28. fire
    June 10, 2011

    those boys dem times lookin fo man nasty. if this one ckeckin granny that’s hygienic.

  29. Anon.
    June 10, 2011

    Smh…. Why ask bella a question when you know the answer? There are certain questions in life you already have the answer to but you still want people to tell you what to do. Grow some balls, Think with your brain and not your dick and plan out your life. Im sorry to say that I am from this hopeless generation.

  30. golddigger
    June 10, 2011

    my boy young woman does use old man to get ahead.. so i advising to do the same.. let her take care of u.. send u school.. organize you.. take what u can get and move on… doh fall in love..

  31. possie crazy
    June 10, 2011

    when u get cake eat it my boy till ur belly full

    • mad sick head no goo
      June 10, 2011

      not just dat it look like bella making up them stories man,if is not a girl wit a married man or who like the man just for sex is about a man wit a married woman ect,look 4 another exciting story man :-?

  32. fuke-chillot
    June 10, 2011

    FIRST OF ALL BELLA OU PASSA DI MOUN LA SA!! Your first sentence is COMPLETELY WRONG!! and I quote “Like all teenagers you are thinking with the wrong head.” You are in no position to use the word “ALL” in this form. I wonder if you researched on your own and found any statistics showing that ALL teenagers are like the person writing their issue. Instead you should have said “Many” or “Majority” or a “small” percentage. In that sentence alone you are saying that every teenager around the globe thinks like him. My dear I wasn’t sexing nobody wife in my teen years and I haven’t till this day. MIND YOU and your advice!! IT DOESN’t Seem people read what you wrote properly.

  33. Gaza
    June 10, 2011

    wow to be a true playa you have to know how to play…. give her what she want if she demand too much boy you better run fast.

  34. Vybz
    June 10, 2011

    give me her name and number need to get some of that….. make her stammer my name

  35. Truth, Love, Peace
    June 10, 2011

    18 year old man, I hope you have completed high school. If you did you should be concentrating on attending College or University which would enable you when you graduate to obtain a good paying job and stable employment. If you are not attending school I also hope that you are employed.
    This type of behavior will get you nowhere. You are actually wasting your time on this women and spending this type of time with her.
    Many people go to Hell for sins of the flesh. You are too young to be indulging in such an affair and mainly for sex.
    One thing could lead to another. There are men who rape women and even murder them, including abducting children and doing likewise to them all because of sex and their love for sex. They cannot do without it.
    Listen to and read the news specifically the U.S. news and note what has happened and is presently happening to those whose life revolves around sex and are concentrating solely on sex. Some have lost their jobs, their wives and family because of this. There is one, a U.S. politician who is on the verge of losing his job.
    There are some people who love sex more than they love God and what would they not do to get it. Satan’s influence is great in your life and also that woman who is encouraging you.
    Both of you are in dire need of God’s blessing and graces.
    If her husband and herself are not enjoying marital bliss, something is wrong with that marriage. She should seek counseling. If this does not work she should separate and seek a divorce. It appears that she wants the best of two worlds.
    It is time to turn your life around and for one so young who has a full life ahead of him. You are acting as if you are an older man whose life is passing by and who wants all he can get out of life.
    Life consists of more than escapades in a woman’s bed.
    Straighten your head, mind and heart and pursue what is more important in life as a career. In the long run this will be beneficial to you. You will have enough time to meet women your age, date and someday get married and have children. This should also be your aim and goal in life.
    For your own good, present and future, I do hope you pay heed to the good advice and worthy comments on this Website.

    • Little raskal
      June 10, 2011

      Boring Boring – awwwwww sleepy. Somebody read me my bed time story.

    • Dreamer
      June 10, 2011

      Leave him alone. Let him enjoy this present moment. Keep your advices for those who still listen to you, or for yourself. Who are you to speak like that ? What do you know about him, his life, his desires, his dreams. None of your business.

      • outrage
        June 11, 2011

        O people we found muslium always one and only follower, lol, and der mouth be as rigthous as his, lol. people do not listen to people on here, they read peoples views, this is not a place for serman i leave that to my priest in curch, and wit de nonsense he always talking i think we know quiet a lot about him, as we all no he like to share his way of life on here,lol go back and keep dreaming

    • DR
      June 11, 2011

      What College you talking about you sound politically correct but you behind by a long way, the old woman is Schooling this young studs does he have to go to School??? I Did but that was in the 60s Wake up and smell the coffee.

  36. outrage
    June 10, 2011

    muslium always need to get his own page, so we can choose not to listen to the nonsense he always talking…..

  37. June 9, 2011

    Muslim Always, you have to realize that you are advocating self-righteousness–a nature that God rebuked and chastened in the man Job. Because self-righteousness is a sin against God, Eternal Spirit, who created us to glorify His Love and to magnify His Holy name.

    It took 40 years for God Almighty, to train an discipline Job’s attitude and conducts of self-righteousness, as He allowed Satan to buffet Job, but that was only because God loved Job; for he was not an evil man–in that Job maintained great faith in God Almighty.

    I admit that sometimes you write things that I can relate to, as a devoted Christian, who is filled with God’s Holy Spirit. But God’s Holy Spirit in me, is also the reason I understand that a person can claim to know everything about God and Ways of Love, because human wisdom and philosophy can poison their minds–which is already carnal.

    I see that you are always sending people to a web site, as you claim Islam is the best. Whom do you think created those web sites? You do not claim to know God’s Holy Spirit, then who inspired those people who created those web, as you claim the information is the truth and nothing but the truth.

    Jesus is the only Man who claim “I am the Truth” He told His disciples “I will pray to the Father and He will give you another Helper, that He may abide in you forever–the Spirit of Truth” John 14: 16

    It is by the wisdom and revelation of God’s Holy Spirit that I know that not every one who says I am a Christian is actually living the New Life through a personal or intimate Love relationship with God Almighty by faith in His Person of Love–Jesus Christ.

    And it is also by the authority of God’s Holy Spirit that I can encourage people to seek, find, and build that Love relationship with God, by their faith in Jesus Christ

    But what do you think you are doing, always exalting Islam, as you continue to speak more and more unfounded and unbeliever information to my people. What do you think you are doing by telling people that Jesus was a muslim?

    If that was true, why are muslims known as followers of Muhamed? Did Muhamed claim to be the Way, the Truth, and the Life? Or do you actually believe that Jesus stands behind Muhamed.

    Do you realize that is what you are implying, the you put Jesus in the same category with Noah and Mohamed. How foolish that you even acknowledge that Mahamed was last. Information tells us that he is the founder of Islam, so how do you suggest Jesus was a muslim,

    Not that I want any answers from you, though! You have never mentioned receiving information from God’s Holy Spirit.

    And I promise you that He is the only One who would speak such a thing to you; but He won’t, because this is absolutely false information–another lie that you accepted from God’s enemy–his name is Lucifer, better known as Satan.

    You are simply confusing and building doubts in those who are searching for Life, which only comes in a person by his/her faith in Jesus Christ; for in Him there was Life and the Life was the Light of men. John 1: 4

    You are influencing people to continue to exist, doing the things of night and walking in darkness, as you interfere in their choice to seek the truth, by their faith.

    I can use many, many, scriptures of the Holy Bible along with my knowledge of God and His Ways of Love, by my faith and the Power of His Holy Spirit who lives in me, but I will not waste precious time with you.

    But I am suggesting that you stop advocating those lies that you are feeding on from Satan to my people of Dominica. For you are advocating death to us, not Life, we have enough trouble accepting it by our own channel of faith, as it is already.

    Thank you for your consideration

    • Muslim_always
      June 10, 2011

      All the prophets were muslims @ Liz

      Thus we follow the prophet of our time which is the last and seal of prophethood, Muhammad peace be upon him.

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 10, 2011

        Muslim:

        You really write a lot of crap. You were falsely indoctrinated and led astray.
        This is another joke as far as Christians are concerned.
        You are so deceived. So much for your last prophethood. Tell us where is his soul in eternity.
        You act as if he created the world, human beings and all that is in the world and he can save souls.
        If you knew where the soul of Muhammad is you would lament and never cease doing so until the day you die. There is no peace where he is but eternal suffering.

    • Little raskal
      June 10, 2011

      Somebody please Wake me up when he is done

  38. Truth, Love, Peace
    June 9, 2011

    This is not the first I have (also) heard of young men having affairs with other women. Some of them marry the older women who are as old as their grandmother. It makes me wonder how sincere those young men are and also those older women.
    You know the saying, “sugar daddy”. We can also state the same for the woman who keeps a young man, lavishing him with money, food, clothing and housing to keep him in her company.
    There are older men who do likewise to young women, sometimes three times their age.
    From what this young man stated, it appears it is only a sexual relationship. She is having fun with him and he is having fun with her. How long will this last? If a relationship is based only on sexual encounters, it will never last.
    There is some problem in that marriage which is the reason why her husband has grown cold.
    The wife is lonely and is not satisfied with her husband’s attitude. Have these people sought counseling to rectify their marriage?
    He does not satisfy her. Did she discuss this with her husband?
    Do not just take what she stated for granted.
    Some people seek advice and solutions but they must be honest about their situation and what caused a partner to grow cold. There is always a reason or more reasons.
    It appears to me that the wife needs to have a good discussion with her husband.
    18 year old man, my advice to you is to get out of this situation before you get hurt. You are being used.
    What if her husband finds out and what if he finds both of you in such intimacy? Consider what he may do to either one of you.
    You are swimming in chattered waters. Get out of this before it is too late.
    In time you will meet a woman of your age, even a few years older (not one who could be your mother or grandmother) whom you could have an enjoyable relationship with.
    For your happiness and peace of mind, pay heed.

    • DR
      June 11, 2011

      You fall under that catorgory tell us some thing we do not know.

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 13, 2011

        Then if you know something, write something to educate those who may not know something that they may learn something from you. :mrgreen:

  39. Irie
    June 9, 2011

    Garcon, dat is looseness, mind your wood doh dry rot and fall off. Another thing is you not ready for that kind of sex yet, that sex will waytay you, you will get a nice chick and you wouldn’t be able to commit completely to her because you will keep going back for that sex. The sex so good because de woman experience, very few wome your age can deliver dat. Mark my words, you will pay de price for that forbidden fruit, and then your ‘grown and sexy’ will be in menopause and is not wood she will be interested in. You hear I warn you?

  40. Anonymous
    June 9, 2011

    boy u need blowsssssssssssssssss

  41. nectar
    June 9, 2011

    Boy behave urself……… keep on doing what you doing and give d lady what she want…..soon word will get around and you will have many of these kind of women at your disposal.the husband wrong for not keep hisself up to par and staying ahead of the game…….keep on pimping my yute and do play like no marco….give them what they want!

  42. advice 4 u
    June 9, 2011

    my boy…you in some deep s..t! Number 1, is so the devil trapping young people. ‘The sex was good” = warming signal that you will not want to leave and neither will she want you to leave, as you stated and she told you that her husband is not satisfying anymore. and now to swing over to some hard d/a talk…dat woman have a well weezey p…. and she want young d…? but wat d h…? stupes. boy leave dat eh nyak

  43. Sage Advice
    June 9, 2011

    Young man, I strongly advise you to leave this woman, since not only she’s be old enough to be your grandmother, you’re just the booty call she’s taking advantage of when she’s in heat, trust me, it would only bring you pain if she is causing you to do things that you would not normally do, just so she can have you all to herself. The fact alone she has a ring on her finger should tell you to get out of that situation, because how would you like it if you find your wife with a young man your age, believe me, there’s a world of hurt if you continue to see her, don’t say you weren’t warned about the serpent.

  44. sam
    June 9, 2011

    Aye Padna! The p0onany not wrinled man?
    49 yrs?3 children? That wee- zay!!!

    Go Easy padna!!!!!

    • sam
      June 9, 2011

      WRINKLED I MEAN

  45. youth
    June 9, 2011

    I can understand if is an 18 yrs old lady that’s with a 49 yr old man….but the other way around? ohhh mmyyy God!!!!!!

    You mean she is that Hot at her age? wow!
    Does she even have wrinkles? lol

    • jewels
      June 9, 2011

      No at 49 she is dead and don’t like sex anymore she is walking with a stick or probably in a wheelchair and shaking boy allyou sort wi Do you know of any 49 year old woman who is wrinkled ? Not even 60 year olds that are wrinkled. You can understand an 18year old lady with a 49 year old man? Now what will you say about the man? I mean can he still get hard ?

      • Anonymous
        June 10, 2011

        you to com-pa-ra-tion. life begins at 40..leave the woman take her young bud…shaite man

      • hmmmm
        June 10, 2011

        you to com-pa-ra-tion..who say the woman wrinkle…life begins at 40..so young man give the the wood….let her wink up

  46. FROM A GUY
    June 9, 2011

    ITS ONE GOD WITH DIFFERENT NAMES.
    OTHER PEOPLE RELIGION CAME FROM ONE SOURCE AND AFTER TIME PEOPLE MAKE IT INTO THE OWN WILL AND WAY. MAN WROTE THOSE BOOKS INTO THEY BELIEF SO YOU MAYBE BRAINWASH OR ALL REGLIGION ARE BRAINWASH. SO PLEASE DON’T JUDGE OR SAY ONE IS BETTER THAN OTHER.

    • Muslim_always
      June 9, 2011

      Are you saying that Allah sent no guidance for mankind? How misguided this statement you have made.

      • FROM A GUY
        June 10, 2011

        THERE IS ONE GOD WITH DIFFERENT NAME AND PEOPLE MAKE THIER OWN BELIEVES.

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 10, 2011

        Muslim:

        Do not make me laugh. Please tell us where it is in your Koran that your Allah sent guidance for mankind? Which mankind are you referring to? :twisted: Certainly not our mankind.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 11, 2011

      The comments of some of you non-Christians, atheists, agnostics and non-practicing Christians, fallen away ones depict that you greatly err and teach what is false which has led others astray from the truth and practicing the truth. Be careful what you teach others lest you pay a great price for all eternity. God is hearing and taking note.
      Learn the facts!
      All religions are by no means one and the same. For one, if they were one and the same, “they would have the same name”, under one earthly Head of the Church, in obedience to The Church’s Dogmas, Doctrines, religious beliefs, teachings and devotions. They would also worship in the same Church in love, peace and unity. It is the first time I have ever thought of it and stated it. It just crossed my mind. Therefore I attribute this, hopefully, through Divine inspiration.
      I have never viewed the Hindu and Muslim beliefs as a religion. In fact, they were never regarded as a religion because they are non-Christians who rejected Our Lord Jesus Christ.
      In this era some people have given specifically Islam, credence as being a religion. It is not! As much as these people think, Islam is also not superior to the Christian religion/faith and never will be. God has ordained that it is so and always will be.
      Christianity is a religion. The Founder and Foundation is Our Lord Jesus Christ.
      Keep in mind which religion was first established, 2011 years ago. Then, through the years some others formed their own religion based on disobedience, greed, status and material possessions. If you listen to the news and read the newspapers, you should be able to deduce this. Furthermore, if you possess godly enlightenment you will know it. You will know it, accept it and not dispute it.

      • DR
        June 11, 2011

        BoringGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGGG.

  47. papamet
    June 9, 2011

    women now run things.. they picking whatever age they want. boy share her with your friends. women now are just interested into sex. they take over from men. a woman’s world now papa. things will surely get nasty soon. u better run fast. the husband may kill both of u.

  48. King
    June 9, 2011

    hmmm this is common. sad time for the world.at least we know now not only men rocking the cradle. lots of women doing this thing secretly. she is raping this boy. so sad.

  49. seeking truth
    June 9, 2011

    i do not believe that it is right to say bad things sbout no one’s religion. every one has the right to worship. this is a problem i have with christians, they are so quick to judge. There are many muslims that are kind, loving and generous people, who are not happy with terrorism. people kill in the name of allah for theur own selfish reasons, the whole muslim community should not pay for their actions. so many people kill and commit crimes everyday are they all muslims, has no catholics or christians been ever convicted of crime. give me a break, you have leaders of churches who are involved in terrible acts. we hear of priest and pastors involved in buggery. we have pastors who cheat on their wives, y condemn muslims because of a few cowards commiting crime, by the way i am not a muslim, i do not belong to any religion.

  50. older woman wit youn
    June 9, 2011

    let me tell you us older ladies will teach yu younger men such a lesson you can not leave us alone lol

  51. Francis Chicago
    June 9, 2011

    MUSLIM ALWAYS ARE YOU DOMINICAN WHERE IN DOMINICA YOU FROM .

    • Muslim_always
      June 9, 2011

      None of your business sir, let’s deal with the issues and stop being personal. Grow up!

  52. jewels
    June 9, 2011

    Ahhhh Boy smdh I have to laugh at my people double standards! what a bunch of hypocrites. I hope the 18 year old women with the older married enjoy themselves too since its only sex. Stop calling them salop
    slut and whore

  53. for real
    June 9, 2011

    this is not the muslim vs the world column. a teenager is killing himself with an older woman and neither allah nor christ said this is right.this young man should go enjoy himself with someone his age group, grow up, and make a wonderful life for himself. there is no future nor happiness with an older, married woman. by the time her ‘swefness’ finish she will no longer have use for you and that not good on your resume young man. you not no male whore!

  54. tea
    June 9, 2011

    @ naming it…. am a man… and if any older lady and married if i may add comes up to me again is a house am looking for next. Because she isn’t going to use me because my dick is sweet and i can get a good hard on. At the end of the day is not love she look for… am a realist ..GET OVER IT!!

  55. Anonymous
    June 9, 2011

    Cougar

  56. June 9, 2011

    if i were u i would keep a low profile with ur islam carp.
    dominica for dominicans

    • Muslim_always
      June 9, 2011

      A little reading about islam would help. It is not crap. Did you listen to Barack Obama when he said the west owes its debt to Islamic civilization?

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 9, 2011

        In what way? So Wrong!

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 10, 2011

      @ south city

      Good response. Also Christianity for all Dominicans. This is how it was and should be today and predominantly so.

  57. June 9, 2011

    you’ve been a naughty boy

  58. come on!
    June 9, 2011

    not fair Bella, what about the poor woman needs? doesn’t she deserve some good sex also? im sure her hubby must be about 10-15yrs older than her? so just imagine the kinda sex she must be getting from him…so give the woman a break! not that she is looking a relation with the guy? its just sex! what is so wrong with that?

    • malpardee
      June 9, 2011

      she is married and god is a factor when comes to marriage.

    • DR
      June 11, 2011

      If you`re a woman call me or email me at PASS CARL.COM waiting patiencely.

  59. shatta
    June 9, 2011

    boy that woman must be from grandbay cuz granbay man cah satisfy there woman good an they always want other man….

  60. Like it is
    June 9, 2011

    people,people my peeps!! Listen to me. How did Sir Garlfield Sobers, Viv Richards, Lara etc even our under praised Irving become such good batsmen? practice,practice, Practice where ,when & how they could.
    take your secing practice guy. Moreover you helping an advancing close to senior citizen prepare for retirement. Bella said to live her then what go to you Bella? Isuspect you Bella as you maybe in that age group like the 49-er.

    • Like it is
      June 9, 2011

      sexing, and leave corrections. Just typos.

    • Gator
      June 10, 2011

      Tell me Tell me just what is wrong with being
      49 48, 50 for that matter ? Hopefully some of you are lucky enough to reach that age intact with the kind of life style that some of all you choose to adopt. I am a very attractive beautiful and healthy 48 year old I also happen to have 5 kids and I can tell you that no part of my body is wheezay or falling apart with any wrinkles or stretch marks is the way you take care of your body and I look at some younger women who look like they been through how many different world wars they are only in their twenties
      so stop showing your ignorance and stupidity, stereotyping people some men can’t even get hard after reaching a certain age, so don’t talk about wheezay is not dead yet but some of all you thing dead at 30 :mrgreen:

  61. J0j0
    June 9, 2011

    lol….Make her get read of the husband my boy…It’s ur house now…then make her buy u a nice ride…if is wood she like..bring ur best padna and line dat up boy..U’RE THE MAN…trust me she will agree.. :mrgreen:

    • Uncle Dildo
      June 9, 2011

      Yes Sah. Put wood in the fire doh let it out. Just remember to ask who is her daddy now :lol: I am very proud of you so just handle ur business right. Nuff horn in mister head

    • nectar
      June 9, 2011

      Blows on that…..whole day, whole night.Put blows on that.NO LOVE

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 10, 2011

        Reading the comments of some of you, your minds are warped. :twisted: What type of people are you to make such statements? Your advice is not worth adopting and practicing. Shape up!

  62. mrs
    June 9, 2011

    boy you young enjoy your life ehhhh..sex nice :-P
    remember always use a condom

  63. Reader
    June 9, 2011

    Pre-Med said it best! Just recently a young woman wrote about having sex with a guy who she suspects of being married and more than 50 comments all calling her the most filthy names. She was a slut, a whore, a freak. I read the most venomous attacks. Now, it’s an 18 y.o with a 49 y.o married woman, and everyone is sanctioning it! Make her pay for school … put a patan smile on her face … don’t get caught up, it’s just sex! Double standards and ignorance! I hope the next time it is a young girl, all you tell her take it for what it is and get her college money too! Unbelievable!!!

    • Anonymous
      June 9, 2011

      I AGREE.

    • Sweet Pea
      June 9, 2011

      True that!

    • WAT HAPPEN
      June 9, 2011

      I TOTAL AGREE

    • Sunshine
      June 9, 2011

      Well said, Just simply the double standard lives we live.
      Young man get out of that relationship. You may be happy now it destruction and sadness will come in the morning.

    • trixxi
      June 9, 2011

      :) :-D yea yea its a man as allu say men are dogs so wat we get we hve to take its bad on women side not on ours lol

    • youth
      June 9, 2011

      so unbelieveable!!!!!!!!!!!

      and this is a worst case!!

    • fatouche
      June 9, 2011

      i agree 1000000%

  64. Real Dominican Diva
    June 9, 2011

    I know the feeling, when I was 16 I was with a guy 30 years my senior,I came to the realization that that was nonsense and a girl at that age have no business being with someone well over her age.

    • Muslim_always
      June 9, 2011

      Nothing wrong with the 16-30 age group. It’s where the happiness is. My only opposition to this relationship is the fornication. However, nothing would be wrong if it was within the boundaries of marriage.

      • REAL DOMINICAN DIVA
        June 10, 2011

        WHAT I’M SAYING IS THAT HE WAS LITERALLY 30YEARS OLDER THAN ME, NOT JUST 30 YEARS OLD. I WAS 16 AND HE WAS 46!

    • hmmmm
      June 10, 2011

      damn salop

    • DR
      June 11, 2011

      A****Hole learn that from the Doctor is not the size of the Dog” But, the fifght in the Dog. You do not have to pay me for that.

  65. Piper
    June 9, 2011

    Bella, how could the woman be his mother? She is old enough to be his mother.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 9, 2011

      Did you not understand what Bella stated? Bella did not say that the woman is his mother. She said that the woman could be his mother, i.e., the woman is old enough to be his mother. Do you comprehend this?

      • Piper
        June 9, 2011

        Did you not read the second line of my post? I understood what she wrote, but the statement she made was incorrect.

      • Anonymous
        June 9, 2011

        nice explanation.

      • malpardee
        June 9, 2011

        They cannot comprehend. they rather post nasty comments and don’t understand english correctly.

  66. tea
    June 9, 2011

    I think it was a good experience for you.Now you’ve got that get out!! I myself was in one, and to tell you the truth it was some damn good sex ..I hope its not the same lady.. I was with.. if its her ask her to pay your college fees if you are in college….

    • Naming it
      June 9, 2011

      That’s how you went to college Tea? U know how this is coined?? yes you certainly do.prostitution.

      • nectar
        June 9, 2011

        BIG..PIMPING :twisted: :mrgreen:

  67. Pre-Med
    June 9, 2011

    you guys are such hypocrites! If this was an 18 year old girl sleeping with a married man, she would be called ALL kinds of “loose, slut, whore, salop” etc. But since its a young man, he gets a high five and a pat on the back.
    typical Dominican…

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 9, 2011

      You are so correct. Note the difference; gender discrimination. I have read some bad words about the women.

  68. firestar
    June 9, 2011

    1 man can’t satisfy her she need more wood for the fire

  69. firestar
    June 9, 2011

    ba you bwa

  70. fire
    June 9, 2011

    make shure she pay u well my boy.

  71. Sweet Pea
    June 9, 2011

    What should you do??? WELL…if you are in it just for the sex then you dont have anything to worry about. it is wrong yes, but that it will all come crashing down…i dont think so. only if you fall in love or brag about what you are doing, then it might come crashing down. Chances are she will never breath a word of this to any one because she would be too ashamed if anyone found out. Afterall…she is having sex with another womans baby. and she wont leave her husband for u so if you looking for a no strings attached sexual relationship, u have no conscience and or moral values,and u are bent set on wasting your time then where you are is the place to be.

  72. Uncle Dildo
    June 9, 2011

    Play yourself young man while it last. Never turn your back on good sex. The older the grapes the sweeter the wine. As long as she is left with a patan smile on her face then its all good.

    • Anonymous
      June 9, 2011

      my thoughts

    • hmmmm
      June 10, 2011

      you got that shit right

  73. Muslim_always
    June 9, 2011

    Young man you are simply the woman’s sex toy. She has been looking for a young stud all along because perhaps her husband cannot make a quarter to 6, 5 to 6 or 6 o clock again. It seems the man can only stay at 6:30. :lol:

    My friend Satan is making the sex very appetizing so that you would stay in this filthy relationship, don’t fall for that trap. If you fall into this a next time remember Allah is not present in that setting, the devil is, he is whispering all the sexual connotations and scenery.

    Also, are you sure you are the only young stud she is having sex with? Are you using protection? The woman could lie to you about her husband and she could be a nympho (someone with an extremely large sexual appetite).

    You see, only Islam could solve this problem, all the woman would have to do is ask her husband for a divorce, she gives him back his dowry if she is really not satisfied, the divorce takes 3 monthly period cycles then if you really have feelings for each other then you could pursue something.

    Seek Islam my friend, it’s the only way. My duty is to convey the message. On judgement Day all non Muslims who have read this yet failed to act will have to answer to Allah on that great day.

    http://www.whatsislam.com
    http://www.islam101.net
    http://www.whyislam.org

    • Uncle Dildo
      June 9, 2011

      Islam is a cult. The only thing good about it is that the so called prophet muhammed was a brilliant psychologist and hence propagated his ideas to the least suspecting in the middleeast. Today, it is the cult with the most muderous record. Women beware of this so called islamic propagadist living in dominica among you. His aim is to seek, still and destroy to enhace the numbers in his cult.

      • Peeping Tom
        June 9, 2011

        Uncle Dildo: “Islam is a cult.” Is this another sick joke?

      • Truth, Love, Peace
        June 9, 2011

        Uncle Dildo:

        You are correct. As you are doing, we must try our utmost to propagate our Christian faith and inform those Christian haters which one is The One and Only True Faith and that they have swayed and some are swaying from the Heart of the Matter and which matters, namely Our Lord Jesus Christ who estabished His Christian Faith upon earth that all might be saved if they believe and obey His (Our) Heavenly Father’s teachings, commands and expectation.
        Granted we are not perfect people who are striving for perfection and who continue to do so. Perfection is ongoing.
        God knows what we are up against in this world of temptations, His enemy and the enemy of our soul.
        In my further simple words, God who wants us all to come to the knowledge of the truth and faith and to be saved is not compassionate, merciful and forgiving for nothing.
        God bless you!

    • My2Sense
      June 9, 2011

      Islam is a cult? Much unlike Christianity or Judaism… or any other religion for that matter?

      They all exhibit different cult-like behaviors, so choose your poison and don’t disrespect the choices of others.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 9, 2011

      From what you stated it is a lot of nonsense. :twisted: This is poor advice which will benefit no one.
      Pertaining to Islam solving problems, it is obvious to the entire world, the sensible people of the world who also possess godly enlightenment that Islam cannot solve anything. If it could, it would solve the terrorism in the world which emanated from its very own people and followers.
      Also, giving back a dowry it appears that Islam men marry for money, to get rich and not because they love the women as they also dominate them.
      They are supposed to work to lovingly support the women and not get rich from marrying them.
      Seek Islam? This is a sure way to Hell and eternal suffering of the soul.
      Jesus Christ is The Way, The Truth, The Life and The Light of the world. He has told us so and according to His teachings as contained in The Holy Bible of The New Testament.
      Many have attested to it and confirmed the truth of it. This includes those of us Christians who are alive, we have proof of it and proof of the saints who have predeceased us according to their writings, memoirs and life story as contained in their diaries; now documented in books and other relevant writings.
      Tell me Muslim, what miracle did Mohammed perform when he was alive? Did he emotionally and physically heal anyone and told them, “Your faith has healed you. Go in peace, to love and serve the Lord”, and continue to do so to this day as Christians worship Him and pray to Him?
      Did Mohammid console anyone and permanently so? Did he also live a life of godliness, purity, sacrifice and according to The Ten Commandments of God? This means sanctity?
      Did Mohammed sacrifice his life for anyone?
      Did he live a life of poverty, a sacrificial life? By this I do not mean one who had nothing to eat and to wear.
      Did Mohammid not teach an eye for an eye and a tooth for a tooth as his followers continue to this day and no doubt to the end of the world, to murder all those who are not of that faith?
      You call that a religion and faith? Islam cannot save one soul!
      Our Lord Jesus Christ said to “Love one another. Do good to those who hate you…”
      Love is not the teaching of Islam. You cannot love if you have hate in your heart for others and want to murder them for their religious beliefs, placing bombs throughout the world which has killed thousands of people and I foresee, if not million of them by the end of the world, whenever that will take place.
      Our Christian brothers and sisters are being murdered in some countries by those of the Islam so-called faith.
      May Dominica never experience this problem.
      May our One and Only Triune God who has taught us love for all, protect Dominica and fellow Dominican Christians from this fate.
      Our God saves and He reigns on high, in Heaven. Praise be to our loving, good, compassionate, merciful and forgiving God.
      Muslim convert or re-convert to Christianity and you will find true peace and joy, able to love one another and to forgive them for even what they have not done to you but practicing their Christian faith.

      • Muslim_always
        June 9, 2011

        Learn about Islam at

        http://www.whatsislam.com
        http://www.islam101.net
        http://www.whyislam.org

        Take the time to look into the sites and keep an open mind. I left “Christianity” 11 years ago after extensive study. Another comment I told you some of the books I’ve researched, what have you researched about Islam? You cannot have a dialogue if you are brainwashed by Catholic church and western media. Also, I do not support any of the belief system of Catholic church, the trinity, the rosary, intercession with the saints etc. None of the prophets did this. The messiah never had a rosary, he never taught the trinity or intercession of saints. He taught pure monotheism, the belief in worshiping Allah alone without any intermediaries as the messiah was a devout servant and worshiper.

      • Reality
        June 9, 2011

        Ohhh,Lord have mercy. Truth, Love and Peace you have said it.
        Matthew 7:15 “Beware of the false prophets which comes to you in sheep’s clothing, but inwardly they are ravening wolves. vs16: Ye shall know them by their fruits….”

      • Little raskal
        June 10, 2011

        I’ll wake up when the alarm clock comes on. i’ll snooze too.

    • Truth, Love, Peace
      June 9, 2011

      Muslim:

      How much more could you be convinced that you are teaching and preaching heresy? :twisted: :mrgreen: Heresy is punishable by death, eternal death.
      Your day will come when you will experience the truth of the matter. This has already included millions of you who have predeceased us and more to come, those who murder innocent people for practicing their Christian faith.
      I reiterate that Islam cannot save a soul – not one soul! Those who renounce Christianity and join Islam are doomed. They are going down slippery slopes to which some who have predeceased us have already arrived at.
      I do not want to judge but your leader, Mohammed is in Hell, suffering for all eternity for renouncing His Catholic Christian beliefs and teaching propaganda and the untruth of what Our Lord Jesus Christ taught us, including propagating lack of peace in the world.
      Our Lord Jesus Christ is in Heaven, sitting at the right hand side of His (Our) Heavenly Father waiting with open arms for those who will willingly accept Him.
      Holy Scriptures: “My Lord said to my lord, sit at my right hand until I make your enemies your footstool.”
      This is what will happen to those who reject Christianity, who refuse to worship Him and who do not believe that Our Lord Jesus Christ is Lord, King and Saviour of the world.
      Those who teach against Christianity are doomed forever. They will be keeping company with Satan and his corteges for all eternity.
      Let me further inform you, as it is stated, at the hour of death, it is God and Satan. Satan will make himself dominant as well, taunting souls for their lack of faithfulness, specifically those who have renounced Christianity.
      I have previously stated that “YOU WILL NOT ENTER HEAVEN ON YOUR OWN TERMS. IT WILL BE ONLY ON JESUS’ TERMS.” For God so loved the world that He gave His Only Son that whoever believes in Him might be saved, if we obey His (Our) Heavenly Father’s Will.
      Islam was formed after Christianity on the sins and through the sins of a disobedient man, Mohammed. How can anyone ever think that Islam is superior and greater than Christianity? Those who do are out of their minds and are in dire need of God’s blessing, graces and enlightenment.
      Therefore, cease your nonsense and cease corrupting the hearts and minds of gullible people, specifically the young who are vulnerable.
      You better believe it! For those who believe, no explanation is necessary. For those who do not believe no explanation is possible. Based on this and on the teachings of Christianity, I feel sorry for you and all others of the Islam faith.
      May Our God enlighten you!

      • Muslim_always
        June 9, 2011

        Have you read the sites I posted for you? I guess not, keep posting lengthy comments which lacks any knowledge and spiritual insight. Also, Islam did not start after Christianity, that is a false claim. Islam is an arabic word which means submission to do the will of Allah. All the prophets from Noah up to Jesus and the last messenger Muhammad peace be upon them were muslims, one who submits to Allah. Jesus Christ peace be upon him was no Christian. Christianity was created by the false apostle paul who was a murderer and persecutor of christians; in order to destroy christianity from the inside, he made a fake conversion stating that he was struck by Jesus by some lightning. Can’t you see the Christian world is gone, pagan trinity, women in poom poom shorts coming to church, back out, fornication, pedophilia with little boys, Pastors committing adultery on a wide scale. Can’t you see that more youth in America and Europe are attracted to Islam? Many are embracing Islam and that is what America and Europe are afraid of because we challenge western imperialism.

    • Francis Chicago
      June 9, 2011

      MUSLIM ALWAYS IT IS TIME FOR YOU TO STOP PURSUE PEOPLE TO ISLAM.You know that she married.BUT still you follow the desire of your sinful nature. AM 18 she 49 so as I told you before the sinful nature love to do evil, Which is just the opposite from what the holy spirt wants.

    • FROM A GUY
      June 9, 2011

      STOP PUSHING ISLAM ON PEOPLE. HOW CAN YOU JUDGE THIS YOUNG MAN, YOU AND YOUR FELLOWERS ARE NOT GOD.

      THIS YOUNG MAN IS IN THE PRIME OF HIS LIFE THIS IS A PASSING MOMNENT.

      IF SHE WASN’T MARRIED I BET EVERYONE WOULD BE OK WITH IT. THE MAIN PROBLEM THAT SHE IS MARRRIED.

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