Ex lover wants to reignite an old flame

Dear Bella: My boyfriend of 3 years who broke up with me wants to get back together.

We were really going down a bad road in our relationship and he had major issues trusting me because of infidelities in previous relationships. He also was leaning on the controlling, possessive side. It was getting so frustrating that we decided to part. However after six months he’s telling me that he wants things to work out, but he was intimate with someone. I never did anything with anyone since we’ve broken up and neither have I gone out on any dates.

He already cheated on me countless times while we were together. Should I give him another chance?

In Two Minds.

Dear In Two Minds,

It’s time to move on. You should also let your ex lover know that as well. It doesn’t make sense being with someone who you can’t trust and who can’t trust you either. You will have a hard time achieving happiness, and maybe you should focus your attention on someone who you don’t have so much of a messed up past with. Just don’t rush into anything with anyone who you’re not sure about and will end up hurting you again.


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    June 1, 2011

    :twisted: no he dont deserve a gurl like u u sound like one in million

  2. anonymous
    July 29, 2010

    leave him selff.. some men just doe know wa da good for them move on with your life eh girl and find your happiness for true

  3. July 29, 2010

    my dear just move on ,this man is controllingand the list goes on he cheated on you so many times once a cheater always a cheated i am in there i can tell you will be so unhappy.DON”T TAKE HIM BACK,you will be hurting all over again and BELLA gave you the best advices.DON”T WORRY JUST BE HAPPY.

  4. Terrible
    July 28, 2010

    Listen to that calypso from Benno – Once Twice!

    Nuff Said !

  5. CB CUZ
    July 28, 2010

    STUPES STUPES STUPES stupes stupes

  6. BJ
    July 28, 2010

    @Pearl Howard-Challenger: I thought about that ! !

  7. BJ
    July 28, 2010

    My girl, take Bella’s advice and move on….. please.
    This kind of possesive and controlling nature does not go away easily.You have been there …. you have been through a not too good experience with ths gentleman so please move on…… I have heard older persons say ” going back is danger “.
    Pray about this situation in your life and WAIT on the Lord, my friend !

  8. Pearl Howard-Challenger
    July 28, 2010


    A leopard doesn’t change its spots. He will continue to cheat and want control. Let the man go about his business, he may just be bringing some sickness to you.


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