Our family friend is married, helpful and also a Christian, however she is closer to my husband than me. She sends lunch occationally to my him or would invite him for lunch at her home, even when I’m home.
I ensure I cook three tasty meals daily at our home, yet still she insist on offering my husband meals.
I don’t think my husband and our family friend is having an affair because I trust my husband and he is very helpful and friendly.
Should my husband continue accepting meals from our family friend? My friends think I should stop this practice before its too late, as it just don’t seem and look right.
It is a very unusual that your family friend is insisting that your husband should come for meals at her home despite the fact that you cook at home. We all have the right to have friends, including your husband, but there should be boundaries.
I think you should talk to your husband about it, let him know that you have no problem with him having friends and that you trust him, but the constant invitation for meals at the family friend’s home is not healthy. Having meals with your husband strengthen the bond between the two of you and you should try to keep it that way.
Talk to the family friend and explore the possibilities of having your husband and you come to her home for a meal maybe once a month, just to strengthen bonds of friendship.
But the constant invitation, offering and acceptance of meals at her home should stop.
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