Dear Bella: I have been the topic of scorn and gossip among my co-workers.
For some reason, they just do not like me, and use their tongues to tear down my good name. I have heard from others what they have said about my relationship with my boyfriend; they even went as far as telling him that our new-born baby did not looked like him, suggesting that it was another man’s child. That was not true at all (it was proven); furthermore I had no outside relations.
I do not gossip with these people and because I am not part of their gossip crew I think that incites the jealousy. Even those who I trusted in have teamed up with this particular female, whose tongue is very dangerous. She manipulates the other ladies. I love my job very much, but it is hard for me to effectively work in this environment. How do I address this situation?
Dear gossip victim,
I need you to reflect and question what did you do to this particular co-worker, who is bringing majority of persons against you. If you have in any way did something to seriously offend your co-workers you should apologize to them.
On the other hand, your case seems more like a jealousy issue. Maybe you being an optimistic person minding your business, and getting praises at work for carrying out your duties exceptionally may be the reason for this. You may want to approach this woman (in a polite manner) and question why she is spreading rumors and gossiping about you. Also confront your other co-workers, whom you say you trusted; they should be more willing to hear you out. If that does not work address your concerns with management so this will ultimately be put to rest. Tell management that this is affecting you in the workplace and that you want this stop.
The tongue is a very dangerous weapon. It is not easy for some persons, particularly women to stop gossiping; you would even say they have a disorder. While the particular ‘gossip leader’ in your work may find it difficult to change, a meeting with management could knock some sense into her head.
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