Gossip girls getting too personal

Dear Bella: I have been the topic of scorn and gossip among my co-workers.

For some reason, they just do not like me, and use their tongues to tear down my good name. I have heard from others what they have said about my relationship with my boyfriend; they even went as far as telling him that our new-born baby did not looked like him, suggesting that it was another man’s child. That was not true at all (it was proven); furthermore I had no outside relations.

I do not gossip with these people and because I am not part of their gossip crew I think that incites the jealousy. Even those who I trusted in have teamed up with this particular female, whose tongue is very dangerous. She manipulates the other ladies. I love my job very much, but it is hard for me to effectively work in this environment. How do I address this situation?

Gossip victim.

Dear gossip victim,

I need you to reflect and question what did you do to this particular co-worker, who is bringing majority of persons against you. If you have in any way did something to seriously offend your co-workers you should apologize to them.

On the other hand, your case seems more like a jealousy issue. Maybe you being an optimistic person minding your business, and getting praises at work for carrying out your duties exceptionally may be the reason for this. You may want to approach this woman (in a polite manner) and question why she is spreading rumors and gossiping about you. Also confront your other co-workers, whom you say you trusted; they should be more willing to hear you out. If that does not work address your concerns with management so this will ultimately be put to rest. Tell management that this is affecting you in the workplace and that you want this stop.

The tongue is a very dangerous weapon. It is not easy for some persons, particularly women to stop gossiping; you would even say they have a disorder. While the particular ‘gossip leader’ in your work may find it difficult to change, a meeting with management could knock some sense into her head.


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  1. Anonymous
    January 9, 2012

    Bring your gun

  2. massacre
    June 20, 2010

    you must be employed at government headquaters because thats where those situation happen alot

  3. cassie
    March 24, 2010

    i just HAD to comment on this situation, i couldnt resist. because i am in the same situation with you girlfriend. and the thing is i have done absolutely nothing to these women or the particular one that instigates the gossip and manipulates the others. its pure jealousy i guess cause i have wrecked my brain to figure out what i did wrong but i came up with nothing. i am the youngest member of staff and the only unmarried one, with no children. i know what it feel like, it hurts alot and it makes the working environment so strained and stressful!!!.. but be strong, ur purpose is to do ur work to the best of your ability and make them see that u are stronger than their gossip…

  4. BMS
    March 24, 2010

    If you know you are innocent, there is no need to worry, STICKS AND STONES

  5. GOOD en EASY
    March 23, 2010

    eventually you will be there boss!

  6. CB CUZ
    March 23, 2010

    Why dont you think back and remember what you did to them. You see you have a very short memory i think that you a trying to make yourself sound like a saint but i dont that you are. If everybody at the company is talking you may it is because you a nooooo gooooood. Sweetie check your past and you tongue and see why you are the burnt of the gossip…..stupes

    • 40 and loving it
      March 24, 2010

      In almost every business place or government institution has a clique of women who enjoy gossiping about one another. Just do your job and keep praying to the Almighty Father. If you are really the innocent party in all of this, he will vindicate you.

    • stupes
      March 24, 2010

      people gossip about every body at some point in life. so i guess when they gossip about you is because YOU are nooooooooooooooo gooooooooooooooooood.

    • smh
      March 26, 2010

      It seems to me that this affects you personally..or more like ure part of the guilty party that gossips about others…

      To the gossip victim.. Sweetie when people gossip about u is only becuz their own life is pathetic and they need a companion to join their misery..If u r innocent then ignore them..Should this situation persist go to management and let them deal with it…U have nothing to hide..Only then u can guarantee you that this situation would seize to exist..i Find Dominica too small for this nonsense…

    March 23, 2010

    All you have to do is ignore them , dress nicely, walk with your head up and give them a smile. They are jealous and very much threatened by you being in the work place. And, if any walk in your path just take the matter to the boss. Pray for them also.

  8. Anonymous
    March 23, 2010

    they are just jealouse and unhappy people. dont let them bother you, just keep your head high and leave them in their misery. It is only unhappy people that seeks to hurt others and tarnish their good name. Just say a pray for them, they will be their own downfall.

    • Typical Dominican
      March 23, 2010

      i agree with you on that

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