Dear Bella: I am in a relationship with a wonderful man. He is ambitious, hard-working and takes good care of me. He also knows how to ‘put it down!’ You would think that I would be content but the truth is Bella, I am miserable.
My man is fine and I know other women throw themselves at him. I think he is cheating although I can’t prove it. He refuses to give me his passwords for his email and his Facebook. His phone has passwords for everything. When I ask him what he has to hide he says I have no respect for his privacy.
The thing is Bella that I know he was a ladies man before I got with him because he had slept with several women I know, but I thought I could change him.When I ask him if he cheats he says no, but even if he does it shouldn’t matter because I’m the ‘wifey’. How can I keep these women away from my man?
You’re insecure and if you keep this up it will cost you the relationship. Some individuals are very private.
If you do not trust him why enter into a relationship with him? Trust is one of the ingredients that keeps a relationship together. Insecurity will crash everything.
If he is cheating you will find out soon enough, but hawking him won’t help. It will make him even tighter. Eventually he will get annoyed and start mistrusting you. My advice is to trust him. Furthermore, access to peoples emails and social networks are not usually advisable from a security standpoint.
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