Dear Bella: I am 23 and still wetting bed. I met this girl who I am falling in love with. She has suggested sleeping over at my house several times but I ignored her. I do not want to embarrass her or myself.
The last time a friend slept by me I wore pampers and ensured I changed them before daybreak. I am afraid she will find out and I’ll lose her. I have never dated so seriously before because of my condition. Please help.
Dear sir,
Since bedwetting is usually more common in children aged 4 to 8 your situation is baffling. More than likely it could be a medical condition which you should seek professional help with. I really understand your reluctance in having anyone much less a female sleep over, but she may also be getting the wrong ideas seeing as she has asked you several times.
For the meantime you should try limiting your caffeine intake and the amount of liquids you drink before going to bed, like two hours before. However, you should make an appointment to consult with a doctor immediately, before your female friend walks out.
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I understand his pain. I’m going through the same thing. But my boyfriend and I live together. I’m afraid that this will ruin our relationship. No one truly understands. Its a battle and sometimes it feels like you will never win. I sometimes feel helpless. I wake up wet and I look at him…I apologize but what does that do because its bound to happen again. I hate when people like me try to reach out for help and they’re people like @salon are putting us down for doing something we have no control over.
Please help me my son 23yrs old he still wet in the bed what do I do
Hiii.. just wanted to say to everyone who is being STUPID AF, If you wet the bed, you don’t know how we feel!! The embarrassing factor that we try to hide! Our entire lives.. I also wet the bed still, I’m 21 and still till this very day, do it mostly every night. I’m lucky to wake up dry every now and then.. people don’t understand tho how we feel.. in my CASE I do drink LOTS of cokes with caffeine. . Maybe that’s why
or maybe I have a bladder problem. No pampers do not always work, I would have leaks quite a bit when I used to use them…so they aren’t guaranteed to keep you dry… and i never feel the need to pee in my sleep… ever 
no one understands tho… :/
One of the best cure for bed wetting is parsley. Steep with hot or boiling. Can drink it cold or warm. Try it
My 21yr old son pees the bed and I know he is embarrassed about this problem. I will definitely ssd’s suggest drinking steeped parsley. Thank you I pray it works for him.
hi, im 20 yr old female and i still wet the bed i have tried everything under the sun but the only thing that helps is desmopressin. i got into a serious relationship and my boyfriend kept asking me over to stay and i always made an excuse. In the end i text him and explained the situation, i said im on medication but im worried that it may not always work. he simply said dont be stupid, i love u no matter what so please stay round my house tonight, it isnt a problem. As luck would have it i have always been dry when staying with him, however last night i wet the bed whilst taking desmopressin. Unfortunatly there is no cure, we are just going to have to learn to deal with it. i know this is out of date now, i dont know your outcome with the girl situation but hope all is well
I wet my self every night coz I can’t be assed goin to. The loo ow well x
lol lol
i never knew some of my country people were so uncaring .This young man has a problem and as dominicans, we should help each other in time of need.This obviously is a medical problem ,don't make fun help.Anyone could get sick .Think before you guys write crap on internet.
It's nothing for you to stress over in the case of having a woman in your life, time will unfold itself and you will find one who really understands and will not break you down. As in the case of ur bladder situation, it is a medical condition. I suggest you emmediately make an appointment to see a urologist or a good private doctor. Get some test done with your bladder so they can check your kidney and so on. Then you will get treatments. I suggest you drink ALOT ALOT of cranberry juice, jelly water and lots of water daily. It will help your kidney and strengthen your urinary track muscles. DO SEEK THE DOCTOR. Another advice, please ignore the bias and ignorant comments posted by persons who lack wisdom and a heart. Focus on the good advice and encouragement. All the best to you with this girl. F.Y.I, if a young girl is behind you to have sex, she is a no good, stay away from such and try hard to control your sexual drives. It's best to abstain.
Bro, thanx a lot for such gr8 words of encouragement and advice, God bless you.
Please, stop showing people how ignorant and shallow you are.Try to help instead. My boy the best i can tell you is find professional help. This is a case where a complete examination needs to be done.
my daughter still pee her bed N she in high school so wat these ignorant people saying today maybe oursis now but tommorow is yours. be carefull wat u say.put yourself in other people place.Lord have mercy on u people.
well thats a problem normally with the bladder..
i had a cousin who pee her bed until she was 21, she seek medical help and then she is ok until now
all those who made fun of the boy, why dnt u all just stay away from serious articles if u dnt hve anything sensible to say…
Sure, invite her over; when and if you feel you want to pee just ask for sex, make short love and let it out she'll never know the difference.
You don't need help, you need to stop masterbating. I don't believe you're wetting the bed just for wetting the bed. Stop playing with yourself, liar. And, you just told the girl that you have a huge problem.
lol. i there laughing hard
ahahahahh this is funny but yet stil serious =cause i have the same situation with my step son of the age of 16………..i
Just wrap uself with a shower curtain….dam pep stealing ma name…having to put an H…give peace a chance.
i had/ have a friend who wet her bed up till she was 16, after that age, we seperated ( she migrated) so i dont know if it happened after that, But i know it was a medical condition she had. I am sorry that you are going through this unfortunate situation, but i advice you to see a doctor.
You just need to explain to the young woman that you have bladder issues but you might want to leave out the pampers part for a later date. Good luck
MY FRIEND WHEN U FEEL U WANT TO PEE DURING THE DAY TRY TO HOLD IT BACK FOR A WHILE TILL U CANNOT HOLD IT THATS HOW I GOT OVER MY WEAKNESS I WAS IN HIGH SCHOOL STILL WETTING BED AND PARY ABOUT IT
If you're Salop why can't he be nasty? This type of problem affects more people than you know. It can be a medical problem combined with that of the psychological. You must be one of the dumb ones…
my boy my son wet his bed up till like 11 12 and hey thanks god he has stop because of some medication fr his country guadeloupe i whish i could and find the name for u but that is a long time ago 20 something years but by stop all drinking after 8 at night and make a pee before bed that help alot
hello the man is not nasty he have a problem i wish i know who he was i would have help him out. try to get humphry # 30 it will help u .i wish there would be a way i could get in contact with u to send it to u
my boy . invite her over and pee on her then tell her u was dreaming
you killin me here
Old people say to peepee on a very hot stone and that will help his bladder muscles and penis head muscles.
And that be true.
you cannot understand man
Seek medical attention please
and i am pretty sure if you go see a herbalist you will get remedy there are lots of them in dominica check the old people
But my boy de pampers part have me going….lol lol lol, sorry I cannot help it! Mister is a pissanit, let de girl sleep over garcon, and if u pee-pee on her, explain to her that you just marking your territory. No thats a joke, DO NOT DO DAT! lol….maybe you should visit a urologist, that is a pee-pee doctor, but your problem might be more psychological than physical.
My advice to the young man is: drink pesse', or parsley tea before going to bed, Steep the parsley, not boil, and you will see the result. It can be given to children who pee in bed
qstorm78 who u calling salop it cant be bella
…it's a medical condition that could happen to anyone.
@ Salop, you're too ignorant. Is that your way of helping?
Boy u just nasty. Plain out!