I am a girl with feelings for other girls

Dear BellaAfter primary school my mom enrolled me into one of the Catholic all girls school. Around that age, that’s when most girls go though puberty. If the only people you see around you is girls, aren’t you likely to get feelings for girls?

After some time I realised that I was slowly developing feelings towards girls and took a liking for them. I’ve been with a fair share of girls and boys and prefer to be in a relationship with a girl over any boy.

Anyway I’m in 5th form now. The school and my folks found out and don’t approve of it. The counselor at the school labels me as a bad influence and is preventing my friends from associating with me. They want me to change and become someone that’s not me or else I can kiss graduation good bye.

What should I do?

Confused Teen

 

Dear Confused Teen,

You probably developed feelings for girls because you are surrounded by girls who treat you the way you want to be treated.

However, can I suggest that as a student for the time being you direct your energy to your school work?

In other words I am encouraging you to check your priorities. Get yourself an education!

I am not saying that you should completely deny your feelings but they can be put on hold while you complete your education.

After you have made yourself a well educated young lady, you can start seriously thinking of the different options that are before you in terms of intimate relationships.

Bella

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130 Comments

  1. Young And Twisted
    June 5, 2013

    Dont worry darling you will get over it soon am also interested in girls….I wish i never had feelings like these but……

  2. lillcherry
    February 13, 2013

    well ur school should support that because how are u not going to have feelngs for girls your surrounded by them an i no if i went to your school i woyld stand up for like girls since i am a girl who likes girls so dont b confused stand up for what an who you are :wink:

  3. New Kidd
    January 10, 2013

    Oka I have had the same experience my dad forbade me to associate with boys and he sent me to an all girl school and a couple months later i became obsessed with this girl because she was very nice to me and didnt tease me she helped me and she was very pretty pretty soon i found myself liking her 2 yrs later i was transfered to another school but i still had feelings for girls…. I learnt to control it abit but i still struggle with it sometimes I still like girls but not as much anmore

  4. January 10, 2013

    Dear Teen: I have worked as a pastoral counselor so it’s difficult for me to read your letter and not say some things to you. Bella is doing a great job. She helps a lot of people. I agree with her. Please go with her advice. May I add a few things I KNOW and am SURE of? You are at the age when it is perfectly normal to have an awareness of sexuality along with sexual feelings. This does not mean you should be sexually active. The Bible tells us – and your church teaches – that sex belongs in marriage betwee a husband and wife. Outside of marriage it is called “fornication” and it is a sin. The reason you are attracted to other girls is because you are surrounded by them in a girls’ school and they are filling a need for friendship and emotional support. The fact that we live in a society today where many people are saying homosexual relationships are O.K may further fuel your sexual feelings for girls. But this is not what the Bible says. It is not what your church teaches. Your present feelngs do NOT mean you are a lesbian. Let your time in a girl’s school be an opportunity to make many female friends and form a close friendship with a special few who will be like sisters to you – young women you will stay in touch with throughout your life. Get the best education possible because you can have a great future. If you play the game of life God’s way someday you will meet a very special man! Not just any man. But the one who is right for you! And you’ll recognize him because he’ll be the one who respects you enough to keep his – and your – standards high! I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  5. Kireki
    September 4, 2012

    LOOOL I’m a girl and I love women. NO I will not BURN in YOUR hell, NO I am not an ABOMINATION because of my feelings. Listen to yourselves! This made me convert to being a wiccan, and honestly I’ve never felt more loved, accepted and happy in my entire life. This is natural behavior even animals show homosexuality. Get over it, I can’t wait for all the “god fearing” kind to die out.

    • January 16, 2013

      Dear Kireki: You converted to being a wiccan because of people telling you homosexuality is wrong. When you discovered wicca you thought it was a chance to maybe make a few new friends, and also to hit back at the straight community who have probably said some unkind things to you. You did not join wicca because you studied their teaching and were convnced they were true – only because they were interesting and offered you an alternative to the churches you know. Maybe it’s time to move on. When I was 19 years old I discovered a faith that believes Jesus has not changed. He still heals and performs miracles for those who believe in Him, and pray in His name! Best of all – and you MUST experience this FIRST – you can be saved. This means your sins are forgiven. You will have eternal life and be SURE of a home in heaven. Kireki, please get a New Testament and read – in this order – Romans 3:23, I Corinthians 15:3-4, 1 John 1:7, then Romans 10:9. Believe these verses of scripture and act upon them. I encourage you to visit a Pentecostal Church. Introduce yourself to the pastor. Tell him what’s happening in your life. Ask him to pray for you. I also invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca Click on to EAGLE COURSE. You will find my 12 Lesson Workbook Manual. It is 12 lessons leading into a life so full it overflows. This book can be studied from the screen OR copied absolutely free. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist

    • August 8, 2014

      Over a year has passed since I responded to this young woman’s letter. I hope she has broken free from Satan’s hold and found refuge in he arms of the Savior.

      Looking back at her letter I see that she mentioned “even animals show homosexuality”. This makes me want to ask, “Is this where it came from? The animal kingdom?”

      Animals do not experience love and romance as humans do. What happens to them is the inner biology of their sex organs is triggered by scent and smell that fires off the sexual impulse and they follow the natural instinct. This may be part of the human experience as well. But who would deny that there is more to human sexuality? Most of us want love and romance. We hope for a lasting even a lifelong relationship.

      Many abnormal physical and psychological conditions found in humans also appear in animals. There are cases of an animal becoming confused and mating or trying to mate with another of the same gender. This does not prove it is normal even for them. It certainly does not mean it is normal for humans.

      There are animals that eat their young. This is proof that every thing that happens in the animal kingdom is not O.K. for humans.

      Sadly, this strange reasoning with no objectivity and such a lack of logic is common among homosexuals and seems to be accepted by them as normal argument.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  6. Try it
    May 19, 2012

    Everybody seem to have missed the point this young girl made. First she is extremely sexually active and like a lot of sex. She is young and she is very hot. She likes sex so much she is actually screwing with both men and women. But here is the essential point she has made. As you all know homosexuality requires a great deal of sucking to achieve satisfaction. This young girl has had sex with men and did not find the level of satisfaction she needs so she tried having sex with girls. She discovered that sucking a girl’s pussy is far more satisfying than sucking a man’s cock (eating, as it is passionately called) so she opted for pussy-eating, and I must say I applaud her taste. I wish I could find her myself to eat her because I just know she is sweet. There is nothing sweeter than eating a nice thick pussy

    • Anonymous
      June 20, 2012

      this i a teen she is asking for help and dats the best u could say..who wants to know what ur interest is u should be ashamed of urself..is pple like u that mess up our society shame ahame shame

    • true dominican
      June 20, 2012

      a young girl is asking for advice and that’s the best u could say to her no one asked u if u preferred to suck pusssssssyyy or Big Harrrrd cock… u should be ashmaed of urself and give the girl some sound advice. shame shame shame

  7. May 7, 2012

    chicka listen focuss on the more important things in life..cause this rite here is pure b.s!! bye have a nice day

  8. May 7, 2012

    a joke that mann!!!

  9. country girl..
    April 23, 2012

    Yayaya…it’s not like you’re locked up in a convent 24/7….how many hours do you spend at school? and what are you gonna say or do when you happen to get a job from 9 to 5…stop yor foolishness….even if you were the only girl in an all boy school…the result could have been the same…cause you’ve been with both boys and girls…you just confused…period…

    • Convent Girl!!!!!!!!
      May 1, 2012

      and how u so sure its a convent girl… what happen to smss

      • Anonymous
        May 8, 2012

        No one said CONVENT HIGH SCHOOL…correction CONVENT…..

    • May 17, 2012

      i agree… but it doe hve to convent.. i wnet to convent and was surrounded by girls.. and all my attention went to the male teachers… lol lve me i hot

    • New Kidd
      January 10, 2013

      If you are a girl in an all boy school you start acting like a boy and thinking like one too so therefore you are more likly to turn therefore i do not see the point for that comment

  10. pcss girl...
    April 18, 2012

    blah blah blah…… my girl am also a lesbian an its normal u get feeling for other girls.. boys no a days not good they dont treat girls the way they should… so wat!! belle u need to come better dan dat yahhhhh…Interesting, if persons are born gay it means that God made them the way they are. he already knew before they are gay and so who are we to judge them……… :lol: :wink: :-P :-D :)

    • TeteMorne I from...
      April 20, 2012

      My advice to YOU Ms PCSS: Stay in school! SOT

    • stylish
      May 5, 2012

      if God wanted ppl to be lesbian/homosexuals, it would not have been an abomination..read your bible sweety…

      • lillcherry
        February 13, 2013

        thats a lie he yoo

    • Anonymous
      June 20, 2012

      nonsense…god did not create anybody as gay or homo so please go read your bible.. Sodom and Gomorrah was destroyed cuz of this lifestyle..don’t mock my god please..God hates sins..so don’t think that u can remain a lesbian for the rest of ur life and u will make it in the new kingdom….repent

    • true dominican
      June 20, 2012

      please my girl don’t say that god created pple that wya dats big time lie. if u read ur bible u will see tht God destroyed an entire city just bcuz of this lifestyle..so please don’t hink that u can remain a lesbian for the rest of your life and u will be in the Kingdom when Christ returns..no way u must repent and now too bcuz time is running out. don’t be fooled take my advice

      • Anonymous
        August 5, 2012

        I meant to hit like

  11. Know Who You Are
    April 18, 2012

    “They want me to change and become someone that’s not me” Who are you? Do you really know who you are or is it all in the mind?

  12. HotBoy
    April 13, 2012

    ooh yeahh…i like girls who like girls….check me at d********@hotmail.com…i’m a lesbian :-P

  13. forreal
    April 13, 2012

    if you knew about a virgina you would understand the dangers of sucking virginas,apart from major viruses like hiv and so on,there are small viruses that linger in all women,and you are woman and do not no that,or maybe you know but is so sick that you do not want accept that,i think you are learning the wrong thing.

    • Zion
      April 19, 2012

      You must learn to spell first before you comment under ppl remarks…

      • Grain Sel
        May 17, 2012

        the man was making a valid point
        that you totally missed because of your smartassness.
        God don’t make peoples gay they choose to be or not to be.
        Emotions has to do with your soul not your spirit.
        by saying that God made you any way is in direct contradiction to the word of God.
        And in spit of it all this remains an abomination,with consequences….

  14. UDOHREADYET
    April 12, 2012

    It’s not uncommon for some young women that age to be Bi- curious but Instead of opening your mind to knowledge you choose to open your legs. Unless you slow down or change direction, you’re well on your way to becoming a legal prostitute like the rest. Based on what you said: The ‘Fair share’ you cokay already tell a ‘fair share’ about you and a ‘fair share’ of them are targeting you, by the time you reach college (if you reach) everybody will get their share. I want mine too lol. Another Clothespin… ouvir ouvir ouvir ouvir lol!!

  15. Confused Teen
    April 12, 2012

    I’m not attending CHS & I would never try and make a move on none of my fellow students…to make my self a lil clearer

    • true dominican
      June 20, 2012

      u need pryaers i will pray for u

  16. April 12, 2012

    How comes you in 5th grade and you had both men and women, you are kidding? you should be studying for your exams, not having sex and eating furry burger, well you got a choice furry burger, or graduation, i can give you some advise on that pretend you have given up furry burgers , then after graduation, go back to stearing the littleman in the boat face to face, your graduation is more important for the thim, after that, you can eat as much furry burger as you like

    • Grain Sel
      May 17, 2012

      That is a nice way to put it
      (furry burger)

  17. Enlightened
    April 11, 2012

    Great advice Bella.
    I don’t understand why kids today put relationships before education. No one wants a dummy or unemployed lover. Go through school. Make the best of yourselves. You will have ups and downs with relationships along the way but always remember they are secondary to your education.

  18. Pusina
    April 11, 2012

    WHOSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS Well thats a highcourt case. Those child this days..I never remember those types of behaviors going to school in the old days.. Lord Zami making at school. WHOSSSSSSSSS

    • Kubuli Kountry
      April 11, 2012

      Trust me, it had that going on in C.H.S even before my days there in the 80s.

      • Pusina
        April 12, 2012

        Well puss is my man i used to study as well as my school work so i wouldn’t have even notice those zami activities going on. WHossssss.. I like my hard thing from my man and if i want to make zami i just tell him to eat me..WHOSSSSSSSSS..Mine me you hear..lol

  19. not easy
    April 11, 2012

    The young girl has a serious problem, which needs urgent attention. To boldly come on BELLA and try to insinuate that the school, our prestigious Alma Mater, seem to want to discreminate against her as a student is ridiculous.

    These days, our young girls and boys view, engage in, text, take pictures of all kinds of material. Really their minds are confused. Some, like that student, has allowed the confusion within her mind to warp her thinking.

    There is a growing overt trend in Dominica, where young and the aged as well, engage in acts that they feel somewhat guilty about. She feels deeply guiltly , since she admitted that the school and her school friends do not approve of such behaviour by a fellow student. Hundreds of students attend the school.

    She has preference for the female sex. Well that is your prerogative. Do not force people to accept it as normal? Interestingly, she agreed that the school and her friends found out and strongly disapprove. Was it her behaviour at school sometimes re. sexual relationship with any other student? What graduation has to do with your choice of partner or sexual habits? where does that come in? If you meet the criteria what else could prevent you? So real confusion exists in that student’s mind as to whether she should continue embracing that type of behaviour at school.

    If she has any self-esteem, she would realize that the school is helping through counselling and should be grateful, instead of trying to chastise those who willingly helps her. Her student folks are unforgiving seeing the kind of life-stlye she has adopted. She needs to strenghen and deepen her spiritual and moral values. That devilish society is not easy for those young girls and boys.

  20. Man in Dominica
    April 11, 2012

    A few comments on homosexuality in the Bible…

    God tells Moses in Leviticus 18 and 20 that men are not to have sex with other men, that it is an “abomination.” There is no mention of women having sex with women. Further, these are commands expressly given for the Israelites to follow, not anyone else.

    Also described as an “abomination” in Leviticus: eating any water creature that doesn’t have fins or scales. Leviticus 10:9-12. So if you have ever eaten a crab or lobster, then you have committed a sin on the order of homosexuality, if you believe that the commands in Leviticus are somehow for all people at all times to follow instead of just the ancient Israelites. You can’t pick and choose, and I challenge anyone to claim that they observe every verse in Leviticus.

    Paul also condemned homosexuality in a couple verses in the New Testament. But we also have to look at what Paul wrote about women: that they are to be silent in the church and not permitted to speak (1 Cor. 14:34–35), that they should not be allowed to teach or have any position of authority over men (1 Tim. 2:11-12), that wives should submit to their husbands in the same way that the church should submit to God (Eph. 5:22–24). If we are to reject those views on women, then we cannot take for granted that Paul is a moral authority on anything else either.

    I am aware of no comment by Jesus on the subject, a silence which we should find telling.

    • Man in Dominica
      April 11, 2012

      To the two people who have “disliked” my comment, it would be more productive for you to explain why you disagree. Perhaps one of us might learn something.

    • Anonymous
      April 11, 2012

      THERE IS ALSO SOMEWHERE IN THE BIBLE THAT IT SAYS WHO ARE U TO CALL WHAT I HAVE CREATED UNCLEAN. U ARE TALKING ABOUT THE OLD TESTAMENT. I AM TALKING ABOUT THE NEW TESTAMENT

      • February 10, 2017

        The New Testament also forbids and condemns homosexuality.

        Romans 1:26,27
        1 Corinthians 6:9,10
        1 Timothy 1:9,10
        Jude vs.7

        Go back again to 1 Corinthians 6:9,10. Note it says in vs. 10 *…they that do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.*

        The laws in the Old Testament that pertained only to Israel are call the ceremonial law. They ended with Christ. Romans 10:4. However the laws that reflect the unchanging holiness of the Divine character of God are carried forward in the New Testament and are for all mankind during this era.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

    • Anonymous
      April 11, 2012

      BY THE WAY I AM NOT SAYING THAT BEING A LESBIAN IS OK. IT IS MORE THAN WRONG.

    • Deleoncourt
      April 12, 2012

      If only most dominicans followed the teachings of jesus christ you would be right.. how many people have premarital sex? children out of wedlock?, lie? gossip? etc no sin is worst than another according to the bible… stop being a buffet christian. Moreover what if the girl is not a christian should she still have to live by christian rules?? why should your religion dictate who I am nonsense!!

    • April 6, 2013

      Man in Dominica: The Old Testament law was given to the Nation of Israel and was for a limited period of time during their history: from when it was given at Mt. Sinai until Christ died on Mt. Calvary. It contained some prohibitions which don’t make sense to us today. But these prohibitions had practical value for the Israelites given the time and circumstances in which they lived. They were also rich in typical (symbolic) value as teaching tools and in some cases they represented better things to come. However, this law ended at the cross when Christ died and a new era of faith began. Please see John 19:30, Romans 10:4, Colossians 2:14-17. However, the moral commandments that reflect the character and holiness of God are repeated in the New Testament. The entire New Testament is now binding upon all mankind. For example the New Testament (as well as the Old Testament) tells us we must not murder, we must not steal, and we must not lie, etc. The New Testament also forbids homosexuality. Please see Romans 1:21-32, 1 Corinthians 6:9-10, Jude vs. 7. Note: Paul makes it clear that in Romans that his applies to women as well as men. (In the Old Testament it was understood – but not specifically stated – that it applied to both men and women.) As Christians we do accept Paul’s writings as part of the inspired Word of God. We have no problem with the instructions he has given us regarding the role of women. Consider Ephesians 5:22-33. This is God’s plan for a happy and lasting marriage. No couple who has always followed it has ever broken up or divorced. My wife and I read this scripture passage together on our night. Then we knelt down and prayed that God would help us live what we had read. In April 2013 we will celebrate 50 years of marriage. Thank God for inpiring Paul to give the blueprint for a successful marriage to the Christian world. I know, I know, Christian marriages sometimes (far too often) fail. But it is because one or both partners did not live the Word of God that came through Paul. We all fail in some ways. Please don’t think I am saying my wife and I are perfect. We’re far from it. But I am saying we can accept Paul’s instructions as the Word of God. When – and as far as – they are followed they produce positive results. You mentioned Paul saying that women are to be silent in church services and they are not to teach. We also accept what God says through Paul on these matters. But these scriptures (1 Corinthians 14:34, and 1 Timothy 2:12) must, like all scripture, be interpreted in their context, taking into consideration the entire chapter in each case. We must also consider the local circumstances in both the cities to which these two epsitles were written (Corinth and Ephesus). And, as always, we look at other scriptures which address the same issue to get light on the subject. If you are really interested in what Paul and other New Testament writers taught about the role of women in the church visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca and click onto ARTICLES. Read my article entitled WOMEN IN MINISTRY. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill, Pentecostal Evangelist.

  21. upset
    April 11, 2012

    you so called Dominicans commenting and act like is someone she killed, if she said she was having sex with several men yall would still be acting a fool. all sin is sin so take yall head out of yall behind and stop act like she is the first woman to like woman.

  22. pissed
    April 11, 2012

    who ever is the person that is giving advice as DEAR BELLA need to honestly think of the advice that he or she is giving to young people.

    • Grain Sel
      May 17, 2012

      It’s amazing how it’s written that knowledge shall increase
      how ever this is what I leave with you :What comes out of you is what defiles you. For from within, out of your hearts, come evil thoughts, sexual immorality, theft, murder, adultery, greed, malice, deceit, lewdness, envy, slander, arrogance and folly. All these evils come from inside and defile you.

  23. April 11, 2012

    LISTEN DARLING YOU ARE FIT AND IN GOOD HEALTH ,,,NONE THE LESS I DO NOT CONDONE YOUR STYLE BUT I AM NOT AGAINST IT EITHER…
    YOU HAVE NOT RAPED ANY SCHOOL CHILD YOU ARE A GOOD CITIZEN.YOUR TEACHERS NEED TO MIND THEIR BUSINESS AND RESPECT YOUR LIFE STYLE. MENACING YOU CONCERNING YOUR GRADUATION IS A TOTAL DISCRIMINATION …
    WHO EVER IS POINTING THEIR FINGER AT YOU TO MAKE YOU THINK THAT THEY ARE BETTER THAN YOU LET THEM THROW THE FIRST STONE….STAND UP FOR YOUR RIGHT YOU CAN STILL CONTINUE YOUR EDUCATION AND HAVE FEELINGS FOR BOTH SEX. EVEN BELLA CAN BE DAFT AS SHE IS MOST TIMES.

  24. Man in Dominica
    April 11, 2012

    Dear Confused Teen, unfortunately you live in a part of the world that does not understand same-sex attraction. Many Dominicans are confused by it or afraid of it, and fail to realize that they have no meaningful information or experiences with gays and lesbians that would support their opinions. This apparently includes your counselor, who is out of step with more educated psychology and psychiatric professionals elsewhere. It’s been FOUR DECADES since the American Psychiatric Association stopped classifying homosexuality as a disorder. You may also hear religious views on it, but if you don’t go to their church then those views shouldn’t matter to you. There are many churches around the world, Christian and otherwise, that do not think same-sex attraction is sinful.

    Luckily you have access to a larger world through the internet. Check out http://www.itgetsbetter.org/ for starters, a resource intended to help support gays and lesbians who face discrimination and persecution.

    Just remember that you are not a bad person, and don’t deserve anyone’s hate or disrespect. Most people are not gays or lesbians, but some are, and that’s just the way it is. It’s not a difference that we should be afraid of or criticize people for. My wife and I have many gay and lesbian friends elsewhere in the world and we are sickened by the prejudice we see here.

    It may be that you will have to leave Dominica eventually to find a community that will treat you as you deserve, which will be Dominica’s loss. It takes time for a culture to change, and such change is inevitable as more and more people come out and more people are educated enough to overcome their kneejerk feelings about such things. But it wouldn’t be selfish or wrong for you to decide not to put up with such treatment here and seek a better life elsewhere. Such a better life can be found.

    • Missy
      April 11, 2012

      I commend you on the response…

    • Anonymous
      April 20, 2012

      BRAVO

    • February 10, 2017

      Man in Dominica:

      Whether people believe it is O.K. or not,
      whether they like it or not,
      whether they practice it or not,

      is NOT what makes it right or wrong :!:

      If this was the case it would be wrong for some and right for others, right in :!: places and wrong in other places, right at some times and wrong at other times. This would make it a subjective issue with no terms of reference. Then it would be fine to simply say it makes no difference so why are we having this discussion :?:

      What makes homosexuality wrong is the fact that God says it is wrong.

      In 1973 the American Psychiatric Association struck homosexuality off their list of mental disorders. However, this had absolutely NOTHING to do with research or any new knowledge. It was 100 % political :!: It was the result of much scheming. It was shameful the way they pulled it off. These mental health professionals will not tell you how it came about and they hope you do not find out.

      Sincerely, Rev…

  25. Think About It
    April 11, 2012

    Another bull dyke in the making. At least she speaks her mind. I’ll tell her get her education first and stop shopping for flavors she likes it’s either a pat-a-cake or a candy cane. I think she’s a little confuse now she’s so young she will get over it soon.Be safe reach for the stars the sky is the limit.Keep us posted five years from now when you make up your mind.

  26. poe-ki-toe
    April 10, 2012

    hmmmmmm…sweetheart ignore all this foolish advice and come meet Possie dis weekend……….u’re in 5th form hmmmmm that means u YOUNG!!! I like that (wink, wink) ….check me babes, I’ll check u!!!

    • sexyDAchick
      April 11, 2012

      SHUT UR STUPID MOUTH THERE BOY U TOO NASTY,, LEAVE DA YOUNG GURL ALONE!!!!!!!!!!!!!! SAKUA SALOP!!!!!!!!!1 :-? :-? :-? :-?

  27. TheFightingAtheist
    April 10, 2012

    Nothing but ignorance come from you Dominicans. Pathetic small minded people. The young lady didn’t state that she had a problem with liking other girls. The fact that you people sit at your computers advising her that the way she is, is wrong or the advice Bella gave is wrong is just pathetic and sad.

    Go ahead, thumbs this down!

    Your school labeling you as “bad influence” just goes to show you how preemptive of a mind set this country has. Also, the fact that you went to an all girls school; I’m pretty that’s not the reason why you like girls. It’s who you are and be happy with who you are! Being in an all girls school just made you notice how much you are attracted to those of the same sex and there is *nothing* wrong with that.
    Pay no mind to these people and their comments about their religion and God, take notice it’s all they do on DNO. Add a comment about God and thumbs it up! It’s all they do.

    Will all this said, I beg of you to be happy with who you are and love the person you are for there is nothing wrong with you. Small minded people with take against you but don’t let that break you. It Gets Better!

    “Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.”
    -Dr. Seuss

    -TheFightingAtheist

  28. April 10, 2012

    Is this for real?

  29. Muta
    April 10, 2012

    what sin you on na? boat come all of allu feeling froggy

  30. Alas.......
    April 10, 2012

    Gone are the days when certain schools were considered more prestigious and held a higher reputation in morality than others. smdh

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      Thank god those days are gone to much pretentiousness

  31. (.) (.)
    April 10, 2012

    Well, my dear…if going to an all girls secondary school is the cause of you having feelings for girls, then the rest of us who went to all girls schools must be sick somehow. I for sure don’t feel for girls nuh. Grew up with mostly men in my family and still don’t miss girls. It’s either you are homosexual or heterosexual but don’t blame it on where you went to school blah blah blah. And, you are going to graduate as long as you obtain good academic grades. It would only be hypocritical of the school for not graduating you because of your lifestyle. Study your books and leave other people’s girls alone so you can graduate

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      I dont Think she is blaming as much as saying that being surrounded by girls may have been a contributing factor of her realizing she was a homosexual at a fairly early stage.

    • Anonymous
      April 11, 2012

      love ur comment thank u

  32. natural dominican
    April 10, 2012

    i agree with bella,your school work should be a priority. however, sexual preference should be your choice and the people who love you should respect that and guide your young mind accordingly. as for you not graduating because of that…SUE THE SCHOOL…take it to the media and the public. i am in every way homophobic, but i am not willing to see young kids lose their future over their sexual preference.

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      I agree that the school is ridiculous but going to the media and letting everyone know in dominica that you are a “mal Nom” is not a good idea.. Props for admitting you are a homophobe though. Not everyone can come out and admit that they are a bigot..props

  33. Wounded
    April 10, 2012

    Some people in this world are so so friggin ignorant in this 21st century, Let’s face the fact, can you just change your feeling with a snap of ur fingers?? If it was so then life would be great. Remember the bible say all sin is sin, so dont be ignorant, i bet some of you who type those ridiculous comments are secretly gay. So why bash on this girl?? Those without sin cast first stone, we Dominicans are to quick to condemn others. To the young girl just asked god to help you in each and every way!!!

  34. Concerned
    April 10, 2012

    Young lady, the feelings you are describing are NOT natural and don’t let anyone convince you otherwise. You are making a decision based on how you have been treated by the male gender. Take some time to reflect on all of this and find yourself a good counsellor.

    • Man in Dominica
      April 11, 2012

      Dear Concerned, I would wager good money that you have no basis for telling other people what is natural or not for them to be feeling. Women do not become lesbians because of being mistreated by men, and I challenge you to find valid research that says otherwise. If you have commented here, you obviously have an internet connection, so take some time to educate yourself.

  35. Unbiased Successor.
    April 10, 2012

    I know exactly what you are going thru.However , What you should be doing right now is, staying focus on your education to cultivate enough experiences that you may endure from criticism from your surroundings and the world ahead.

  36. disgusted
    April 10, 2012

    Sorry to say it but sweety blaming your sexual feelings on the fact that u attend an all girls school simply tells me that u are not sure of who u really are.Dont focus on the fact that u think u are gay cause to be quite honest at your age that should not be your priority.. I totally agre with bella focus on complete the remaining days of your secondary education.and after then after try and find who u trully are. if you are gay then there is noting wrong with us.. All this biblical BS about god this and god that brush it aside because the bible also said that we are all created equal by god so no one should be allowed to judge u. Ask for the school authorities and counselor i dont think they quite understand the fact that the world and relationships have evolved and they need to be more opened minded to change, while at the same time you need to remember that you attend a catholic school and there are certain rules which they are endowed to uphold. I am a proud CHS student and i am not gay…

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      does anyone know who they are at 16??

    • FuturePolitician
      April 11, 2012

      Dear disgusted there are two main Catholic all girls schools being CHS and SMSS.. She never blamed her sexuality on being in an all girls school.. And let’s face a fact.. That going to an all girl school at a certain point in time each of us makes a lesbian joke.. “my woman” touching in weird spots.. Some are not serious.. However sometimes you never know who is who..

  37. stoic
    April 10, 2012

    @smh..ok learning to deal with it could also mean fighting for your rights…taking someone to court..getting some big bucks for being treated wrongly…ok i was lazy and was not very articulate in my previous comment….
    or in some cases it could mean picking your fight..knowing when to ignore if you can,keep your cool till you achieve your goal

  38. Nousha A
    April 10, 2012

    oui…catholic school will definitely bring on confusion!! I’m disappointed with your counselors though with the labeling; I mean, as far as I know, you’re a still a product of the creator, and you should not be exempted from your ‘sisters’ because of your feelings. Anyways, the catholic school/religion prides itself on hypocrisy! Finally, you’re allowed to express yourself as a human being, but you should ask your parents for a transfer; umm, some religions think that they can “cure” ppl of certain lifestyles, and you do not want to be an example, of again, their blatant hypocrisy!

  39. jerseydominican
    April 10, 2012

    young girl try to think of something else for now ur education is important and sex will come later

  40. out of south city
    April 10, 2012

    I too went to an all girls’ high school and not once did this thought cross my mind. That is not normal and never in African civilization was there anything called homosexuality. There was not even a name for it. We as black people adopted this ungodly lifestyle and believe that it is normal. Man and woman can procreate but two men or women cannot. What if the whole world decides to be homosexual what is going to happen to the population? Even the animals know how to mate but human beings have made themselves lower than the animals. We need to stop and think of the reason why we were created as men or women and use our organs the right way.

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      Though often ignored or suppressed by European explorers and colonialists, homosexual expression in native Africa was also present and took a variety of forms. Anthropologists Stephen Murray and Will Roscoe reported that women in Lesotho engaged in socially sanctioned “long term, erotic relationships” called motsoalle.[7] E. E. Evans-Pritchard also recorded that male Azande warriors in the northern Congo routinely took on young male lovers between the ages of twelve and twenty, who helped with household tasks and participated in intercrural sex with their older husbands. The practice had died out by the early 20th century, after Europeans had gained control of African countries, but was recounted to Evans-Pritchard by the elders to whom he spoke.[8]

      The first recorded homosexual couple in history
      http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/History_of_homosexuality#Africa

      is commonly regarded as Khnumhotep and Niankhkhnum, an Egyptian male couple, who lived around the 2400 BCE. The pair are portrayed in a nose-kissing position, the most intimate pose in Egyptian art, surrounded by what appear to be their heirs and wives. This is not however uncontested as many archeologists including David O’Connor believe these to two to be blood relatives most likely twins.

    • Man in Dominica
      April 11, 2012

      “Man and woman can procreate but two men or women cannot.” So what? Why should the ability to have children be the criteria for whether a relationship is valid? Many male-female couples choose not to have children, many can’t because one or both of them has fertility issues. Or the woman is post-menopausal.

      “What if the whole world decides to be homosexual…” What if the whole world decides to be celibate priests and nuns? Just about as likely.

  41. interesting
    April 10, 2012

    Bella were you an only child? were you always always in books and not checkin boys/ girls? i eman come n. everytime you talkin bout books books books. children need to have a balance in life. come on Bella give different suggestionsi nstead of the only book “suggestion”

    • None
      April 10, 2012

      I have to agree with bella. Young people today get toooo serious toooo fast. They forget they are young and a good education is always a good foundation. It might even be able to hope this young lady figure out what she wants in life. I’m not saying she might not be into girls because I went to an all girls school and I’m straight as an arrow but she really needs to focus on her education. There are too many young men and woman out there without a proper education or prospects.

  42. Michelle B
    April 10, 2012

    I too went to an all girl catholic school, that is not the reason you have the feelings you are experiencing.
    No one should judge you for who or what you are, the only person you have to answer to is god. Let him who is without sin cast the first stone.
    You are at difficult, emotional state at this point in your life. Not a child but not quite an adult.
    The most Important thing in your life right now is your education, whether you enter into a relationship with a male or female – I’m sure you will make the right descion for you
    Life is full of difficult choices and people will judge and condemn you throughout your adult life for many different reasons.
    The fact of the matter is if you are gay or straight – its your life. Live your life the way you see fit, but wait until you have an education to make life long descions.
    All the best in which ever choices you make

    • KG
      April 10, 2012

      AGREED!!100

    • roo roo
      April 11, 2012

      I agree with you 110%, she just need to live her life the way she see fit “with God as the leader”

  43. Sam Harris
    April 10, 2012

    The ignorance of some Dominicans is appalling. (Yes, I said something that’s not positive. Please give me a thumbs down.) The girl is trying to rationalize her homosexual feelings; that does not mean her theory is correct. The fact is that people are born with certain tendencies, and one of those tendencies is sexual attraction. I am heterosexual. When did I “choose” to be heterosexual? And if you move to transgenderism, it becomes clear that, even from childhood, you can clearly see that some boys are girls in the wrong body and vice versa (not that this is the same as homosexuality, but the idea of it coming from birth is the same). These transgender children are often brought up the same as their sibings, yet the other siblings come out “normal.” This is no choice. This is simply a difference.

    All you people crying about how being gay is a choice–go do some hard research before you type your nonsense. It is sad to see people in the 21st century spouting out such things.

  44. Anonymous
    April 10, 2012

    Give me a break !!! I went to an all girl s high school as well!! That is NOOOO excuse for developing sexual tendencies towards girls!. So do not blame the fact that you like women on the school. If that was the case then all students would be lesbians then? Regardless of whether you like girls or boys you should not be flaunting your sexual activities on school premises. The administration should not have known at all what your preference is, if you were not displaying it in school. A lot of you young girls have been influenced by what you see in the media.

    • Sigh
      April 10, 2012

      Please note the question mark at the end of the sentence which proves that it’s not factual that her environment was causing her to feel this way: “If the only people you see around you is girls, aren’t you likely to get feelings for girls?”

      Re blaming the media:
      “That which has been is that which will be, And that which has been done is that which will be done. So there is nothing new under the sun.” (Eccl. 1:9)

  45. DANZIGER
    April 10, 2012

    MY dear listen to me please, please please finish yr school dont quite graduation u will regret one day. Life is difficult and everyday things get from bad to worst so put that story aside and think of yr school work. Work hard for the gce or cxc and after u will see another vison cuz with yr gce u will be a big woman trust me. HAVE A NICE DAY REMEMBER JESES CARES.

  46. Roseau
    April 10, 2012

    See! she was not born gay, She just prefer girls because a majority of them treated her better than boys. I hate when gays say “I was born like this,” All that is BS talk.

    • jerseydominican
      April 10, 2012

      not born gay roseau u have feeling for the same sex as u or someone touch and did thing to u that u didnt want to do to u thnks

    • Sam Harris
      April 10, 2012

      Why don’t you prove it’s BS talk?

      Oh, that’s right. You can’t, since you’re only talking BS yourself. Get some scientific evidence that people are NOT born gay or straight and then come back to me. Until then–no need for you to talk.

      • jerseydominican
        April 10, 2012

        well been gay yes i have sicentific evidence for u sam harris :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen: :mrgreen:

    • Man in Dominica
      April 11, 2012

      I remember noticing and thinking about girls in a different way as early as age six. I never woke up one day and decided, hmm, I will be in relationships with girls, not boys; that was always a part of me and not something I had to decide.

      So, Roseau, when did you decide to ignore YOUR feelings about the same sex?

    • Penelope das me
      April 11, 2012

      One of my best friends is gay and his mother says that she noticed signs of it as young as age 4. Of course, she loves and respects her son as much as if he were straight, as any nurturing kind-hearted mother would. Homosexuality is not a choice or something that develops because of ill-treatment by the opposite sex – you people saying that sound so ignorant!!

  47. Honest
    April 10, 2012

    The truth of the matter is that no matter how you feel God does not approve of same sex relationships. He considers it to be an abomination. You should pray to God about your situation and ask him to deliver you from these unnatural feelings.What sense would it make for you to surcum to those feelings in this lifetime and loose your soul. Make a genuine plea to God for help and he will help you.

    • None
      April 10, 2012

      Sweetie haven’t you done anything God was not approved off? I agree she should pray to God for answers but let’s not be so quick to judge her. It’s not our job…it’s God’s job.

    • Hate ignorance
      April 10, 2012

      Interesting, if persons are born gay it means that God made them the way they are. he already knew before they are gay and so who are we to judge them.

      • October 29, 2015

        People are born with inclinations towards all kinds of wrong doings because we were born with a sinful nature inherited from Adam.

        However, it is what we do that makes us what we are. Nobody is born a homosexual. Many homosexuals were once married and had biological children! There are people who have broken free from homosexuality, married, and had children of their own.

        I invite you to GOOGLE

        Are Homosexuals Born that Way? by Donald Hill. Interim.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Evangelist.

    • Penelope das me
      April 11, 2012

      Confused teen – do not listen to that ‘Honest’ person/pathetic excuse for a person. You WILL NOT ‘lose your soul’ for choosing to love someone, whether that person is male and female! Do what feels right for you and do not pressure yourself or let others (nor their religious beliefs) pressure you into being someone you’re not. God loves you EXACTLY as you are.

      This counselor at school labeling you as a bad influence and interfering with your friendships is doing a terrible and irresponsible thing. I hope no lasting damage to you occurs as a result of her ignorant ill-advice.

      I don’t believe you are having gay feelings because you are at an all-girls school. It is just the way you are programmed. As someone asked earlier, do heterosexual people CHOOSE to be that sexual orientation? No, and neither do gay people choose their sexual preferences. It just turns out that way. It is normal to be confused when you are growing up, especially when you are experiencing feelings not shared by the majority of people around you.

      In your situation, I would advise that you are discrete with whatever relationships you choose to pursue and do all that you can to complete your education and graduate! Then if you so wish, you can leave DA and make a life in a progressive, forward-thinking country that has moved on from old-fashioned homophobic attitudes and accepts people for who they ARE – not who they love and/or sleep with!

  48. Alarmed
    April 10, 2012

    It amazes me how many young people are engage in this gay business and are not afraid to say so publicly….Gone are the days when gayness was hidden and people with sure feelings were battling with them to keep themselves away the lashing tongue of the public…big boys in office doing it as said by Black Diamond…so people are encourage to come out early as they have the backing of the big boys and girls in offices…

    • Jane
      April 10, 2012

      Emd times, don’t be alarmed!

  49. Truthofthematter
    April 10, 2012

    Lord have mercy

  50. PUSS
    April 10, 2012

    Well bella i think she came to you because she is tired of ignoring the act of the matter and im pretty sure it has an effect on her education.

    I don’t se ehow you expect her to focus on anything much less for her “education” when her mind is so fidgety.

    C’mon you can do better.

    • PUSS
      April 10, 2012

      fact*

  51. D/Aa
    April 10, 2012

    every time a school child come on here about something all you always talking about study your books. school is important but also is free time. we need a balance in life not just books books books. to much of any hing is not good no matter how good.

  52. KG
    April 10, 2012

    Sweet heart there is nothing wrong with you ! You are gay and its not a disease or make you a bad person . The problem you will face is the people around you who are small minded and ignorant and you cannot blame them , thats always gonna be an issue in dominica .My advice to you is to finish your education cause thats the most important thing right now ,it is very unfair that your graduation is under threat but keep your head up ! Once you are done then you can date whatever gender you want ! I f you fancy girls then be yourself ,dont chance for anyone ! your parents will have to accept it or not! Its your life at the end of the day and nothing else should matter ! I am not advising to go and shout it on the mountain cause dominica is still a very anti -gay environment .But being gay doesnt change your personality or make you a bad character! Its so sad that people think that praying can change you when God actually made you this way !

    • toma
      April 10, 2012

      God made all things perfect or are you calling him a liar?he did not make her so she said she got feelings for girls because she was sorounded by girls all the time.U WANT HER TO BE LIKE YOU? I HOPE WHEN A LESBIAN HOLD UR DAUGHTER YOU WILL SING A DIFFERENT TUNE, IF YOU ALREADY HAVENT BEEN DOING HER.

      • KG
        April 10, 2012

        Are you perfect???? I really dont think so ! I AM NOT CALLING GOD A LIAR SO DONT BE SILLY. People like you enjoy taking what suits you from the bible so I am not gonna have a religious conversation with you, you certainly do Not sound like a very educated person so stay in your ignorance and dont you worry about what I am !I gave my advice to her so if you dont like it thats fine …you have the right to respond but why would you reach on me doing my daughter ???You certainly have no class!

      • Deleoncourt
        April 11, 2012

        Toma u are a moron If god did make everything perfect god made this young lady into a perfect lesbian ..KG I could not have said it better myself

    • CONCERNED
      April 10, 2012

      I wonder if your counsel would still be the same if this is your son or daughter.

      • KG
        April 10, 2012

        YES IT WOULD !

  53. Dominican Gay
    April 10, 2012

    The feelings you have are normal, and only you can decide what is your sexual preference.
    The school counselor is way out of line to try to keep you from socializing with your other schoolmates. your counselor should be guiding you towards is setting your priorities and guiding you to being responsible as a minority in your community.
    If it is in fact true that your school is threatening that you will not graduate if you do to denounce your present sexual preference then go the the Ministry of Education to speak to one of the Education Officers or to any lawyers office and ask for assistance in this matter – I am sure they will help. It is an infringement on your human right for any education institution to do that.
    You are your own person, and you have the responsibility to live a healthy and fulfilled life with your own permission, as long as it does not negatively infringe on other peoples lives.

  54. Igloo
    April 10, 2012

    Girl it’s April, in one more month they going to send you home to study. I hope you will be using that time to beat the books instead of if you like girls or boys. Sex will always be there, relationships will always be there. My guess is you’re just about 16-17 years of age. You need to take this sex thing in stages. Too many confused young people walking around.

  55. Anonymous
    April 10, 2012

    Different options? Hum Bella there is one sound option for a lady who is looking for love which is a man. I don’t think that you should be mentioning otpions to this young lady you are seems to be helping to corrupt the world more with you options and advice.

  56. Rule
    April 10, 2012

    There’s absolutely no reason why you should be labeled a bad influence just because of your sexual preference.
    As long as you’re not displaying these feelings towards your classmates during school hours, then the Counselor should not interfere with your private life.

  57. stoic
    April 10, 2012

    life is a vapor…..hell is eternal….pray to pray to God yo give you the strength to resist temptation….i want to have sex with a couple of married men too…i don’t because i know it is a sin against God…and yes we sin in thoughts too…your feelings are different in that you are only attracted to the same sex….nevertheless it’s the card you have been handed ….lastly learn to deal with people’s discrimination and ignorance…life is a learning process

    • SMH
      April 10, 2012

      that is PURE B.S. …. Learn to deal with people’s discrimination??? are you out of your mind?? Discrimination is wrong and dirty and should be considered illegal… discriminating is taking away happiness from someone’s life and drowning their self-esteem… by saying that you have just made discriminating a positive by saying face it. a joke that man?? are you listening to yourself. discrimination also happens in the workplace, at home, at school and any and everywhere in society. please research on it and see where it lead pple to ….SMH telling her to lean to deal with pple’s discrimination. you should be telling her that she needs to take a stand against it. period!!!!

  58. Interesting
    April 10, 2012

    Graduating from high school can be seen as a big accomplishment in an individuals life and If you have worked well and have met with the graduation requirement I don’t think that they should prevent you from graduating just because of your sexual orientation….

  59. zor
    April 10, 2012

    Zor! see de advice Bella give de girl! I cyaan believe dat! Bella I gwaan apply for your position eh! Cuz I checking you have to come better than that! Bella yet to address the girl’s concern eh! Awa wii Bella!

    • Deleoncourt
      April 11, 2012

      Well what you have to do is to learn to read between the lines. Bella is playing to two fields while not condemning the homosexuality she is redirecting the question to a more placated subject of school thus appeasing the right and the left obviously you have not the aptitude for such an endeavor.

  60. Anonymous
    April 10, 2012

    my friend you need to get on your knees and seek God. You are child of God. Your best get ride of these feelings quickly before it lands you in trouble. Ask God to help seek him first. Bella can’t do anything for you or anyone as a matter of fact.

  61. April 10, 2012

    hhmmmm well at least she won’t be preggers b4 being a grown woman :wink: …. any way i think young ladies listen to… too much lady gaga n nicki minaj… and all those shows on t.v such as bad girls club n jersey shore just pouring junk in there brains… do what bella said and stay focused on what’s important… but isn’t these particular schools are Catholic…. hmmmm they should call Sister Cornz for you lol…. i bet is C.H.S

    • Interesting
      April 10, 2012

      Lmao…I was thinkin CHS as well…

    • huh?
      April 10, 2012

      u people are so gullible

  62. Phenomenal Woman
    April 10, 2012

    Hmm I went to an all girl school (SMSS) n did not develop any feelings for them, I made a lot of girl friends while going to school but never crossed that boundary. Not because you’re in an all girl school means that u should have feelings for them. I think u should seek more counseling and if you still have such feelings by the time you’re done with high school, then my girl take it to God in prayer cause this is a very dangerous road you’re taking….Good luck…

  63. Anonymous
    April 10, 2012

    u will be needin ur school u cant hold on and get throgh with school its ur life and noone can make u who u not but my dear patience is best

  64. ProudtobeGay
    April 10, 2012

    The Counsellor needs a head check and the school’s administration should NOT threaten your graduation……….. Your folks will have a hard time accepting but that does not mean they don’t love you………. It will work itself out, you’ll see!

    • G
      April 10, 2012

      proud to be gay you start again, please go back in hibernation. thanks you very much

  65. Anonymous
    April 10, 2012

    come on Bella u can do better than that

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