I have been seeing this guy for five years now, I am now 17 years old and he is now 47 years old. We’ve enjoyed each other in every humanly possible way. He is the first man I have ever been in love with; I was young and he was and is still adorable in everyway. The sexual chemistry between us is so intense that I am unable to explain it. I feel like my world evolves around him. Bella, if this man asks me to stop breathing maybe I would attempt it.
From the very beginning I knew he was the man for me and I have always wanted to be some part of his life. I sleep over at his house sometimes. I tell my mom and dad that I am going to sleep over by a friend but instead I go over by him. He takes real good care of me; breakfast in bed, rubs and kisses my back while I sleep. I know one of his two daughters; we attend the same high school and take the same bus after school class. We even joke sometimes, she knows that I know her dad, but she does not know the depth of our relationship.
He is not rich or anything, but the way that he treats me makes me like the richest woman. Now, I am not looking for a father figure because I grew up and I am still living with my mother and father at home. My family has always been supportive of each other and I have never seen my parents in any major fight or quarrel. In fact they kiss each other every morning before leaving for work.
Lately, my boyfriend and I have been having serious discussions about getting married and having a baby together as soon as I am done with high school.
Look, I have considered further education after high school, but as we all know in this modern world a child no longer prevents its parents from furthering their education. So having a baby is not an issue when coming to being tied down with a child.
I really, really love my man and I know that the way I feel about him is not infatuation, but the real thing. When he calls and every time before he hangs up he says “ I love you, baby.”
Now, Bella my boyfriend has been a long-time family friend and we do not know how to approach our families about our relationship. My parents will be so mad and so will his daughters but we love each other deeply and plan on spending the rest of our life together. We no longer want to hide our love for each other. We just want them to accept us and understand even if they don’t like it. Please help me on how we should approach them.
In Love
Dear In Love
The decision to expose your relationship is an honest thing to do. However you should be prepared for the consequences. It will affect your relationship with your parents and his with your family. Your parents will feel deceived and betrayed by both of you. It will be difficult with your parents because they trusted you and you broke that trust.
Marriage may sound appealing, but are you ready to devote yourself to one man and at such young age? Are you ready for this lifetime commitment? Will you be comfortable in society, around your family, among your friends with this man you are in love with? Secrecy makes it alright, however, in the open we encounter reactions and interactions which can make us face the reality of our situation.
Having a child is a huge responsibility which changes every aspect of your life. Are you ready for the level of commitment parenting requires emotionally and psychologically? A willing father is not the only factor to consider. Balancing studies and a child has implications which you may not be able to cope with.
Be wise and consider all the above because these decisions can and will change your life forever in ways you may perhaps not be ready to deal with.
Bella
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Wisdom aka Muslim, you are a sick sick man all your post are clearly that of a man with serious mental issues
Whenever BELLA posts a letter from an underage girl who has a sex addiction or a man who wants more than one sex partner it seems to strike a nerve with MUSLIM ALWAYS, and he comes running to their defence. Students of world religions have identified an abnormal obsession with sex in Islam. They allow a man to have four wives. This relgion is known for its injustice to women. They are often – on religious grounds – treated with incredible cruelity that is considered criminal in western nations. We need to be even more zealous to uphold the teaching of the Bible – the inspired Word of God – because it is the truth that provides guidance for our confused society. (1) The Bible shows clearly that the only model for marriage that God ever approved of is the union of one man with one woman to the exclusion of all others til death do them part. Polygamy was practiced among the people of God for a time in the Old Testament. God did not approve of this. The scriptures show the problems created by polygamy. It time it was phased out. (2) The Bible tells us that sex outside of marriage is a sin called “fornication”. It clearly says, “…they which do such things shall not inherit the kingdom of God.” (Galatians 5:19-21) (3) The Bible tells us (a) how husbands and wives are to treat each other to have a happy marriage and this includes instructions for the sexual reationship, and (b) how to raise children. Because we are human some of us at times fall short. It would be hypocritical if I claimed perfection. But the Holy Scriptures require us to honor womanhood. Our mothers, sisters, wives, and daughters are generally held in high esteem. We are striving for gender equality and equal opportunity in every department of life. You won’t find our women moving to an Islamic nation to better themselves! Sicerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
Muslim u upsetting scumbag….how would you like that your 12 year old daughter ends up with a 50 year oldd..then again they way u talk is like yyou probably would love ur ow n daughter…stupess…doh come and talk your nonesence on DNO ehh./….Muslim bah-guy Sot..
Child Both u and d feller SICK, i’m so disappointed….When u were 12 years of age he was 42..Now 17..47…I hope he know’s that is rape….SICK PEOPLE!!!!!!
hmm children now a days cant find some one in they age group i always find young grlz with older men disgusting.how do u all do dis,dis iz sick
She know that this is rape right?
This is insane,my girl u are too young for u to even tlkin about real love,and even marriage and child.if u don’t want to regret ur life;jst consentrate on ur education.
Does anybody realise that they started loving when she was 12 and he was 42???
Yes everybody except Muslim_Always
@Sweet pum pum: being in love at 12 is nothing new. This has happen frequently in our western world. Before the age of consent was risen this happened so what is the big deal? People need to look at things holistically.
I ask you again to check the age of consent in different countries in the world. Start with wikipedia please. Thanks.
the in love they are there is the one where they fast to fall out………jus let she and the man marry and ull c
That Muhammed was also into getting it in with kids, the old pervert. This is where Muslim_Always picked up on this abnormity.
A closer look at this “relationship” needs to be taken. This letter was posted in 2011 By now this man should be in jail. Is he? If not, why not? In my country (Canada) if any teacher, parent, clergy, doctor, counselor, or ANYBODY learns of a case involving the sexual abuse of minor he or she MUST report it to police immediately. If they don’t charges can be laid against them and the punishment can be severe! I was a Certified Pastoral Counselor, C.P.C. for several years and worked under contract in a large medical centre in Toronto. This was something we were very much aware of. If this girl at the age of 12 was under the age of consent and IF there was a sexual relationship it was a criminal act. She was not legally able to give consent regardless of how hot she was for him. Here is a little psychology at no extra cost. The man is a pedophile. It would not be unusual for him to be abusing more than one child over the five year period. These men are repeat offenders. The older she gets the more necessary it will become for him to seek out younger victims. The last thing you need is for a Muslim or anybody else to throw a blanket of respectibility over this by suggesting that your age of consent in Dominica should be lowered or that it should be O.K. for a man to have more than one wife. Whatever information a counselor comes in possession of should be turned over to the police. And the police should do their job. It’s time to hold these people accountable! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
did anybody realise that she met him when she was 12 and he was 42???
I can see that u joined late. Have u not been reading all the comments? That is the main issue at hand.
muslim_always is an a*s……… he deserves 2 b hanged, my children he hav 2 come n touch wi 4 me 2 cut of his balls
we hear u miss phillip….
Open your mind, this is not about touching your children. This discussion is about preserving their dignity rather than sneaking out with many different men.
I’m suggesting these young girls get married to someone descent around their age group, not some grown man approaching a young girl without the consent of her parents.
Madness…
kelvon u dt dre lool
my problem is not with the age difference between them now. my problem is with the age difference between them then, 12-42. Sick nasty man. he needs to be taken to the cleaners. Child Mr. doesn’t love you. Run for your life and make police arrest his backside. the pervert.
@muslim always go marry a 5 year old if the child or the parent consents – d@#m n@sty pervert you. In a nutshell you good to throw too. just like the man. talking about lowering the age of consent to have sex with under developed minds. malpwop. poor society with people like you around.
@ sick: Please review the age of consent in Europe for example before you accuse people falsely.
THIS IS NOT EUROPE PEDOPHILE
damn rite this is DOMINICA aka THE NATURE ISLE aka WAITIKUBULI tall is her body!
@Muslim_Always in the past I always enjoyed reading your responses to certain issues because I viewed you as a sound, stable and mature individual.. but this time..smdh you have fallen off the wagon and the deep end. If my teenage 17 year old teenage daughter need to have sex with a damn 47 year old man who could be her father just to feel loved and understood that’s a damn sad state of affairs…
You are a sick bastard…. 
Pls review the age of consent in Europe. Germany and Hungary, the age of consent is 14. If I suggest lowering it, how am I a sick person? You people are too emotional!
Again the rest of the Dominican populace and myself do not care about the age of consent in
Europe, Germany and Hungary being 14 NONE OF US will consent to our 14 year old daughters having sex they are just not ready. And yes we have a right to be emotional ! won’t you be if you
call yourself a responsible parent ? THIS IS AN EMOTIONAL TOPIC YOU ARE TALKING ABOUT A
CHILD. WHEN COME TO OUR KIDS WE ARE EMOTIONAL JUST REMEMBER THAT !
Sis you need to open your mind, that is the problem! How do you mean you do not care about the age of consent in Europe? Look at things from a global perspective rather than a shallow Dominican view of things. You need to be open. I am not talking as if I am the only person in the world who agrees with the age of consent being lower, just look at the stats. Thus, based on stats I have a right to voice my opinion without being called names.
What a story and comments of various views! Who is right and wrong?
A man of his age and a 12-year old girl? Who approached whom? It is obvious to me that the man may have primarily approached this young girl. In this case, he is considered a pedophile. Is he aware that he could be charged?
When her parents and his family find out I wonder what would their reaction be? No doubt one of shock and disdain for this man since he is older than she is and a betrayal of trust.
It appears that she is determined to be with him and bear his child and hopefully be married to him in time. There are times such relationships work and there are times they do not work especially if the man (woman) is much older.
As people grow older, illness takes its toll. Will she be prepared for that being much younger than he is? So much more could be stated about that.
This young girl is now 17 years old, you have a long life ahead of you which includes furthering your education. You do not know what lies ahead for you in the future. This man is now 47 years old. Consider how old he will be including yourself in twenty years from now. Do not be presumptuous that some years from now and as you meet younger men that you will continue to be in love with this man specifically if he may not be healthy.
Think beyond. Think of your future. Do not waste your precious God-given years and life. Do not succumb to having a child at this age, 17.
You may feel that you are in love with him which I will not doubt. However, my advice to you at this age and stage in your life is to concentrate on your education.
Do not lean on your own understanding but pray to God for guidance.
@ Muslim Always, Do you work for DNO? i cannot believe to respond to everybody.
Muslim always….you seem to be taking this topic to the next level…your opinion is not LAW…the fact is…and not every one will agree with you..jump high jump low…..
we should accept the fact….
HUMAN BEING WILL ALWAYS DO WRONG THINGS…. it’s in our nature..
Tomorrow will be the story of another, we tend to forget quickly…
C’est la vie….
I am aware that not everyone will agree and that’s ok. Our Dominican culture is naturally a closed minded one. Many support buggery yet oppress young teenage girls who want to feel understood and loved.
@ Muslim I hope if u have u daughter that u don’t find her giving a 50 years old man a good suck and some rough sex.. u pervert… maybe u yourself having sex with her u damn pedophile
You’re overacting! Calm down, just look at the figures across the world to see the age of consent…do a little research before you speak please.
First off… I think Muslim is a damn pedophile…
Second..12 and 42… ok girl starts having their menstrual at 11 or 12 so that mean the man can be her grandfather…
I to was in her shoes… I was in love with a man that was 14 years older than me when I was 16… I feel that he took away my innocence cause he knew about life and how to control me.. sweetheart that man want to get u pregnant so he can control u… he wouldn’t want no 47 yrs old man to trap his daughter so why is he trying to destroy ur life… do u have any idea what ur parents are going to do to that man… speaking from experience.. darling he don’t love u… if he did, he would make sure I get the proper education before trapping u with kids…RUN!!!!! PLEASE TAKE MY FOOLISH ADVICE… or at least wait on the kids… WHO DON’T HEAR WILL FEEL IT… years from now you will look back and say if I had waited, I wouldn’t have no regrets…
Muslim… u damn pedophiles… I better stay away from my child if ever I come back Dominica… damn pervert
I mean Muslim stay away from the young girls in my family… u pervert.
Why are you over reacting, you were 16 and you felt he took your innocence? You cannot base your experience then conclude all relationships are the same. That makes no sense.
I think that any people or country that support homosexuality is a perverted country. Any country that support pornography is a perverted country.
Age is just a number at lest is not lesbian u are and lesbian is not of god so do what your heart desire and put god in the relationship and all will be good.
I hope you don’t have any girl children. You and Muslim_Always would make a happy couple
belle did not give a healthy advice this time the guy is 47 and she is 17 dat should b a total “no no”..i remember she giving advice to a similar situation like this where the guy was 22 and the guy was 17 and she disapprove dat relationship i doe see wat is so special about this one she is all 4 it …plzz rethink this advice belle
hmmmm…wow just too amazing..im a bit annoyed that from the time you were 12 he was sleeping with you., in fact im very annoyed. darling take ur time about that marriage and baby thing. my bf is 48.he is 21 yrs older than me and we have been together for 6 yrs. we speak marriage as well. but the truth im not yet thinking babies neither so much of a desire to get married. i will tell you this when you begin to get older other factors than just word the love start to have meaning in your life. words like age, can he satisy my sexual desire when i need to? what about is he willing to hang out with me because at this age these men are not so interstellar into going out. will i be comfortable with him around my friends? these among others are important. dont tell me age is just a number to cover up why we stay in these realtionships. at the beginning its no big deal but eventaully as you become more educated you understand. i have a masters degree already darling so if i wish i cud have babies. listen to the voice of wisdom. you feel all in love now but dont rush anything. you are still to young. of course he would be happy to make you his wife because you are young and full of life . but please be wise.
My only objection to your situation is that this relationship is a fornicating one.
well…dominican men have serious issues…adult women are all interested in school and studies these days sex is a back burner for them..that only leaves the horny males to the volnarable ..married men et all…bring on the strip clubs and pent houses i bet the problem will lesson
“Muslim Always”…please do us all a favor and go jump off a cliff!!!!!!! Seriously dude??? Just stfu!!!!!
Am I not entitled to freedom of speech? Am I not entitled to hold a different point of view? Wouldn’t it be better to discuss this in a civil manner?
I KNOW ..READING YOUR COMMENTS JUST MAKING ME VEX WI MUSLIM…..IS LIKE U THEY TALKING BOUT IN THE LETTER….NASTY
good advice bella
muslim always your radical ideas you need to move to a islamic country.
im tryin to figure wat happen to d muslim openly encouraging such heinous acts u lucky christians not like some of u muslims and just kill u all because we dont agree with ure point of view. if u want to destroy pples children go somewhere else. because if tht was my child and u were the one doing it boss allah would not be able to help u. i have never brought myself to personally attack anyone on this site but u deserve to hang along with tht sick bast@#d. sick disgusting individual. and im waiiting for your response. keep showing your morl deprivation
My friend this is divine law. I do not support the fornicating relationship between the two, what I disagree with are people yelling rape rape when there is no violence or force stated or implied in the article.
Secondly, I believe that the age of consent needs to be reviewed because there are too many young girls willfully engaging in sexual activity. Many young girls are even making the move first. There are many other reasons. I think it’s unfair for a 14 year old girl to be seducing a 20 year old, simply because she is 14, her testimony bears weight in court whereas, the 20 year old cannot defend himself.
A 14 year old cannot consent to have sex but she can consent to make a statement in court? Her words are like revelation from God? What utter rubbish!
it can never be right and anyone who condones that is just as guilty. at 12 years no CHILD is truly ready for the rigours of life their bodies are still developing.yes they may appear to be sexually mature but their bodies are not prepared for child birth and child development, so how can u attempt to justify those actions. how would you feel to come ome to find ure 12 year old daughter under some heavy w@#d what would your reaction be. now no 14 year old in my house can consent or not consent to anything it would have too recieve my blessing. so she would go to court and testify at 14 she would be my responsibility i would hae to pay all her bills and some 47 year old man want to scerw her awa he would never do it again
Who tell you what you are saying? In Dominica for example check the age of teenage births in Dominica and you will see the reality. There are many girls under the age of 16 giving birth and they do not go through many complications in comparison to stupid women who wait till in their 30s to have their first child in the name of education, these women are the ones having the complications, ask a medical doctor, get some statistics before you open your mouth.
@de caribbean change, BBA, MBA, CPA Yes you are right smdh but not at 12yrs old.. probably at 21, 22 years old…. by the way you sound like a man that has no problem being
a pedophile
i was only responding to the woman who said she is in love with a 47 year-old man twice her age, which means that she is about 23 or 24 years old, not the twelve year-old girl caught having sex with three teenage boys, see my comment on this one. It is unacceptable.
she is now 17..she has been wit this man for 5 yrs..thats says she was involved wit d guy at 12..Right? correct me if im wrong..
U really must come up with something more believable. The in love with a man twice my age is believable, but some information in there is pure fabrication. U have an overactive imagination and should stop fooling people. Guess that must be ur way of judging our moral compass. I am on to u Bella. Stop it.
It’s better to be an old man’s darling than a young man’s slave.
Love cannot be controlled… That is all…
This is a clear case of sexual abuse; there is no way this child could have given consent to this man at 12. She was incapable of understanding the changes going on with her body much less to understand being with a man in his forties. He took advantage of her naiveté and dishonored her purity, while at the same time deceiving her family. If he was truly in love with her and the love was pure and consensual, why not ask the young lady parents to date their daughter? The fact that they kept a secret and she lied to her parents in order to sleep with this man tells me that she was coerce and coached not to tell her parents under the pretense of love. This man psychologically manipulated her in letting her believe he cared for her resulting in her deceiving her parents. She may think she is in love, but the man took advantage of her and this is a clear case of sexual abuse. I don’t care who thinks this relationship is a healthy one and thinks it should be legal, I say not so. Islam/Muslim your views make me cringe. If the man had any respect for the young lady and her family instead of violating the family trust, putting shame on the family, fornicating, taking away her innocence, and violating her body why couldn’t he have asked her family to marry her instead prior to him having sex with her. The mere fact he couldn’t tell them about his feelings for their daughter tells me it is an act of sexual abuse/rape. He should be classified as a pedophile. Since the definition of a pedophile is an adult who is sexually attracted to a child or children. Pedophilia is also considered to be a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification. She should not mistake an act of pedophilia for love because pedophile give gifts, he gives his time and he gains her trust but he has an agenda. He is not only working on her but her parents too in that he grooms the parents as well in gaining their trust but in reality he is manipulating them. This manipulation of their trust takes years and does not happen over night; he may make the family feel special, give them gifts and attend family functions making it difficult for them to observe the sick relationship this individual is having with their minor child. This child really needs to seek mental counseling……
Posted by a Professional Mental Health Counselor
I beg to differ.
How do you know she doesn’t understand the changes going on in her body?
Secondly, would the parents agree for him to date the daughter? If our society was a more understanding and open society when it comes to the issue of young marriages then I believe the man would approach the parents.
I agree with you here, this is the crime…Fornication!
I disagree that the idea they didn’t say anything to her parents thus it’s an issue of rape/abuse is inconclusive.
You said, “Pedophilia is also considered to be a psychosexual disorder in which the fantasy or actual act of engaging in sexual activity with prepubertal children is the preferred or exclusive means of achieving sexual excitement and gratification.” I agree, but the key word here is PREPUBERTAL. Was this girl prepubertal or did she reach the age of puberty at 12 as young girls develop faster than boys? If she was PREPUBERTAL then he is a pedophile, if NOT, she consented, she willfully gave her body to this man. She sneaked out in order to fulfill her sexual gratification. She has been doing this for 5 years, let’s be reasonable!
Professional Counsellor, I respect your views however, I believe your cultural bias has influenced your judgement. Many of these views by counsellors lack science, spirituality, logic and reason. I challenge anyone on DNO to provide any evidence from any divine scriptures where it suggest a woman should be 16, 17 or 18 to get married.
I conclusion regarding these issues, the age of consent needs to be reviewed and seriously lowered. It is too high. It should be down to at least 14. A young girl at 12 with raging hormones, it is very oppressive to keep her celibate until she is 16 or 18. I suggest a middle path. Why not go through the parents of the girl, court her then marriage her whilst she goes to school. Isn’t love a process? Why can’t she learn to love whilst she goes to school? When we deny our teenagers that opportunity, they will rendez-vous with boys in the library, surf cafe etc. They will sneak out. They will masturbate, practice lesbianism and orgies. At the same breath, a girl at 12, her father caught her having sex with two boys, one at 14 and one at 16. Is that justified? How many unreported cases of that going on and what practical remedies the shrinks are proposing to cushion these challenges?
I really hope u find ur daughter sucking a man Dick… pedophiles or better yet u get caught molesting ur child or someone else child… u sick pervert
@ Away Dominican: How am I a sick pervert? You don’t want to open your mind, aren’t you seeing what goes on with these young teenage girls? If you put the age of consent 16, 18 or 21 this still makes no difference because the girls under these ages will sneak out for sex, pure and simple. Prisons will be loaded with young men for nonsense.
Didn’t you read the article? The 17 year old girl said, “From the very beginning I knew he was the man for me and I have always wanted to be some part of his life.”
The age of consent in my view is too high. It is ridiculous to imprison a man for 7 years for having relations with a girl at 15. It’s an oppressive punishment. I do not see the scientific reasoning behind the difference between a 15 and 16 year old. This is not addressing the problem.
Look at the comparative figures of the age of consent in the world. It’s inconsistent! In Germany for example the age of consent is 14. In Brazil which is a developing country the age of consent is 14. China is 14!
Look into the age of consent in the various countries across the world then you will see the variation. Thus, if I call for the lowering for the age of consent, how could I be a pervert? Do some research before you open your mouth.
And mark you ! he is their so called ” FAMILY FRIEND ” well there busy screwing the person child
At 15 16 u have not gotten a good education… and the country that u named have the highest poor population… most of this girls end up in dead end jobs… what they need to do is educate these girls… yes they have hormones because they r going through puberty… they don’t know any better… u r just a sick pervert….
@ away dominican: All you care about is material secular things. Are you saying that people are not educated in China? Almost all our things come from China and their age of consent is 14!
I feel sorry for you small minded people.
Dear Counselor: Thank you for posting your comments. They show your keep professional insight. This man is dishonest. He is a manipulator. It is obvious he seduced a child and stold her innocence. I do not know what the age of cencent is in Dominica nor do I know how early the sexual relationship began. But these are things the police should be looking into. If possible this man should be taken out of circulation for a long time. Pedophilia is not winked at in this part in the world, and contary to Muslim Always, we are not about to make a religion out of it. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
For all you know, this might not even be a real situation. It is important though, to hear the mind set of some contributors. I am not interested in condemning anyone, but I am indeed surprise at the response from Muslim Always.
Muslim, I want you to tell us your impression of the following:
A Minor
Child molestation
Statutory Rape
Rapist
Child Molester
Pedophile
While you are at it, please give me your thoughts on the following:
If you were a 42 year old single man, in need of sexual relationship, and a 12 year old girl came to you and said, “Muslim, I love you. I want you to be my boyfriend/ husband. I want to have sex with you”. How would you respond?
I am trying not to condemn you and your opinions, but so far your response to this one has made my stomach feel kinda bad.
I must also tell you, that forcing ones religious beliefs on others cannot be right in the sight of the Holy Master.
Fair enough, I’ll define the terms as best as possible.
1. A minor is a girl or a boy under the age of puberty. In divine law a young girl or boy who have reached their teenage years from 12 is considered a man or a woman as they have the ability to make children, their frontal lobes for reasoning has been developed. If a girl or a boy is 16 yet they have not reached the age of puberty, then they are minors according to divine law. One may argue that a girl at 13 is not ready for marriage, I believe it has to do with socialization thus I am suggesting those things be corrected.
2. Child molestation: An adult who stimulates or engages in sexual activity with a prepubertal boy or girl.
3. Statutory rape: Based on law this is defined differently, however if one means a grown person having relations with one who is post-pubertal then we do not believe in this. It would be fornication in both cases thus are subjected to about 80 lashes by divine law.
4. A rapist is an offender who forces a person especially a woman to submit to sexual intercourse against her will. Thus I disagree with many persons when they say this girl in the article was raped because the content of the article does not suggest so.
5. Pedophile is an offender who has sexual activity with a girl or boy under puberty. It is a sexual disorder where this person fantasies about having relations with prepubertal boy or girl.
If you were a 42 year old single man, in need of sexual relationship, and a 12 year old girl came to you and said, “Muslim, I love you. I want you to be my boyfriend/ husband. I want to have sex with you”. How would you respond?
ANS: I would tell her that she is jail bait, I would never personally engage with any person who attends high school. I simply believe that there are numerous accounts regarding young girls who engage in sexual activity. There is another article where a father in the Virgin Islands came home, caught his twelve year old daughter having sex with a 14 and 16 year old boy. I do not believe that the age of consent at the age of 16 is justifiable. Firstly, we see in most parts of the world the age of consent is below 16 such as Europe, Africa, South America, Asia and the Middle East. In my opinion I believe it is too high. If it was lowered, the parents were a medium where their consent is sought so that their daughters could get married instead of “experiment” this would be healthier.
Now you accuse me of forcing one’s belief on others, how about many of the people here, aren’t they screaming and forcing a inconclusive logic of rape regarding the girl in this article? Aren’t they forcing their views when there is no reason to do so?
The name of the letter should be “I’M IN LOVE WITH A PEDOPHILE”
they should jail his a*** since the child 12 he f@#$%^& her he is a sick mother f$#@%$&
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h6lJ_4IXlMc …. this song goes out to in love hahaha my girl u and ur man need a good kick…. shait! NONSENSE
are you kidding me!!!!!!!!! 17 -12 =5 years together. 47-5= 42 (sacway avoiler) i wonder what he would do if he found out the girl father was having an affair with his daughter. A fool at thirty is a fool forever-47 and still single eh!!!! pervert preying on young girl. got pick on somebody your size. i wonder how many young girl he destroy. people look out for family friend. my girl when you 30, he sixty and figgy might not be working so good, so all de feel good u gettig finish. he not just twice your age, he twice and change. child,because that is what you are, turn your life over to god, go to school, get a life and leave dat looser alone.
everytime there is a pedophile on the loose, M Always there to defend them perverts. birds of a feather………
Child ! and I mean CHILD in every sense of the word your “boyfriend” is a PEDOPHILE
is there a reason why he is not attracted to women in their 30’s or 40’s ? and you are
impressed that before he hangs up the phone he says “baby I love you” well when he calls
you “baby” that is first of all what you really are a baby… and news flash baby I love you
is the easiest thing to say to just about any and everybody before you hang up the phone
ask any full grown adult. Go and study your book
I am beginning to suspect that “Muslim Always” may be the perpetrator of this horrible sex crime against this poor misguided child. The way MA insist on attacking EVERYONE’s comments and believes it is perfectly OK for a 42 year old man to have sex with a 12 year old child leads me to wonder if he is merely trying to defend his own depraved actions.
This so called “Muslim Always” is no different from Islamic terrorist that twist the teaching of the Qur’an for their own nefarious and selfish purposes. It happens in every religion: religious fanatics, whether they are Muslims, Christians, Jews or otherwise, that spew hatred against everyone that does not share their twisted, narrow-minded pathetic view of life. None of them are really true believers of the faith they profess but are merely perverting teachings that are supposed to create harmony among all the people of the world to push their own agenda.
MA needs to get a job and stop spending every single moment attacking everyone on every single article posted on DNO, showing just how much he hates the world and even himself. He should also stop pretending to be a Muslim. He should truly open his heart to Allah and learn to love and build rather than trying to tear down and destroy.
On that note I hope that the child in question gets some counseling for the abuse she has suffered for so many years without even being aware of it. She also needs to know that no one should put another person as the complete center of their life. She clearly shows that she would easily kill herself at the slightest suggestion from her abuser. She needs to let go of him and invite God into her life. Maybe she should start watching Law & Order: SVU as well, and study her books more. She has her whole life ahead of her. Now is not the time to go having children, especially for a pedophile.
I also hope that the perpetrator of this crime is punished for his depraved actions. How can a 42 year old man have sex with a 12 year old? And worse still you have a daughter the same age as her. He better turn himself in before her father finds out and buries him in the backyard.
Parents should also be more careful about where their children go, who they interact with and stay over by. Parents need to be more vigilant. Check up on your kids. If they are staying by someone else call the parents. And don’t even take that for granted. Even if she was going over by the friend she claimed to be by that friend’s parent could do the same thing to her. It can happen to anyone’s children.
And to the young know that no matter how infatuated you may feel about someone older than you it is still rape and abuse. They are taking advantage of you and stealing your innocence and youth away.
I will now await a venomous attack from “Muslim Always” for my comment.
Trinity, if you believe that God is three in one, your polytheistic belief is the greatest crime against God. It’s even worse that what that fornicating relationship they are into.
No Trinity I am not going to attack you, I simply do not agree that this is rape because there is no evidence which suggest so. There was no violence or force. My question is, did this girl reach the age of puberty at 12? Did she develop all the secondary sexual characteristics? Why would a rape victim continuously go to this man’s home to be raped? I’m sorry but this makes no sense to my mind. I cannot conclude simply because she was 12 or 13 that she was raped. This is my issue.
I believe Muslim Agreed is the one in the relationship because he or she is to much into the depth of this post!
U sure that is an article submitted by a Dominican? Dominican men are that desperate?
yes they are….it is much worse than this
@ Muslim Always: I am not attacking Islam I am asking you if it’s true that Muhammed, the founder of your religion of Islam was a pedophile?
from: http://www.papillonsartpalace.com/muhtpammed.htm
“Volume 7, Book 62, Number 64: Sahih Bukhari Aisha: that the Prophet married her when she was six
years old and he consummated his marriage when she was nine years old, and then she remained with him for nine years (i.e. till his death).”
“From Khomeini’s book, “Tahrirolvasyleh”, fourth volume, Darol Elm, Gom, Iran,
1990 : A man can have sexual pleasure from a child as young as a baby. However he should not
penetrate, sodomising the child is OK. If the man penetrates and damages the child then he
should be responsible for her subsistence all her life. This girl, however does not count as
one of his four permanent wives. The man will not be eligible to marry the girls sister.”
You’re all over this topic but it seems like your religion is filled with some perverts. Let’s hear your defence.
Are you serious ??????
@ Anti-hate: These are clear lies, no sound sane person would accept this regarding Khomeini’s book. Nice google trick to pull up some lies about Ayatollah Khomeini.
Secondly, it was known many centuries ago to perform young marriages. In the Byzantine Empire (Christian Empire) these early marriages were known. No enemy of Prophet Muhammad at the time ever used the issue of early marriage against him as this was known. Thus if you are using your disgusting secularistic satanic mind to judge practices which are in agreement with divine law you are clearly wrong. He did not fornicate with her, the family as well as the girl consented to the early marriage. Additionally, the prophet married her, however, he consumated the marriage years later. The concept of marriage in Islamic law is very different from secular western stupid man made laws.
This is very grievous. When I think of Islam I think of female circumcision, honor killings, woman not being allowed to answer the door without a veil over their faces, women not being allowed to leave the house to walk to the market unless she is in the company of male relative, members of one Muslim sect murdering members of another Muslim sect, Muslims murdering former Muslins because they converted to another faith, reporters and journalist in Islamic countries being kidnapped, held hostage, and in some cases murdered. I think of the actual news on television telling how the sons of an infamous Muslin dictator (now dead) would grab women off the streets, drag them into “rape rooms” and rape them. I think of Muslim terrorists. I think 9-11! In Islamic countries Christians are having their homes burned down by Muslims. Our missionaries have been slain. Why? Because they dared to tell the people about a God who loves them. A God they can have a personal relationship with. I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca In the left margin click onto SERMONS. Then click onto my sermon MANY INFALLIBLE PROOFS. In it I will share with you the actual evidence that Jesus Christ rose from the dead. I will give you the names of lawyers who became Christians AFTER they studied the evidence of the resurrection. They said the evidence would stand up in any modern court of law. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
This man is clearly a child molestor….Child sexual abuse is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation, “children cannot consent to sexual activity with adults”, and condemns any such action by an adult: “An adult who engages in sexual activity with a child is performing a criminal and immoral act which never can be considered normal or socially acceptable behavior…..Offenders are more likely to be relatives or acquaintances of their victim than strangers….
P.S: Muslim-Always… what are you tryiny to say? “A bunch of dam illiterate bloggers posting and yelling rape rape rape. It’s you Elsie who has to think before posting your comments. It’s parents like you all who do not understand basic sexology as it relates to divine law that’s why you all speak such garbage” …. Muslim-Always your statements and comments put you in the same category as this molestor and i have no problem calling you one…you and your comments can go some place else we are not interested….
She is not a child for crying out loud and there was no force or violence against this young lady. Secondly, socially acceptable practices and ideals that contradicts divine law should be thrown out the window.
Women who are raped or abused do not normally want to marry their abuser. They are traumatized for life. It is clearly shown this young girl is not traumatized. I cannot say it is rape when it is not.
In divine law, both would be fornicators if the man has never been married. Fornication is a crime against God; that is the crime I would convict them of.
What 42 years old man see in a 12 year old child… all he see is a tight vigina… Muslim u r a damn pervert… a…hole… we ain’t telling her fornicate… the man raped her of her youth… he may not have physcally raped her but he took her innocence knowing fully well that he just wanted a tight vagina for his own personal porpose… the man even might be having sex with his daughter… I won’t be suprise because his daughter and her goes to the same school so it he do it to her then he doing it with his daughter…
according to my padna, belle beff, my thought ma girl.. do what pleases ya
ALL I HAVE TO SAY IS:
DEAR IN LOVE YOU WERE RAPED AND YOUR INNOCENCES STOLEN FROM YOU. MY ONLY ADIVECE IS, TO SEEK COUNCILING CAUSE YOU ARE CLEARLY BRAIN WASHED. THIS MAN IS NOTHING SHORT OF A SICK, DISGUSTING SEXUAL PREDATOR. HE MADE U KEEP IT A SECRET CAUSE HE KNEW IT WAS WRONG TO BE INVOLVED WITH A MINOR. THIS SO-CALLED BOYFRIEND NEEDS TO BE PROSECUTED TO THE FULL EXTENT OF THE LAW , IN CONCLUSION HE NOT 2 TIMES YOUR AGE HE IS 3 1/2 TIMES OLDER THAN U ARE .
Muslim Always stop trying to justify your stupid religion here. That is a case of rape. Every society pass laws to protect the vulnerable: children, elderly, mentally ill and the like.
According to the law a child is unable to make decisions on their own. So if a grown man have sex with an underage child even if the child does it willingly, it is seen as rape because the law is assuming that the child could not make a decision of his or her own. In the books it is called ‘statutory rape.’
Of course in Islam you have a bunch of sick people who goes around telling people they should marry 14 year olds and probably kill them if they don’t accept it. These are the same people who would cut off a person’s head because he burn a Koran, which is really paper and ink. Is a man’s life worth paper and ink? It is the same set of people that would tell people to blow up their selves for the name of Islam, yet the same people who instructing others to blow themselves up never go and do it themselves. Sick set of people.
D guy always giving his 2cents… I don’t know why,, dis is D/ca
A 12 year old is unable to make decisions on his/her own? If a grown man has sex with an underage child even if the child does it willingly, it is seen as rape? What kind of flawed reasoning is that? Who defines what a child is, the post-colonial secular lawyers or divine law? Could you kindly define rape please…According to the Shorter Collins Dictionary: Rape is the offense of FORCING A PERSON, especially a woman, to submit to sexual intercourse AGAINST THAT PERSON’S WILL.
According to the article submitted, was this young girl forced? No!
Was there evidence of scratches, violence, ruptured vagina etc? No!
Will a girl who was raped sneek out to meet this man over and over for 5 years to the extent she wants to marry and have his child? The answer is NO!
If this man had raped this woman, then I would be tough on my post, I would call for capital punishment however according to the article this is not the case.
As for all you Muslims self, as long as a female seeing period, they good to go wi…as far as all you concerned…stupes…Garcon, go and do Shabazz work in de store on four corners eh…i know is there you working….i know you.
If its not rape then it started as UNLAWFUL CARNAL KNOWLEDGE…..she said five years: that means he was 42 and she was 12……….3 x 12 = 36 already……..4 x 12 is 48……………………. Thats almost FOUR TIMES her age………..thats a baby raper there hun………from the looks of things she is too confused to know whats going on……..plus he has brainwashed her to the maximum..That is what we mean in Dominican terms when we say “we growing it from small”.lol..but seriously I would JAIL this man………. He was 42 years when he started the relationship with her…….42 years for christ’s sake……….Old enought to be her grandfather……….lol.Mature enough to guide her and tell her that having a relationship is at that age is not HEALTHY and it is WRONG……..I am a young man OF 22 YEARS and I have quite a few women………..AND NONE OF THEM ARE BELOW 19 TRUST ME! We should find out who Mister is and let him know WHAT TIME IT IS!!! We DOH PROMOTING PEDOPHILES in D/ca..PURE BIG WOMAN TING WE SUPPORTING!!!!!
You think thats the best way now That he can Still satisfy you, but later in life you are going to face the consequencies.You were just trap too early in a relationship just for pleasure and you haven’t think of God to stop and lets your parents know.They suppose to know because you are lying to them.That man is wicked because you were underage by then.If you pray deeply you would know that this relationship is wrong for you. God would show you the right way and you would put this man in his place He could be your father.Trust me you will regret…. You are not free….Allow God to come in your life…
OM*G!!!! poor girl. i dont blame her at all. if you’ve only known one man, one ‘love’ from 12 to 17 thats all you’re gonna want to be with, especially if he treats her the way she “says”. she cant know what she wants to do with her life cuz she hasnt been living…she’s been bound by a man who’s already lived and learnt. (hmmmm apparently he aint learnt enough to leave ppl children alone!!).
give her 6 more years and see how quick her mind changes and she starts realizing life is more that him. if she has a kid for him, she gonna be in ‘mise-eh’!!
this man has maybe abused his own daughters sexually. he either has a major psychological problem or he has a demon….. no man in his right mind engages himself in ANY relationship with a 12 yr old..unless its a father/daughter one. this is pure cr*p!!
what do you, as a 42 yr old man, see in a 12 yr old? how are you attracted to her?
qui-ca e ne???????
qui-ca e sauve?!?!?!?!
BELLA I’M SO DISAPPOINTED IN YOUR ADVISE 2DAY………. YOU SHOULD HAVE POINTED OUT THAT THIS MAN WAS 42 WHILE SHE WAS JUST 12 WHEN THIS ALL STARTED.. NASTY F**k*r
This is statutory rape, child abuse, child molestation!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I don’t even know what to tell you.
This cannot be love – sorry … it’s some kind of dependency because the man used you and played with your emotions while you were, and by the sounds of it, still are a child.
I would hope that you’d tell your parents so this man could be dragged through the court system. This man is disgusting!!!!! At 12 yrs he began a relationship with you.
You’re a teenager…ok, at 12, you may not have known better, but now, you are educated…you must know that this is NOT LOVE, that this is WRONG, and both of you need help!!!!!!!
Imagine – you’d consider not breathing if he asked you to! This means that you’d consider DEATH. Baby girl…RUN, RUN, RUN! Go tell your mamie and daddy – they can still save you from this relationship!!!!!!!!
You are in no way ready for no ZAFANT/CHILD/PICKNEY – nothing…as for marriage…this should be the farthest thing from your mind.
What about your education and the boundless opportunities it can provide you?
I cannot in good conscience tell you stay in this “relationship” because it is wrong… the only thing I agree with Bella on, is that you should tell your parents. And DO NOT believe for one minute that your parents will feel deceived and betrayed by you!!!!!!! You did NOT break your parents trust. HE DID it! He betrayed you, your parents, his family and society.
THIS IS IN NO WAY AND BY NO MEANS YOUR FAULT!!!!
And as for BELLA’S ADVICE – I’M SURPRISED!!!!! Can she not see the seriousness of the issue, the implications of this admission and the damage that this relationship of abuse is and will cause!!!!!!
Honestly…i’m disappointed in this advice from Bella.
No matter how much she advices about love, marriage and the likes – GIRL, YOU ARE NOT READY for this. You need to deal with the issues caused by this man – the fact that at 12 yrs, he took advantage of you, and you being young and innocent, and lured with the pleasures of the little things he gave you, confused the situation….
I want to shed a tear for your lost innocence and at the same time, i want to shake you out of your dreamy lalaland life…but alas….such is the society we live in….where men rape kids and are pedophiles hidden by society…all in the guise of LOVE…And where advice is given without fully understanding or acknowledging the crime being perpetuated and allowed to continue!!!!!!!!!!
Please IN LOVE —- FIND HELP!!!!!!!
Dear friend,
As usual you never seem to live up to your name. Your name is : ‘Just giving my two cents’ yet you always seem to be giving more than your two cents. You forever have some kind of long response!
Please I am begging of you, is either you change your name or live up to your name!
Thanks for your consideration
Well Easily … you must have been left behind somewhere along the line, because you seem to not realize – that you have the FREEDOM to not read my post!!!!!!!! So i’ll give you some consideration in hoping that you just NOT READ my post when you see them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I like to see that you are leaving up to yours!!!!!!
I’d suggest that you take your EaSiLy wasted time and spend it on an article which you’d have no time wasting, understanding and getting the ‘two cents’ out of!!!!!!!!
I disagree with your advice. How could you say that he raped her? Rape is when you force someone to have sex with you through intimidation and violence. She loves the man, she sneeks out to be with him, that’s not rape. She wants this, didn’t you read her article? Who are we to impose our materialistic ways on this young lady. She has been with him for 5 years, he treats her well and she is happy.
Next thing she finds ‘help’ the counsellor breaks the relationship, she moves on with someone else, next thing the young stud cheats on her? No, I believe a different approach needs to be taken on this issue. A scientific and spiritual approach needs to be sought on this issue.
The major thing I disagree with in this relationship is that they are fornicating. Lastly, I do not advise any man or woman to break the laws of their country with regards to it’s age of consent laws.
ok … that’s your opinion…but in the same breath as you state that you do not advise a man or woman to break the laws, you are in essence agreeing with the relationship, by only disagreeing with the fornication aspect.
So, is there a point in agreeing to keep the laws, when the actions you agree with go against the same laws?
Or should the laws only be broken when they agree with what we hold and deem as right?
The only reason I speak against breaking those laws it’s because of the ridiculous prison sentence. However, I strongly believe this law needs to be reviewed and abrogated. The age of consent needs to be lowered. It is ridiculously too high! What is the difference between a 15, 16 and a 17 year old girl? None whatsoever so it is futile to imprison a man for having marital relations with a 15 year old. Additionally, please review the age of consent in Europe, mainly we see the age of consent is 14 and 15. Why are there so many inconsistencies? It clearly shows the biasness and unscientific approach to this judgement.
The laws are so ridiculous, the age of consent in Dominica is 16 but is allowed to get married at 18 or 21. This suggest that the girl can run lavie sodom for 2-5 years. Also, our society puts pressure on young couples or discourage young couples from getting married. Yet, it’s ok to fornicate or practice filthy homosexuality.
How is it as a student of divine law, science and reason can accept this?
does psychological domination ring a bell?
I agree with everything u just said 100% .Dominica and Dominicans on a whole need to wake up and stop entertaining this nonsense .I don’t care how fancy they try to put it or how appealing it may seem to dem its rape rape rape ….jah boy this men in Dominica it have a special place for Allu in hell .and one day Allu will meet such fate
the nasty part is that he has a daughter who goes to school with the chick. disgusting nastiness man.
I didn’t see where Bella told you this, but you should know: YOUR BOYFRIEND IS GOING TO JAIL…
Go ahead and tell your parents now…If you tell them now, he might get a lighter sentence…If you make them find out on their own, he going to jail for a long, long time..
Your writing skills (grammar etc.) looks mature, but the content of your brain leaves much to be desired. I hope you don’t let your exciting teenage years get all wasted by this child molester. Get out now and seek help.
The man is not a child molester. On what basis do you say this? You draw these conclusions because of some archaic futile law and society. Keep your mind open and look at the issue thoroughly.
He rape her…a 42 year old man having a sexual relationship with a 12 year old CHILD is considered rape… you need to educate yourself before you state your opinion…
Considered rape by whom? What is rape? Let’s see what the Shorter English Collins Dictionary says for example: Rape: the offence of FORCING A PERSON, especially a woman, to submit to sexual intercourse AGAINST THAT PERSON’S WILL. Is there any place in this article where the young lady states she was forced or did so against her will? The answer is NO! She felt attraction then being together over a period of years she develops love for this man. True love is a process, that is not a case of infatuation. You cannot conclude simply because she is a ‘teenager’ thus it was rape or infatuation. I refuse to submit to this as it goes against science, spirituality and logic.
A bunch of dam illiterate bloggers posting and yelling rape rape rape. It’s you Elsie who has to think before posting your comments. It’s parents like you all who do not understand basic sexology as it relates to divine law that’s why you all speak such garbage.
i hope u dont have a 12 yr old daughter for u to come home to find her under a 50 yer old man enjoyin her good time. i cannot understand some of u pple it is wrong it is disgustin and nasty. how on this blessed earth can u try to justify those actions. it makes u appear just as sick as him
As usual you never seem to live up to your name. Your name is : ‘Just giving my two cents’ yet you always seem to be giving more than your two cents. You forever have some kind of long response!
Please I am begging of you, is either you change your name or live up to your name!
Thanks for your consideration
Well Easily … you must have been left behind somewhere along the line, because you seem to not realize – that you have the FREEDOM to not read my post!!!!!!!! So i’ll give you some consideration in hoping that you just NOT READ my post when you see them!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I like to see that you are leaving up to yours!!!!!!
Easily, you have issues… a person naming themselves “just giving my two cents” does not mean that they are limited to just one sentence or a small paragraph. If the creator of this website thinks that the comments or opinions are to long, they would have a included a word count!!! If you are going to come on this website to criticize how long someone opinion is, I think it’s best you find yourself a JOB!!!
SHUT THE FRONT DOOR. ARE YOU SERIOUSLY KIDDING ME….YOU ARE STILL IN HIGH SCHOOL? AND THIS COULD ONLY MEAN YOU WERE TWELVE YEARS OLD WHEN YOU STATED DATING A FORTY-TWO YEAR OLD MAN. THIS IS A PURE CASE OF STATUTORY RAPE. HOW WOULD THIS MAN FEEL IF ONE OF HIS DAUGHTERS WAS DATING SOMEONE ALMOST THREE TIMES THEIR AGE. SWEETIE AND YOU ARE STILL TALKING ABOUT HAVING A CHILD WITH THIS MAN AND BALANCING YOUR EDUCATION AT THE SAME TIME. I HAVE TWO KIDS IN MY LATE TWENTIES AND ITS ONLY NOW I AM GETTING TO FURTHER MY EDUCATION. HONEY TAKE YOUR TIME AND BY THE WAY YOU DESCRIBED YOUR RELATIONSHIP IT SEEMS LIKE AN INFATUATION TO ME, A REAL MAN WOULD NOT ALLOW HIMSELF TO BE IN SUCH A SITUATION CONSIDERING THE FACT THAT HE ALSO HAS YOUNG DAUGHTERS. TAKE YOUR TIME, SEX IS GOING NO WHERE NO TIME SOON. GOD BLESS.
Sex is going no where, you had your fun, what have you suggested for this young lady to deal with her emotional and sexual appetite?
Now you are getting to further your education, so what’s the big deal?
THE FACT OF THE MATTER IS HAVING A CHILD COMES WITH RESPONSIBILITIES AND WORST IF YOU ARE MARRIED. I MERELY SUGGEST THAT SHE SEEK EDUCATION FIRST, STABILITY AND SECURITY BEFORE TYING HERSELF DOWN TO SUCH DEMANDING RESPONSIBILITIES AND THAT SHE SHOULD TAKE HER TIME BECAUSE SEX IS HERE TO STAY AND SHE CAN HAVE AS MUCH AS SHE LIKE BUT WHEN SHE IS MATURE ENOUGH TO HANDLE THE RESPONSIBILITIES.
IS THAT THEY PUT YOU THERE TO DO YOU SO-CALLED MUSLIM, BE NEGATIVE AND COMMENT ON EVERYBODY’S POST. YOU ARE PATHETIC.
She can FORNICATE as much as she likes but not marry? Worst if you are married, better being a fornicator/prostitute?
I’m pathetic? You have lived your lavie sodom when you finish you want to pretend or give advice? Are you serious?
Why are many of your hearts inverted and upside down? You put wrong where right is and vice versa. It’s sad!
A person should decide whether he or she wants education first or to do both education and family. Every case is different thus we need to be open minded. When one examines this article we see this is not rape. This girl is not scared, she willfully gave her virginity to this man. You people talk like ignorant fools about rape! Can you imagine if this virgin girl was raped? I don’t believe she would be talking about loving and being with this man, and even wanting to marry and have children with him? Are you people serious?
I AM LAUGHING SO HARD AT MUSLIM IT IS NOT FUNNY……..IF MY TEN MONTH OLD AND MY 8 YEAR OLD ARE HAVING SEX UNDER MY NOSE……I DESERVE TO BE HANGED….LMAO AND WHEN THEY GROW UP YOU BETTER BELIEVE THEY WONT BE UNDER MY NOSE. YOU MUST HAVE BEEN ABUSED AS A CHILD AND THE TORMENT OF THAT TRAGEDY IN YOUR LIFE CONTINUES TO HAUNT YOU TODAY….. NO WONDER YOU ARE THE WAY YOU ARE. YOU ARE NOT A MUSLIM. I FORGIVE YOU MAN………….NO BIGGIE. FREE UP YOUR MIND MY BROTHER.
I LIVE MY LAVIE SODOM WITH THE MAN I AM NOW MARRIED TO….READ AND UNDERSTAND A POST BEFORE YOU SUBJECT YOURSELF TO SUCH EMBARRASSMENT, CLEARLY YOU DO NOT HAVE A SENSE OF UNDERSTANDING AND YOU NEED SOME EDUCATION…..YOU IGNORANT, EGOTISTICAL, SELF-CENTERED FOOL….YOU MIGHT AS WELL BE A PEDOPHILE AND A RAPIST AND HAVE COMMITTED INCEST BY THE WAY YOUR ARE SPEAKING…. D**A**
Just a side note to Muslim_Always – You do realize that in the real world, RAPE is used also when we are referring to someone incapable of VALID CONSENT. In the laws which you ask that man and woman obey – 12 is not the age of CONSENT in Dominica. Thus, by virtue of the Criminal Code – it was rape. So before saying that people talk like “ignorant fools” regarding rape, be aware that the definition of rape, encompasses persons who are not capable of valid consent. A 12 YR OLD IS IN NO WAY CAPABLE OF VALID CONSENT under the LAW…. so IT WAS RAPE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
You can’t spin it any other way.
It’s still lavie sodom due to the fornicating lifestyle. You did not state that you are now married thus there was no evidence to suggest otherwise. How could you claim I lack understanding? My problem with many of you in this society, you have not taken the time to examine the article well. You jump to conclusions talking about rape! Can’t you see this is a well constructed article by a mature young lady? She has no issues with her relationship…the issue she has is to deal with parents like YOU! To bring the relationship out in the open! It’s people like YOU who are preventing reason, science and progress.
Are your children girls? With your ignorance, they may have relations with a grown man right under your nose when they grow up! Watch!
Thanks Baller Chick set him straight self.. This Muslim Guy jeez. are u the 47 year old man in the article ??? why are u so defensive.
You go girlfriend get your groove on while it last
5 things
1) been there done that (got out early)
2) the sex eventually dies out, since when you’re in your peak sex season at age 37 he’ll be wearing dentures, bad breath, smelling like old people, …think about that
3) your kid is going to think that dad is great grand dad
4) you will be embarrassed to take him anywhere with you
5) he’s not rich…he’s not worth it
TAKE A DEEP … AND LEAVE THAT GROWN AS MAN ALONE
START LOOKING FOR A YOUNG MAN YOUR DAMN AGE
trust me i couldn’t have said it any better
old man she taking home
Child you need to get your act together! You should be focusing on you education passing your CXC’S and hopefully completing high school (If he doesn’t get you pregnant before that) and not playing love circus with some 47 year old pervert. Everything else will fall in line after. This guy, especially being a father is a sick bastard. He got involved with you when you were only 12, meaning he was 42 at the time….geez. How would he feel if a man that age got involved with one of his daughters, whom you claim is one of your schoolmates? You are just unbelievable. Don’t be a fool in love.
Call the police on this dude! This is not right! This man is a pedophile; he needs to go straight to jail. Imagine from age 12 and he was forty two— I scream rape, rape, rape!
Is education the only thing in someone’s life? Of course she should focus on her CXC’s however, her relationship is an issue. What makes you say the man is a pervert? Can’t you see this may be a genuine case of two people who love each other? Why not judge the case on it’s own merits?
She may go out with some young fool, he cheats on her, brings diseases to her. At least she is happy. I do not support a fornicating relationship, on the other hand, we are being bias and shallow minded.
you seem very passionate about this…… lol…..you are just as sick as this man!
@ Me: You are shallow as the rest of the blind people in this culture!
We need to be more objective in our approach instead of screaming rape and abuse. I’m sure most people here only read the topic and saw the ages then commented. People must examine an article thoroughly before opening their gums.
I KNOW EHH.. MISTER SICK JUST LIKE THIS MAN…SMH
THIS NO JOKE. HIS 47 AND SHE 17 THIS IS A SUGAR DADDY. SHE WITH IS DUDE FOR MONEY.
TO ME THIS IS RAPE BECAUSE SHES UNDER 18
She said he is not rich, read the article, do not jump to conclusions. Deal with this issue with maturity. Not all women are the same.
My dear young lady, some people say that we cannot ochestrate, dictate or even legislate love. I am certainly not qualified to offer professional psychological advise to you on this matter. However, I believe that God has blessed me with a little common sense of which I will share with you. In my humble opinion, you are allowing yourself to be preyed on and taken advantage of by a wolf in sheep’s clothing. This spineless and selfish suitor of yours cares only about the satisfaction of his libido and no one or nothing else, including you or his daughters. I wonder how he would feel if his daughters were involved in a similar situation.
As Bella advised, I implore you to think very carefully about the longterm implications of your decisions. You are matched up with a 47 yearld grown-ass man who has already had the opportunity to live a good portion of his life, to explore, to dream and to grow. You really need to shed this parasite in order for you to freely grow, mature and experience your life just like he has. Please don’t allow yourself to be blinded and fooled by his so-called loving gestures. Believe me, it does not take much for a 47 year-old man to wow an impressionable 17 year-old. As a matter of fact, if he is such a prize, why is he available to be had? It is because he is afraid of a real adult relationship where he will have to deal with a woman who is his equal and he cannot control. Do yourself a favor and run like the wind from this one and go along and live your life in an enjoyable, responsible and successful manner. God Bless you and your decision in this and every matter.
great response, talking from experience, I second that
For-Reel: I congratulate you for the insight and wisdom of your comments. I don’t believe in “planned marriages”. But I think one of the weaknesses of our society is the fact that in most cases parents are not at least consulted. They should have some in-put into how a child selects a life’s partner. Many young people would benefit if they allowed their parents to serve as consultants. At the same time the parents would have to know their limitations and know when to gracefully back off. A few things concern me about this situation. Like youself, I suspect this is a man who has a problem relating to woman his own age. It may simply be his lust for “young flesh” but more likely he feels inferior to those who are equal to him in life experience. He may have a need to control. But here is where it gets scary. I wonder if he doesn’t imagine or pretend that this child is his daughter? There are men that go trolling to find underage girls (usually prostitutes) they can use for this purpose. Then there is the legality of the relationship. She was 12 when they started going togther. If he was an honorable man there would be no problem. But everything about this case suggests otherwise. If they were having a sexual relationship it probably began while she was under the age of consent. Obviously, this makes him a criminal. Such men are usually repeat offenders. This should be a matter of great concern. There is a real need for teachers, school counselors, socal workers, clergy, and others – if they are committed to the Judeo-Christian code of Biblical mortality – to address these issues by telling people the truth instead of what they would like to hear, and thereby offering genuine and solid guidance to those who are sincere enough to accept it. Not much can be done for the others. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.
“…if this man asks me to stop breathing maybe I would attempt it.” Seriously??? at 17
This is just sickkk
What makes you say so?
The man is 3 times your age, not 2 as the topic states.
Bella, is this case from Dominica? Secondly, this man was 42 and this young lady was 12. This is a very interesting phenomenon. I am glad a case like this was brought into light.
I have been talking about the issue of young marriages. Our people need to open their minds because many of these young girls are oppressed. It is impractical for them to suppress these raging hormones thus they will lie to their parents. They don’t feel their parents will understand them based on their point of view. People need to grow in love and the best way is through the sacred union of marriage. These young girls will rendez-vous with these men in simple places like the library for example. If the feelings on both sides are mutual, they will explore. We live in a sexist environment and young girls 12 and 13 have crushes and concrete feelings for older men which we cannot deny. It goes within their very nature. They have sexual fantasies as teenage boys do. They see this man as their knight and shinning armor, their protector and provider.
I mentioned before that the age of consent needs to be reduced. People think that’s a pedophillic mentality, however, this is far from the reality. I urge people to do research into the age of consent, look at Europe for example, many places are on average 14 and 15, South America we have 12, 13 and 14. It is the Most High who placed these chemistry in place and we have to submit to his wisdom. Increasing the age of consent from 16 to 18 is futile and archaic. This is not going to solve the problem, but only increase young men subjected to being a liability to the state.
Dominicans, many of your daughters are having sex with grown men under your noses, even if you bring them to check the doctor to ensure their hymen is in tact, many are having anal intercourse. There have been cases of virgins with HIV; why, because of anal intercourse.
A serious review needs to be done with Family Life Education cirriculum at schools. Sexual behaviour needs to be understood, scientifically assessed and combined with divine law for the benefit of man, not for his oppression. We must understand not all men and women want to obtain a degree but want the simple basic needs of life.
**Mistake**= He is almost 3 times your age so the article is correct.
I heard that the founder of Islam was a pedophile and married a 9 year old girl. Is that true?
@ Anti-hate: Could you be mature enough to hold a discussion? Why a provocative question with the intent to attack Islam?
Why does Muslim_Always feel the inclination to respond to EVERY comment on this topic? Why is this subject matter of most interest to you?
@ Nature Boy: As a academic and researcher, it saddens my heart at the ridiculousness at sending a 25-30 for example to prison for 7 years for having relations with a girl at 15. When one examines this issue in a scientific way one goes against science, spirituality, reason and logic.
because he simply has nothing better to do than to wait for dno to put up stories so that he comment on.. what again? What hard working busy individual with a family has time for this? Muslim go get aa job and why not a life while u at it and a wife hopefully not one below the age of 18.. for her sake!
I’m off today
Common guys learn to engage and have an open discussion.
MUSLIM YOUR A SICK BASTARD………U DISGUST ME …..IS LIKE YOU FEEL OFFENDED WITH EVERYTHING PPL SAY….U MAYB LOVING A 17 YEAR OLD THAT IS WHY….. PSSHHH
The poor girl can’t even count…twice your age is 34 not 47. This is a clear indication of the poor child’s immaturity and level of education. I feel sorry for her really..she was being “repeatedly” rape and abused for years, which is disgraceful. If she comes in public with this the guy might even end up in jail.
The advice to her should have been to get therapy to get over this level of abuse and obviously learning to count.
How could you conclude that she was repeatedly rape or abused?
She made a genuine mistake, how can you suggest she is immature? This is not the way to handle these issues.
I’m finding difficult to understand your purpose on this thread….but she was raped and abused because a child is unable to give consent to sex. I hope you remember that when you see a 12 year old girl walking the street.
Looking at your user name I am not too surprised by your comments though.
Of course a 12 year old can give consent to sex. Not all 12 year olds are the same.
As for the 12 year old walking the streets, I won’t break the laws of the land however, I have a right to hold a different opinion based on divine law and scientific reasoning. People’s secularistic mindset makes it difficult to examine the article with insight and wisdom.
Exactly…not all can give consent and it is precisely for that reason any civilised nation would protect all its children. Now if we are back in the 7th Century during your prophet’s time..all this would be a nonsense and we should just be allowed to violate the innocence of our children (nauseating!)
@ Boldaz: You statements are shallow. How about those 12 year olds who can consent? Your statement is futile. We can argue not all marriages work, does that mean that marriages should be banned altogether? No!
I’m simply suggesting this should be looked on a case by case basis, the idea of intimacy should be more open than that.
It is nauseating and futile to send a man to prison for engaging with a 15 year old yet it’s ok with a 16 year old? Where is the science, spirituality and reason behind this?
and poor her, to even mention the breathing part of it, i cannot imagine,, my my, i wonder if things get nasty later and he ask her to to do it, what would happen,,, we need to pray for her….
“17 and 47″….means 12 & 42..lets continue
“Bella, if this man asks me to stop breathing maybe I would attempt it”.<–the **** wrong with YOU!
"Lately, my boyfriend and I have been having serious discussions about getting married and having a baby together as soon as I am done with high school". <– in 2011!!u serious my girl??!!?!HIGH SCHOOL!
I self doh even know what again to say…go to Dr Sharma or somebody cuz CLEARLY you crazy and the grown @*& man has completely stole your innocence! CLEARLYYYYYYYYYYYYYY
now i come back again…mr is a pedophile!woy
Are you a psychiatrist? Why do you jump to conclusions?
HIGH SCHOOL? Yes, this is the reality, many of these young girls want to feel loved. It’s natural!
The man did not rape her, she willfully gave herself to him, didn’t you read the article?
I am no means suggesting the 47 year old man should violate the laws of the land. What I am saying is sexology needs to be reviewed in this country.
can dno please block muslim always from submitting comments? This man has no moral value whatsoever… Look at the age of the young child and this grown a** man and you are saying that we need to change our laws..These are the laws worldwide with the exception of your perverse religion with no respect for women. this child was taken advantage of because at 12 your idiot no child is able to make a conscious mature decision.. this man used and abused, violated, BRAINWASHED this young girl… stupessss
Where is the violation? Where is the abuse? Why the name calling? Where is the freedom of speech?
Have you seen the age of consent in Europe and South America? Just go to wikipedia and look at the citations, you will see the different ages for the age of consent. If I state it is too high, I am not speaking against divine or international law as there are countries in Europe which the age of consent is 14 and 15 so what is the big deal?
are uuuuuuuuuuuuu a psychiatrist?
seems like u get your horny on by this kinda sh*t..so try to justify it all you want with all your muslim beliefs which you are trying to force down people throats but fact is you are NASTY.
Holy mother of God, I’ll pray for you my friend, because not only is he twice your age, but he is almost three times your age, Bella I think you should offer another advice to this young lady. i mean the man is 47, come on people, i’m a 20 year old male and i would feel uncomfortably to be in love with a 13 year old female much less a 47 year old woman…. come on Bella advice the young lady better than that,
What would you do if it was your daughter?
@ 7.5″: I think you need the prayers first. Holy mother of God? Does God have a mother? You have blasphemed against the Most High which is worse than this fornicating relationship that couple is into.
Secondly, your personal feelings or discomfort is not a yard stick to judge the relationship.
Sad to say but “Muslim Always” is a baby raper also….Your support of this man’s actions is appalling……But the law in Dominica clearly states that the AGE OF CONSENT IS 16 and NOT 12! The clock is ticking on this Peodophile…………….and he will fall into a nice loving realationship in Stockfarm………..He will find out how is is to be greased , have “breakfast in bed”and be told “I love you” behind bars………Sick,twisted, pervert!!!!!!!
See what I mean, shallow minded thinking, if one holds a different opinion it doesn’t mean he or she engages in the activity. Also, I do not support this fornicating relationship, I’m suggesting the policies regarding sexual behaviour as well as age of consent needs to be reviewed as I believe these teenagers are willfully giving themselves to grown men. I suggested young marriages even for teenagers going to school where parents are engaged in the decision making process rather than these girls hiding and sneeking out.
Secondly, what law? Law of post-colonial slavery laws or the laws of All Mighty God? Could you kindly show me if you believe in divine law any scripture that states 16, 17 or 18? I challenge you!
muslim always…….u is a tebeh? he used holy mother of god as an expression so dont be trying to bring religion in this AA……I wont be surprise you are the one who is in love with this man…..If having a man 47 yrs and you are 17 then why dont u simply tell u parents if it was ok…..This is simply just rape!!! And only in Dominica we have some such stupid ppl like muslim always….Now answer me let me sala ur a*s.
P.S…….Name is Jeremiah Dubique
Boy u not easy nuh…, i cannot believe you put yr name.. lmao
@ always Muslim please show me in the bible where it says the legal age of consent? I’m sure you wouldn’t find a numeric number anywhere….
You have not addressed the issue I raised. You used Hail Mary as an expression fine! You are not ready for a civil and intellectual discussion. You are about maypwi thus I’ll be wasting my time. I will not cast my pearls to swine.
at muslim always….you that is the dirty swine agreeing for this rape activist to be correct….You should be a damn shame about yourself…..is ppl like allu da does go rape ppl children!!! ur a sick twisted perv….upsetting….dno needs to remove all ur post from there!!! crap u talking…..cant you see no one else agrees with you….your opinion is for yourself but it not valid here…..twisted retard..