I am in love with my cousin

I am a 23-year-old female and I don’t have a really good rap sheet. I fell in Love with my cousin and we use to have a sexual relationship till he got a girlfriend about a year ago.

His girlfriend has an issue with us being friends. She has text me off and on about leaving her man alone. I have moved on but we just can’t seem to leave each other alone. He always calls or text when he is at work.

I know that the attraction is still there. To other people this may be wrong but we were not raised together so I don’t see anything wrong with it. I am pretty sure immediate family knows about us but they have never said anything to either of us.

I am confused. What should I do? I am in love with my cousin and I know he shares the same feelings because if it were different he would have left me alone since his girlfriend has an issue with it.

Lady K aka Islandchick

Dear Lady K aka Islandchick,

I am sorry you got yourself into such relationship but let us call a spade a spade. It is wrong, plain and simple. Such action is called incest and is actually against the law in many countries and in many societies there are rules prohibiting incestuous unions, both as to sexual intercourse and recognized marriage.

All I can tell you is to get rid of this feeling towards your cousin now. You said you have moved on, then move on. Talk to your cousin and tell him to stop texting or calling you. You need to isolate yourself from him as much as you can until this attraction you talked about has diminished once and for all.

In the meantime, find new friends, go to the beach, go to church, find activities that will help you overcome that feeling you have towards your cousin. Also start thinking of dating other guys. I am sure there are tons of fine young men out there you could date. But not your cousin.

Bella

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147 Comments

  1. let the truth be tol
    March 16, 2015

    Darling I too am in love with my cousin an I can’t even see another man besides him. Depending on the region it might be deemed as wrong, while other regions accept it. Those who don, t accept it make their basis on the fact that procreation is risky, but as knowledge increases we find the hat second cousins get married and have normal children And the impeding risk is not as much as they thought it was. Then biblically the were a lot of cousins marrying cousins situations going on so be happy. I’ve stopped letting Dominican limited edition of advancement of knowledge towards cousin and cousin marriage keep me unhappy with the one man I love. You should do the same.

  2. Its my life
    June 29, 2013

    I was in a relation with my cousin for 3yrs we broke up cuz he though it was the write thing to do, but it hurt me more than any other one and I married to forget him but i still miss him so much, it hurts that even that I am happy with my life I am not as atracted to my man as i am to him, he was the love of my life but he push me away maybe cuz it was the write thing but i was angry cuz he didn’t fight for me the wat i did for him so i did move on and it hurted but at least I got to knw whats Love cuz he love me back…….. There was this night and he sayd he would never forget about that night and neather did I!

  3. Anonymous
    June 29, 2013

    I was in a relation with my cousin for 3yrs we broke up cuz he though it was the write thing to do, but it hurt me more than any other one and I married to forget him but i still miss him so much, it hurts that even that I am happy with my life I am not as atracted to my man as i am to him, he was the love of my life but he push me away maybe cuz it was the write thing but i was angry cuz he didn’t fight for me the wat i did for him so i did move on and it hurted but at least I got to knw whats Love cuz he love me back…….. There was this night and he sayd he would never forget about that night and neather did I!

  4. sidney
    March 22, 2013

    I am also in love with my cousine and its almost 9yrs now, but none of our family members have any clue of whats going on between us. And we are even planning to get married, but she is so afraid to buy the idea. Friend am so happy for you.

  5. Fay
    July 16, 2012

    I have been married to my husband for 20 years it’s the best thing I ever did :-D we are still madly in love with 4 very intelligent children my oldest studying medicine . go ahead and follow ur heart u will not regret it ! society allows marriage with same sex but not cousins that absoluty rubbish

  6. d/ca>>sxm
    April 15, 2012

    if dat wood de girl like now

  7. Anna
    March 14, 2012

    I’m in love with my cousin, and shares the same feelings. We plan on getting married next year, which is perfectly legal in Canada, and in a church as well, which also allows cousins to marry.

  8. Faith
    February 15, 2012

    I mean it is wrong regardless but how close of cousins are you guys? 1st 2nd…distant? and would that make a difference?

  9. Anonymous
    December 10, 2011

    i m in love wid my cousin and i hve admitted it to her .

  10. femme dominique
    August 19, 2011

    mais…………..ou pa feb….ur cousin? awa wii fren….kon dit bella move da hell on! strupes d woman hav rite 2 tell u leav her man alne…tonehhh

  11. July 27, 2011

    WHATS YOUR POINT?
    I TOO AM ALSO I LOVE WITH MY COUSIN AND I AM ALSO INLOVE WITH HIS COUSIN,…
    BUT WAIT! I’M IN LOVE WITH MY SISTER!! 8-O
    DERYAM!!!

  12. antigua
    July 27, 2011

    cuzon and and cuzon make one dozens

    • Doh good
      August 2, 2011

      SOOOH true! Allu wiil have 12 children wich makes it ez wen shopin bcoz eggs comes in dozens as well as other stuff LMFBAO.!

      Leave the woman man alone and go find somebody that you not related to you dirty SKANK! Talking about y’all wasn’t raised together – does that make it right?!

  13. July 27, 2011

    Sweet heart it is wrong to full in love with your coarsen. Please control your emotion.

    • diaspora
      July 29, 2011

      loool so u spellin cousin ur tebeh

      • ...
        August 1, 2011

        lol

  14. liioness
    July 26, 2011

    Dear, first of all dont mind anyone who tells you that your behaviour is wrong. the indians do it so why cant you? follow your heart

    • pusina
      July 27, 2011

      Ti sal…but you not easy you know Liioness.

      • Trouble
        August 2, 2011

        lol .. liioness & pusina always goign at it. i suspect allu loving

  15. Family Guy!
    July 26, 2011

    Nothing is wrong with that my friend….i have a cousin i admire and if i get her i’ll take her..so no fear…Adam and Eve was related!!

  16. Jenny from da Block
    July 25, 2011

    lmao!!! but put in me in d light nuh all u? i from lagoon, possie and i tired try and figure out who allu talking about ehh???

  17. natural dominican
    July 25, 2011

    it depends on when you find out you are related to the other person…and you see that cousin thing: first, second,…when does it stop…for if the world started with only adam and eve aren’t all committing incest

  18. concern
    July 25, 2011

    that girl in lagoon possie crazy ,sick ,she need to stay away from man for a while.she need time to reflect

  19. overseas
    July 24, 2011

    so what if someone marries her man without knowing they are causins.will you ask them
    to end it?

  20. B'hoqk
    July 24, 2011

    Ahhhhhh wa de Moda Asss i hearing deh woi….. incese bomboclat, doe do dem ting der

  21. Anonymous
    July 24, 2011

    You need to find GOD

    • Anna
      March 14, 2012

      The church allows cousin marriage. It was an extremely common practice a hundred years ago.

  22. Anonymous
    July 24, 2011

    First of all you people that are saying its wrong have no idea what you are talking about..please show me where in the bible it says this is wrong…you wont find it because it doesnt say that..it says no immediate family such as parents and siblings and aunt/uncles…cousins are no where in the list of people you cant have sex with and when it comes to science, it says your children will not have problems if you are farther than first or second cousin, so before yall try to make this girl feel like shit take a step back and look at what your saying, god will judge yall when time comes….

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 25, 2011

      @ Anonymous

      I thought you did not believe in the Bible.
      It is a big mistake that some people will say, where is it in the Bible before praying to God for enlightenment and putting on their thinking cap.
      What is in the Bible is attributed to spiritual matters.
      They are not judging her. They are stating a fact.
      God will also judge you for the profane language that you use. St. Paul said: “Avoid profane language Bless people. Do not curse them.” IT IS IN THE BIBLE!!!

      There is Spiritual Laws and earthly Laws, on condition the latter conforms to the Most Holy Will of God.
      The earthly Law says that cousins should not fall in love, cohabitate, fornicate with each other, marry and have children for good reasons.
      Cousins are family, descendents of the family tree. This is the reason why if they are aware that they are cousins, they should refrain from such a relationship. Surely, if you possess basic common sense you should comprehend that.
      If you condone that cousins should enter a love-relationship with another cousin, you might as well condone that fathers, mothers, brothers and sisters have a relationship with one another for it is not in the Bible.
      I do not want to call you foolish but you make no sense. :twisted: :twisted:

    • Fairytale
      August 3, 2011

      i totally agree with anonymous…

  23. The known universe
    July 24, 2011

    Humanist is so right… science account for all things

  24. PAT
    July 24, 2011

    IF YOU KNEW HE IS YOUR COUSIN WHY DID YOU
    HAVE THE RELATIONSHIP WITH HIM? IF YOUR
    FAMILY KNEW AND DID NOT SAID ANY THEY ARE JUST AS DAD. WHAT YOU ALL DID WAS WRONG
    STAY AWAY FROM HIM. DON’T RETURN HIS TEX
    AND GO ON WITH YOUR LIFE. THINK ABOUT IT
    HIS YOUR COUSIN NOT YOUR LOVER

  25. Straight Wood
    July 24, 2011

    I have never commented on DNO before but to see the comments these hypocrites post are amazing. It is those same people that have sex with under age children, the same people that promotes prostitution, homosexuals, bisexuals and all kinds of nasty conducts. I say you all lying to your self cause most of you all have done something in life that you are ashamed of like the so call bank tellers who have sex for money on donkey beach and with so call high rollers. Yes we do see you all doing your nastiness then pretending to be professionals. DNO Dominica laws do not state that cousin having sex in incest. Get your facts!!!

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 25, 2011

      @ Straight Wood

      You are generalizing and are wrong. Not all of them.

    • Eve
      July 26, 2011

      So what does a bank teller having sex on donkey beach have to do with someone screwing their cousin ? I doe see your point nah papa ! who you meypwezaying dere nah ?

  26. diva
    July 23, 2011

    hy young lady u are not the first anyway but it is wrong and i belive u should get on with yr life ok dear, just take it easy i can understand u god bless u.

  27. sout'
    July 23, 2011

    lol yessa.. mamzel have guts wi boy.. and all you enjoying the roro.

  28. Chief Justice
    July 23, 2011

    Girl you need to contact me< are you on facebook send me your info, I am not your cousin and we shall grow into a great union, hit me up my dear

  29. justbeingreal
    July 23, 2011

    girl ur just nasty, bottom line.

    • Anonymous
      July 23, 2011

      I hope u r not gay and calling the girl nasty.

    • kathy
      July 26, 2011

      If she’s nasty what does this makes him?u all are hitting her hard he’s no angel either,he’s as much to blame to.

  30. July 23, 2011

    girl you need to shut the hell up with your inlove with your cousin a nasty woman does that and cnt u see he has moved on…..it makes no difference for you to sex with your father bull crap so many men out dere…..stupesssssssssssssssss

  31. July 23, 2011

    Science can never supersede the bible. Like someone said before, ask God to forgive you and move on with your life…no judgement. Would you keep on stealing having knowledge that stealing is wrong? Would you go out and kill knowing that it is wrong? God’s arms are wide open so Run out of your cousin’s arms and into God’s. He knows what real love is and your heart will never be broken.

    • Humanist
      July 23, 2011

      I’m sorry, but what nonsense is this? Do you even know anything about science or the bible? Does the fact that science is what has given us virtually everything we have today, every technology, from simply things like eating utensils to the Internet and telescopes that can see to the beginning of the universe–does that mean nothing to you? You need to seriously learn more about what science is, how the bible was written, and what evidence there is for biblical teachings. Science tells us the danger of incest increases the closer one’s cousin is (first cousin, second, etc.). Who are you to say none of this genetic information matters at all and that only what is in an ancient book does? What disrespectful nonsense!

      You should apologize to the girl who posted the letter for such barbaric rubbish. And you do not need to post back to me telling me you “believe” I am wrong. Go do research first, THEN come back to me. Until then, you cannot and will not win any such debate and, more importantly, you are not helping the discussion at hand in the least.

      • Truth,Justice,Peace
        July 23, 2011

        @ Humanist

        With a name like that I should not expect any better from you.
        What schooling did you receive with your eyes and brains opened? Whoever taught this to you has greatly erred and misled people as you. All will go down the slippery slope of perdition with false teachings. Beware!
        Let us face it, science had absolutely nothing to do with the Bible, the coming of Our Lord Jesus Christ, His teachings, His Life, Passion, Crucifixion, Death and Resurrection and the witness and teachings of the prophets and the apostles. It has absolutely nothing to do with science BUT WITH GOD!
        I am informing you that YOU ARE OUTRIGHTLY WRONG! :twisted: :mrgreen:
        You must be an agnostic, an atheist and a Calvinist, etc. and this is to deny God and His existence.
        God is the Creator, Maker and Ruler of the world. He holds the key to life and death. He created all of us and all what is in the world. He gave humanity intelligence to do what they are doing. He is patient with us. Who should be complimented and thanked, God or the scientists?
        Science, i.e., those scientists could not do a thing if it were not God who gave them life, health, intelligence and allow them to do what they are doing, be it moral or immoral, the latter which he does not approve of, as He looks on and taking note of their actions. Do you think that they got them from the stones?
        Is it scientists who made and formed the clouds, the skies, the sun and moon shine and the rain to fall?
        You are sadly lacking in godly enlightenment.
        Do you recognize God? Do you practice the Faith? When last did you pray to God, for yourself or any one in general and practice the faith?
        Cease giving science/scientists precedence over God and praising and exulting them. Everyone will one day be judged by God according to their actions, in thoughts, words and deeds. It will not be scientists who will judge them.
        Learn of God and pray to Him for His godly enlightenment.

      • Humanist
        July 25, 2011

        @ Truth, etc. – The mere fact that you think agnosticism, atheism, and Calvinism are the same pretty much removes the authority from any “informing of the truth” you could give me.

        As for what schooling I received–I should hope my eyes were open, or I wouldn’t have passed any classes. As for brains being opened: I should hope no one’s brain is “opened” at school, or someone might get quite the lawsuit!

        Seriously, though, look: you believe in all the stuff you wrote to me. But that doesn’t mean that it’s true. Nor does it mean that it is false. It just means that you believe in it, and belief is something anyone can do for anything that has not been proved by science. Therefore, if I wish to believe in a flying spaghetti monster creating the universe, I am free to do so and you have no right to come and tell me I am wrong when I say you will go to eternal hell in hot tomato sauce for denying the spaghetti being his immortal sublimity.

        THAT is belief. Evidence is made up of facts. No facts, no evidence: belief. Why argue over what you believe if there is no evidence for it? Just say, okay, I know there is no evidence, but I still believe, and leave it at that. No need to attack people for what they believe or disbelieve. All I said is that there is no proof, and that is a fact.

  32. Uncle Dildo
    July 23, 2011

    I mean when wood needs to be passed and taken it shall be done but banging your cousin knowingly just because you horny is inexcusable. Portsmouth people were well known for that in the past but in modern times one would think they have emancipated themseves from this sought of mental slavery.

    This is just NASTY! Plain and SIMPLE!

    • .
      July 23, 2011

      How u so sure this girl is from possie. The pple in the little villages all around D/a do that like it is a lifestyle.

  33. baby
    July 22, 2011

    this is is the roro town :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: come to dno for roro,,but realy d girl cah go against her feelings eh,,but she know its wrong she will get over it eventually

    • me
      July 22, 2011

      oh shut up….

  34. shy
    July 22, 2011

    you all can say what you want ,we are not in no royal family ,if you didn’t know the guy is your cousin fine, but if you know and you keep this crap going on, you are a nasty.Plain and simple! We have enough to deal with in our beautiful country we don’t want anyone brining more curse to d/ca. :-x

    • Anonymous
      July 23, 2011

      Curse with all the boggarers that running around there, even claiming down low. I would rather screw my cousin anyday than have sbody of the same sex as me touch me. So all those lesbos and antiman stop giving comments. U guys r at the lowest the devel could take mankind in this life.

  35. Anonymous
    July 22, 2011

    what foolishness you in love with you cousin. So many good men we have around. You just lust at your cousin and you enjoy committing incest which is something disgraceful.work on your self esteem and do some thing proper with your life.

    • Anonymous
      July 23, 2011

      So many good men; I thought 85% were taking lolo in their @$$. Mayb u meant nasty men, u just mistyped.

  36. YesIsaidItAnd?
    July 22, 2011

    part 2(continued). But the male cousin has “moved on” meaning he’s most likely in a relationship with someone else so best thing to do is avoid confrontations. Obviously you’re not the one for him, and only thing keeping him is sex. Plus that’s just incest and not a good look. YesIsaidItAnd?

  37. YesIsaidItAnd?
    July 22, 2011

    Lady K, my advice to you is: science have proved that getting involved with an immediate family member is likely to result in the offspring having some type of mental disability. ESPECIALLY if it’s a first or second cousin. SO regardless of if you didn’t grow up together, as much as the urge is, it should be avoided.So now it’s obvious that you two had some kind of sexual relations and you think you’re in love with him.

  38. Trouble intended
    July 22, 2011

    You and your cousin might have some retarded babies. Haven’t you heard about that? When you have sex with a relative that is too close, your babies can have major issues. Leave your cousin alone. That is not too classy.

  39. Anonymous
    July 22, 2011

    dat is jus pure salopte’…nastii ppl dat does do dem coshoni dere…girl go n ask god for forgiveness eh and find a man u not related to..stupes..

    • empress d-vine
      July 22, 2011

      lool!!!!!i agree 100%she even writn that shit n lookin for advice..seriously??!!

      • me
        July 22, 2011

        Allu really think someone sent this here? hmmmm

  40. womantime
    July 22, 2011

    That’s Just Wrong! Once you are aware of the fact that you all are related you should have never crossed the line or if the line had already been crossed you should have STOPPED. But I guess the punani was sweet. My heart goes out to the girlfriend because that’s a f’d up situation to be in seems to me these two cousins are still in love neither one wants leave the other alone even if she has claimed they have moved on.

  41. SWEETLELE
    July 22, 2011

    Having sex with a family member is wrong, its against god commandments so, stop. you may think it’s love but,it’s not this is just nasty .

    • Eve
      July 27, 2011

      Which of the commandments ?

  42. fire
    July 22, 2011

    All u backward thinkin people shut up just let de gul know shit she doin.

  43. Neutral
    July 21, 2011

    You never hear “closer de blood the farder de eyes”. That means you children would come out as ” moo moo”, with their eyes far apart and their mouth wide open with tongue hanging out.
    LEAVE THE MAN!

  44. Eve
    July 21, 2011

    Hmm Hmm Hmm the forbidden fruit is oh so sweet. So sweet ! So Sweet ! Go ahead take a bite…hmmmmmmmm so damn sweet :lol:

  45. Not suprised
    July 21, 2011

    A girl right there in lagoon Portsmouth loving get cousin too I guess it’s an island wide thing ….ehbeh mee comess

    • pinky husband
      July 22, 2011

      what is their name?

      • July 23, 2011

        Maybe humiliating both in public be printing their names will be the best action for both of them and that will send the message that it is wrong wrong wrong and it is a sinfull act against the almight GOD we have enough of that d—m nonsense going on I wonder what kind of society we are living in.

      • Fair and balance
        July 28, 2011

        How many times has God display your name when you sin? treat others the way you want to be treated Let he that is without sin cast the first stone.

  46. possie
    July 21, 2011

    those that loving their cousin in lagoon possie sick

  47. dhestini
    July 21, 2011

    frst of all, how closely related r y’all? (immediate cousins? 2nd cousins?) i think anything beyond 2nd cousins is accepted, as long as y’all r not carrying the same last name. i have 2 cousins (and they r close cousins themselves) who were happily married for yrs. bore 2 very healthy kids. so theres nothing wrong in that. just talk to him and find out how comfortable he is with that issue, and if u 2 really want to be together, go ahead. y’all r two consenting adults.

    • Saint
      July 21, 2011

      Nonsense,
      That’s not what science says….

      • Alas
        July 22, 2011

        who is science?

  48. July 21, 2011

    you sick

  49. Wasted
    July 21, 2011

    Cousin n Cousin make dozen eh.. once its your aunty/uncle child and or same last name, who cares.. one life to live, no kids involved..

  50. Juice
    July 21, 2011

    All I’m saying is there are a lot of married cousins living in Dominica right now and I could name a few…and It has been going on for a long time smdh

  51. Anonymous
    July 21, 2011

    Charity indeed begins at home.

    #wordtomother

  52. T. Winston
    July 21, 2011

    How come nobody says anything about the Royal families where they are usually not permitted to marry outside the family and are usually constrained to cousins, Personally 1st to 3rd is a no 4-5 maybe but 6th cousin and down I not too bothered with society if I’m attracted and she attracted then we good to go

    But If is your 1st Cousin and you know is your first cousin look for someone else
    that’s just my opinion

  53. Homeboy
    July 21, 2011

    Are yOu guys first cousins, second cousins, third cousins. If not there is nothing wrong if you both are consenting adults. As long as their is enough degrees of separation…

  54. Bull Crap
    July 21, 2011

    God all the hypocrites that come to this sites and leave comment. its just amazing how u guy so fast to condemn the damn girl and none of u know how closely related they are.And here is ms Bella the biggest hypocrite of them all wanna always bring bible into her crap.Did u seem to forget that their was a time in the same bible when relatives was marring their own family to keep the wealth. when brothers would hand down wife’s to the next bother in line when one dies. we so quick to bring bible into everything but fail to understand the same damn bible.

    why cant some one just give an advice without judging. we all do things we don’t like or regret.stop making some one feel bad because u wanna fell better about our self.

    Girl IF u and the gentleman are of close relations. my advice it to live that fire alone.simple

    • Humanist
      July 21, 2011

      Great comment.

      I have to wonder how people would respond to some of these stories if the bible had been written differently. If it had passages encouraging cousins to marry, people might actually attack those who present biological info to the contrary….It’s sad that almost an entire island bases its every thought and feeling on what an ancient book says, never once looking further into all the writing, science, and thought that has been achieved after (and even before) it. This is why we need better education and more questioning in the island. Too often, people think questioning what they have been told to believe is a bad thing.

      Just the fact that so many people did not stop to ask what degree of cousin it is shows a problem. The girl who wrote the letter, if it is real, is in a bad situation; she does not need to be attacked with absolute statements about cousin marriage. Some of us need to slow down and examine our responses before making them.

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 21, 2011

      @ Bull Crap

      You call people hypocrites but you are the one who is full of bull and crap.
      Bringing the Holy Bible into it is important. Who created the world, rules the world and gave us the Holy Bible? Who created you in the first place and gave you life? Some of you do not want to hear about it and also about God. Yet, when you die and are in the coffin, ready for burial, you may be given a Rosary in your hand and want a Funeral Mass. Who are the hypocrites of the world? Figure it out.
      Some will judge and others will offer advice or merely comment. It depends on each one’s mentality.
      Those who judge need to be admonished but do not call them hypocrites because you do not know them or what type of lifestyle they live. You, too, are judging.
      When you comment, do not generalize. Everyone is not one and the same and do not possess the identical individual character and personality traits. We do not all think alike which also includes you. This does not mean that their comments are always wrong.

      • Humanist
        July 22, 2011

        There is no proof of any of the religious things you have said. You simply believe that. Belief is the exact opposite of proof/evidence. Since there is evidence for science, scientific explanations are what will benefit the girl who posted the letter the most. There is no need to hijack the discussion to start a meaningless theological squabble that cannot and will not be resolved because you are speaking about things you believe in, not things you can prove. And since that is the case, please do not act as though you arrogantly know all there is to know. I speak from what I know of science; I repeatedly stress in my comments that there is much we do not know but that it is not helpful to fill those uncertainties with beliefs that you wish to force others to accept. We can and must coexist, or that end of the world so many posters like writing about will happen–but because of our own violent intolerance.

  55. traveller
    July 21, 2011

    Who said it is incest man or god? The bible has never spoken about cousins. As a matter of fact if one reads Leviticus chapter 18 you will realize that nothing was said about cousins. Bella you are wrong.

    • July 22, 2011

      OOh yes read good again lev.18;18

  56. Oh mY gOd
    July 21, 2011

    Sweetie why u……..we have to talk later lol.

  57. T/dot- D/ca
    July 21, 2011

    Girl, you better get of the road and start straightening out ur life.

    @ Pinky Husband… U got bear nastiness in ur head too!! seems like u’re either doing the same or have done the same!!

  58. Cousin Love
    July 21, 2011

    Lady K
    There is nothing wrong with loving your cousin and marrrying him- whether its first , second , third or tenth. BELLA IS WRONG TO TELL U ITS INCEST AND EVERYONE ELSE IS WRONG–It is only wrong if he is your brother, uncle, father, son or newphew THERE IS NOTHING WRONG WITH COUSINS LOVING EACHOTHER, GETTING MARRIED AND STARting a family.,most of us in Dominica are cousins anyhow, so imagine the maddness if u couldnt be with your cousin.,that is nonsense! your cousin whether u grew up 2gether or not is permissible for u to be with and God allows it,,,,,its society who says its wrongfor stupid unsupportive reasons to back it up–girl there is nothong better 4 two people who love eachother than marriage,,so take the first step, propose 2 your cousin, marry him and tel people to behave themselves because GOS IS COOL with it, and depues what any1 else thinks

    • TeteMorne I from...
      July 21, 2011

      With people like you walking around, no wonder we have so many paros in Dominica. Stop sexing blood relatives girl!!

    • Jef
      July 21, 2011

      you are so correct. I am really surprised at Bella’s response.It is not wrong in the eyes of God. Just that it is not a part of our culture – but it still happens. It is the culture of people from places like Syria and Lebanese and those living in the Caribbean do that all the time and produce normal children. STOP GIVING PEOPLE WRONG ADVICE BELLA.

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 22, 2011

      @ Cousins Love

      Utter nonsense. :twisted: :twisted:

  59. English
    July 21, 2011

    Out of all the men in Dominica, you mean you had to fall for your cousin!!

  60. Tomian
    July 21, 2011

    Although this is wrong,and believe me I would never have a sexual relationship with my cousin, I cannot judge you. In God’s eyes all of us are sisters and brothers, however this does not make this right. I advice you to avoid this guy as much as possible: no calls, no face to face meetings, no emails etc. Purge yourself of these feelings and try to move on with another person when u are ready too. In the future ou won’t regret it trust me. I have cousins I didn’t grow up with and they are very attractive but that doesn’t make me have feelings for them. Please move on young lady.

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 23, 2011

      @ Tomian

      I do not approve of cousins being in love. However, have you considered that love has no boundary?

  61. Family Business
    July 21, 2011

    Now that some real family affaire. LAMO :lol:

  62. Sout Man
    July 21, 2011

    Our morals forbid such relationship. The Bible also teaches against these relationship. But didn’t incest anh homosexuality originate with the first Biblical family? Just asking. I would like someone to enlighten me on how Adam and Eve gave rise to the twelve tribes of Israel. I’ve also heard of their two sons, Cain and Abel. How did we progress from there.

    Seriously; I’d like to know. If I had my own choice, I’d like different perspectives from Muslim, Tete Morne I from… and Liz Xavier.

    Genuine thanks in advance.

    • .
      July 21, 2011

      Read the bible 4 urself, and ask God for knowledge, wisdom and understanding to help u understand his work.

    • true
      July 21, 2011

      “But didn’t incest anh homosexuality originate with the first Biblical family?” she it did, that is why adam and eve is every body’s first parent, but the hypocrites will not admit it.

    • Anonymous
      July 21, 2011

      i ask this all the time….all bible crew full of answers but can’t answer this one

    • July 21, 2011

      @South Man

      I do not have much time today, but I hope I can help with a few words, less than I would normally write, if I do not write the same as all times.

      First of all you are right about the early ways of human beings according to the Bible. But let us remember that different things in the Bible are for different reasons–like teachings, corrections, warning, and so on-that is why we must know what is spoken in the Bible.

      Since the only man and woman was Adam and Eve; and the Bible tells us that they had sons and daughters, we must understand that brothers and sisters; cousins and cousins, father and daughter; mother and son; uncles and nieces; aunts an nephews; all were involved in sexual relations, a relationship that brought forth children. Hence children reproducing children.

      I cannot comment on the idea of homosexuallity, because even today as I read about it, I still cannot say that I know for sure, that two men actually have sexual relationship with each other.

      But let us remember all of this things happened after the fall of Adam and Eve.

      God had separated Himself from them, because they had defected His plan of reproduction through them when Eve allowed Satan to interfere with her.

      Satan disrobed Eve of her spiritual clothing through a deceptive lie; Eve invited Adam, who accepted, thereby he became disrobed himself–the reason they found themselves naked.

      I am saying that Satan seduced Eve–sexual conducts is always a form of eating, to satisfy fleshly hunger. Satan forced that eating thing on Eve when he lied to her about the forbiden fruit. That is the kind of sexual relationship that produced sin in Adam and Eve.

      As a God of Holiness continued to remain separated from mankind of the ancient days, so did man continue to reproduce, and existed with no rules, no laws, no guidance, no training, no discipline. Man lived like the lower animals in the ancient world.

      In other words man had no knowledge or instinct of right and wrong; for in Adam and Eve, death continued to reproduce death, but death is the result of sin. Hence all that man did was evil and abomination before a Holy God.

      Son’s of God (angels of heaven) saw that the women of the earth were beautiful, so they put on human bodies and came down to the earth to marry those women and reproduced through them–more abomination before God.

      But God was very unhappy with the ways of mankind–they were wicked and evil and He could not bare with their ways, because of His Holiness. He decided that He would destroy them “Read Genesis 6”

      Noah, his wife, his three sons and their wives, were the stump that God kept, so that the He would establish His covenant for His chosen people. That covenant would come through Jesus Christ. Read Act 2

      God chose Abraham–Noah’s great great great grandson form the son of Shem, Noahs son, through whom He would bring forth Isaac–the promised son of His covenant. Isaac would bring forth Jacob–whom God later named Israel–and through Jacob God would chose His people–the twelve tribes of Israel.

      Even Abraham was married to his half sister Sarah, when God called him. So the sinfulness of sex still continued among the generations of Noah.

      However God would establish His Law for His people–but not until after they were taken away from the land of Egypt lead by Moses, and settled in the Wilderness–where the people would undergo spiritual training and discipline of the mind–the battle field of Life.

      God’s Law through Moses is at the Book of Leviticus–all of 27 chapters–but the Laws of sexual morality is at Leviticus 18.

      I do not why Bella said that having sex with a cousin is wrong–saying that it is incest, that is her understanding, but that idea is not stated at Leviticus 18. I personally do not see that as doing something wrong.

      Incest is between father and daughter, mother and son, brother and sister, uncle and niece, aunt and nephew–those are close relatives.

      Cousins are not mentioned. And yes, it is true that there are a lot of cousins who are married and having children of their own today.

      I know a muslim friend who is married to a woman, but they have the same grandmother. So they are first cousins. They now have 6 children.

      By the way, God chosen people are still the people of Israel. Only that the people of Israel are now in the category of Spiritual Israel–all of those who have accepted Jesus and His claims that He is the only begotten Son of God. That He is the Way, the Truth, and the Life.

      Jesus tells that He came to fulfill the Law. In other words Jesus came to obey the Law that was so difficult for human beings to obey. That is the sacrifice He made on our behalf.

      The record shows, Jesus took the blows, that we, as human being will come to know the Life of Spirit and Truth by our faith.

      Jesus guides us today, by His influence–the wisdom and revelation of Christ–God’s Holy Spirit, who indwells our conscience–into our mind–into our heart–awakening our dead or sleeping soul.

      All we need to do now, is let go and let God in our existence in this world. By our faith He will train and discipline us to practice His ways of Love.

      Through our practice of Love, we will give God delight. That is all!

      • Sout Man
        July 22, 2011

        That was so enlightening, Liz. Nuff respect!! Thank you.(12:18 AM)

      • July 22, 2011

        @South Man

        Thank you, but give God the glory for His inspiration to me, for you. May His blessings of Spirit and Truth continues upon you. That is the important thing.

      • Truth,Justice,Peace
        July 22, 2011

        Hi Liz, the beginning of your sentence makes me laugh, not much time to write but you will write less than you normally do. Really? :lol:
        God knows that people are weak of spirit. This is why He is so loving, compassionate and forgiving, if we call on Him and ask His forgiveness with a humble and contrite heart.
        God knows whom He will forgive and those whom He will not forgive. It all rests with Him.
        Have a blessed day/evening. God bless!

      • Josette
        July 23, 2011

        @SOUT MAN….I know either ‘Liz’ tried to slip this one passed you or you pretended not to notice his/her quote:

        “I cannot comment on the idea of homosexuallity, because even today as I read about it, I still cannot say that I know for sure, that two men actually have sexual relationship with each other.”

        ‘Liz’ knows the Bible is ‘VERY’ clear on man sleeping with his brother homosexuallity, but not clear on the woman side. But why hide that explicit Biblical teaching? I don’t know. But then, ‘Liz’ sounds and expounds like a pastor and fact is now-a-days it’s hard to tell whether a pastor is a he or a she or both. Especially when they can hide it when blogging.

        By now you probably can tell that I’m ticked off that ‘Liz’ wasted the opportunity to ‘enlighten’ us on what the Bible clearly says about homosexuallity, while Liz admits that it isn’t very clear on incest. Hmmm…Just an observation! :cry:

      • Anonymous
        July 23, 2011

        Liz comes across as being very faithful and genuine. I know that no one has all the answers. That’s why I requested different perspectives.

      • July 24, 2011

        @Josette

        Yes I know that the Bible says homosexuallity is a sinful practice before a holy God. But that information is for those who commit the act.

        I said that I cannot comment, because I did not want to pass judgement–I do not know anyone who has or is still conducting homosexual acts with each other.

        Besides, homosexuallity is not the topic of this news article. It is about two cousins in intimate relationship. I said that the Bible “does not” define that act as incest.

        South Man asked for the enlightenment pertaining to Adam and Eve into the the twelve tribes of Israel and how human beings continued in progression.

        I am well informed of those aspect and I focused on that.

        Why do you find that what is I said is not clear on incest in the Bible, when I mentioned that “Abraham and Sarah” were half brother and sister, when God called Abraham?

        But God had not yet established His Law, when He called Abraham. After God’s Law was established, incest was defined a sinful act among human beings. So is homosexuallity among those who do it.

      • Josette
        July 25, 2011

        Whatever Liz…..same difference, going around it deceptively eh, same as condoning it. You know exactly what I mean. Break the silence.

      • July 26, 2011

        @Jossette

        No I do not know what you mean, or what the devil you are implying.

        According to Anonymous–whom I perceive can receive the things of spirit and truth, unlike you–I am faithful and genuine; having been anointed, guided and taught by God’s Holy Spirit since 13 years ago.

        You are dead, existing with a carnal mind, that is the reason you cannot perceive the truth from me. What am I to do with that?

        That is your personal problem. You alone can ask of God. He is always willing to work through you by your faith.

        I have no silence to break to you. I am not responsible for your state of mind. I am not responsible for your salvation.

        You alone must give an account to God Almighty at His judgment seat–but make sure that you are not standing before the Great White Throne Judgment Seat of God. You do not want the outcome of this judgment from Him. At least I have spoken one important silent to you here.

  63. Pnuts
    July 21, 2011

    Based on ur story, U know it was wrong 2 have sex with ur cousin; bsides is he ur 1st, 2nd, or 3rd cousin. 2 most pple those r the family lines that count.

    You says he still calls and keep texting U; I c nothing wrong with that, unless he is still asking U 4 a booty call. He has a girlfriend that shows he has moved on, and I think U should too. If he loved u the way u think, he would not have gotten a GF and keep texting u 4 booty call.

    Think bout it, talk 2 him bout it.

  64. Humanist
    July 21, 2011

    While Bella is correct to warn against incest (including that it is illegal in many places), she does not explain the real reason it is dangerous, which is the biological side of it. (Note, however, that cousin marriage is not viewed as incest in some cultures and in fact accounts for about 10% of marriages worldwide.) I should add here that this same biological side also means that “incest” is not really “incest” the further down the line you go. A third cousin would present few of these biological risks, while a fourth cousin can hardly be considered a cousin, biologically speaking. If your “cousin” were a fourth cousin, there would not actually be incest involved. A first or second cousin, on the other hand, is a radically different story.

    Here’s how it works. Family members share DNA–genetic material. When you try to have children with a family member, you increase the risk of sharing recessive genes and creating children that suffer from genetic abnormalities or weaknesses. This is an extremely basic definition and I encourage you to do more research, but this is basically the danger. If you do not have children, then the biological danger is removed.

    In fact, the greater danger is social stigma or breaking a law. Incest is defined differently in different countries. Cousin marriage is not as “dangerous” as sibling marriage, biologically or otherwise, but you still run a risk, especially if it is illegal and if you are in a country where cousin marriages are frowned-upon. Most people do not distinguish between first- and -second and fourth-cousins; they simply hear the word “cousin” and go crazy. If you truly love this person, I would still not advise you to pursue anything if he is a first- or second-cousin. If he is more distant biologically, though, the risks become almost nonexistent.

    Bella’s advice is very biased, and her statement that you must “go to church” is an example. What makes her think this person needs or has anything to do with a church? Why should a church be a cure-all? If Bella were a true professional, she would give information about biology. But she can’t because she is not a professional and because she is too biased to be one. For all I know, she is one of those anti-science fundamentalists who thinks medicine and technology are evil. I really suggest Bella be removed and replaced by someone kinder, more open-minded, less political, and better-informed. Already, this section of DNO is a bit of a joke; but why should it be? I apologize if this sounds harsh, but I honestly do not think Bella, whoever she/he is, should continue in this role.

    • pusina
      July 21, 2011

      Bella is a twet. why the vemin delete my post. Bella Sal i going to sue you. this is a public forum. Why u afraid of my commentry puss. I will sue you..Whossssssssss

      ADMIN: Bella does not accept of delete post. If you continue with your attitude you will be banned permanently.

      • Anonymous
        July 21, 2011

        hahahahaha lmfao

      • AWAY DOMINICAN
        July 22, 2011

        LMSAOOOOOOOOOOOOO :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

      • pusina
        July 25, 2011

        ADMIN: You tell me what attitude. igorance is Bliss Love. Thats why Dominica can’t move forward with people like you. Again Love tell me what attitude.

        ADMIN: yeah Dominica will move forward when u call people “vemin” and other degrading names. SMH

      • pusina
        July 25, 2011

        ADMIN if you are educated as you say you are you should Ban some of the nonsense that Bella put on here. Need i say more. I think that what you need to look at dear.

      • Eve
        July 27, 2011

        That would be a very sad day Pussina since I like your comments lol

      • pussina
        July 28, 2011

        Whosss Eve you a FAN of Pussina..

    • hmmph
      July 21, 2011

      awa wie pal..tht one a lil too long

    • Avocat
      July 22, 2011

      It is reassuring to see sensible comments, rare as they are, on this DNO site. Bull Crap’s comments above also deserve commendation.

    • Truth,Justice,Peace
      July 25, 2011

      @Humanist

      Know that you stand condemned. As Our Lord Jesus Christ said: “By your words you will be acquitted and by your words you will be condemned.” Stay tuned for when you die and the Day of Judgment and your errors will be revealed to you to your eternal detriment.

  65. Muslim_Always
    July 21, 2011

    @ Lady: If you happen to read this comment, I’d like to know is it first cousin, second cousin, third cousin or very distant cousin?

    My opinion is if it is first cousin, that’s too close and unhealthy genetically especially if a child is born. It increases the risk of defects in the offspring.

    Secondly, if it is your second or third cousin it is disliked and discouraged.

    If it is further than that it is okay but it is better if you marry someone who is not known to be related to you at all.

    • Pnuts
      July 21, 2011

      Good 1 Muslem. :lol:

    • Truth
      July 21, 2011

      Agreed. Bella should have asked her how closely related they are…its kinda ok if its your distant distant cousin..kinda…

    • Anonymous
      July 21, 2011

      NICE ONE,M_ALW.

  66. ANTIGUAN
    July 21, 2011

    THAT IS JUST WRONG..DOESNT MATTER IF U GUYS DIDNT GROW UP TOGETHER, U ARE BOTH AWARE THAT U ARE RELATED, AND THATS A LINE THAT SHOULD NEVER HAVE BEEN CROSSED..BUT SINCE IT ALREADY HAPPENED, ALL U HAVE TO DO NOW IS STOP IT..

    • Reader
      July 21, 2011

      Antigua is the capital of that.They have a man to woman ratio no wonder they( had and continue to)come DA for wives apart from how their indiginous their females look they screwed their own before DA girls started helping em out.Deny that Antiguan if you can or have the balls to.

  67. mad man
    July 21, 2011

    How the whole family see allu doing it an say nothing,the whole family doing it too. Allu living like some pit bulls i have there,please leave granny alone.

  68. forreal
    July 21, 2011

    You need to rid yourself of all that emotion and thoughts its not healthy, and to have family members aware of such as well as his girlfriend texting you, does that make any sense to you at all? do you really think with all of the excuses you are making it is going to justify the fact that you are blood relatives ,and this is incest? i think you are attracted to your cousin not in love deal with it,get counseling if you can’t shake yourself from pursuing a relationship with him you are stronger than you think, stop all contact with him its part of the healing & moving on process.

  69. Truth,Justice,Peace
    July 21, 2011

    Bella, good advice. There is not too much I could add except to state that it has happened that cousins have fallen in love and may yet happen while the world lasts. Hope she gets over the feeling in time.
    There are some apparent reasons why cousins, as other close family members should not get into such a relationship with one another.
    In addition, I have heard, if they have babies, there is a possibility that a child or more could be born with some infirmity. This is due to the closely-related bloodline.
    Young lady I hope in time you meet a nice man and both of you fall in love and get married for life. Ensure that both of you are compatible. Good luck!

  70. Anonymous
    July 21, 2011

    love may be blind but we cannot always allow our hearts to lead us.It is not acceptable practice to have relationships with one cousin.just try to move on it, may be difficult but with the help of god u will overcome.try thinking with the brain.

  71. gullygod
    July 21, 2011

    Girl this is wrong in so many ways and am sure that you thought of it.please I would advise you to stop this incest right now.

  72. Glen Beck
    July 21, 2011

    When groeing up i always use to hear “Cousin and Cousin is dosen!” besides who aint got a cousin they wish wasnt there cousin

    • Lolazit
      July 21, 2011

      Oh Lord!! :-?

  73. TeteMorne I from...
    July 21, 2011

    Child, I have many a cousins and we were not raised together either. I have not had any sexual attractions towards them. (?) In fact, I get so excited whenever i meet a new family member. What you two are doing is called incest and it is wrong. God forbid you two ever have a child, it will look like an octopus for sure. Get rid of that cousin, HE should know that you two are blood relatives and should not encourage you to open your legs for him. You are nasty. In fact you are a douche bag…get help soon! My advice….

    • Reader
      July 21, 2011

      Contrary to what you say, I have a strong feeling that you “have open your leg” for your counsin … hence your hostily. If you want to help, tell Lady K how you were finally able to end it (or have …hmmmm).

      • TeteMorne I from...
        July 21, 2011

        Ahhh, maybe is for you I opened my legs, you dimwit! Reread my response. Where is the hostility in there? My grandparents had a gazillion children, so there are a gazillion cousins running around. I meet one every few months it seems. Yet, I have never had feelings for any of them though they are good looking. PS..it runs in de family.
        Sleeping around with your cousin is wrong whichever way you look at it. visit Kentucky and you will see just how may half human and half animals walking around; know why? They sleep with not only their cousin, but their siblings. Next time before you open your hot sack—READ! And, you may keep sleeping with your cousin all day long. have fun. Douch #2. This is my final hostile response to YOU reader. :lol:

  74. sad
    July 21, 2011

    my girl im sorry u had to fall in love with ur cousin out of all the men in Dca……..Please try to get it out of ur system because it is wrong in all ways possible…even though u were raised together or not ..BLOOD is speaking dere

  75. jailbird
    July 21, 2011

    Huh, what can i say to this one? YOU ARE NASTY AND YOUR COUSIN IS A DOG?. Girl i was not raised with my cousins either but i know they are my cousins so i would NEVER have a sexual relationship with them..You guys knows that you are cousins and still yet you sleeping with each other.GO GET HELP..NASTY NASTY nasty nasty Nasty nASTY….DONT KNOW HOW ELSE I CAN SAY IT..OH SALOP

    • .
      July 21, 2011

      Jailbird, fathers have sex with their daughters, brothers have sex with sisters, uncles and aunts do it with nieces and nephews, it is not right but it happens.

      These pple need psych.. help not to b redecule. Most times it is an underage party that fall as prey. All we know she is 23 yrs old now and her cousin moved on a yr ago. We do not know how old her cousing is or how old she was when they started having sex.
      Do not b 2 judjemental and harsh with the names U call this young lady.

  76. I'mWondering
    July 21, 2011

    Ewwwww…this is just gross especially since you know that he is your cousin. Irrespective whether you guys grew up together or not – HE IS YOUR COUSIN. You acknowledge him as your cousin, so acknowledge that your actions are wrong, incestuous, illegal, nasty – everything BAD!

    Stop while you are ahead!

  77. pinky husband
    July 21, 2011

    wow maybe the sex is good i see what you talking about.

    • TeteMorne I from...
      July 21, 2011

      I guess you’d have zero problem sleeping with your cousin too, eh? Douche!!! Blood relatives SHOULD not have sexual intercourse!!!!!!!!!!

      • trixxi 101
        July 21, 2011

        :twisted: tete morne u puttin ur nose in everyting i suspect u f****** one of ur relatives its wrong buh u too nosy :twisted:

    • Anti-hate
      July 21, 2011

      I like how your p connects to your h. Nice typography

      • TeteMorne I from...
        July 26, 2011

        Trixx101, you are sooo not worth it, my reply to you is: …

    • .
      July 21, 2011

      @ Pinky Husband; wow maybe the sex is good i see what you talking about.

      I c u 2 was mayb getting ur groove on with a family member. Good sex or not it is wrong.

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