I am a 23-year-old female and I don’t have a really good rap sheet. I fell in Love with my cousin and we use to have a sexual relationship till he got a girlfriend about a year ago.
His girlfriend has an issue with us being friends. She has text me off and on about leaving her man alone. I have moved on but we just can’t seem to leave each other alone. He always calls or text when he is at work.
I know that the attraction is still there. To other people this may be wrong but we were not raised together so I don’t see anything wrong with it. I am pretty sure immediate family knows about us but they have never said anything to either of us.
I am confused. What should I do? I am in love with my cousin and I know he shares the same feelings because if it were different he would have left me alone since his girlfriend has an issue with it.
Lady K aka Islandchick
Dear Lady K aka Islandchick,
I am sorry you got yourself into such relationship but let us call a spade a spade. It is wrong, plain and simple. Such action is called incest and is actually against the law in many countries and in many societies there are rules prohibiting incestuous unions, both as to sexual intercourse and recognized marriage.
All I can tell you is to get rid of this feeling towards your cousin now. You said you have moved on, then move on. Talk to your cousin and tell him to stop texting or calling you. You need to isolate yourself from him as much as you can until this attraction you talked about has diminished once and for all.
In the meantime, find new friends, go to the beach, go to church, find activities that will help you overcome that feeling you have towards your cousin. Also start thinking of dating other guys. I am sure there are tons of fine young men out there you could date. But not your cousin.
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