I am pregnant for a married man but my ex wants me back

Dear BellaI am 24 years old and I don’t know what to do.

I have been in a relationship with a married man now for some time now. I really love him but he has a wife and child in the United States.

He keeps on saying he loves me very much and don’t want to lose me and now I am pregnant for him.

But I am confused because sometimes he say he loves his wife and other times he changes his mind saying it is me he loves.

Now my ex is saying he loves me very much and wants me back.

My mother told me that I shouldn’t have another child now because that will tie up my feet and she wants me to get married one day. She also said that it doesn’t look good because my present boyfriend is a married man.

I really need you advice.

Unmarried Girl


Dear Unmarried Girl,

As your mother pointed out this whole affair doesn’t look good because your “boyfriend” is married. As a matter of fact all affairs involving married men and young ladies like you don’t look good.

It is obvious the married man won’t leave his wife and child in the US for you. As you mentioned he keeps on saying he loves his wife but then changes his mind saying it is you he loves. He is obviously playing with your mind and is tricking you.

For your own good, you should get out of this relationship now. It is not good for you and in the long run you are the one that is going to get hurt.

If you are pregnant for this guy, I encourage you to keep the child since I do not encourage and condone abortions.

Concerning your ex, have you mentioned to him that you are pregnant? If not, have a chat with him and let him know. See his reaction. He could even end up adopting the child as his own. I have seen it done before and it has worked out well.

The possibilities are endless without this married man in the picture.

Bella

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187 Comments

  1. Blondiebus Holmkvist
    June 23, 2013

    I lost my 5 years relationship during october. My ex left me with so much pains and since then i have been heart broken and shattered. I have contact many spell casters and they rip me off my money without any result. I have Emailed so many sites online looking for a good spell caster till i was directed by a 23years old girl to :igbodospiritualtemple@gmail.com
    . At first i never believed him …but after i did as he directed my ex came back to me, if you have any problem please contact him now on this email:igbodospiritualtemple@gmail.com
    i assure you that once you fellow his direction all your problem will be solve

  2. Diva
    January 24, 2013

    u sure is di married man dat breed you? or di ex? cuz it sound like you well ‘popular’ papa!

  3. LEO
    May 15, 2012

    Hey guys the girl only made up the story and you all danced to it 8)

  4. Magdeline
    May 4, 2012

    When the wife finds out, the husband will cut off his neck that he did NOT have a relationship with you. He may even say that you came unto him, and may even want the wife to feel guilty by telling her that he needed someone to talk to and she not being there you came on so strong. I bet that man is a police officer!!

    • Anonymous
      May 7, 2012

      LMAO! Only men that are police officers that behave in that manner? That’s funny lol

    • gorgeous
      May 25, 2012

      lololol….not only police officers are engaged in this behaviour…

  5. OBSERVER
    May 4, 2012

    Are you folks aware that some married men are wolves in sheep clothing? No one has addressed that issue yet; they are not always honest with the women they meet. The majority of married women tend to wear their wedding bands proudly, but many married men don’t wear them. The reason? They can deceive unsuspecting females into engaging in a relationship with them. By the time these women find out they are married, they are either too emotionally invested in the relationship or pregnant. At that point, they just continue the illicit affair.

  6. JUST ASKING
    May 4, 2012

    @Truth: I commend you for being faithful to your wife/woman. What is it about you that attracts the wrong people like your sister-inlaw, for example? They have no scruples, b/c they should know that certain men are off limit :twisted: You can discuss infedelity with your husband/man early in the relationship, but there’s no guarantee that he won’t cheat. If he feels deficient in certain areas of the realationship, he may be tempted to cheat. What should be discussed is the types of sensual things that he likes in the boudoir that would keep him happy. You and I both know that there are some women who will not go beyond the “missionary” position and there are some who will not engage in oral sex, even though those actions could improve their realationship and make their spouse a lot happier. I often wonder, how can a man tell a woman that he loves her but f**k someone else? Even if there is no emotion involved as you say, how does he face his wife/woman once he has betrayed the trust? And if, as you say, a man can forget about the women he has cheated with 2 minutes after, why do it in the first place? For a few seconds of pleasure? Would it be worth it if you’re found out?

    • TRUTH
      May 4, 2012

      @Just Asking
      To answer your questions. The women are not interested in me; they just want me because someone else has me. If you discuss it at least the man will know he cannot walk all over you. The man leads the relationship like a dance so if he’s leading right the woman will try new things and they will not falter. Then again if she cannot or isn’t willing to dance then he will need a new partner. Love and sex are two different things for men, there are many women I would have sex with but would never even consider being in a relationship with, especially the ones everybody else take. The man can face his wife after a straying because he may have satisfied a physical lust but not a replacement for a lifetime partner. I’m not sure why any man or woman would choose to voluer somebody else’s car to drive just because the door unlock, while leaving their car in the driveway and saying it sucks. Maybe the grass is greener on the other side (the waterbill higher) or they sweif but people do it and suffer the consequences no less.

      • Chari
        May 5, 2012

        OK you being a man does not make you an expert on men, marriage, sex and love so go with that I don’t see the general logic please only speak for yourself because everybody’s circumstances is different.

      • TRUTH
        May 7, 2012

        @Chari. My fault I forgot, women know everything about men and men know nothing about each other. by teh way circumstance has nothiong to do with genetic conditioning.

  7. SERIOUSLY
    May 3, 2012

    On a more serious note you are still very young at 24 but should know better than to involve yourself with someone else’s husband. His wife and child is in the US so he is probably almost ready to join them and soon you will be a forgotten item. You can guarantee that he won’t tell his wife about you. He may deny even being the father of your child. You are not a salop or a whore just someone who fell in a very common trap. I would say keep your child but try your very best not to fall in this married man trap again its not good. If you took the time to read some of those comments you can tell these are a lot of angry married women out on a witch hunt they are all scared for their husbands your story is hitting home and you are stirring up a lot of bitterness and anger.

  8. dominican in L. A
    May 3, 2012

    abort

  9. Rudebwoy
    May 3, 2012

    LMFAO!!! It sounds to me from those comments that a whole bunch of women worried that its their husband that father that child so they stating to quote bible because they scared hubby gonna leave dem lol. But as for this heiffer that is pregnant for a married man, Girl you dumb can’t done!

  10. T. Winston
    May 3, 2012

    My 2 cents… The man married and the bf married. Basically the both have women and they using you. Don’t let yourself be fooled, If you not working get a job and if you are working concentrate on upgrading yourself and get a man who’s not attached. No man can use you if you don’t allow him too. Do not be fooled by these men who come bearing gifts with ill intentions. Respect yourself and demand respect from others and if they don’t respect you kick them to the curb.

  11. OBSERVER
    May 3, 2012

    MANY FOLKS ARE QUOTING THE BIBLE AND WRITING ABOUT SIN, DO YOU THINK THAT YOUR SIN IS ANY BETTER THAN AN ADULTERER’S? GOSSIPING ABOUT YOUR NEIGHBOURS AND FRIENDS IS SIN; HATE IS SIN; ENVY AND GRUDGE IS SIN. IF SOMEONE IS IN A SERIOUS REALATIONSHIP, BUT NOT MARRIED, AND YOU WANT THAT PERSON’S MAN IS THAT OK? JUST ASKING :oops:

  12. just looking
    May 3, 2012

    all you talking about all you married and adultry story, girl spoon who u want cas when i married i will want fresh meat, all now so the amount of married woman i want eh my head even scratching

  13. bonified
    May 2, 2012

    i throw my rice i doe call no fowls,lol look at how many hungry fowls are there.lol LOL and the fowls even vex too wii woooosh…..

  14. May 2, 2012

    Boy look trouble on DNO.

  15. since u are alrdy with the man its ok if he wants 2 maintain his child seeing dat its alrdy his,bt gt ur ass out of this relationship married men will make ur life miserable nd his wife mite want 2 spoil u tink pray 2 god

    • citizen
      May 3, 2012

      lol dats tru mind da woman doe make u go mad lol

  16. spy
    May 2, 2012

    Well if the married man love you and your boyfreind love you to, breed for two of them.

  17. LATITUDED810
    May 2, 2012

    Let me just say that no matter what the situation it is always the two people involve in that relationship that knows what they are getting out of it.Married people are humans who sometimes makes a choice that many times are either base on a facial look or a finiancial situation later in life they bounce up with some one who they really love,however marriage is a legal contract,very easy to enter but very costly to exit.some times because of the financial situation you become very very poor.so one has to way the pro and cons. single people are humans beings who move on emmotion,cash,property,and many times with the crowd.some learn the hard way after many tries with single guys they find out that they may be one of his four women and so the heart break goes on and on, until they meet that married guy.Reality thats what we must deal with in that article.check the courts and see the level of divorce and from what religion that is in the courts.

    • Setup
      May 2, 2012

      If some women would have respect for themselves and say no to this lifestyle, the things would stop, but some still making excuses for the man. But they will find out, that the wages of sin is death. They know those man married, but some are too greedy, and they like to fool themselves, knowing fully well the men will not leave their wives, some even resort to obeah to hold those men, but these things do backfire, and they will find out. As long as he can cheat on his wife, he will cheat on you too, there is no two ways about it. He is playing a game and the women are the toys.

  18. Toosense
    May 2, 2012

    My dear I am sorry but I don’t like people that interfer in married people relationship. When the man told you he was married why didn’t you write to Bella then to ask for advice? Why now after you had no respect for yourself and his wife and child you want to come and ask for Bella’s advice? Is it because you are ashamed of what people will say if they find out you are having a married man’s child? Well too bad for you but you made your bed now you need to lie in it. God don’t like ugly so take what you get. Figure of what you want to do now. My advise it to keep your child because it is a part of you too and I am not for abortion.

    • Setup
      May 2, 2012

      Ouch!!! This one stings……. :oops:

  19. InlovewithaDominican
    May 2, 2012

    I wont go and judge her or call her names. I believe that love and life experiences change people. Although getting together with the married man is wrong, none of you know whether the man loves her or not. Yes, he can love his wife because they have a child, history etc….but sometimes, loving someone is not the be all and end all, or does not make you happy.

    I am talking from experience – i’m in love with a Dominican and would give up everything for that individual – even my family…know why – because, although there is love, there is no happiness.

    Yeah – it may not all work out – but love and happiness should go together… maybe she made him happy…. who knows.

    Love is a hard thing to understand; and if you know what love truly is, hten you can be realistic about the types there are

    • Setup
      May 2, 2012

      InlovewithaDominican…… I don’t want to judge you, but you sound like you are in a relationship with a married man. This being said……
      Marriage is a sacrifice, it is not a party to have a good time, remember the words, FOR BETTER OR WORSE, FOR RICHER OR POORER, IN SICKNESS AND IN HEALTH, TILL DEATH DO US PART….. Does that mean anything to you. Mark 10:9; What God have joined together, let no man separate. Before you decide to have any relationship with a man, find out about him, his family, and who he was loving before he met you, you can learn alot from this, not just hot passions, and after, to say he changed because of this or that person…. Investigate and learn, you will find out more than when you ask him questions. Please stop making excuses for those men, most of them are liars, just ask another woman. Love can be all, because when if a man LOVES YOU he WIL RESPECT YOU, but if he just likes to enjoy himself with you, he will not respect you. A woman has to have respect for herself, and make sure men know it, and they will respect you, not just the sex part…. A man can pay to get good sex if he wants too, but if he loves you, you will get respect from him, and I am not speaking of a married man, they all have the same story…blah…blah…blah ..blah … blah….ZZZZZZ!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  20. good girl sxm
    May 2, 2012

    DOMINICA YOUNG GIRLS LEAVE MARRIED MEN ALONE, SUGAR DADDIES WILL LATER TURN TO BITTER DADDY , VICE VERSA YOUNG MEN LEAVE MARRIED WOMEN ALONE, GOD WILL PUNISH ALL U ONE DAY , IF U WANT DOCHOP AND CLEAN MOUTH DONT CAUSE OTHER PEOPLE PAIN CAUSE U FEEL U CAN DO BETTER THAN THE WIFE OF THE MAN OR WHAT , STOP , ALL FOR MONEY , CLOTHES AND MATERIAL THINGS STOP .

  21. black
    May 2, 2012

    maybe they sleepin with them men for blackberry and money ,not love wat kind of love is that ,and how do u feel wen he goes to his wife everynight.some young womeo have no sense at all.

  22. Delicious
    May 2, 2012

    @ Wendy.

    Thank you so much for speaking truth to power. Bella, should indeed be an objective third party! :lol:

  23. Delicious
    May 2, 2012

    Many of you have commented that the married man will not look back or care for his child. Tell me, how many single Mothers are out there? Why? Because single men did the same thing to their women and shonned their responsibilities to their children. Please poeple, take a look in the mirror before you start posting your comments!

  24. Delicious
    May 2, 2012

    @ UDOHREADYET
    YOUR COMMENT THAT “MEN DON’T CHEAT – ONLY WOMEN DO” ILLUSTRATES THAT YOU ARE EITHER A MALE CHAUVINIST PIG, OR ONE VERY IGNORANT PERSON.

    • UDOHREADYET
      May 2, 2012

      Devious, YES I’m a male chauvinist PIG! and proud but I’m still not a cheater!

      • SYM The Man
        May 3, 2012

        Tell em bro, some females dont realize when they have something that is good, dont put it on the line for spoil milk, because eventually they spoil milk will kill you. My girl the best Advice i can give you as a man, is that God forgives, pray too him ask for his forgiveness let that married man go, because if he did love he would never put you through that heart ache, If your boyfriend says he really n truly loves you get back with him, make understand that you made a mistake. People sin everyday, some admits it and some don’t. Wish you good luck with the Baby n your Relationship..

      • Delicious
        May 3, 2012

        YOU CAN SAY ANYTHING IN A POST :lol:

      • Delicious
        May 3, 2012

        How would we really know that you’re not a cheater? For all we know you could be a Bigamist :-P

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      A big idiot that person be

  25. Delicious
    May 2, 2012

    A number of folks are passing judgement and condeming this young lady…”he that is without sin cast the first stone.” This comes from the same Bible that many of you are quoting. I’m not condoning the behaviour, but we don’t know the circumstances that can cause some things to happen. Although I agree that a condom should be worn at all times not only to prevent pregnancy, but also STD’s and Aids. I agree with Tonic 100%. I have many male friends who happen to be married and many of them talk to me about their personal lives. Some are emotionally disconnected from their spouses and are in miserable marriages and stay because of the children. Others are dissatisfied in the boudoir and want the excitement back, so they go outside of their marraige to find it. Most stay in miserable marriages because they say “it’s cheaper to keep her.” They claim that they love their wives as a person, but they are not in love with them anymore. There are a few who have actually left, so to say that men don’t leave their wives is totally untrue.

    • TRUTH
      May 2, 2012

      I’m not surprised you actually believe what you’re saying. Everything you just wrote is wishful thinking to rationalize your actions and eliminate your guilt or fault. Marriage is like every relationship it has its ups and downs the main difference being a lifetime commitment. So an up or down might last months or years, that’s where mutual RESPECT preserves the bond. Your lack of respect for someone else’s marriage is causing you to interfere and the spouse’s lack of respect for their mate is what’s bringing them to your bed. The irony is if you understood how men think you would realize that the main reason he’s even talking/targeting you is because you don’t respect yourself and are an easy target for his means to an end. Also the reason you have many male friends that are married is because they all know about YOU. You’re not marriage material so you couldn’t understand, leave those women man alone, get your own!

      • Tonic
        May 2, 2012

        @TRUTH and what may I ask is marriage material? something that you want to hold on to temporarily get bored with quickly, someone that nags you to death feels inadequate without a man. I hope you are none of the above :cry:

      • TRUTH
        May 2, 2012

        @Tonic, Ask yourself that question while looking in the mirror!

      • Delicious
        May 3, 2012

        @ Truth:
        Are you talking to me? I have been happily married to my own man with all of life’s ups and downs since 1988; no where in my post did I say that I was involved with and/or targeeted by a married man. I’m just relaying from my expertience, the way men think, so pleaseeeeeeee read and comprehend what you are reading. I have many male friends who are married because when you are married, you attract a circle of friends who are also married. What I wrote is not wishful thinking; its REALITY, and until people like you are realistic about life’s complexities and its short comings, you will continue to have these issues.

      • JUST ASKING
        May 3, 2012

        @ TRUTH. Are you aware that there are many single and married men who are cavorting with married women? Would you say that they are not marriage material? Both male and female are guilty of the same destructive behaviours, so what would you say to the men? Are you absolutely positive that you have your own man? Are you absolutely positively sure he’s not involved in a clandestine relatinship? If he were, would you blame yourself for his actions? Would you feel inadequate? Would you settle for sharing?

      • TRUTH
        May 3, 2012

        @just asking I’m a man and I don’t cheat. Every relationship that I’ve ever had when the opportunity to cheat came it’s always from my GF best friends, her sister, coworkers etc. If you don’t want your man to cheat discuss those things in the beginning of the relationship not in the middle, don’t emasculate your Man because that shit is the biggest turn off no matter how pretty or hot a woman is. Pay attention to habits and most importantly don’t flirt with his friends or cheat because even if he may stray sex for a man is just a physical act there is barely if no emotion involved, he can love you but f**k someone else and forget about them 2 minutes after. Yet when a woman cheats its always emotional (even when they deny it) most women cannot cheat with another man this afternoon and have sex with her husband that night even her body will refuse him.

    • Setup
      May 3, 2012

      Delicious, areyou married? Some men complain and complain, but some of them cannot even satisfy their wives, and this is coming from a married woman. Do you think that because a woman is not satisfied she should go out and get somebody who will satisfy her too?

      Marriage ia a sacred union between a man and a woman. When they wed, they are no longer two, but one, it is not for us to judge and take sides, some men married women they found pretty on the outside, but they never knew the women all they saw is prettiness, and nice clothes, nice hairstyle, they did not see her inner beauty. There are many women suffering because their men comes too soon, or sometimes, he just pleases himself, andd leaves them unsatisfied. Tell the men to speak to their wives about their problem…tell them to find ways of doing things differently. Take holidays away from home and children. They need to pray together, they have to realise that, they will never feel the passion they had when they just met, because this is temporary, but the love never diess, if he really loved her when he married her. (hope they did not marry for good sex) big problem. Good sex is not love. It just adds to everything, but love is the key. And committment is the ket to marriage, and God must be at the head of this marriage, or pphhhhh!!! Bal fini vaylor en sac..

      • Delicious
        May 3, 2012

        @ SETUP. Our posts may have crossed, because I stated in a previous post that I have been married since 1988. Men are considered to be hunters, and as a result they are always on the prowl looking for a weak prey, the next challenge; some of them feel as though they have to divide and conquer something ever so often. I’m saying this based on my conversation with several men, married and single. When I was in college, I was working on a project that required me to interview men about infedelity, and those were some of the responses. Women are not conditioned that way, so most times, we stick it our “for better or for worse.” Most men are not interested in talking to their wives about their wives dissatisfaction or sexual inabilities…its too much work; they’re too macho :lol: its easier to just ignore or cast her aside for a few minutes of excitement elsewhere. The men who can’t satisfy their wives are the ones who puts on a charade and acts like studs/don juan in public.

    • TRUTH
      May 3, 2012

      @Ridiculous or devious, I’ve said it before and will say it again. WOMEN ARE THE ONLY CHEATERS. If you don’t spread your legs… there is no cheating. Women like you are always talking about how a man thinks, I have yet to meet 1 woman who knows anything about men and the truth is you only know YOUR man. A husband may be a bad lover with his wife, not because he sucks but because his wife attitude or behavior or disrespect has emasculated him to the point where he is no longer attracted to her. If he is telling another woman about the problems in his marriage what makes you think he can’t tell his wife? It’s because you’re making yourself available for him encouraging him to cheat either now or in the future. Stop your nastiness. Stop making excuses for it.

  26. May
    May 2, 2012

    So that means she has a first child already? I hope its not who am thinking of.I know of somebody who may fit this description in the B.E area just don’t know about the pregnancy part.Hope its not her cause this married man has all sorts of women while his wife and child lives in the US.

  27. Married Woman
    May 2, 2012

    You young girls need to get a grip….the man tell you he’s married forget about taking it further…he didn’t say he was getting a divorce, infact he told you he loves his wife…so darling all that didn’t raise concerns for you? it had to get as bad as you getting pregnant for you to now consider things? Your child well there already if you think you really can’t afford or cope with having achild now then the sensible thing would be to terminate (which I’m against) HOWEVER financially and mentally you can cope then have your child. I for one never understand how people can be married and 1 living D.A and the other elsewhere that just spells disaster to me. the man might well love you too but it seems like he wants to make his marriage work, so leave him alone and concentrate on you and what’s best for you. I sorry for my husband if he ever brings like that to our marriage :twisted:

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      They are greedy , and all for the money , but thisbitches always lives to regretit, and what they bring in unwanted bastard to the worldjust nowhe dont want tohave nothing to do with her , shameless dominican girl lay their pussy down for money. he dont love u , he using you to realese his urge his tension, his body is not wood. Fool u are now a firly used property for another man

      • Ginger
        May 2, 2012

        You MISS GOOD GIRL SXM I suspect you having a hard time with a Dominican girl. Now tell me the truth, Did a Dominican young girl take away your husband ? it hits home eh. All nationality does it not only Dominican women. You sound very angry and upset

      • Anonymous
        May 7, 2012

        sounds like this article hits home… a little too familiar is it? I can relate. But like another said..It’s not ONLY Dominican women, its everywhere..Watched “Maury” lately??

  28. mahaut
    May 2, 2012

    Girlfriend you are just a sure piece of coochy because the man’s wife is a couple thousand miles away. Trust me he might just be waiting to get his call to Barbados, then you become nobody. Get a life!

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      Exactly a piece of furniture that was managed till a real home comes .a rain coat to shelter from rain :mrgreen: :twisted: :-P

  29. May 2, 2012

    Love! Love! Love! I love him, he says he loves me! I try so hard to hold my peace, each time I read those kinds of letters to Bella, but somehow they always gets to me.

    The reason is because Love is always included in those nonsenses but I know there is no Love if God is not present, and most definitely God is absent from those kinds of attitude and conducts whice are spoken here time and again.

    People please! You have the ability to like–an influence of the mind which calls for the conducts of human affection, most of which is the passions or the lusts of the flesh.

    Every human being will know those experiences because of they are in control by the human senses–there are five of them, which are see, feel, hear, smell, and taste.

    Just think about what each of those senses and you will know how they put control in your physical body or the flesh. But Jesus said the flesh profits nothing! That means that your human senses only promotes the things which are unnessary for Life, then those things are the things of death, meaning that they will pass away eventually.

    That is why human existence in this world is so miserable. We are in a constant production throughout our days in this world, because what we produce is nothing–we are never satisfied.

    But Love is of Spirit and God alone controls the Spirit by our channel of Faith in Jesus Christ. Jesus has assured us that Life is our Light from Him we always satisfied–never thirsting nor experience hunger–that is Life in Spirit and Truth.

    Nonetheless, very few human beings are spiritually sensitive, that they might remain in the Spirit and to know the filling of the essence Love, which is of God–that is why everybody is talking about Love, Love, Love, but all they are doing is the lifelessness of the flesh.

    Love has nothing to do with a married man and a young girl of 24 years–even talking about pregnancy. With God a person is under the control of Holy Spiri–He does not conduct these sort of sinful things of the flesh.

    Bu there is definitely someone in control of our minds at those times; that is what Jesus meant when He told the leaders of the Jewish people of His days on earth: “You are the children of your father the devil, and you want to do his work”.

    We fail to take heed of those words, the majority of us do not even know they are there, because of our lack of Love towards our God, who wants us to live and die–and so the devil takes pleasure in having his way with our minds.

    It is a fact that there is a lot of children of the devil all over the place in this world–even in the church house, doing his work for God said it would be som when He told the Serpent of the Garden of Eden, the seed of Eve would be enemy of his seed–lest we forget!

    You ought to know who’s child you are by the things taking place in your mind, you have a choice to repent and that you might go through changes–God is not going to pur a gun at your forehead. But you alone will suffer the consequences of the choice you make.

    Love is of the Spirit and is Holy; just as God is of the Spirit and is Holy. Love is Life in us, who are “born again of Water and the Spirit.” We are to have nothing to do with the abominations of the flesh–like maintain sexual relationship with those who already married.

    There is no Love in the intimate passions which humans conducts–they are simply satisfying the hunger of the flesh–regardless of if those two people are the greatest saints of the world–believe or not!

    • May 2, 2012

      I should have written: “God wants us to live and not die”

      Also: “God ssid it would be so”

      There may be other typing mistake, but the message should be readable enough–sorry about that.

    • Lenie
      May 2, 2012

      AND?

    • just looking
      May 2, 2012

      i disslike diss coment just because of the lenght, post something reasonable in lengh that people would read

      • Toosense
        May 2, 2012

        your comment is just too long after the first two paragraphs people gets bored. sorry.

      • May 2, 2012

        @just looking

        What do you think it matters to me about your dislike? I am not the one who is dead in tresspasses.

        It would have been good for you and those who gave you the thumbs to think again and read thoroughly the message I have sent.

        It is directly from Holy Spirit through the wisdom and revelation He gives to me. But it is your choice to live or die–I have chosen to live! Don’t say you did not know.

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      Amen you said it all .Live and Direct :-D

    • Francis Chicago
      May 2, 2012

      [Lizavier4jesus]You can’t hold your pace Jesus went on trial for his life, he continued to preach God kingdom and died.I enjoy reading your comment.I read a comment some body talking about condom.GOD created us to do good things.[EPHESIANS-2;1-10. ROMANS-8;15-23.ROMANS-8.1-3.read.

      • May 2, 2012

        @Francis Chicago

        I believe you meant to say: “You can’t hold your peace” instead of pace–I make those typing mistaks as well. Thank you for the continuous ecouragement; only you and those who are alive in Jesus Christ like me, understands the language which I write and speak.

        To those people are saying that my comments is too long I know why! It is that your minds are in its carnal state.

        But the apostle Paul tells us that the carnal mind is an enemy of God; it cannot comprehend the things of God–so to you people God is boring–but you will find out the truth in time to come, it will just be too late.

        In other words you are still existing in your death condition wilting away like the grass of the fields–who can save you all?

        I speak the words of Life, when Holy Spirit prompts me to do so, those who are alive in Jesus Christ, such are the persons like the poster, who is identified as Francis Chicago,they receive me.

        Why don’t you people allow God to revive your souls that you all might come to know Him and His Love which must be your Life, by your faith in His Son, Jesus Christ.

        Otherwise all of you are dead and will simply pass away to become the dust that you are formed from. As God said to Adam–dust you are and to dust you shall return–mark my word!

  30. Girlfriend
    May 2, 2012

    If her ex want’s her back all well and good. Then she can forget about the married man and get on with her life. All the ex have to do is raise the child as his own makes sense to me.

    • Lenie
      May 2, 2012

      raise which child? ha ha.. who dat?

    • Francis Chicago
      May 2, 2012

      The great[ LIZAVIER4JESUS]You seeing what others can’t.With spiritual eyes you receive understanding because God enlightens you by his spirit.God desires that you might know the truth and not wonder what the truth is.

  31. PASSION FRUIT
    May 1, 2012

    Woman, I am sory to hear that your life is upside down and inside out. You are in the band wagon. If you don’t change your life and stop the married man affair; you will reach a point where you will run to the rock for rescue, and there will be no rock. A clear conscience is better than dollars and cents. There is also a similar uncommon but worse situation than yours where it involves the infedelity of the married woman as opposed to the infedility of the married man.
    In case of pregnancy they make the husband think it is his child. The secrecy usually catches up with them. Again, a clear conscience is better than dollars and cents. Our bodies represent the temple of the Lord. Have faith and respect.
    GOOD Luck.

  32. bonified
    May 1, 2012

    girl keep your child and stay with your married man,your ex should have known in the first place that he love you,why now? is not nothing he going to give you better than the married man. Married men take care of the younger girls much better than them so called boys out there

    • ME R
      May 1, 2012

      PLEASE LISTEN TO YOUR MOTHER. THE MARRIED MAN IS CONFUSING YOU BY PLAYING WITH YOUR MIND.I WAS YOUNG ALSO. LEAVE NOW!!!!!!!

    • hmmmmmm
      May 1, 2012

      lord help you what advice is that u doing the same thing and need a company god help you useless woman that don’t have respect for all you body ….a woman body is her temple for her husband not for all man that want ….lord have mercy on you all home wreckers that proud of sleeping with married men and woman judgement and at the foot of the cross for all you

    • UDOHREADYET
      May 1, 2012

      There you have it… that’s what allu dealing with.

    • Woodford Hill girl
      May 1, 2012

      bonified adultress you should know!

    • Lenie
      May 2, 2012

      you right a GIRL… boys deal with girls men deal with women.

    • May
      May 2, 2012

      BONIFIED How do you know who left who???????????

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      Amother slut like her thats what u are same twisted dogs , all u so crossed destroying Gods union , God will punish u and the rest of u

    • Setup
      May 2, 2012

      You seem to want her to follow in your footsteps…Just because you are in your old life, you want her there with you…You should be ashamed of yourself. You know it is wrong, you rather the whole world in exchange for your soul. You are promoting adultery, a way of life that destroys families…magwaysah… God have mercy on us, May God have mercy on your soul.

    • Jo
      May 3, 2012

      Plus married give greater sex – it’s stolen, it’s sinfully sweeter :twisted:

  33. gwada angel
    May 1, 2012

    girl a abortion is not a good thing hold your child and stop take married man.the man told you he married so i find u should never ever sex with the man and more again with out condom….went that child get big and ask who’s my father u have to say a married man that not a good situation for a child because my father was a married man too and i hate it…. :twisted: :twisted:

  34. franka
    May 1, 2012

    hmmn…some people just CANNOT refuse de toley. When daddy tol-tol call, they quick to answer. They cannot refuse it, NO NO NO! :lol: :lol: (who de cap fit, let them wear it)

    but on comment to the young lady’s predicament, honey i encourage you to keep de child, take care of him or her as well as you can, learn from your mistakes, and bring your children up in a godly fashion. May God bless you.

  35. tom
    May 1, 2012

    Bella encouraging the woman to give her ex a jacket…
    that is not cool bella using psychology like that

  36. Lenie
    May 1, 2012

    who want dat king of thing there now after married man use her she useless.

    • Ginger
      May 2, 2012

      So is better she just forget about single men and stay with her married man

      • Lenie
        May 2, 2012

        better she do that. too nasty!

      • Ginger
        May 2, 2012

        I was just saying if no single man wants her because she was once with a married man its better she stay with her married man. then thumbs down. What the hell all you want her to do? stay manless ? girl stay with your man and don’t listen to those hypocrites who doing their thing undercover

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      exactly worthless dejected cursed old fashioned ,reduced price to nothing remain a slut for a good while ,players club will fill in the blank

      • Ginger
        May 7, 2012

        I think something seriously wrong with you “good girl sxm” you sound deranged

    • lk
      May 2, 2012

      LMAO!!!

  37. May 1, 2012

    @CB YOU MUST READ CAREFULLY BEFORE COMMENTING. AND AS FOR THE YOUNG LADY MY QUESTION TO YOU IS WHEN YOU STARTED THAT RELATIONSHIP WITH THIS MARRIED MAN DID YOU WRITE TO BELLA FOR ADVICE? SO WHY NOW YOU GET PREGNANT YOU WANT ADVICE? AS A YOUNG LADY U SHOULD THINK BEFORE U GET YOURSELF IN THIS DILEMA.HAVE’NT YOU HEARD OLD PEOPLE SAY WHAT IS SWEET IN GOAT MOUTH IS SOUR IN IT HOLE WELL FIGURE IT OUT.N I HOPE YOU NEVER PLAN TO BE MARRIED ONE DAY CUZ YOU HAVE A WEEPING TO GET.

  38. Anonymous
    May 1, 2012

    You are 24 you know he is married,stop playing the naive victim, YOU just got played,you think he’s going to tell his wife he has a child from an affair?leave married men alone good for you.

  39. Grain Sel
    May 1, 2012

    That boyfriend of yours you Kako him man…
    Mista still wants you back, whatever you sharing most be good for them to be around you like yinyin

  40. Comment
    May 1, 2012

    Honey I’m not judging but how do you expect a married man to love you when he has a wife and kids? “Sometimes he say he loves me sometimes he says he loves his wife” Are you listening to yourself? We all make mistakes and it’s unfortunate you have to bring an innocent baby into your drama but it’s not too late to pack up and leave. This man is using you. I’m pretty sure he’s not going to tell the wife about you and don’t be surprise if out of the blue he decides to move to the States (providing he has his green card) to be with his wife and kid. Young lady get your priorities in order and before you go jumping from a married man to your EX ask yourself some serious question and make some smart decisions based on what’s best for you and the baby….Good Luck.

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      DONT MIND THE CRIMINAL. SHE WELL KNOW HE HAS A FAMILY THEY JUST LIKE THE LITTLE CHANGE AND THE FREE WAY RIDE , THEY THINK IT WILL BE PERMANENT THEY DONT KNOW ITS FOR A WHILE. UCAN BE STEALING ANDCURSING HARVOCK BUT ONE DAY IT MUST END,SLUT YOUR END HAS COME DEAL WITH IT

  41. DANZIGER
    May 1, 2012

    My dear leave the man alone I feel yr pain married men love only their wives. I know things hard but try to do something I mean open a little busines and move on please dont make that mistake agian he alone will carry his CROSS cuz if u love someone u should protect that person. Now a days we have only LIARS AND USERS my dear stop take a puzz rest and start a new life courage my sister

    • Tonic
      May 2, 2012

      You all sound so silly with those bashing comments. Do you know what the married woman is doing up in the US ? and I could tell you some of these married women are not saints or just victims either. Leave the poor girl alone. At 24 she is still learning from her mistakes. A lot of men get married for diferent reasons, some out of pressure from family, obligation, a lot of these marriages have nothing to do with love, and there is cheating and infidelity on both sides. What about all those married women who are taking their husbands hard earned cash and buying stuff for their little boyfriends ? especially when the husbands can’t handle the business no more. Some of all you too damn judgemental. I know married men who will leave their wife in a heartbeat if given the chance so pleeese go on with that bull

      • good girl sxm
        May 2, 2012

        YOU ARE THE DUMBEST CREATURE GOD EVER MAKE , SERIOUSLY I THINK DEVIL MADE U HIMSELF, YOU ARE SUCH A BIG FOOL, NO MATTER THE REASON A MAN OR WOMAN IS MARRIED ,BUTTOM LINE THE PERSON IS MARRIED , WHO THE HELL ARE U TO THINK U CAN DO BETTER , U ARE AFOOL,LOTS OF PEOPLE LIE THEY FORCE THEM TO MARRIAGE THAT IS A BIG BLAB IF U DONT LIKE A PERSON WHY MARRY , U ARE SUCH A LOW CLASS DOG , U ARE ONE OF THIS HOME WRECKERS AND LOW ESTEEM BRATS THAT MEN LIE TO TO DIGG THIER ASS.SEE WHAT EVER THEMAN WIFE DOING OVER THERE SHOULD NOT BE THE CASE HERE, ITS LEFT FOR THIS # CHEAT TO FIND OUT , WE DONT KNOW WHAT SHE IS DOING WE DONT CARE ALL WE CARE IS THIS DOG LIKE U AND HER MARRIED MAN STORY THISIS WHAT WE ARE DEALING WITH, SO IF U DONT HAVE NOTHING TO SAY CARRY YOUR CHEAP ASS SLUTISH , HOME WRECKING MENTALITY TO HELL.

  42. Reporter
    May 1, 2012

    Right now in Dominica there are a lot of young women sleeping with married men. The married men buy cars, clothes, vacation for these young women, which makes them think its love, while the men go back home to their wives. This is not love and its no different from selling your body for nice things. Our society must teach both the young women and the married men that this kind of relationships will only end up in hurt, dishonesty, and regret.

    • bea
      May 1, 2012

      them woman is just a booty call and some of them men don’t give them nothing much some of them just useless

    • What?!
      May 1, 2012

      Freaking prostitutes are all they are.

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      eXACTLY MY DEAR . THEY ARE FOOLISH.

  43. bless
    May 1, 2012

    You people need to be more realistic, It is clear that 95% of married men a having relationships apart from their wife’s, who are they having it with? Most of them are young girls, to a large extent some of them are of school age. For some reason they feel that these men can provide and are more willing to deliver the goodies. Check the number of young school girls who own Black Berry, you will be surprise to know it’s a gift from some married man. Our society has a much bigger problem than just this case of that young woman, calling her names and talking about karma will not change a thing.

    • Grain Sel
      May 1, 2012

      that’s not true
      putting me into that category is just so wrong because it so happen that some of those men still loves their wives and are not willing to walk down that road
      what i hear is just another bitter woman painting married men in black

    • shy
      May 1, 2012

      If you tell me 15 or 16 i can understand but 24 ,she is big enough to understand good from bad.Some of those girls just don’t have sence and bold, thinking those married me vvill leave their vvife for them.They like money too, a lot.

  44. Voice From The North
    May 1, 2012

    I am willing to adopt that child if you don’t want to keep him/her. The child should not pay for your mistake.

  45. Pusina
    May 1, 2012

    WHOSSSSSSSSSSS..BELLA you getting better pal with de advise pussia junior..WHOSSSSSSSSSSS..First time i agree with your commentary as i quote from my woman bella..

    “If you are pregnant for this guy, I encourage you to keep the child since I do not encourage and condone abortions.”
    So true you went there and cokay a married man it’s unfortunate that you got pregnant but both of you have be adults about it for the betterment and upbringing of that child.

    “Concerning your ex, have you mentioned to him that you are pregnant? If not, have a chat with him and let him know. See his reaction. He could even end up adopting the child as his own. I have seen it done before and it has worked out well.”

    So true bella..

    Side Note bella i see you take my advice well and is putting it to good use. Whosssss you dow need me as your ghostwriter no more..Nuff said

  46. Livingston Huggins
    May 1, 2012

    I just saw this article but this though came to my mine because I know of someone and it have many of these cases. A man is in a relationship with a woman, they have or may not have children together, for some reason the man goes and married another woman but can still have sex with that woman who he have or haven’t got children with but doesn’t see her as ok to married with. I am a man but why women allow this to happen to them…Young lady why did you get involved is it because of the economy, but why not another unmarried man. If you were married would you like another woman to get involve with your husband and get pregnant for him.Do onto other as you would like them to do unto you.

  47. love life
    May 1, 2012

    LISTEN UP YOU ALL THE MAN JUST USE HER HE IS ON HIS WAY TO THE US TO JOIN HIS WIFE AND CHILD AND WHEN HE LEAVE NO TURNING BACK TO LOOK FOR THAT CHILD BUT GOD WAITING FOR HIM AND TO THE YOUNG 24 YEARS YOU HEAR MARRIED WITH KIDS YOU SHOULD RUN AND DONT LOOK BACK NOW U A GOING TO BE UNHAPPY WITH THE CHILD AND TAKING IT OUT ON THE POOR CHILD SORRY MY DEAR

  48. UDOHREADYET
    May 1, 2012

    Question is why on earth in your sick mind would you knowingly target a married man for sex and relationship? It’s difficult to feel sorry for you yet I feel sorry for every man and woman living in Dominica because the women are cheating like crazy and the men are just taking them left and right. The truth is MEN DON’T CHEAT, IT’S WOMEN ALONE THAT CHEATING! A man cannot have sex unless another woman allows him to screw her but most women can have sex from whom and when they want it. I understand it’s hard for a woman to take criticism sometimes but there would be no cheating in any relationship if the females outside the relationship kept their legs closed (The only exception is gay relationships outside marriage). WOMEN ARE THE ONLY CHEATERS! So lookout!

  49. JD
    May 1, 2012

    Married men are just too devious!!!!!! they never with their wives but they can’t leave either.

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      THE FACT U KNOW A MAN IS MARRIED U CALLED FOR IT, HE JUST GETTING A SIDE MEAL ORDER FROM KFC, CAUSE HE WANT SOMETHING TO HOLD ON WHILE HE GETS HOME AND EAT A WELL COOKED AND NURISHING FOOD , SO WHO IS THE FOOL, YOU ARE A BIG FOOL DEAL WITH IT, I ALWAYS TELL A LADY WHY DONT HE DIVORCE HIS WIFE IF THEY ARE NOT GOOD , HE CAN LEAVE U WITH A CHILD ALONE BUT CANT LEAVE HIS WIFE SO WHO IS THEFOOL .YOU

      • Setup
        May 2, 2012

        My dear I understand the message, but the words are too harsh. You want her to take your advice not to get defensive by your comment. Good advice, the words are a bit harsh. I know this is a real bad thing that keeps happening and it is always another woman that allows those unfaithful men to have these unhealthy affairs, and then, a baby is born in this mess…. Oh shite!!

  50. jane
    May 1, 2012

    my dear girl or husband stealer both of you a at fault he should have more respect for his wife even if she in japan and you she have no right sleeping with him unprotected and trust me he is not going to leave the wife but the wife will leave him and he will not come back to you just i bet you havent told him you a pregnant yet just mention it and look at the reaction on his face and the words that will be coming out of his mouth

  51. shy
    May 1, 2012

    Ebain zor say femme sa la sot papa.Girl you think the married man vvill leave his vvife for you.Married men don’t leave their vvife so girl.

    • Ginger
      May 2, 2012

      If you all are so sure that married men don’t leave their wives why am I detecting all that bitterness and anger in all you comments to the young lady ? Its like everytime a young woman write about a married men there is all this constant brutal attack simply because it hits home. Plenty of all you in Mayay forsay. Do you know how much single woman beg those married men to leave them alone and they can’t leave ? Its two sided sweetheart but its always easy to demonize the outside woman :mrgreen:

      • Anonymous
        May 2, 2012

        I AGREEE GINGER … It seems that the woman is always at fault because of the selfishness of the married man. It is so sad that most of the persons condeming the lady are women.

      • good girl sxm
        May 2, 2012

        CAUSE U ARE ALL SIDE MEAL ORDER JUST LIKE KFC OR BURGGER KING FAST FOOD , WHEN HE GETS HOME HE EATS A REAL DISH , U BEG HIM TO LEAVE U ALONE , YET U OPENENING FOR HIM AND DEMAND PAY, STAY THERE AND RUN THAT THING U CALL MOUTH , WHY DO THEY HIDE TO MEET YOU , WHY DO THEY NOT STAY OVER WITH U, THATS THE GAME THEY PLAY , U ARE JUST TONIC TO WARM UP THIER OLD BLOOD THEM GO FOR THE REAL THING HOME , IF A MAN WANTS U HE HAS TO BE YOURS ALL THE WAS, KFC OPEN ALL ODD HOURS AND CUSTOMERS WILL BE IN AND OUT PATRONISING U. ITS CALLED TRADE BY BATER , BUYING AND SELLING , THIS TIME ITS KFC.SOT U SOT ZEZE ,U BETTER REPENT AND GET ALIFE AND STOP WASHEYINGUR WHEN AREAL MAN COMEIT WILL BE WORN OUT AND CANT EVEN GRIP A PENNIS ANYMORE AND U LOOSE OUT, HE WILL NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE FOR U , NEVER ,THEY KNOW U ALL LOVE LIES SO THEY WILL KEEP LYING TO ALL U , THEY WILL EVENSLEEP WITH URFRIEND AND YOURSIS ANDMOTHER IF THEY OPEN AND GUESS WHAT YOUR TOOTHLESS GRANNY CAN STILL OPEN AND THEY ENTER , IDIOT

      • Ginger
        May 2, 2012

        @Good Girl SXM hmmmm interesting he eat all the side meals then when he gets home his appetite is spoilt that’s why he gives you his back because his needs are already taken care of outside. That’s why lmao you are up by that window waiting and watching for when the car pulls up in the driveway. Then you wonder why he have not touched you for weeks, why the dinner you left him is still on the table, why you suddenly become a private investigator, why sad but true you are attacking the wrong person, she did not make a vow to be true to you, he did. Please attack your husbands they can’t keep their pants zipped they lie to you also. Get to know the woman and you might be surprised at the story she have to tell you. You might be surprised at the your beloved hubbies are talking about all you. smdh

      • Setup
        May 2, 2012

        They can keep their legs closed…no two ways about that. I don’t think you would lik a woma to mes with your husband if you had one, so I suggest, when a married man proposes to you to have an affair, think of your life annd what it will do to you, and stop it before it stops…. Be the wife, not the corboss, set some standard in your life. Your children deserves to see their father, at home when the wake everyday. All this adultery leads to children with no father, and gangs on the road side. There is no excuse for breaking up a man’s family, if he wants to divorce hiss wife, let him to it on his own, not because of you or another woman, because he will do the same thing again. When some join certain ccchurches, some men want sex, and the only way they can get it is to marry, and that is not a good reason for marriage, it is LUST. Leave married men alone, and all of us women lives will be better.

      • shy
        May 2, 2012

        You must be there vvith a married man too.You guys don’t fear god, time vvill tell.

      • Sigh
        May 3, 2012

        good girl SXM: You sound very bitter.

      • Anonymous
        May 7, 2012

        @ Ginger!!!
        You are sooo right!. Their belly well full with all those “side meals”. I’m sorry good girl sxm…It is the truth. I understand your plight as you apparently have one that you want us to understand but that’s how it goes sometimes unfortunately

  52. ann
    May 1, 2012

    All you doesn’t hear to leave married man alone? hhhmmm, who don’t hear will definitely feel!!!

    that does bring one kind of curse on you eh….i tell you, you in it now ,the devil blind you, the sex nice, worldly pleasure seems right in your eyes?

    When a set of Bad things start to happen to you, you will find out what time it is!!!! Honey today you with a married man, tomorrow you want to married too, when they start taking your man what you go do?

    The world is a cycle

    • Pusina
      May 1, 2012

      My thing is she know de man have a wife a kids at least he was man to admit that fact of the matter..Ok you taking your tolley from de man use a dam condom papa sal..

  53. LR
    May 1, 2012

    I’m totally annoyed..cus i know what its like when thirsty tricks getting into your marriage…and you even have guts sleeping with the woman husband without protection…chupeees and the woman would come dca and sex her husband and get disease..!!God forbid..smh.. you pisanits need to seriously be terminated!! BELLA NEED TO START GETTING REAL WITH PEOPLE LIKE YAL…

    • Pusina
      May 1, 2012

      I agree with you puss…de too sal for me papa..

    • Ginger
      May 2, 2012

      Then her needs to be in Dominica with her husband who knows what she doing up in the States? maybe the child might not even be for the husband

      • plzzz
        May 2, 2012

        Ginger plz shut up I’m tired of u! Most likely in the states, the woman working like a donkey to put a roof over her children’s head and to make sure a husband has everything when he finally gets his papers. Having your husband in DA and you living in the states is NO JOKE. You working 40 hours a week, going to school at night and making sure you can afford heat when winter come. De lady probably has no time to even think much less cheat on her husband. You guilty of something man Ginger?

      • Ginger
        May 2, 2012

        @ PLZZ :lol: girl you killing me somebody have to stand up for the single 24year old and I appoint myself her lawyer :lol: we both could be right and you know it. :lol:

      • good girl sxm
        May 2, 2012

        GINGER THE SLUT . HOT PEPPER EVIL DOERS SO SLUTS LIKE U ALL THINKU ALL CAN FILL IN THE BLANK GO AHEAD HOMEWRECKERS . U ARE FULL OF.READ YOUR BIBLE DONT PUT ASSUNDER WHAT EVER SHE IS DOING IN US IS NOT U AND YOUR MOTHERS BUSINESS.

      • Ginger
        May 2, 2012

        @ Good Girl sxm girl calm yourself down. Damn all that name calling is uncalled for relax some of all you getting too emotional the girl is not pregnant for your husband or is she ? why the emotional tirade ? are you going through something with your husband ? Is the dog cheating on you good Girl SXM ? Then sweetie you all attacking the wrong person.

  54. Francis Chicago
    May 1, 2012

    Because of your disobedience your back is aginst the wrong fences.What about your life? you may not think that it really matter how you live.But it does whether you know it or not,it supports either God side or the issue of Satan’s side God cares for you.When God law is broken often children are born without parents who love and want them. Mothers may even have an abortion,killing the children before they can be born.commiting fornication it is an act of unfaithfulness, a crime against God.1corninthians 6-18 -19 Job 31;1-9 -11 read.

  55. observer
    May 1, 2012

    why do people married, just to know after d hussy one place & d wifey another. Trust me dere will always be temptation & infedelity. Don’t b hypocrites, we who live in these situations its difficult not to hav a part time padner.Stop marrying just to hold down d other!

  56. R
    May 1, 2012

    that man ought to face his responsibilities for getting you preg now.love the ladies,treat them right men.if he really love u den he wud tek his responsibility for dat child.thats the ultimate test.

    • Anonymous
      May 1, 2012

      His first commitment is to his wife,he’s just plain unfaithful and this 24yr old just got played,Ifeel sorry for the baby who is the only victin here,next time keep your legs closed you knew he was married,stop asking Bella to fix your mess#noappologies#

  57. LR
    May 1, 2012

    I’m confused…lol..”unmarried girl”!!I have no remoarse for people like you because you well knew bout the man and his family…how bout KARMA you sure you wanna be married??? just keep thinkin what you did to someone else marriage and see what will happen to yours…funny how some of you like entertaining married men and expects him to leave his family..from my own personal experience TAKE WHAT YOU GET..yal to dirty and like to intervene not saying that the man is any better but I GLAD!! you must learn..LEAVE PEOPLE HUSBANDS ALONE..yal like saying no strings attached..now you got a longer string!!#no remoarse!!

    • stupes
      May 1, 2012

      shut youir foolish mouth, if the man didn’t want her he would never have anything to do with her; so tell the married men them to leave the young girls alone. they are the ones who should be setting examples for the young girls,not taking advantage of them. Stupeees

      • Lenie
        May 2, 2012

        he did not rape her. she open her for him.. if it had value she would not do that.

      • LR
        May 2, 2012

        oh yeh…when you have your husband and woman u doh know start flocking him you will tell me how that goes..i speak from experience and i say i GLAD …they too like to intervene

  58. May 1, 2012

    WHY ARE SOME MANY PEOPLE THINKING THAT IT IS THE THE GIRLS FAULT? IS THAT MAN RETARDED? IS’NT HE A MARRIED MAN? I’M CERTAIN THAT THIS MAN MADE A VOW AND PROMISED HIS WIFE THAT HE WILL BE AN HONEST HUSBAND.I DO NOT CONDONE THIS RELATIONSHIP NEITHER AM I AGAINST IT. WE CANNOT DECIDE FOR OTHERS SPECIALLY IF IT CONCERNS ADULTS.IT WORKS BOTH WAYS.IF ANY ONE OF YOU HAVE NEVER SINNED THEN CAST THE FIRST STONE.
    BELLA YOU GAVE THIS LADY A CRAZY AND BAD ADVICE …YOU TOLD HER TO GIVE THE BABY TO THE FATHER BECAUSE YOU HAVE SEEN IT WORK WITH OTHERS. WHAT ABOUT THOSE THAT ARE BEING ILL TREATED OR KILLED BY THE MOTHER IN LAW ? HAVE YOU SEEN IT .KNOWING THAT THE MAN IS STILL WITH HIS WIFE…WOULD YOU DO THE SAME? HERE, WHERE I LIVE A CHILD IS KILLED EVERY 2 WEEKS EITHER BY THEIR OWN MOTHER ,FATHER OR THE IN LAWS.SHE IS ONLY PREGNANT AND YOUR BEST ADVICE IS TO GIVE UP THE CHILD? I DO NOT THINK BELLA THAT YOU HAVE ANY IDEA OF THE CRUEL WORLD WE LIVE IN…IF THIS YOUNG LADY THINKS THAT SHE HAS MADE A MISTAKE SHE SHOULD LEARN FROM IT…TO BETTER HER FUTURE.

    • Comment
      May 1, 2012

      It is the girl’s fault. The married man did not put a gun to her head. He told her he was married with a child she should have told him to leave her alone after that. She is old enough to know that this realtionship was a one way street. The man is using her for sex and she’s niave to think that it’s love.

    • May 1, 2012

      Who feels it knows it “CB” go spread the good news. you been there done that! SMFH” PASTOR ROD”.

  59. As if.....
    May 1, 2012

    When I read the topic “I am pregnant for a married man but my ex wants me back” the first word that came to mind was GROSS!! Bella should phrase her topics properly because I thought the “ex” was refering to some other boyfriend not the married man.

    Anyways, after reading the story the next word that came to mind was headache.

    “My mother told me that I shouldn’t have another child now” WTF.

    Girl the d man not yours, he does not want you. People in hell want ice water, not happening.

    Forget the man, check ur children and yourself. STOP INVITING STRESS!!

  60. Truthofthematter
    May 1, 2012

    Ebeh look roro!

  61. bless
    May 1, 2012

    Most of you here to damn hypocrite, 80% of ladies in some way had or will have a relationship with some married man. I am not saying its good, but please stop calling the woman stupid. She made a decision which everyone of us make when we are entering into any relationship. Nothing is guaranteed in this life, hence the reason it’s all a chance, some are more extreme but that does not say she is stupid.

  62. Muta
    May 1, 2012

    look kix girl you like your ting well stay there let him finnish weezay you… sot

  63. n
    May 1, 2012

    This country need some serious prayer

  64. Sexy
    May 1, 2012

    good for you! u too like people husband.

  65. Setup
    May 1, 2012

    Since you are already pregnant concentrate on your baby, and leave the man alone. Stop swallowing the lies of this man. Men always have a fake story well prepared so they can get women to fall for them. Stop letting those men use you … When a man loves you, he will do anything for you, and he will give you the repect that you deserve. When you decide to marry you will not want your husband to do the same thing to you. Never accept a man that leaves his woman for you. He will do the same to you, and if he marries you, he will make you miserable, when he chases after every female that attracts him. Remember the words in the Bible “WHAT GOD HAS JOINED TOGETHER, LET NO MAN COME SEPARATE THEM”
    Give your self some respect, and get a man that is yours to love, and don’t make this same mistake again.

  66. Run DMC
    May 1, 2012

    the mad have a wife she more important.

  67. Ginger
    May 1, 2012

    You all chanting down this young lady like the whole thing was some onesided relationship. It takes two. I am not condoning but what the hell the wife doing away from her husband anyway ? Of course he will cheat what all you think he is the damn Pope ? and even Pope and all questionable. Girl you made a mistake but its not the end of the world some of them taking their married man in secret and some of them husbands out there cheating with all them little young girls that’s why they sound so bitter and judgemental. Just keep your head on. As a matter of fact you know what ? Hold on to your man, you need him now more than ever.

  68. Girlfrend
    May 1, 2012

    My dear i to was involve with a married man, i belived ever word he said to me, but one thing i alway told him i would’nt want to be the cause of break up his marriage or his wife finding out about us because i would’nt want the same to happen to me if i was in her case. All the time he asking me to make a child for him i never took him seriously so he left me for another woman. So my dear live that married man alone ok. it only hurts in the end, they dont live their wives the wives live them eventually when they want to and take everything

  69. Wendy
    May 1, 2012

    My Dear Madame Bella,

    Why should anyone bring a child into such a chaotic and loveless situation? Being that the father already has a wife and child, it is highly unlikely that he will pay any child support what so ever, or even worst, will publicly acknowledge this child. Who is going to feed this one? It is always very convenient to encourage women to bring babies into bad situations where they are unwanted without thinking of the consequences; But before you do so, please remember that children are expensive and cannot exist on thin air. Children need emotional and financial support and it is always best when it comes from a double parent home. Remember to do us the favor and at the same time you encourage them to keep the child also tell them how they are going to feed it for the next 21 years :?: God is good does not work anymore!! God very seldom puts milk on the table without the mother going out and working 8 hours a day to pay for it.

    I find this comment regarding aborting to be totally unnecessary and unprofessional. It sends out the wrong signal to troubled girls/women without giving them an alternative. You should try to remain objective and keep your own personal religious beliefs out of the public advise that you provide to troubled women.

    I am often in Dominica and I see so many single mothers with children struggling every day to keep their children feed and clothed because so many men do not pay child support. Being that you do not approve of abortion, I will assume that you do not approve of dead beat fathers. Maybe write an article about this sometimes. It would be greatly appreciated.

    • Ginger
      May 2, 2012

      Bella’s response will never please everybody since some of you are too damn perfect.

  70. Phenomenal Woman
    May 1, 2012

    Why does a married couple have to be away from each other? You D/ca and I all the way china? Obviously there will be temptations, I believe some of us bring this on ourselves, I believe married couples should be together no matter the situation. Now missy, how u expect the man to leave his wife and child n be with you, THAT’S HIS WIFE! Get away from this man, he’s only using you and you know that. Keep and take good care of your child and I would not advise you to get back with your ex so soon, concentrate on your future and your child’s future, give man a break for awhile and please to the ladies reading this, know your worth don’t let no man treat you like dirt, u deserve better, if a man can only give you children but not a ring LET HIM GO! #tiredofthis

  71. Way papa
    May 1, 2012

    Married men, well some are just DIRTY BUNCH of CREATURES. Why do you all persuade these young women into being with you all? You mention to her about your wife well just respect (her&wife) and (which you don’t have at all)and leave her alone. Sometimes we women to like to break up people’s relationship to damn much. That’s why you are paying the price now and your mind is all confused. Leave them both alone. LISTEN to your mother!!!!!

  72. kendel
    May 1, 2012

    I think this girl should get out of that relationship and try to get her act together.

  73. Anonymous
    May 1, 2012

    Sweetheart God is the answer …………..turn to God now before its to late and take your mother’s advice

    • Anonymous
      May 1, 2012

      u did read between the lines right? her mother was telling her NOT to have the baby. as in ‘have an abortion.’ your entire statement is contradictory as you’re telling her to turn to God and on the other hand to listen to advice that is asking her to commit abortion

  74. Heheheheehe
    May 1, 2012

    Cant stop laughing…at 24 you still that confused?
    I think best you ask your mother what to do cause the only thing you seems to be capable of doing on your own is %%^^ing married man and making children…lol My mother told me that I shouldn’t have ANOTHER child now because that will tie up my feet and she wants me to get married one day.Hehehehehhehee tell your mother you already married..Your husband just gave the ring to another woman…lol BOYYYYYYYYYY!!!!!!!

  75. french woman
    May 1, 2012

    Some women are just foolish,they don’t realize that those married men are just having a good time with them

    • Ginger
      May 2, 2012

      Don’t fool yourself darling not all the time and you all know it that’s what you would like to believe. That’s why some of all you mad :lol:

  76. shorty
    May 1, 2012

    HONESTLY I DONT CONDONE YOUNG GIRLS INTERFERIN WITH MARRIED MEN BUT SOMETIMES U HAVE TO EXCUSE THEM CUZ SOME MEN TELLS LIES BUT ON THE OTHER HAND IT IS UR CHOICE AS A WOMAN TO ASK A QUESTION OR DO SOME INVESTIGATION IF U FIGURE U HAV AN EYE FOR HIM I NEVER B LIVE IN BREAKIN UP A RELATIONSHIP CUZ I DONT WANT IT TO HAPPEN TO ME BTU SOME YOUNG GURLS GREED HAS ALOT TO DO WITH IT .BUT U MAKE THE MISTAKE ALREADY KEEP UR BABY

  77. bad bitch from DA
    May 1, 2012

    GURL LEAVE DEH PEOPLE DEM MAN ALONE. DE WIFE SHOULD FIND OUT AND COME DA AND PUNCH U IN UR NECK.. :-D :-D :-D

    • May 1, 2012

      Why is violence always so attractive for some of us? :?:

    • good girl sxm
      May 2, 2012

      SOT SHE SOT DONT MIND THEHOME WRECHER ITS HER CROSS LET HER BARE IT,

      • bad bitch from DA
        May 2, 2012

        @good girl sxm- shut ur stupid mouth der gurl b4 i put some words on u ok. strupppppzzzzzz.

  78. JADE
    May 1, 2012

    All you doh tired make married men fool allyou? If the man love you he would already leave his wife..Married men never leave their wives the wives eventually leave them (stupid)

    • Anonymous
      May 1, 2012

      Maybe he is just waiting for the wife to leave…just saying what if he loves her for true and using the child to have his wife leave? :-|

      • Comment
        May 1, 2012

        If he loved her he would not be saying he loves his wife and if he truly loved her he would have left the wife. Why do women always fall for that crap. I hope she didn’t get pregnant hoping he would live his wife for her. The thing that kills me is that the smart women are the ones falling for crap like that…SMH.

      • good girl sxm
        May 2, 2012

        dAM FOOL THATS WHAT U THINK THE WOMAN IN US IF SHE HAS TO LEAVE SHE GONE ALREADY , FOOL USE THE BABY TO MAKE HIS WIFE LEAVE , I GLAD FOR U , ANOTHER CHICKEN LEG U ARE ,KFC FEED MARRIED MEN , IF U LIKE DONT DROP THAT YOUR CHICKEN LEG CAUSE ITS ROTTEN AND STINKS , USE BABY TO TRAP MAN IS OLD FASHION NOW,THE MAN FORGETTING U AND THE BASTARD U WANT TOHANG ON HIM , THAT MAN SO WANT TO LEAVE DOMINICA AND GO EVEN TO HELL SELF STAY THRE FOOL.

    • LR
      May 1, 2012

      I left…AND is so true but i still feel sorry for many that in DCA that know their husbands doing shit and still staying and say for the sake of their kids f….. that cus he well know he too have kids …liberate yourselves MARRIED women with cheating HUSBANDS..those young girls like ‘tac tac’ behind married men!!

  79. zor
    May 1, 2012

    hmmm! Papa Met! You pregnant for a married man and your ex still wants you back! I suspect he has been reading the book of Mako chapter 5 and verse 6!
    My girl slow down you are only 24. Leave the married man alone, you deserve better. Please don’t just rush into a rebound relationship. And no matter what the circumstances may be, keep your child! You’ve already made mistakes before, don’t make another mistake by doing away with him.

  80. wallhouse
    May 1, 2012

    Bella u r a confusion massive.did u just saw the advice u gave the young lady? The last part.

  81. la starr
    May 1, 2012

    I really don’t kno y young girls like married men like dat these days!!!! So u expect de man to leave his wife in da US for u??? No, he won’t do that.
    Some of us women don’t think properly. We all expect one day to get married and wouldn’t want our hubby creeping out on us.
    KARMA is a BITCH me say!!!!!!

  82. English Bernard
    May 1, 2012

    Their both RUBBISH! Get rid of both of them.

  83. wallhouse
    May 1, 2012

    My question is why do these women go after somebody’s else husband and really thinks he loves them? That disgust me when a woman knows a man is married and have a relationship with him.sick women.my dear u need serious help.

    • J Vidal
      May 1, 2012

      It runs both ways.. The man should also respect the vow that he made to his wife!

      • Reader
        May 1, 2012

        Thank you J. Vidal! A lot of (scorned) men forget that it takes two to tango. Why is she sick and not the married man? Is he suffering from memory lost and completely forgot he has a wife? Good grief!

      • May 2, 2012

        J Vidal its easier said than done? Fools goal. Those who live in glass houses please do not throw stones. Remember????????? see you again soon. WCMF!

    • LR
      May 1, 2012

      takes two hands to clap and yes the men may stray but the women them that give in has no self respect..”a stiff D has no conscience just like a desperate B has no remoasre”

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