Dear Bella: I am having a big problem with this man who is bothering me and won’t leave me alone. I can really say he is a stalker.
I feel like when I leave my house I always have to be looking over my shoulders. At first I thought I was just being harsh when I would tell him not to call me and ignore him when he greeted me. However it’s because I know what kind of person he is. He likes to bombard young females who are three times younger than he is.
When I pass in the village he yells to me things he would do to me if I was his. What was the eye-opener for me was when he followed me one night while I was coming from an eatery down the village. I am not a street person, but even when I really need to I don’t want to go down the village at nights for fear of this man. I am thinking whether reporting him to the police would be over reacting.
Fidgety
Dear Fidgety: If there was ever an action you need to act on so quickly in your life it is this one. This man sounds like a time bomb waiting to explode …… on you.
His behaviour suggests that he could go as far as raping you if he gets the chance to, since he is a persistent predator. Tell your friends, family, and the police. You can never be too safe.
As a matter of fact better be safe than sorry. All you need to tell the police is that you fear for your life and I hope this warrants for a restraining order against this stalker.
Bella
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This was three years ago. I expect the problem has been taken care of since then.
BELLA gave excellent advice. I also appreciated the comments of true dat.
I am writing for anybody else who may have a problem now or in the future caused by somebody paying unwanted attention to you, especially if they are following you.
You should certainly report it to the police. This would NOT be over reacting. Even if nothing comes of it they should find out should the man is and make a record of it for future reference if they need it. That would be good police work. Anything less is shoddy!
Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. Formerly a licensed Private Investigator (P.I.) in the Province of Ontario, Canada.
it is better to be safe than sorry so involve your parents and friends let them know the happenings
get the police involve. and try not to walk the streets alone always have some one with you.Another thing you can try is to get a cell phone with camera have his picture taken unknowing to him so it will be your evidence and contact the popo so they will roll on him in the act wish you all the best.