Dear Bella: I have been seeing this wonderful guy for quite some time now and I love him more than words can explain. He treats me right; he loves me unconditionally; he gives me my space; he is smart and everything I’ve been looking for. I would love for us to progress to something more in the future and one day start a family, but he doesn’t want to get married.
This is a problem for me because I was brought up knowing the value of marriage. He does love me and does right by me, but he rather that we start our life together than get married. I don’t know if I should stay or leave because of this. I don’t want to leave him because he means so much to me but I’m beginning to wonder if he ever would change his trend of thought on marriage.
Fighting for a life of love.
Dear Fighting for a life of love,
If you feel loved and your guy is everything you have hoped for why should you leave him? Marriage is a very important sacrifice and requires a lot of seriousness.
I’m sure your guy would loved to get married some day, but he does not feel he is prepared to do so at this moment. Maybe he feels he is too young or wants to get to know you more, hence his explanation that he prefers you two start a life together. Many persons have that mentality of wanting to develop a deeper relationship with their partner before wedding them.
On the other hand, have you done anything to make him distrust you during the course of your relationship?. Or do you suspect him to be messing around? You have to think of all these factors which could be hindering him from wanting to get married. If you’re both being faithful to one another you have nothing to worry about. Just try to enjoy your committed relationship with him and once everything is on the right path don’t bombard you mind with pessimism.
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