I am a 13-year-old and I think I have an eating disorder because I make myself sick after every meal I eat.
My parents don’t know anything about it this and I am very afraid to tell them.
My friend told me to see a counselor about it but I just don’t feel comfortable telling some stranger my problem.
I presently weigh 95 pounds and I am 5-ft,3-in tall. I know this is underweight for my age and height but I am scared to eat.
I have always been a picky eater since I was eight years old and the problem just got worse.
I once tried committing suicide, because of bullying in school.
Please help, I don’t know what to do.
It is difficult to know if you have a diagnosable eating disorder. Whether or not you have an eating disorder would be best determined by having a psychiatric evaluation.
It does seem as though you may be struggling with disordered eating. I define disordered eating as having an abnormal relationship with food. Your inability to control your behavior around food would qualify as disordered eating.
My recommendation is first you talk to your parents and to consult a therapist. I’m suggesting therapy for several reasons. The first is to determine if you have a mental health disorder. A therapist can evaluate your symptoms and determine if you match the clinical criteria for an eating disorder diagnosis.
Secondly, a therapist can assist you in developing the necessary skills to control your behavior towards food.
You need to address this problem as soon as you possibly can before it can have destructive effects on your body.
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