I have no feelings for men

Dear BellaI am 22-year-old young woman and I have been with a girl from since I was 12 years old.

It was actually my first real relationship although I had little flings with other girls at primary school.

I got a boyfriend when I was 17 just to hide the fact that I loving the young lady.

However, the guy recently dumped me because we were not intimate; I just could not get intimate with him.

Bella, the point I am trying to make here is that I have been a lesbian for as long as I remember. I don’t have feelings for men.

Is this wrong? Am I normal?

Please help me

Confused Young Lady

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Dear Confused Young Lady,

Normal is different for every individual. No one can dictate your life, body, or anything else by their standards.

Yes, you are normal. Many people are lesbians. There is a huge debate raging right now but many experts agree that a person’s sexual orientation is determined at a young age, even as early as birth.

It’s normal and healthy to be yourself, whether you’re gay or straight.

What’s really important is learning to like yourself. And that is what I am encouraging you to do. Learn to like yourself, accept yourself for who you are.

Bella

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183 Comments

  1. January 1, 2013

    It is not unusual for teenagers to go through a few years when they are unsure of their sexual orientation. Here is how it happens. Early in life we gravitate towards people of the same gender simply for friendship and play purposes. It is the normal order of things for a boy to make friends with – and chum around with – other boys. As he gets a little older he begins to realize that girls exist. But usually he’s rather shy and he pretends he’s not interested in them. The same is true of girls. If they have a choice their first friends and playmates are usually other little girls. They go through the same time of awkwardness towards the opposte gender. This is normal. It is nature’s safeguard. This is the time to learn to play, to interact, and learn those very first social skills. But this stage is not meant to last. Normally we grow out of it. We find ourselves becoming comfortable with the opposite gender and gosh – actually wanting to be around them! What a lot of people don’t understand is that not all boys and girls develop socially at the same pace and there is no reason why they should. But here is the problem. A small percentage get “hung up” or “trapped” in that early stage when they are only comfortable with, and can only interact with, their own gender. Naturaly these indididuals find each other, get close, and fulfill a social need in each others life. As time passes normal sexual feelings develop. What should be moving them towards dating a person of the opposite gender and eventual courtship and marriage sometimes leads them to homosexual activity. Unfortunately there is no shortage of “counsellors” who make their living helping people accept as normal what the Word of God forbids so they can continue to sin without feeling guilty. Studies show that homosexuals have a higher rate of alcoholism, drug addiction, and suicide than hetrosexuals. The studies also show they have a shorter lifespan. Young people who are experiencing sexual orientation confusion do not need a counsellor advising them to accept themselves and do what comes natural. They need to be taught the Word of God and shown that God has mapped out a path for us to follow in life. By His Holy Spirit he is able to renew their minds and give them – and us – a compete inner healing. Jesus said, “The thief cometh not but for to steal, and to kill, and to destroy: but I am come that they might have life, and that they might have it more abundantly.” (John 10:10) To learn more about the abundant life I invite you to visit my website at http://www.livinghopeministries.ca and click on to the EAGLE COURSE. This book can be read from the screen or copied absolutely free. Rev. Donald Hill. Pentercostal Evangelist.

    • I'm Laughing
      January 2, 2013

      to put it short; blah blah blah god blah blah blah jesus blah blah blah you should feel bad about your orientation

      • April 22, 2013

        Dear I`m Laughing: Thank you for your comments. They confirm what I have been saying. People who defend sodomy know they do not have the facts on their side. They are not able to be objective and enter into a logical debate so they talk down to their opponents. They use words out of context and resort to name calling. Now the best you can offer me is blah, blah, blah,… But seriously, I hope you will turn around because I know you are capable of much better. I have met others like you who now march in Christ`s army. Don`t let the devil sell you short. God has a plan for your life. It is not to hurt you. It is to give you hope and a future. Roman 3:10,23, 1 Corinthians 15:3,4. Acts 16:31. 1 John

  2. Cewo
    September 19, 2012

    :?: WOYYYY!!! That one hot. Well, I think all girls have girl on girl feelings before the age of maturity but once they get to that age of understanding and realize that it’s not natural then they move on to the “natural nature of things.” Not that it may do for them what it’s suppose to do but it’s the way life is design; opposite sex to opposite sex.
    Honestly, I was appalled when in my early 20s a another female forced herself on me. Didn’t know what to do, was at her place in another country -went in a daze. Scary!!! Personally, I have never had an orgasm from a man. Didn’t even know what it was till in my 30s. Been in a long term relationship, married once but … Now in my late 40s if a woman wants to, I’ll be all game. OOLALA!!! :lol:

    • King
      October 10, 2012

      allyou and dat washing plates business i do3 know wat wood do allyou allyou fraid toll-toll so wey papa :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted: :twisted:

    • cpaul
      October 18, 2012

      So does it mean that marriage between too people is out the door?

  3. uknown
    September 18, 2012

    that girl is just sick and at the age of 12 you should not be thinking of those things. that was the time you should be in high school and you should be thinking of your school work your just in first form and that girl you was with is just sickkkkk

  4. August 22, 2012

    that practice young lady is a bad choice in life later u will regrate it

  5. Anonymous
    August 17, 2012

    Good advice Bella..I can see u in dat too :twisted:

  6. Truthhh Hurtss!
    August 9, 2012

    God said “When a woman lies with a woman as one lies with a man, they have both committed a detestable act and shall be put to death.They themselves shall account for their blood”… So what do you think.. I am not judging but I am just stating that God would’nt be happy with that since he made adam and eve a couple to prove that the correct way in life is man to woman.. not man to man or woman to woman. But then again everybody has their reason why they do things.. and whoever you are will just answer to god when the right time comes.

    • January 10, 2014

      When a police officer warns a man that if he breaks a certain law he could go to jail is the officer judging?

      When a lawyer cautions a man that a particular deed is illegal and if he does it he could be severely punished is the lawyer judging?

      Of course not! Both the officer and the lawyer are doing their jobs. If people break the law and are arrested they will find out who the judge is. When they go to court the person behind the bench will listen to the testimonies and examine the evidence. He (or she) is the one who hands down the verdict of “guilty”, and pronounces the sentence! This is the judge!

      The police officer and the lawyer did not judge. They explained the law. They warned! They cautioned! The officer may have arrested. But the judge alone decided if the accused was guilty and what the punishment would be.

      When we warn or caution people against committing a particular sin we are not judging. When I – as an evangelist and Bible teacher – tell somebody what God’s law says about homosexuality and lesbianism – and what the Bible says the punishment will be unless the individual
      repents – I am not doing the judge’s job! I am acting more in the roll of the officer or lawyer.

      So please don’t say to me “Judge not lest you be judged” or tell me not to throw the first stone because (1) the firt verse of scripture does not apply to me, and (2) I don’t throw stones as I am not the one who punishes the offenders.

      My responsibility as an ordained minister of the church is to explain God’s laws and help people understand how they apply just as I teach other Biblical subjects. Morals and values are one small – but important part – of the total ministry.

      In the matter of homosexuality I must direct their attention first to Matthew 19:4-6 where it gives us the one and only divine blueprint for marriage: one man and one woman in a monogamous relationship for life.

      Then I will show them what what God says about homosexuality in Romans 1:26,27, 1 Corinthians 6:9,10, 1 Timothy 1:9,10, and Jude vs. 7.

      Some have spent years studying the Bible to be able to understand and interpret these scriptures just as police offers and lawyers have studied and trained for their work. But we are not judges. In fact it’s not our place to tell people they are “guilty” unless they themselves have confessed. Going back to the Scriptures we can show them what GOD says the punishment will be for those who are guilty and die in their guilt.

      Many people involved in homosexual and lesbian practices were inticed into the lifestyle when they were very young. They want out but to them it’s a steel trap. The good news is God loves then as they are! On the cross Jesus Christ bore
      the punishment for their sins as their substitute so they can be forgiven and set free if they will believe and receive Him as their Savior.

      Read 1 Corinthians 6:9-11. Notice how verse 11 says, “And such were some of you, but ye are washed, …”There were former homosexuals in the church in the City of Corinth! But they had found Christ. He had changed their lives!

      Now read Romans 5:6-8, 1 Corinthians 15:3,4,
      Ephesians 2:8,9, I John 5:11,12, St. John 1:12, and Revelation 3:20. Meditate on these promises.
      They are for you!

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  7. goodjobbella
    July 31, 2012

    that was some good advice bella, judge not and you shall not be judged…

  8. blessings
    July 25, 2012

    I’m not going to pass judgement cause only God can do that…young lady all I can say is take it to the Lord…there’s noting bella can tell you that you can’t find on google. I’m happy I only have feelings for MEN!!!!My motto is Adam and Eve not Adam and Steve. Pray about it and he’ll help you make the right decision. Sending love and lots of prayers your way.

  9. Dominican
    July 25, 2012

    That is just nasty, immoral and unnatural, the main idea foe sexual intercourse is for reproduction,
    for this cause he made them male and female not just for fun.

  10. B-dawg
    July 25, 2012

    I look at the souls in the fire. They were deep red and their bones were black and burnt. I heard them wailing with regret and pain.This is their reward, saith the Lord. Chain after chain,they are tied to each other. Those are them that loved the body of their own sex, man with man, woman with woman doing what is against nature. They have bound many young boys and girls into this sin. They call it love but in reality,it is sin and death. Jesus says, those who have encouraged young people to commit this sin will receive a greater damnation. A multitude of souls were flowing in the river of flames,they were circling under and over the waves of fire with no other choice than to swim in the lake of fire and to get burnt.

    • January 23, 2013

      B-Dawg, I know many people mock such a literal interpretation of the hell and lake of fire in the Bible. They will ridicule the description you have given of poor lost Sodomite souls in the flames of eternal perdition. Now I’m not sure it will happen exactly as you have portrayed it because the Bible doesn’t fill in all the details of either heaven or hell. But this much I can vouch for. There is a hell according to Luke 16:19-31 and Revelation 20:11-15 shows there will be a lake of fire after the final judgment of the great white throne for all those who have rejected Christ – those whose names are not recorded in the book of life. Those guilty of homosexual practices who have not repented and forsaken their sins will not go to heaven according to 1 Corinthians 6:9-10 but Jude vs.7 shows they will suffer “…the vengenge of eternal fire.” So before you people who read B-Dawg’s comments begin joking about his fancy description of the Sodomites being tossed to and fro in the flames I hope you will care enough about your eternal destiny to check out the scriptual references. But there is more! We are all sinners according to Romans 3:23. All – men and women – straight and gay – young and old – who receive Christ as their Saviour become God’s children. We are promised in 1 John 1:7 that “… …the blood of Jesus Christ, his Son, cleanseth us from ALL sin.” I expect to meet many former homosexuals in heaven because in St. Paul’s first letter to the church in the city of Corinth he wrote “…such WERE some of you: but ye ARE washed, but ye ARE sanctified, bu ye ARE justified, in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God.” (1 Corinthians 6:11) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  11. MAC
    July 25, 2012

    Yes young lady i know the feeling i like to eat furry burgers tooo it sweet

  12. July 25, 2012

    send me a mail hot stuff :wink:

  13. July 25, 2012

    this must be a joke. are u serious bella? what kindof advice is this? Are u familia with the bible? If u are a qualified reporter/ journalist u would know how to sight sources of the experts u mention. will and come again

    • FireBella
      September 1, 2012

      You are not God, nor is Bella
      i hope u dont fornicate as fornication is sinful…

      let he who have NOT sinned cast the first stone!!!

  14. Dublanc
    July 25, 2012

    But “Bella”, it’s about three months now I sent you my story n I have not gotten any reply from u or seen it posted here…what’s up with that?…my story that bad?…or maybe ur just fake?….

    • blessings
      July 25, 2012

      I agree with you. I guess because my story was not one where my b/friend beating on me or I’m confused or I’m dating multiple men/women bella won’t post mine. It’s about a real life crisis about a family being torn about my greed.

  15. Rule
    July 25, 2012

    You are who you are. That’s your preference but not normal.

  16. Just saying
    July 25, 2012

    At 12 I don’t think being with a girl or becoming a ‘lesbian’ was a ‘personal choice’ as a few people on here suggest. It most likely happened out of curiosity or perhaps circumstances I would say and developed into a habit.

    It became normal to you and has turned into your ‘normal’ lifestyle without you realising it. Now you’re more mature, you are questioning your true nature.

    If you want to break away you have to accept that your sexual orientation has not been ‘normal’ in the sense that you were introduced to same sex at a tender age and at no point, not even during puberty did you feel attracted to the opposite sex, which should have been the ‘normal’ thing as a teenage girl.

    Right now as an adult, it is a question of choice. Do you choose to remain a lesbian or do you want to explore the possibility of ‘change’ by trying to get intimate with a guy even if it’s to test yourself. But you must get a guy who sincerely loves you or else the whole essence/value of ‘man/woman’ of union will be lost.

    Love between a man and a woman is the beauty of it, the gift of bearing a child, being held and cared for financially and emotionally by a ‘man’ by allowing him to play that role in your life ‘as a woman’.

    It’s not just sex, so don’t make it a sexual thing. Search for something deeper.You’ll find your true womanhood and sense of woman nature.

    If this doesn’t work out, only God is the judge.

    • Cewo
      September 19, 2012

      True, during those childish years, yep it’s childs’ play but after that it’s a choice. You can decide if that’s how you want to spend the rest of your life or if you want to do it to do it just for pleasure.
      Yes, love between a man and a woman is totally beautiful and results in the gift of child-bearing BUT this part; questionable “cared for financially and emotionally by a ‘man’. It is said that most women don’t exhale through intercourse and most men don’t know that so …

    • March 12, 2013

      Homosexuality is a complex subject but there s absolutely no scientific proof that anybody is born that way. What we have is evidence that some people are born with a tendancy towards antisocial behaviour which can lead them into various types of wrong doing. For example an arsonist or a kleptomaniac was not born with a predisposition that said he had to set building on fire or steal. But he began life with tendancies which would erupt into this kind of behaviour if he found himself in temptation’s way or in the wrong circumstances. The same can be said about other types of criminial activity (some too gross to mention) and it is true of homosexuality. Because sexual feelings are normal to every person and can begin quite young a person can experience homosexual feelings first. Many of us experienced other temptations early in childhood but didn’t become arsonists or kleptomaniacs thanks to proper teaching and discipline. A person in the position this young lady is in needs Biblical counselling (based on the scriptures) from somebody who is competent in the field. Please do not suggest that she “try to get intimate with a guy” to try herself out. (1) Being able to perform sex with a person of the opposite gender prove nothing. Any woman can do this. In the USA a large number of prostitutes have been found to be lesbians. Sex outside marriage (fornication) is a sin and is forbidden in the Holy Scriptures. See 1 Corinthians 6:9-10. We don’t use fornication to cure homosexuality! Even if it worked we would only be substituting one sin for another! Please be careful what you advise people to do – or even imply they should do – if you sincerely care about their well being. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  17. Prof. Wikileaks
    July 25, 2012

    I am not making this up

    From WHP-TV:
    A report issued by the United Nations-backed Global Commission on HIV and the Law; recommends that nations around the world get rid of “punitive” laws against prostitution – or what it calls “consensual sex work” — and decriminalize the voluntary use of illegal injection drugs in order to combat the HIV epidemic.

    The commission, which is made up of 15 former heads of state, legal scholars and HIV/AIDS activists, was convened in 2010 by U.N. Secretary-General Ban Ki-Moon and is jointly backed by the United Nations Development Programme and UNAIDS – the Joint U.N. Programme on AIDS/HIV.

    The commission recommends repealing all laws that prohibit “adult consensual sex work,” as well as clearly distinguishing in law and practice between sexual trafficking and prostitution.
    From the actual UN report itself (page 43, if you’re interested):

    To ensure an eff ective, sustainable response to HIV that is consistent with human rights obligations:
    3.2. Countries must reform their approach towards sex work. Rather than punishing consenting adults involved in sex work, countries must ensure safe working conditions and off er sex workers and their clients access to eff ective HIV and health services and commodities. Countries must:
    3.2.1 Repeal laws that prohibit consenting adults to buy or sell sex, as well as laws that otherwise prohibit commercial sex, such as laws against “immoral” earnings, “living off the earnings” of prostitution and brothel-keeping. Complementary legal measures must be taken to ensure safe working conditions to sex workers.
    3.2.2 Take all measures to stop police harassment and violence against sex workers.
    3.2.3 Prohibit the mandatory HIV and STI testing of sex workers.
    3.2.4 Ensure that the enforcement of anti-human-trafficking laws is carefully targeted to punish those who use force, dishonesty or coercion to procure people into commercial sex, or who abuse migrant sex workers through debt bondage, violence or by deprivation of liberty. Anti-human-trafficking laws must be used to prohibit sexual exploitation and they must not be used against adults involved in consensual sex work.

    http://forums.catholic.com/showthread.php?t=696952

    • Isshhh Toneh
      July 26, 2012

      Morally, prostitution might be wrong based on one’s beliefs. However, I see no problem with legalizing prostitution. Why not get paid for it? Women give free sex all the time and end up being abused, mistreated or dumped. #justkeepingitreal#

    • January 23, 2013

      It seems the U.N. wants every country to deciminalize prostitution and bring in laws that protect sex workers. This raises some questions. If prostitutes and their clients do not now obey the existing laws why should we think they would stay within the boundaries of new laws? These are not law abiding citizens. As long as they think they can avoid getting caught (a) the prostitute will break any law that would limit her ability to make money, and (b) the client will break any law that would prevent him from satisfying his lust. Governments think if they declare the sex trade a legal profession they will be able to tax the income of the workers. Do they actually think that a prostitute who has never had any respect for the government and has broken the law for years – a woman who earns her living by causing married men to break their legal marriage vows and by doing so defrauds their wives, violating their trust and exposing them to disease – will suddenly become law abiding and declare their income? Do they expect these women to honor laws that require them to be licensed? Remember, these are women who practiced prostitution for years when it was illegal and to a geat extent got away with it. It would be ridiculous to think they could not continue to dodge the law and practice without a license. Without a license there would be no way of knowing that the sex trade worker had passed the required medical exam to assure she is free of the deadly AIDS virus and any other STD. Even if prostitution is decriminalized and legalized a man who visits a prostitute is in danger of being mugged, robbed, or blackmailed. He won’t report these things – not because he fears legal consequences – but he dare not let his wife, family, or other significant people in his life know he was with a prostitute. As for the workers themselves they will remain at risk of being taken advantage of and abused by clents and their managers (pimps). Remember (unfortunately) these women are sometimes under age, and sometimes addicted to drugs. Either way they are dependent on the men (or women) they work for and will take a terrible amount of abuse bfore reporting it or trying to excape especially if they have no place to go. Yes, we expect the U.N. will push to legalize prostitution. Governments legalized tobacco, alcohol, and gambling. In some countries there is a push to decriminalize the use of certain so-called “receational” drugs. We hear all kinds of reasons. Governments want to make money from taxation. They want to reduce the workload for the police and the courts. They don’t want young offenders having a criminal record that could hinder their opportuities for education and jobs. These are legitimate concerns. But they could be dealt with and resolved differently one at a time without creating even greater problems with much further reaching consequences. Those of us who give leadership in our various faith communities should be looking more closely at the threat of big government legalizing prostitution and making it easier for people to practice any kind of sex trade. God says it is sin. The Bible forbids it. “Marrige is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.” (Hebrews 13:4) “…whoremongers… shall have their part in the lake which burneth wit fire and brimstone…” (Revelation 21:8) In a democracy people of faith have a responsibility to vote for those who will honour God and rule according to the the laws He has given us in the Word of God – the Bible. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  18. Anonymous
    July 25, 2012

    Normal? Girl you not normal!! Normal is male and female not same sex. God made Adam and Eve.

    This so wrong on all levels.

  19. me
    July 25, 2012

    Girl sex with a man so sweet.

    • Troll
      August 3, 2012

      I hope no man didnt like that comment lmfao! :lol: :lol: or worst your a man LLOOLL!

  20. P
    July 25, 2012

    Bella you are fired! Bah mwen lacklay la!

  21. Wa Chubble is dis
    July 25, 2012

    You are very normal, your behavior is not. It is not supported by what we see in nature, in evolution or the bible. In a darwanian society you would not survive…since you cannot reproduce in your relationship

  22. speaking logic
    July 25, 2012

    from 12 years??? u should have been studying hard at school….chk urself honey…

  23. UDOHREADYET
    July 24, 2012

    If you like women sexually then that’s your personal choice. Whether it’s wrong or right in anyone else’s eyes isn’t going to change your feelings. Just realize for a young woman at that age 10-19 your hormones are raging and if that’s the environment or situation you put yourself in you may confuse lust with sexual orientation. You may feel more comfortable with women than men for many reasons that may not be entirely sexual. Comfort and trust is huge deal for many young women. Try being comfortable with yourself to gain the confidence you need to trust your decisions. Ask yourself if this is what you truly want and how you want to live. Good luck.

  24. Dominican
    July 24, 2012

    Hi if your mother was a lesbian and your father before they had you where would you be, and beside observe the laws of nature MAGNETS of the same pole REPELS each other but MAGNETS of the opposite pole attracts each other, you need negative and positive poles to produce useable electricity.
    THINK OF THAT

  25. Think About It
    July 24, 2012

    Ha Ha Ha….What ever makes you happy go for it. To all them bible belle trying to tell you what is wrong and right they themselves are so full of skeletons in their closets it’s overflowing.I cannot judge you and they cannot either that is between you and your God so Hello,Pot? Meet Kettle.You all happy hypocrites.Ha Ha Ha

  26. .
    July 24, 2012

    Girl do your thing even if the hypocrites talk. Dominica has a million other more important issues and the hypocrites are quiet… Sometimes they themselves are involved in their ZAMIE TOO while they are condeming you.

  27. love
    July 24, 2012

    why is it a male dog don’t go behind a male dog and humans go after the same sex. yuk…thats nasty and abnormal.

    • Anonymous
      July 25, 2012

      actually homosexuality is quite common among the animal kindom…get ur facts straight

      • Kamchatka
        July 25, 2012

        @Anonymous – Your pets it quite common in or what?

      • Kyna
        July 25, 2012

        You lie!….you to get your facts straight.

      • SXM DIVA
        August 13, 2012

        So then u are saying u are not human but an animal ,i get your drift animal

      • January 10, 2014

        Among animals sex is a matter of scent and brain chemistry, not love and romance. 8-O

        Animals are known to suffer some psycholgical disorders similar to humans. :cry:

        It should not be considered strange if an animal becomes confused and “mates” with one of its own gender. :oops:

        However, human being are of a different order. We are the crowning act of God’s creation made in His image and likeness. There is no “morality” among animals. Men and women of the human species
        are to live by the laws God gave us (in the Bible) for our own good. 8)

        Some animals eat their young. Does this make it O.K. for humans? So what is your point? :twisted:

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. :lol:

      • May 9, 2015

        Some animals also eat their offspring. Does this make it O.K. for humans?

        As human beings we do not follow the example of creatures in the animal kingdom :!:

        God has given us HIS blueprint for human behavior in he Bible. In the New Testament He has given us the moral code for human sexuality.

        Romans 1:26,27. 1 Corinthians 6:9,10. 1 Timothy 1:9,10. Jude vs.7.

        Sexuality is the means whereby human beings become partners with God in the miracle of creation (reproduction). All living creatures reproduce but with human beings it is different because humanity was the final and crowning act of God’s creation. Man (mankind) was made in the image and likeness of God. God has placed a hedge around human sexuality.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

    • stupes
      July 25, 2012

      hold up hold up…. there IS homosexual activities in the animal world…recently i saw a male dog humping another male dog…

      • May 9, 2015

        Of course!

        Many physical illnesses and psychological disorders found among human beings are also found in the animal kingdom.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

    • MAC
      July 25, 2012

      You havent seen what i saw two male dogs here in England,go to YouTube, type in mail dogs doing it and you will see

      • FireBella
        September 1, 2012

        hmmm MAC why u been watching nastiness on youtube lol…the Brits are abnormal lmao

  28. Freethinker
    July 24, 2012

    Wow, Bella didn’t sound like a Bible-thumping moron for once. Good for her–or whatever rational, cultivated, humane person has taken over her column. Unfortunately, I can’t say the same for most of the commenters, who appear to be happy slaves of the bible. I hope these Leviticus-yelling idiots have gay children one day. Then, maybe, they will see how easy it is to be ignorant when you know nothing about a subject.

  29. July 24, 2012

    GOD DOSE NOT LIKE THIS… THINK OF GOD BEFORE YPOURSELF

    • stupes
      July 25, 2012

      i hope you think of God before you do everything you do! is not only homosexuality that is a sin…lying, sex before marriage, adultery, lusting…just to name a few…We dominicans to hypocrite.

      nothing wrong in loving someone of the same sex…as long as you are happy

      • woodford Hill girl
        July 25, 2012

        Satan is happy when he gets you to do what he wants too,how about that?

      • July 2, 2013

        It is a trick of satan to keep people on the road to hell happy so they will not turn around.

        It is possible to find happy people in many types of relationships: some are happy simply because they are too stupid to even know the way they are living is not only not pleasing to God but totally out of line with society knows to be normal.

        When GOD says something is a sin it IS a sin. He says homosexuality is a sin. Please read Romans 1:21-32, 1 Corinthians 6:9,10, 1 Timothy 1:9,10, and Jude vs. 7.

        Please read Hebrew 12:14. Notice it is HOLINESS not HAPPINESS!

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  30. Just Saying
    July 24, 2012

    I am not a bible toting Christian but I can say when I sit back and look around at nature I know that homosexuality/lesbianism is not of nature, if it were, male dogs would get with male dogs, and female cats with female cats. If ones sexuality was determined at birth that phenomenon would not afflict only the human race but every creature on earth. So Bella by you telling that young lady to be herself is egregious, because I could make the case to serial murderers and rapists to be themselves. We all have tendencies and urges that are wrong but we all don’t act upon it. If the bible is for you then homosexuality/lesbianism is out, period; if you are a nature lover then heed the examples of nature two male plants cannot be pollenated. Gandhi said “Hate the sin not the Sinner.” What I take from that is to love everyone but discourage transgressions.

    • dude
      July 24, 2012

      where have u been??? i seen male dog hump male dogs…..this is just life take it hw u see, some of us are just small minded people if thats what she wanna do thats on her, me personally got nothing against that… once they dnt come at me with tht bull crap

      • April 6, 2013

        Dude: I’m sure you will admit it is rare. Animals are creatures of instinct. Their sexual arousal depends on their sense of smell and how it stimulates their body chemistry. It seems there are rare ocassions when an animal’s mind will interpret the incoming messages wrong and cause it to “mate” with one of its own gender. Various mental diseases known to humans are also found in animals. Does this make the condition any less a disease – or any less serious – in humans? Of course not! It is pathology and should be treated. However, human beings are the highest order of God’s creation. Our sexuality involves the bearing of children to whom we have a responsibility, children with whom we normally have a lifelong relationship. Family life as such is not known among animals. This is why God created us with the ability to know right from wrong and gave us a sense of morality that is not known in the animal kingdom. The Creator placed a hedge around human sexual behaviour that does not exist with animals. He gave us the revelation of His will in the Bible – the Word of God – which tells us that sex outside of marriage is a sin. It also gives us God’s blueprint for marriage: one man united to one woman for as long as they both shall live and that to the exclusion of all others! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

      • July 2, 2013

        By the way…

        Some animals also eat their young! This does not kake it normal for human beings!

        Just an after thought.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill.

    • July 24, 2012

      @Just saying

      Amen to that! In Dominica I learned to call the mango, of the tree that produced it, “grafted mango”. Why! Because that mango tree needed to be grafted by the producing seed–which was a very small plant of the mango seed–so that it would produce those mangoes. I saw my grandfather do that a lot and it was effective.

      So if God, created the female seed for the plant which is of a male stature–and so on–why would He create a “female human being” to disire the passion of another female like herself, and a male for the passion of the male? Definitely not! God did not do that!

      For I know our God of Love, Love which is perfect–all of our human desires or passions of the flesh is abomination before Him. God has His face turned against us throughout those attitude or conducts.

      As human beings we enter this world with a carnal state of mind, acquired from the betrayer, Lucifer,through Adam and Eve, causing this mind of ours to be an enemy of God and His ways of Life–the traits of Love–unless we enter the process of “mind renewal”.

      And so that mind of ours can become extremely entwined in corruption and the evils of this world, as soon as a human being beomes aware of the functions of his/her mind–and is old enough or wisde enough to make the choice.

      The gift of discenment is the guidance by which we know whether or not to allow the seeds which are sown on the grounds of our mind to nurture into production or not to–we know this seed by the nature of our thoughts.

      “For as a mind thinks in his heart/mind so is he:” Says the Great Wise Solomon. We have to be saying no to God’s enemy and ours as well–all day long and everyday of our existence in this world. The same way we must be saying yes to God; again our gift of discenment tells us of the difference, we just need to remain alert!

      It is not safe to simply advise a person to be their self. A person can maintain a very dangerous mind–even if we cannot see that state of mind in the person.

      How do we tell that person to be “yourself” when we can notice or have heard the intentions of that person’s mind–which we know as against God’s Will, or can it be a destructive habit in that person–to his/her self or others around him/her?

      • woodford Hill girl
        July 25, 2012

        Wow preacher,you said it all right there Amen!

    • Malick
      July 25, 2012

      Amen

      Your contribution deserves an award. :-D

    • virgo
      July 26, 2012

      Gandhi is not the one, who said that these words came from the Holy Bible GOD, said that, Amen to that.

  31. Ms. Dynamite
    July 24, 2012

    “Yes, you are normal. Many people are lesbians”. Bella, its not normal and not many people are lesbians. Bad advise.

  32. unknown
    July 24, 2012

    in this modern world ppl dying fast,girl change your life before God call for you am very disappointed in you bella for the response you give her

  33. shy
    July 24, 2012

    girl and girl is not right, man and man is not right, case closed.I don’t care if some people vex ,i say it is not right.

  34. ruthine
    July 24, 2012

    bella get your bible and read leviticus 20:13

    • Justice
      July 24, 2012

      Agreed go read the bible. the good Lord condemns this type of sexual orientation. She is only asking about it because she is not comfortable with it.

    • tom
      July 24, 2012

      Leviticus 20:13 “If a man practices homosexuality, having sex with another man as with a woman, both men have committed a detestable act. They must both be put to death, for they are guilty of a capital offense.

      But i must say, they bible also say Do not commit adultery,do not steal,do not lie,do not fornicate ect. All these are sins and the wages of Sin is death. So why are we condeming homosexuality and we not condeming Adultery,”fornication which is on the rise and all the rest of it?

      • Ruthine
        July 25, 2012

        I agree with u tom but bella said she’s normal imagine if it was aldultry ect would u say the say the same thing that’s normal

      • Ruthine
        July 25, 2012

        I agree with u tom but bella said she’s normal imagine if it was aldultry ect would u say the say the same thing that’s normal go ahead live your life

      • March 14, 2013

        Good point Tom! All these other things are ALSO sins. We should condemn them. None of the sins you mentioned are normal. Thank God, if we have committed any of these sins (and we have all sinned in various ways) we can be forgiven by the grace of God and cleansed by the shed blood of Christ when we believe in Him and receive Him as our Savour. Even then, we should not excuse sin of any kind in our own lives or in the lives of others. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

      • July 24, 2013

        We do condemn all these other sins.

        But here is the difference:

        People who commit these other sins already know they are sinning. Usually they have enough sense to be ashamed.

        They don’t go on the defensive when people say they shouldn’t commit adultery or fornication.

        The don’t say the pastor is phobic, or hateful or discriminating when he preaches against adultery or fornication.

        Have you ever had a cruise ship come to your shores and have a man and woman on the ship give you a live sex show in front of men, women, and children? It’s not likely to happen because heterosexuals don’t flaunt their sexuality like that. Even those who commit fornication have enough decency to restrain them from that kind of lewdness.

        People are not publically celebrating these other sins. Nobody is having a “pride parade” to show off their fornication or adultery.

        People who commit heterosexual sins are not trying to win the admiration of the public and draw others into their lifestyles.

        These other sins are not increasing mental illness, alcoholism, suicide, and AIDS to the extent that homosexualty is, so they have not become such prominent social issues.

        For these and I suspect a few other reasons it has become necessary to say more about homosexuality than these other sins. This is also why laws have been put in place to contain the problem.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

      • September 7, 2015

        Homosexuality is in a grouping by itself for two reasons.

        (1) It is against nature. Romans 1:26,27.

        (2) It is an assault on God’s model for marriage that is one man and one woman together until they are parted by death. (Matthew 19:4-6)

        We also condemn fornication and adultery. However, people are hearing more about homosexuality these days because homosexuals have made it necessary for us to say more about this sin by dragging it out into the legal arena to legalize same sex marriage contrary to the Holy Scriptures.

        For 2,000 years the Christian church has preached against fornication, adultery, AND homosexuality. Bishops, pastors, and evangelists have advised rulers of State to provide laws that are according the Word of God . This means interpreting and explaining the scriptures to
        Kings and Queens, Emperors, Presidents, and Prime Ministers, and admonishing them to rule accordingly. We must and we will!

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

  35. look
    July 24, 2012

    well well bella…is that it? any girl who has feelings for other women would love that part of your response>>>””Yes, you are normal. Many people are lesbians. “”” ((u r only encouraging lesbo. *sighs* ?????????
    My girl all i can tell you is, this is totally wrong..my close friend shared with me.. that she had feelings for girls when she was between 8-12 and she thought it was an okay thing since her mom told her no boyfriend b4 she gets prgnant..until she got older 14yrs she accpeted christ and continued going to church she lerant that this is not of God and right now she is 30 and married with 3 children.. so my advise to you is to find a church that preaches salvation..don’t look on what others do do as the bible tells you ok..pray and God will guide you..the feelings will not go easily but eventually it will fade. God bless you child.

    • April 6, 2013

      Look: I do appreciate your simple straight forward comments. You had something to say and you spoke your piece. Next to the Scriptures nothing is as powerful as a true story that demonstrates doing right brings the best results in life. “Many people are lesbians.” What kind of counseling is this? Many people have cancer. Many people commit murder. The “many” doesn’t mean it is O.K. Many people who break God’s law doesn’t mean they are right and God is wrong! I guess a secular (worldly) counselor is allowed to tell people whatever they want to hear if it will relieve their guilt and help them sleep. But this kind of therapy produces short term results. We need people like you to tell people what God says! Jesus said, “Enter ye in at the strait gate: for wide is the gate, and broad is the way, that leadeth to destruction, and MANY there be which go in thereat.” (Matthew 7:13) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  36. Yup
    July 24, 2012

    Pretty normal to me…u don’t have feelings for men and thts just it. lesbianism is nothing new.

    • eva
      July 24, 2012

      I get stronger feeling for girls than for boys. I love to watch porn with lesbians, not men.

      How ever i have a boyfriend and two children, i never engage in any Lesbians act as yet ever!!

      This is because i know it is wrong, but i have a deep deep fantacy to eat salt fish!

    • July 31, 2013

      Normal? Then why do so many of these “normal” people have more mental health issues, problems with alcohol and drug abuse, a higher suicide rate, and a shorter life span?

      To call their orientation “normal” is to say they are born that way. This is cruel. It means they are trapped for life with an orientation and in a lifestyle they cannot change.

      God loves homosexuals! The Bible says, “For God so loved the world (including homosexuals) that he gave his only begotten Son, …” (John 3:16) Homosexuals can be saved (forgiven and have an eternal home in heaven) if they will repent and receive Jesus Christ as their Savior. The terms of the gospel are the same for them as for “straight” people.

      They can also be delivered and set free from this bondage. But first they must recognize and confess that it is a sin! God forbids homosexuality. It is not an option. Romans 1:22-32, 1 Corinthians 6:9,10, 1 Timothy 1:9,10, and Jude verse 7. They must WANT to change and be willing to change God’s way. This means a total surrender to Christ on His terms.

      Regardless of what “they” tell you, there are homosexuals who have experienced a complete tranformation through the grace of God. A significant number of former gays and lesbians are now married and have children of their own.

      Most psychologists and psychiatrists will not not tell you this. Very likely they don’t know a former homosexual. This is because most forms of psychotherapy are not effective in treating homosexuals. A therapist who does not have a Biblical concept of sin will limit his or her practice to relieving the client’s guilt and and helping him or her live as comfortably as possible with the orientation.

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  37. 1979
    July 24, 2012

    don’t these people get it, there’s a mandate to reduce the world population. so man have to like man and woman unto woman to keep reproduction in check….

    studies show that without AIDS we would have close to 2 million more mouths to feed, these things are considered necessary evils and are cultivated and proliferated in the world, who have eyes let them see. or not, is up to them still

    • tom
      July 24, 2012

      freaking witch you!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • 1979
        July 24, 2012

        like I said, read it and weep…

        thou shalt not kill….

        so what do PAID soldiers do??? what is the military??

        when you see that you are first an animal you will come to understand these things. NO FARMER allows defective livestock to breed….the flock is culled and population maintained to control disease and pests…. don’t u see the science?? the meaning to all of this???? 8) stay blind then!

  38. just looking
    July 24, 2012

    babes i dont have a problem if you have feelings for girls, the broblem i have is that you dont have feelings for men………! i love by-sexual ladies not lebians so divert your sex life a little bit and all will be well :lol:

    • A CARETTE
      July 24, 2012

      UTTER RUBBISH!

      • look
        July 25, 2012

        this girl needs help and that is ur response? this girl could be your daughter. smdh

      • look
        July 25, 2012

        just apologising to A carrette.i realise that carette was referring to just looking so admin you can ignore these two comments of mine if you wish. okay?

  39. Dreamer
    July 24, 2012

    Ba zor Ley oui jordi ah.

  40. love dear bella
    July 24, 2012

    I find the Bella column does not feature enough recent letters. Its like one a month; when normally newspapers do their agony aunt column with their weekly publications and you can find up to 3 or 4 letters to read. Dear Bella makes me laugh hard not because Bella isnt good..I think you are great Bella whoever you are but its the comments that have me going.

  41. just looking
    July 24, 2012

    babes i dont have a problem if you have feelings for girls, the broblem i have is that you dont have feelings for men………! i love by-sexual ladies not lebians so divert your sex life a little bit and all will be well :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  42. i'mWondering
    July 24, 2012

    Well done Bella!

    She is very normal. Who determines what’s normal in society?

    To each his own. We are responsible for our own souls.

    All the hypcorites come on here and site the bible yet, they are the same ones committing all kinda sins.

    Her sin, if in fact it is one, is no BIGGER than ours. We are all committing sins daily, yet the bible toting hypocrites do not crucify.

    I say live your life – when you get to that place we are supposed to go go – you are the only one who can answer questions about your life.

    If that’s your path – walk it…if not the GOD will lead you where you need to go.

    Blessings

    • OMG
      July 24, 2012

      You are such a hypocrite and someone who condones wrong doing. Just listen to yourself, “Her sin, if in fact it is one”……you talk about answering when you go where you going, NO sin inherits God kingdom so if you want to live AS u want on this “side of Jordan” and expect a different result, you are only fooling yourself. “I’m wondering” please ask yourself a QUESTION and stop making comprises in the name of “is no BIGGER than ours” just becuz you prefer the SAME SEX! It is WRONG and a VERY sinful and dangerous practice…… and you can take that to the BANK…. Please read the COMPREHENSIVE comment written by…. WHAT???????

      • i'mWondering
        July 25, 2012

        marriedd with kids my dear.

        Use to have the same small minded backward personality until i got to deal with them everyday. They re just like you and I, they just choose to have a different sexual relationship that I do.

        I used to think that they are not born this way…well i think personal expeerience has proven me wrong. I have a young cuz who i definitely think is gay – and he’s not surrounded by it, raised the same as the other kids, yet has all the mannerisms and such.

        Am i supposed to hate him if he turns out to be gay? I think not. I accept him. If we pray to the same God and my God is good – then so is his God.

        Your God doesn’t forget you because you are straight and committing a different act of sin. Therefore, his God won’t forget him.

        You go read your bible and practice what you preach….you can’t dictate someone’s else’s beliefs because of yous.

        TO EACH HIS OWN

      • Saysay
        July 28, 2012

        Well we are all going to hell aren’t we?

    • (.) (.)
      July 24, 2012

      “Imwondering” you are so right. People are so quick to site the bible and they are yet to live according to the bible. WHO IS WITHOUT SIN , CAST THE FIRST STONE.

  43. me
    July 24, 2012

    the creator made things in his own way and ppl come and change things to suit themselves,1 woman cannot breed and thats the main point of sex,so fire for that abominatoin just like Sadom burn

    • me
      July 24, 2012

      I meant 2 woman cannot breed

      • Freethinker
        July 24, 2012

        Yes, since the world obviously needs MORE people right now. Since we have so much in the way of resources and space and so little poverty. (That was sarcasm, in case you didn’t get it.)

  44. me
    July 24, 2012

    nasty

  45. Toosense
    July 24, 2012

    It is suprising the number of women who turn into lesbians and though I am not one and I don’t like the practice of leabianism, I can understand some of the reasons why. Some men who have good women at home tend to neglect their duties and making some woman look old before their time, thus causing them to seek attention elswhere. Additionally, some women feel that they have less chance of catching a disease. They feel secure because they know that they don’t have to worry about their man going out to other women. So I can see why this is a growing trend. To the young lady i respect your feelings, don’t change yourself because someone wants you to change. Just becareful on how you embrace life.

  46. ann
    July 24, 2012

    I am 22-year-old young woman and I have been with a girl from since I was 12 years old.

    It was actually my first real relationship although I had little flings with other girls at primary school?

    Really, at this tender age? I tell these children are really internet children eh, is like they were born with knowledge of all them worldly life!

    Before time, a child that age is not in your books nah? and playing Doll house? SMH

    As the world turns it’s getting worst.ann

    • Roz
      July 24, 2012

      You think is now them things happening? If you hear stories grown people will tell you of how they used to “play” doctor, and mammy and daddy, and how they lost their viginity at age 5. Let me tell you, people just more open about it now. But is not now it happening.

    • Bois-Bandeh
      July 24, 2012

      Hey ANN before time when they used to play house as you put it, not coocoolux they used to be rubbing together, and little boys humping little girls. Let’s keep it real. I went to St M School and I can name nuff chicks today I WITNESSED making zamie behind the wall

  47. المسلم دائما
    July 24, 2012

    Oh people of Dominica, you are not making sense thumping the bible at this young lady. You don’t even know if she believes in God in the first place. How can you advise someone and you do not understand where this person is coming from?

    @Confused young lady my question to you is: Do you believe in God? If you don’t believe in God it’s okay as well, just willing to understand.

    Please reply below, if you do we can further have a dialogue. I am very open, compassionate and understanding and I have spoken to many gay people before. I have dealt with a lesbian who was also exposed to this at the age of 12 so I understand where you are coming from. She lives in Europe and we still communicate. Thanks in advance.

    • sigh
      July 25, 2012

      So you can “commit” sex now? Ebeh weh cohcohloh.

  48. langsal
    July 24, 2012

    sex can only be committed by a male and a female, but between a male and a male or a female and a female is someting else. it is not sex and i dont know what act it is, so this cannot be natural.. bella you seem to be IN DAT TOO.

    • sigh
      July 25, 2012

      So you can commit sex now? Ebeh weh cohcohloh.

  49. langsal
    July 24, 2012

    bella, you and de young lady need serious help… may i recommend the bible and its holy teachings… you can start out with leviticus.

    this is an abominable act against god and yourself, she is definitely not normal and needs to get that demonic feels out of her..

    • Freethinker
      July 24, 2012

      How ironic that someone who sounds like an illiterate buffoon recommends reading a book. I doubt you can even read the bible, much less any other book. It is your own ignorance that is abominable.

  50. Normal
    July 24, 2012

    Bella, re u normal? This advice is quite abnormal. U need to tell ppl truth and not compromise God’s standard. We are a christian country. God loves the lesbian but hates lesbianism. The young lady needs to talk to God concerning this ABNORMALITY…

  51. woodford Hill girl
    July 24, 2012

    Bella you need help,your advise to this young lady is horrible,and to the young lady,who are you fooling? If you were in school taking classes to enhance your life,would you ask Bella for help?I think not,you know right from wrong #that’s all I’m saying!

  52. Anonymous
    July 24, 2012

    the reason why some women turning lesbian is because they haven’t found a man that can work them right yet.

    • Joan
      July 25, 2012

      Which means they have found women who can do it better.

  53. cathy slater
    July 24, 2012

    Bella, I think you gave the young lady the best advise that anyone could offer….i have been saying to this to pple for the last few years. there is a difference between people who chose to have same sex patners and people were born with sexual preference for same sex patners.
    who are we to judge??? my cousin is “gay”….and for as long as i remember he always used to dress up in his older sisters bras…dresses and even wear lipstick….his mother tried to hide it to the general public….cause she didnt understand what was going on….so the readers on here are trying to tell me that my cousin isnot born gay???
    we need to stop pushing our sexual orientation on pple…dominicans stop living inside the box….let GOD judge them when the time is right….

    • Channel 1
      July 24, 2012

      @cathy slater – But what nonsense I reading dere today naahh!! Your mother should have BEAT dat perversion and nonsense out of your cousin.

      What diabolic ‘born gay’ ideology dat? Folks this is just another one of these clever manipulative doctrines that is propagated by the homosexual agenda in an attempt to justify the legalization of their perverted acts among the civilized of society. Soon when a child displays actions such as stealing or fighting at an early age, some of the confused will say to leave the child alone bcuz he/she was born dat way. Stuppess.

      Utter rubbish!! Homosexuality is nothing more than downright nastiness that mind-warped people CHOOSE to engage in.

      • Reading btw the line
        July 24, 2012

        I have known ppl my entire life that were just hot wired that way. Yes, whether we want to believe it or not some of the, are born this way. In the animal world s well same sex humping goes on. I don’t know why all pantie always in a knot over them things. Some of all you say is nastiness wome ask ur self why a man most wanted fantasy is himself and two women. He sure doesn’t have to penises to do both at the same time. To each his own. Live and let live because none of us will answer for another?

      • March 14, 2013

        Channel One: You used strong words. I probably would say it differently but I agree with your message. There is no scientific proof that anybody is born gay. Some people are born with a tendancy towards one kind of antisocial behaviour and some with a tendancy towards another antisocial behaviour. But a “tendancy towards” is only a tendancy. It doesn’t mean they have to commit the deed or become that kind of person. There are people (both men and women) who fell in love with somebody of the opposite sex, married, and had children. They lived much of their lives in a hetrosexual marriage. Then they left their marriage partner for somebody of the same sex. On the other hand there are people who were “gay” for years and finally broke free from homosexuality, married, and had children. If we accept the argument that homosexuals are “born that way” we are dooming them to a life of misery. Homosexuals suffer more from AIDS, alcoholism, mental health issues, and have a higher suicide rate, and a shorter life span than hetrosexuals. They face more unhappiness in their senior years. There is a saying, “Nobody loves you when you’re old and gay.” To say homosexuals are born that way defies logic. Do they not know they not realize that there are pedophiles who claim they were born that way? Don’t they know there are people who practice beastility (sex with animals) who say it is the only sexual orientation they have ever experienced? What about people arsonists (people who set fires) and kleptomaniacs (people who steal)? Some of them say the desires have been with them as for as long as they can remember! Should they be excused? If a person is born with a visual problem, a hearing problem, a breathing problem, or a digestive problem, we would seek the best medical help possible to change their situation, not resign ourselves to the fact that they were born that way so it is how they are suppose to be. However, homosexuals were not born that way, even though the feelings may manifest very early. They can change. Through a true conversion to Christ reinforced by counselling and prayer they can be released from this bondage into a new life. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • LISTEN
      July 24, 2012

      He could be born gay because of a FAMILY curse. Check to see if there are not other gsy people in the family or someone left a door open for a gay spirit to lurk in their home environment whether before they were pregnant, whilst, during or after. what about his dad or other close family relative, has any had the “gay” experience. You all take this thing lightly but there is such a thing called ANCESTRIAL or FAMILY CURSES so just make excuse and say people born this or that way. The boy is possessed with an unclean spirit that needs to be exorcised!

      • Bois-Bandeh
        July 24, 2012

        I’m wondering out loud what is your ancestra/family curse that would have you making such a serious fool of yourself in public? Really? a gay spirit lurking in their home? so Gay is a spirit now? Just when you think you heard it all! When you started having premarital sex and thoughts of sexuality did they excorsise the demon out of you :twisted:

      • Michie
        July 25, 2012

        Bois-Bandeh, mind me oui papa. Per-per (In my DA accent). You have me laughing loud on the job. That was a sweet answer.

      • July 25, 2012

        BOY BOIS BANDEH FREAKING ME OUT HAHAH!!

      • July 2, 2013

        Listen: You have raised a good point and I can`t help wanting to comment.

        There are sufficient scriptures to support the belief in ancestoral or family curses. Rather than saying a person was born a homosexual I might say a demon (evil spirit) began influencing that person at a very young age to have same sex attractions because of the curse.

        I do not teach that all homosexuals are demon possessed, only that there is a demonic influence involved. This is true of many sins, especially those sins that are of a compulsive habitual nature.

        There are sins that attract or draw demons to the individual like flies to rotting meat such as alcohol and drug abuse which open the mind by causing people to let down their guard or lower their resistance, occult practices (voodoo, witchcrft, all types of so-called fortune telling, etc.) pornography, fornication (this includes homosexual practices). A person who indulges in these things does not automatically become demon possesseed. Most do not. But they at risk.

        If a person commits a homosexual sin or adopts that lifestyle he or she is is in danger of bringing a curse into his or her family that could cause other members of the family who do not have a strong commitment to Christ to be troubled by demons that can produce same sex attractions.

        It is important for fathers (or the head of the home) to teach the children the Word of God and bring the family under the protection of the blood of Christ. If the guardian of the home is careless and gives the children any reason (by word or example) to think that homosexualitry is normal, O.K., or acceptable, he or she is opening the door to demomic influences.

        What begins as an INFLUENCE can – and sometimes does – lead to POSSESSION. I believe in DELIVERANCE! Yes, there are homosexuals who need to be exorcised. The casting out of a demon should be done by the pastor of an established church when one is available or at least under his oversight and supervision, not EVER by a freelancer who advertises himself as an exorcist or minister of deliverance.

        Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  54. Reader
    July 24, 2012

    Bella, what do you mean learn to like yourself? Girl … you must LOVE yourself. You cannot love others until you love you!

    p.s.: what goes on in your bedroom is nobody’s business!

  55. unknown
    July 24, 2012

    this is not normal,girl a man that will change your mind or come find me i will change it for you lol

  56. ArAb
    July 24, 2012

    Be it two men or two ladies it is still WRONG. RELATIONS IN THE BED should be between a man and a woman whom are married.

    • Reader
      July 24, 2012

      Relations in the bed is noneof your damn business!!

    • Reading btw the line
      July 24, 2012

      Insure you do whatever before u marry.

  57. WHAT?????????????
    July 24, 2012

    Bella,

    I am very disappointed in your response that being gay/lesbian is normal, BELLA IN WHICH BOOK YOU SEE THAT? Forget what the “aguements” are for or against and get the makers intent when he made “man” in his own image and likeness likeness. God loves ALL (Homosexual, Straight Lesbian) however he hates SIN. To be gay is evil in the sight of God and that is what matters. The bible says in the book of Genesis “male and female created he them” and there was a specific reason for that, did he not tell them to be fruitful and multiply and go replenish the earth? The bible also says that “as in the natural so in the spiritual”….. In the natural plumbers use male and femal adapters together not male/male or female/female. Any plumber who attempts to so do is defying the laws of plumbing and is doing something contradictory and TOTALLY ABNORMAl in the world of plumbing. God is not well pleased with this lifestyle whether you like it or not or feel comfortable doing it. People who are involved in any kind of sexual perversion (homosexual, bisexual, lesbian, porn, incest,rape, adultry, fornication and the likes) NEED deliverance. I personally have my struggles in the area of “sexual sin” but that does not make it right. I am not purporting to be better than anyone but WRONG is WRONG! The bible says that HE WHO COVERS HIS SIN WILL NOT PROSPER and that the whole duty of man is NOT to please himself but to “Serve the Lord and to keep is commandment”. It is a challenge sometimes but that is what it is! Our bodies are the temples of the living God.

    If Gay was normal then there would be a STEVE for Adam or EVA for Eve!!! Let us not ulter God’s plan with our “sexual preferences” and BELLA refrain from MISLEADING the people, God will hold you responsible. When you respond please ensure that sure you include a “spiritual perspective” so one can make an informed decision as to the path they choose to take!

    One question; Why is it that a man chooses to go with another man or a woman with another woman after an aversive event, often times a childhood experience where they had been sexually violated often times by someone of same sex? The answer is because it is ABNORMAL and someone poisoned their sexual orientation with a gay experience of sorts and MADE A GAY PERSON OUT OF THEM IN THE PROCESS!

    God bless and have a wonderful day all!

    • me
      July 24, 2012

      yesi well said

    • Roz
      July 24, 2012

      Really? you went to plumbing to make reference to nature and what is natural and normal? male and female plumbing fixtures? what about the many creatures that have male and female genitalia? that occurs in nature. they are called hermaphrodites. Would you accept a hermaphroditic human being as normal?

    • imhotep
      July 24, 2012

      i didn’t realize this was a place of spiritual advice..if Bella response is based on religion it would be very unfair as many of us who read and participate dont necessarily accept or follow the christian religion.
      right n wrong can be determined by different factors and not just religion.. culture has a major part to play in our decisions. it seems like all your facts are based primarily on the bible which although many people follow, a high majority of people is realizing that the bible contradicts itself in many ways and most of it is stories in hope that we find a positive meaning. if we really took time to understand the bible we may never read it again as it proves the cruelty, anger, murderer jealous and unforgiving so called jesus it relates to…i’ll further elaborate a next time..but..
      to the young lady, i personally am not a lesbian but i am certainly not against it. you cannot change the way you are created. too many of us try to please other people while slowly killing ourselves with misery. if you know honesty to yourself that your decision is not based on you being hurt either by a past love, family, friend, etc., i say embrace your sexuality. continue to do what makes you happy. do not be negligent concerning the laws dat may restrict your behavior especially in public about your sexuality but be yourself and what makes you happy and you wont have to question whats normal..

      • Sunny
        July 25, 2012

        Love ur advice to the young lady!! Very well said :)

    • Reading btw the line
      July 24, 2012

      I was molested , it didn’t make me gay so shut up. What allu don’t know older than allu

  58. God is Good
    July 24, 2012

    Well I knw when God Created man he created them male and female, but he said man needed a help mate so he gave Adam a wife.. So I knw he created Adam and Eve not Eve and Sandra.. So my girl just ask God to help u out of tht Life cuz its not his will tht any should perish but tht all should come to repentance!!

  59. Mannie Fresh
    July 24, 2012

    Girl to girl, man to man that wrong! inna the lake of fire that is their destiny because that wasn’t a creation of God. i cant understand how animals know the difference between male and female and nasty human beings cant tell the difference. I believe its a mental dis order.

  60. north day
    July 24, 2012

    bella is one i know people that know people who do you know

  61. I DIE NUH
    July 24, 2012

    I’m not going to judge you nor preach to you. I don’t understand nor cosign to the lifestyle but I will not bash you.Only you know what you are going thru I wish you strength and discernment.

    on another note many women have feelings for men,love men and are not lesbian however they just simply get fed up and ignore the lot of them.Life continues!

  62. bishop
    July 24, 2012

    but Bella not easy. Form the looks of it Bella get company. lol.

  63. Lawrence Ettienne
    July 24, 2012

    I personally think Bella did not adbvice the young lady properly. Her problem according to what she states, is that she is a lesbian, therefore society has accepted that concept, while it is condemn by God, so it stems to reason that the young lady needs Delivance from this, period, no if’s or but’s.

  64. yes i
    July 24, 2012

    me self tired with that . DNO that’s all you worth. Every week is something about homosexuality. You do tired try to indoctrinate Dominicans into a wrong lifestyle. We will continue to say NO to this lifestyle. We not removing it from our laws. It is wrong. No point in trying to blend with the nasty world around us. Get some worthwhile news. Stop with that already!

  65. hmm
    July 24, 2012

    its amazing when we are doing something right we never stop to think ‘am i doing something wrong?’. the fact that you have to stop and question what u are doing should speak volume. it is against God’s design

  66. HA HA HA
    July 24, 2012

    :lol: :lol: GOSH THAT MADE ME LAUGH THE ROD OF MOSES SHE MISSING WOIEEEEEE

  67. smh
    July 24, 2012

    -_- this story is so lame…… and i will say again it have what…….6months since i wrote to bella, where the hell is my story for so long….huh?? :?: :?: :?: :-x :-x

    • ann
      July 24, 2012

      i wrote to Bella about two yrs ago, up to now!

  68. shatta
    July 24, 2012

    baby one round with me ,i will have u coming bacj for more,u can bring your girl friend along wit u ,u see the government have a war against the ganga herb found on king solomon grave ,instead of having a war against the devil ,showing this young girl adam and eve,not eva and eve

  69. cutie
    July 24, 2012

    Thats whats upp!!! Go girl its all normal :lol: you have loads of company!

  70. Pusina
    July 24, 2012

    whosssssssssssss bella this one dry like a sus that haven’t be laid.. SMH

  71. Anonymous
    July 24, 2012

    Everybody afraid to mention God. Well I myself I not afraid nuh. Its not the world i have to account to when I die. From a lot of the posts I will see after I post this(not that i go back to my posts), I am sure I will be codemned by all the pro-gays. whilst they claim I am the one being judgemental, they will in fact be the ones judging me. Girl, you may be born so and have these feelings, but remember there is a bible with a story of Sodom and Gomorrah in it. If you happy to be that way, its you, if you don’t want to be that way go to the professionals who can give you advice. In the end God give us a choice too of whether we want to follow him or not! Just remember there will be the consequences fitting for what you choose. And if men attracted to children are normal, then you are too.

    • Missy
      July 24, 2012

      Well, since you asked for someone to answer let me do so. Can you please tell me what happens to a gay person when they die? Do they go to a different place than a straight person? If you have an answer to this, how the hell do you know that, were you there before? I am straight, never slept with a woman and don’t think I will, but for heaven’s sake, ALL MAN/WOMAN WAS CREATED IN THE LIKENESS OF GOD. Who are we to through stones at these people? The bible talks about Sodom and Gomorrah, but was being gay the reason? To my recollection it was about them wanting to gang rape the angels. If they were gay why would Lot have offered his daughter? We does read the bible and want to interpret what we want. This woman was born this way and there is nothing she can do to change it, not even a therapist would be able to help. Live your life and be happy my girl.

      • Anonymous
        July 24, 2012

        Go read your bible silly then you will know about Sodom and Gomorrah and there will be no need to make up stories. And no, if you read correctly no one asked for an answer….that must be the way you interprete the bible that’s why u have it wrong. let’s guess, one of those who haven’t gone far in life cos u get everything wrong.

      • Tri-State Beauty
        July 24, 2012

        Missy I with you on that!! The BIBLE spoke about a lot of things but they always cherry pick what they want to preach on. LOT’S wife turned into a pillar of salt, so who bred his daughters? Non other than the RAPIST. The bible have countless examples of outright INCEST! If God made Adam and then EVE and they had kids, who did their kids breed with? Nobody not throwing stones on that dirtyness but always ready to preach and shove what parts of it they like down people throat.

        This is why you have some sick beast sleeping with their daughters and other family members and using bible to justify it. Deal with people in the times they live, if you against that lifestyle be like me and chant it down, stop quoting and misquoting what is appropriate to you because other people can open the same book and find a rebuttal!

      • Anonymous
        July 24, 2012

        u must b a fool for dat answer

      • Roz
        July 24, 2012

        Tri-State Beauty, i brought up that point in a discussion once and i take licks or making that statement. i dont think the Book accounts for the whole story of adam and eve, and if it does, really how did the world become populated if not by sisters having children for their brothers?

      • hmm
        July 24, 2012

        @Tri State Beauty

        I often ask the same questions. I have been given varied responses to include, just have faith. So I ask myself this. If in fact Christ did put Adam and Eve on earth and they had children and themselves (children) bore children (by faith) then the birth of Christ was not the first “immaculate conception”. I know that the amount of thumb downs I will receive from this comment will again come from the bunch of hypocrites who often throw stones and point fingers, as well as those who are quick to judge. These are the ones who keep forgetting the scriptures (Judge not that ye be not judged) and (For all have sin and come short of the glory of God).

        But like I said before, if you believe in God in his infinite power and asked to have faith then that same faith should extend to the point that he created good and expected evil anyway thus the existence of free will. It’s high time that self acclaimed Christians start accepting the inevitable- there is GOOD AND EVIL. Not saying that you have to condone evil but at least understand that the entire concept of creation and Christianity lies on the belief of those two. It’s up to the individual to choose.

      • Missy
        July 24, 2012

        I have read my bible….maybe a few of you should go and read yours. WRONG you say, poor you for pointing a finger. You would want to be me, if you knew who I am. I thank God so much for my many blessing. God and read and research for yourself. Stop listening to what is told or taught to you. I am a christain, I am christlike, I am one who doesnt point fingers at what I don’t understand. I love every human kind be they gay or not. To be honest, gays men are nicer to be around than straight men. They are clean, fun, tidy, sexy and usually are financially able. Move on already Dominicans. When all you uncle rape all you or all you children all you keeping it as a secret, right? Some of all you even taking money under the table, but all you want to call these people names. Some of all you men have so many women, all you can’t pay all you own bills, but all you want to talk about gays. Some of all you women, draws full with toys, and cheating on all you husband or boyfriend ( which you should not have it you following the bible, but all you want to talk about the gays. The bible said, “cast the first stone, if you are not a sinner.” These people were born like that respect them and live with it. (#Iwillnotgoovermywritingforerrors.)

    • Original Eagle-Eye
      July 24, 2012

      @ ANNOYMOUS the person is a fool because like you they expressed an opinion except chose to reference FACTS in your Bible? What you should have done is dispute it! Dominicans you all need to learn to be TOLERANT!! I’ve noticed anytime someone confronts a subject matter with hard evidence people get upset and insultive. People who love to curse simply show how limited their vocabulary is. I never looked at it that way, but the individual told the truth, isn’t this in the Bible why are you mad? Selective reasoning will lead us nowhere.

      • Tri-State Beauty
        July 24, 2012

        Roz Original et al. I pay no attention to ignorant people. It’s funny how they love to push bible quotes down people’s throat but when you raise the level of discussion and ask for an introspective view of the very bible they resort to insults. Prove me wrong! Tell me tales of INCEST aren’t rampant in the bible. ALL SIN IS SIN

  72. Reporter
    July 24, 2012

    Good advise Bella

  73. July 24, 2012

    ofcourse yes u are normal…..if thats what u want then you should not hide to plzz other ppl….many persons may turn their backs on you when they find out ur sexual orientation but thats how the world is…life goes on be you and b true….

    • U must b sick
      July 24, 2012

      But if she normal to u then ur the sick one den…go read ur bible

  74. cece
    July 24, 2012

    :?: nothing with substance… this is wrong God never created Eve and Evelyn…stupes

  75. me
    July 24, 2012

    Women for men….Men for women….plain and simple….no woman can satisfy another woman…

    • sigh
      July 24, 2012

      Speak for yourself boss. How would you know?

      • sigh
        July 24, 2012

        I still want to know how “me” knows that woman can’t satisfy woman.

      • me
        July 24, 2012

        Because its obvious…..Man was created to please women, NOT WOMEN TO PLEASE WOMEN!!!HELLOOOOOOOOOO

  76. Strongman
    July 24, 2012

    Stupes… Woman go get a life… you missing out on the rod of Moses……

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