I am 22-year-old young woman and I have been with a girl from since I was 12 years old.
It was actually my first real relationship although I had little flings with other girls at primary school.
I got a boyfriend when I was 17 just to hide the fact that I loving the young lady.
However, the guy recently dumped me because we were not intimate; I just could not get intimate with him.
Bella, the point I am trying to make here is that I have been a lesbian for as long as I remember. I don’t have feelings for men.
Is this wrong? Am I normal?
Please help me
Confused Young Lady
Dear Confused Young Lady,
Normal is different for every individual. No one can dictate your life, body, or anything else by their standards.
Yes, you are normal. Many people are lesbians. There is a huge debate raging right now but many experts agree that a person’s sexual orientation is determined at a young age, even as early as birth.
It’s normal and healthy to be yourself, whether you’re gay or straight.
What’s really important is learning to like yourself. And that is what I am encouraging you to do. Learn to like yourself, accept yourself for who you are.
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