The problem is I’ve been with my boyfriend about six years now and I’ve tried to be faithful, but I’ve ended up going out with other guys which he has no idea about.
I love him so much, but I fear that if I tell him the truth of my unfaithfulness he would leave me without a blink of an eye. He has said he don’t believe in giving a woman a second chance, because she should know before she gets involved.
Now I have been in love with my high school sweetheart since six years ago. He is back in Dominica and won’t mind being with me only if I was single. I feel tie up to my throat.
I don’t want to hurt either one. I am in love with both of them. What should I do?
Dear Tie up,
You’ve already taken the decision to hurt your current boyfriend and I’m sure eventually he will find out. It’s true that temptation will come, but it is up to you to not deliberately put yourself in situations where you know you won’t be able to control your feelings. Not because the opportunity affords itself you should act on these feelings, because as you stated you love your boyfriend and you’re in a committed relationship. If he is not fooling around I must commend him for being exclusive to you.
You’re with this man for six years for crying out loud. Nowhere have you mentioned also that you are unhappy or that he is ill-treating you. I suggest if you want to continue the relationship with him you should come clean and clean up your act. Also if you know that you’ll start to quiver and bite your lips around your high school sweetheart I suggest you keep the relationship restrained to “hi” and “bye.”
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