I am 18 years old and I am in love with a married man.
He treats me so good, he buys me nice things and he is great in bed, but there one little situation that is happening at this present moment.
I have a boyfriend but he is overseas and he treats me so bad anytime that he comes to Dominica. He beats me up and tell me hurtful things and I always leave but then I turn right back and forgive him because I am still madly in love with him.
I want to leave him alone so bad and I really want to get the courage to tell him that we are done and we should keep our distance from each other.
I think I am staying because of the wild times that we have in bed. To be honest, the only time we agree is when we are going to make love.
He is the only reason that s preventing me from having the married man all for myself.
How should I go about that situation?
Please I need help
Whenever we are weaving and the stitching goes back, we have to undo the weaving and do better. You need to love you and do better now. You are young and this is a time to see what is really working out for you, school/job wise, on the dating scene etc, but honestly, a situation like this cannot work for anyone.
Being in a relationship should be about what that relationship can do for you in terms of making you a better person. A better, wholesome person. Having good sex is not all there is to a relationship. There will be a man out there to treat you well, to love and respect you and still give you good sex.
Overseas boyfriend, you already know, is a relationship that is going nowhere. You have to think with your head and not your heart even where love is concerned because if you understand why you are doing something, you will have justifiable reasons to do or not to do. However when we do things with our emotions, they are more unstable and undecided. You do not need a relationship where your energy goes into disputes.
Your overseas boyfriend is the least of your issues where your married man is concerned. Do not deceive yourself in thinking that the latter will leave his wife and family for you. Maybe you all will end up “happily ever after”, but that is a long shot. Marriage is a covenanted relationship recognized even by the Law of the land, and we see a trend here where people remain in a state of separation and never actually formalize a divorce.
Be wise in the decisions you make in life. If you need a relationship, find someone who can love you for you. Someone to make you roll over laughing, someone to make you cry when he is hurting, someone to rub your back when you are tired and to make you tea when you are ill. A man who is committed to you and willing to go out to make you happy.