I am 19 and have a boyfriend whom I loved for as long as I can remember. A few months back we broke up and I started a relationship with a guy I met during the carnival season of 2010.
The day after we met we had sex. I instantly fell in love; it was like love at first sight! He lived in town and me on the country side, but he made it a point of duty to come up as often as possible. One day like most relationship I got a call from a girl who claim that she is his girlfriend and they live together.
I was hurt and alone and found myself in a relationship with my first ex-boyfriend whom I dated while I was with my present boyfriend. I love him but he was more of a rebound to me. He fell madly in love with me, something I wanted to avoid because I loved my present ex more.
The whole point is am in love with three guys whom I don’t want to hurt. Should I go on with it with the hope that none finds out? Or should I tell the truth even if I know am hurting them?
Being in a relationship with three men is not healthy. It is a disaster waiting to happen and will cause more pain than joy to you and the men involved.
Usually when people become involved in relationships so quickly after ending one, it is because they still hurt from some of the experiences they’ve been through, have unanswered questions or have not allowed the heart to heal.
You could also be trying to hold on to something that you had while moving on. Whatever the reason, you are harming yourself in the process. Take time to heal and do a little soul searching, then you will have a better idea of whom and what you want in your life.
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