He wants to know my every move and even gets mad if a male friend calls. The funniest part is that I am so faithful and committed to him. I have never been as honest and committed to anyone as I am to him. Recently, a relative invited me to spend a few days with her overseas and when I told him so, he started planning a trip around the same time to the exact same place. I am going to spend time with my family and see no reason why he should come along since I am always with him.
Can’t I have some time with loved ones who I haven’t seen in ages? I want to tell him that, but I don’t want to hurt his feelings. Do you think I am wrong?
Once you know that you are not being shady and keeping faithful to your boyfriend you have done nothing wrong. More than likely, he has come from a bad relationship which resulted in him being hurt that he is seemingly paranoid and thinks all women are the same.
You need to sit him down and assure him that since you started dating you pledged to be committed and faithful to him and this is just what you are doing. He may question why he cannot be invited with you to your trips to visit your family. However, everyone needs some one-on-one time with “their people”, and he should understand that. Doesn’t he go out? Doesn’t he have buddies to socialize with?
Allow him to understand that his possessiveness is turning you off, and eventually he may even seem controlling at times. Just try not to allow his insecurities to go overboard and have your life miserable.
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