Little Miss Big

Dear Bella: I am a 22-year-old young man who is deeply in love with a 16-year-old young lady.

We have been together for almost three years now and haven’t been sexually active because she said to me that she wants to wait until the time is right. Trying to be a Christian, I think that was the best thing for me to do is wait.

So I put aside all my sexual desires and decided to wait for her because I truly, truly love her. But lately we have been getting into arguments because I realize she spends tons, loads of time on the PC talking to this guy. I know for a fact that she loves me but I also know for a fact that she has love for this other guy, and it hurts me a lot knowing that I give her all my heart and she is sharing hers.

I don’t know if is because of her youngness in age or if she is literally doing this to hurt me. I am really confused because I have really put my all into this relationship. I don’t want to end it like this. I need your advice.

Confused

Dear Confused: Who told you to get involved with a 13-year-old – sex or no sex? What does a 13-year-old, or even a 16-year-old, knows about love and relationship? I think both of you are immature.

You’re an adult and she is still a child. She is not mature. And girls her age do not know what or who they really want at that age. You were putting yourself at risk of being arrested when you began dating her at 13 years, whether you had sex or not – allegations of indecent assault could have been slapped on you.

Sir, please end this relationship. She is so immature that she makes it obvious she is checking another guy. If she was in love with you, she wouldn’t be distracted. She is flirty and experimental at this age.

I suggest you find someone your age and leave miss forced-ripe.

Bella

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147 Comments

  1. September 18, 2013

    Confused:

    This was posted almost three years ago and by now I expect your situation has changed. But many of the people who write to BELLA are typical. I expect there are others like you out there. Some people research the BELLA Columns years back so there is a good possibility that these belated comments will be read by people who will benefit from something that is said.

    By the way, BELLA did a great job answering your letter. I totally agree with her. I am writing because I have a few things to add from my own perspective.

    You said you are “trying to be a Christian”. This suggests that you do not have a clear understanding of what a Christian is. There is no such state as “trying to be”. You are either a Christian or you are not. The Christian life begins when we are “born again” (John 3:3) This happens when we receive Jesus Christ as our personal Savior. (St. John 1:11,12) (Ephesians 2:9,10) (1 John 5:11.12) (Revelation 3:20)

    In reading your letter it becomes obvious the reason you have not had sex with this young lady is because she wants to wait – not because you know sex outside of marriage is a sin. She said she wants to wait until “the time is right” – not until she is married. This shows that neither one of you have an understanding of Christian morality. The Bible calls sex outside of marriage “fornication” which comes from a New Testament Greek word which means “illicit sexual intercourse”. It tells us plainly what the penalty for this sin (along with other sins) is. (Romans 1:28-32) (1 Corinthians 6:9,10) (Galatians 5:19-21) (1 Timothy 1:9,10)

    You began keeping company with this young lady when she was 13 – still a child! This was far too young. Where on earth where her parents? A girl this age can be easily misled by an older guy who shows an interest in her. Having a boyfriend at 13 is enough to sweep her off her feet. Do you think this was fair to the girl? This kind of infatuation usually wears off in a few years. It should not surprise you that she is on the computer with another guy. She is doing what normal 16 year old girls do.

    Why would a 19 year old man target a girl 13 years old? Do you have a problem relating to women your age? What interests would you and a 13 year old girl have in common? She would not have the maturity or education to share life with you at the level of a 19 year old so obviously you would have to come down to her level. Her behavior now clearly shows that she did not come up to yours!

    You should have a good talk to this young lady. Let her know you have enjoyed her friendship but it is best for BOTH of you if you break up. Be kind but be firm. Run! Do not keep in touch. Don’t rush in to another relationship and get involved with another woman on the rebound. You might be jumping from the frying pan into the fire! The best counselors will tell you this often happens but it is risky. Give yourself time to mature and learn from the past. Make a list of the things you have learned. I’m serious! I do this sometimes myself.

    There is somebody else out there for both of you – a better person for each of you! If you dig deep you will both find a better foundation to build a marriage and a future on.

    Please read and consider the Biblical references I have given you. The Word of God is “a lamp for our feet and a light for our path”. Jesus said “He who follows me will not walk in darkness but will have the light of life.”

    Many of the problems we have in life are because we have not accepted – and obeyed – the instructions and commandments God has given us in the Bible. Those who do have a better life. Those who do not find their lives are a mess. Please read the word of Jesus Himself in Matthew 7:24-29.

    I invite you to visit my website http://www.livinghopeministries.ca and click onto SERMONS. Listen to my sermon THE NEW BIRTH.

    Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  2. Anonymous
    December 3, 2011

    PEDOPHILE!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  3. trixxi
    June 1, 2011

    :-D lol mister is a big dam ass woman he cannot get

  4. sweet pum pum
    February 16, 2011

    @ 22 years old he himself is still a baby so stop calling him old enviole pervert and all those crazy names all you labelling the person child with 22 he is still green but mature enough to recognise that she is only 16 yrs old What about all those big old married men that after some of them school girls offering them the world just to have backseat sex or how about all those big hardback men that are taking advantage of poor underprivilege young teenage girls there are lots of them out there

  5. pSsss
    February 1, 2011

    First of all like Bella said what business you have at 19 with a 13 yr old….all ways I try to look at it this is just wrong….she is young and now becoming of age when she wants to make friends and explore what’s out there. So if you know what’s best for both of you just let de child be..you had her in commitment from she 13 when she should be commited to her books…so just leave de person child alone.

  6. realty
    January 31, 2011

    aye the boy maybe confused by now. the best advice i can give u on a serious note… if u want to be with her now she is above the age of consent try to make it work…. if u believe she is flirting with another dude u have to expect that its the time the do so….. move on get a some one your age who loves u for u my padna…. check me… its life…TREAT YOURSELF BEFORE YOU CHEAT YOURSELF YOUR HAPPINESS IS YOURS.!!!!!!!! 8)

  7. Servant of the Lord
    January 30, 2011

    Hmmm

    To Confused

    First of all, Christians don’t call on Bella for advice. They call on God. I am not here to bring you down but to give you words of encouragement. Also, if you are truly living a life for God, it should be reflected in everything you do. And frankly, getting involved with that young lady does not cut it.

    I understand its human nature to fall in love, but even so, you being a Christian soldier should have known better to reveal your feelings to the young lady. you should also have avoided having any contact whatsoever, be it sexual or none sexual with her. if she was in your age range then that would be different and even then you two would seek Gods help in the progression of your relationship.

    I am a young woman in my late 20’s and I gave my life to Christ in 2007. Now happily married and my husband is Gods best for me. I have seen the world both inside and outside, believe it or not. At the age of 13, I had my first crush, and i did say “I love you’s” but now that i am much older, and know and have experienced real love, I know that i knew nothing then. my husband always says this. “In terms of relationships, everyone that we have been with, until marriage, has just been a learning process. Because when you start living together, that’s where the real test comes in and then you can say whether or not you truly love that person”. This is why divorce these days is so rampant.
    I said all this to say that a 13 year old knows nothing about the real love between a man and a woman. That’s a tender age and there is much growth needed for someone at that age to even understand what they’re saying. You are also young. So take your time and do not rush. Pray and seek Gods guidance and be patient. For with patience and faith in God, we receive his best. I am a testimony to this.

    Take my words to mean something positive as I don’t know who you are…but yet i felt the need to write this to you.

    • awa wi
      January 31, 2011

      i totally disliked ur opening remarks where u said christians “dont call on bella for advice”……whats wrong in asking for a little advice. In all things its true we should put God first n pray 2 him whenever we are in need but nuting is wrong in taking advice or listening to someones opinion towards ur situation……and no ones perfect because u can truly be living a life of God and still make mistakes be real where all humans and its natural that we may do some things that are wrong. When people in society do something wrong or seen appropriate we are so busy to talk about dem and bring dem down iinstead we try to help them n build dem up…..It have so many people that are successfull 2day and so many people who are pastors and preachers 2 day because of their past….some of dem were drug dealers and some had their own way but 2day their a change man….So let us stop sitting in our churches on a sunday n talk bad about the kids on the streets and saying praise God their kids are good kids instead lets help one another to build a positive future generation…..And as ur husband said “everyone that we have been with, until marriage, has just been a learning process”…….let this be a learning process for him.

  8. zuma
    January 30, 2011

    Bella

    I have read *Dear Bella: I am a 22-year-old young man who is deeply in love with a 16-year-old young lady*

    You answered

    Dear Confused: Who told you to get involved with a 13-year-old

    Did you read properly the statement.

    If I may, at 16 years old its not to early to be in love or well, more like infatuation, it happens

    • love me culture
      January 31, 2011

      y she said his with a 13 year old because the child is 16 now but dey have 3 years 2gether so 16-3 is 13.n 22-3 is 19.

      • sweet pum pum
        February 16, 2011

        I guess zuma is the one that did not read the letter properly :-D

    • Taa
      January 31, 2011

      Zuma you read correctly, but did you read : We have been together for almost three years…which means that if she’s 16 he started seeing her when she was 13..

      Hence Bella is correct to ask him: Who told you to get involved with a 13-year-old.

      Guess you were the one who didn’t read the story properly!

      He would have been 19 at the time she was 13, so really that’s just wrong.

  9. One Love
    January 29, 2011

    8-O I NEED TO KNOW…….

    ARE THERE ANY 13 YEAR OLD “VIRGINS” IN DOMINICA? 8-O

    • HITMAN
      January 29, 2011

      Marigot she from man?

    • sweet pum pum
      February 16, 2011

      Why ? Are you looking for one ? What kind of debasing question is that ? No all of them lose their virginity since they were 5 saquay sot :twisted:

    • blahblah
      July 30, 2011

      yes there are i have a lil sister who is 14 entering 4th form in school this September (in the most competitive 4th form)and is a virgin never even had a boyfriend.and she is a christian. said all this to show that there are still good well behaved kids in Dominica. so stop trying and give all our girls bad reputations.

      • repper
        March 21, 2012

        think is so good girls does take the most dickk

  10. brrrr
    January 29, 2011

    in possie and roseau dat is nothing … dem likle ting ready by d time they 12 dat is equal to lunch time right … we eat lunch at 12 oclock ok den ask small money lol

    • young money
      January 30, 2011

      alas…………….. some born without virgin

  11. confuse
    January 28, 2011

    dear bella
    its me again ..thanks for the advice i appreciated it . this young lady said dat she is in love me ,by the things she told me i really thought dat she did 4 real knowing dat she in a “minor” at the time and trying my best 2 be a Christian i didnt get sexually involved wit her . we living closely must have triggered a crush on me or something i could have taken advantage of this situation but i didnt . i had other girl friends but the way she acted when she heard about it or saw gave me a sense dat she maybe truely love me . the kind of love dat i saw she had 4 me made me fall in love wit her. there is a 6 years difference but wat i really think wat counts is maturity and love . u made it sound like i took advantage of this young lady when we all no i didnt …

    second time around
    confused

    • M_A
      January 28, 2011

      My friend, your feelings are very normal and healthy. I really do empathize with you. What I understand from you my friend is you have those feelings for her, you wanted her to grow into a young lady whilst you wait for her. Am I correct? After that, you intended to take things further from there? Am I right?

      If I am, I believe your intentions were very noble and I applaud you for this. The first reason I applaud you for is the idea that you had no intentions of abusing the young lady. Second, your intentions to wait for her for some years. Not many men are like this in this society.

      If I am right about your intentions, feel free we can discuss this further.

      Since you expressed the sixteen yr old speaks with other guys, I suggest if you have a good rapport with her, have a word with her. Ask her for certain how she really feels about you. Have an honest talk with her, find out how she feels. Perhaps this may help you decide. Please let me know what happens.

      • confuse
        January 29, 2011

        she said dat she really wants 2 b wit me but i afraid if i get involve wit her i will get hurt knowing she is inexperience .. every time we talk she tells me how much she loves me and the way she speaks sounds really sincere… i spoke 2 her about being in a relationship and how she has 2 be committed and so on and she said she is willing 2 let go of the pass and start being true… now dat she is turning 17 in the next month i think she is finally growing into maturity and she might just be ready 4 a serious relationship

    • Lizavier4Jesus
      January 29, 2011

      Confused

      I know a song that says: “She was only 16, only 16; and I loved her so! But she was too young to fall in love, and I was too young to know”. That could be your dilemma right now, at your age of 22.

      However, I admire your mentality my boy, as you seem to maintain your Christian attitude. You should know by my identity that I definitely understand you. Continue in your ways, son. Let God’s Holy Spirit guide your path. If this young lady is for you, she will become yours. But if not, you will walk into the “true love” of your Life

      Remain with you nature of patience and self-control; these natures are among the natures of God’s Holy Spirit; you cannot fail with them. And most all of do not worry about the “tongue lashings”; it is typical with human beings. I know what I am talking about. God blessings to you!

      • confuse
        January 29, 2011

        rite now am just leaving it in the hands of god he will guide me to make the rite decision , he help me on countless occasion and in problems bigger than this ,this is nothing 4 him to help me through … thanks much 4 ur advice i really appreciated it

        • Taa
          January 31, 2011

          First of all like Bella said what business you have at 19 with a 13 yr old….all ways I try to look at it this is just wrong….she is young and now becoming of age when she wants to make friends and explore what’s out there. So if you know what’s best for both of you just let de child be..be had her in commitment from she 13 when she should be commited to her books…so just leave de person child alone.

  12. Man Pam
    January 28, 2011

    I was 31 in love with a 17 year old. same situation but we were sexually involved. The ting would use my own pc (msn, facebook) to talk to other things,Best advice to you, leave that alone pa. Find a new relationship………..Take it from me………………..

    • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
      January 29, 2011

      Some people gave you thumbs up which you do not deserve. They just loved what you did and stated on this Website instead of chastising you whether your bad actions were committed in the past. They are encouraging such evil habits. None of you have anything to be proud of and to relay to the world.
      After you had your fun with the then teenager you are offering the 22 year old man advice? If I knew you I would not accept such advice from such an unworthy person who was 31 years old and who took advantage of a 17 year old girl.
      It is also noticeable that some of you do not appreciate moral comments. You will give them “thumbs down” but write something immoral and degrading, people like you receive thumbs up. Some people just have it all wrong and do not know the difference between right from wrong and what is correct to do and state.
      It goes to show that there are those who do not appreciate people being treated with dignity and respect whether adult or child.
      What respect is this do you have for people, teenager, women and men, calling them ‘ting’? You have utilized such bad/immoral language to describe other human beings. You must be a ‘ting’ yourself who lacks respect for people in general, specifically women and young girls. You are one person I would not like to meet or associate with.
      You were 31 and you were sexually involved with a 17 year old, a minor and appear to be proud of it. It is nothing to be proud of. You should have been ashamed of yourself to this day and until the day you die.
      In certain countries you would be classified as a pervert and pedophile. If caught, you would be arrested. The arms of the Law would have dealt with you accordingly, as you deserved.
      I wonder if you have changed for “A leopard does not change its color overnight.”
      Dominica should institute a Law against people as yourself who take advantage of young girls and indulge in sexual activity with them. In other words as I know it since childhood: “You spoilt the child.”
      This is a grievous sin. As long as you have this mortal sin on your conscience/soul, also that you have relayed this information and proudly so on this Website for all to read, God will not forgive you for this unless you confess your sins with a humble and contrite heart. As God knows our hearts, He knows if you are sincere or not.
      I would not be surprised if you had another girlfriend or more and were even married, for one who was 31 years old and was sexually involved with a 17 year-old girl.
      I wonder what type of parents she had that she had the opportunity to be sexually involved with you and where were they when such activities occurred?
      Are you aware that it is not too late for you to be charged with molesting a minor which is just what it was? If you reside in Dominica and Dominica has such a Law and the now adult woman brought charges against you, you could be arrested and charged.
      Be careful what you say and proudly so for it will condemn you not only in the eyes of the Law but also as your action is known to God for all eternity.

      • Lizavier4Jesus
        January 30, 2011

        That is very, very true!

        • ?.,!?.,!?.,!
          January 31, 2011

          @ Truth…@: There is nothing wrong with the age difference of the two above. What I disagree is the idea of calling the young woman ‘ting’ or having relations out of marriage. Whether the both are 30, sex out of marriage should be condemned in our society.

  13. where u at
    January 28, 2011

    u sound like a good man where u at boo i looking a good man and i am of good age link me

  14. chic
    January 28, 2011

    hats off to u my boy for not taking advantage of the persons child. she is just a child and dont kno the true meanin of love n being in a serious relationship so comittin to you is a no no. she is at an age where she is explorin. i think that u dont kno how to speak to girls ur age or older or get rejected by them so u are hooked on this young lady. so before u end up stocky let the young lady grow up n become a woman :-| :-| :)

    • brrrr
      January 29, 2011

      dats messed up lol well my partner it not hard just start making some money and dress clean then those ur age will want u ..u doh even have to talk they so stupid already and 9 out of 10 broke

  15. Cas
    January 28, 2011

    I have noticed that many comment here were not well thought out. I respect everyone’s opinion here nonetheless .
    I agree that she is indeed young and though she may be mature i must agree that this is wrong doing.
    She is however getting older and many would agree that it would legal within a few more years. That way no one would cast stones at you.
    In the meantime please leave this young girl alone…if its really meant to be it will.
    Don’t do as some people said here and try to shape and mold her…..let her become what she wants not what you want.
    This may just be the reason she is neglecting you right now.
    Please consider!

  16. JC
    January 28, 2011

    My friend raise them young cause when they get older you cannot tell who has imprinted on them.. Foundation is the key. i tell you from experience some these girls have all kind of past history, all kind of sexual debt owing. There are some men girls just can’t let go and you know we use that to our advantage..Good pipe is hard to find.. My friend just try to be the only plumber. That age thing matters but as someone said maturity counts as well. Have you ever met a 26 year old who behaves like a child? Trust me there are alot out there. Remember if a girl ever wants space make sure you give her the world. It means she would eventually leave you.. she’s just doing it in stages.

  17. blameless
    January 28, 2011

    i don ot blame the man for anything…if he is truly in love and he said hewaited , then hats off to him

    now a days these young girls push themselves onto the men even if they are older…. i have had the experience of a 16 yr old “child” (they supposed to be children at 16) walking up to a grown married man and askin him for his bb pin…and that is not the only grown man she corresponds with

    That child is at every action it have., men buying her drinks and she walking up and down flirting with older men… those young girls now a days too freaking nasty in their ***.
    they are the ones who push themselves on the men , calling at all hours of the morning or night when they should be studying or sleeping.

    so give the young man a break , at least he have some morals and didnt sleep with her…

    the young women are to blame too. ….. they think they grown, and are of age to do anything…most of them more experienced than 30 year old women. so i not blaming the young man at all..

    • baby girl
      January 28, 2011

      mack you some of the older does the same thing men having their girlfriend and yet they pushes their self behind the men

    • Under a mad histatussin
      January 28, 2011

      Oh please…you acting like the older men doesn’t come up to the young girls…when i was 14 i went to creole in the park n had men old enough to be my Grandfather calling me up, is a miracle i was with my fren n not my mother bcuz they wudda get kick in their ass, now i 15 gettin 16 n it gettin worse…i give a padner a hard lash last year for just coming up n touching my ass like is he that out shit there….them man in dominica to nasty for true eh…if is so life have to be in D/a i gone real soon.

      • Let it be seen
        February 23, 2011

        @under a mad.. i saw u give the boy the lash eh and lemme tell u i was proud of u. Make him feel like a jackass in front of his friends. Serve him right! too damn rude. keep slapping all who disrespect u!

  18. mystery
    January 28, 2011

    :) :-D :wink: :( 8-O :lol: :-| :cry: 8) :-? :-? :-P :-x :?: :oops: :twisted: :mrgreen: :roll: :idea: :evil: :arrow: :-o :!:

  19. unknown
    January 28, 2011

    you people so negative, age is just a number it’s the level of maturity that matters, i bet how much of allu man that talking allu crap going behind them same lil girls so best allu hush. the man in love nothing wrong, you love the girl fight for her if she ain’t checking for you leave her, life goes on. allu too foolish on this site…….stop allu foolish talk.

  20. my boyye
    January 28, 2011

    my brother grow up u have life ahead of u… all i can say is to get someone ur age… at her age all she concerned with are things which u would find childish and doesnt matter to u…… her mind is still immature and i find u to old for that young child hit it and leave it.. u at ur pick of life now and u waiting…. the amount of beautiful young ladies that dominica has at your i mean come on…. just saying from my point of view 8)

  21. Anonymous
    January 28, 2011

    da good for u in u …..she shud kokay on ur head……nasty!
    fall in love….SUPWE SOT!
    she shud com for me to kokay for me to laff in ur face!
    i doh evn feeling sorry for how much belle woman D/ca an u goin behind lil pikney?
    laff i laffin u
    :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • my boyye
      January 28, 2011

      i telling u….. i mean awa….. lol lol lol……. i wander who she talking to online dere like that.. 8) 8) :lol: :lol: :twisted:

      • simply me!
        January 28, 2011

        get some sense thru your thick skull! u r sick!!!!!!!!

  22. magway saa
    January 28, 2011

    bella i like u,give it too him hard,its da gospel truth,iz tru she young an he stupide 4 trying to love a lilttle girl an iz tru,she so stupid she doin ha crimes open out in da lyte ,lol.oh gad eh beh look it

  23. hmmm
    January 28, 2011

    That’s why a lot of you have 13 year olds at your homes taking their big fing front and back and you all don’t even know.

    At 13 many girls are already conscious about guys. My guess is that they started out as friends and then the attraction grew. By now, the parents should be informed and the relationship should be nurtured in a way that they girl is respected until she finishes school and feels ready to become involved sexually. If she falls out of love, then it’s up to the guy to be mature and move on, and at least the girl would not have regretted getting into something she wasn’t ready for.

    This is reality people and it has to be dealt with. Because guess what, with all those nasty comments, what if the guy she is chatting with advances and puts her into some sh** that the parents don’t know about? Who is to blame?

    These comments are just pure hypocrisy. Or maybe the guy should just leave her alone, let her venture and deal with life as it comes. Be fooled, used by the married, bisexuals, players etc and etc. Simple.

  24. ft
    January 28, 2011

    @positive student you are a hypocrite

  25. lol
    January 28, 2011

    man if you’re in love with this chick don’t give up…there must have been qualities in her that made you fall for her…age is only a factor in the eyes of the law and granted that you didn’t physically get involved you did nothing wrong….is a whold bunch of hypocrite that commenting here…they try hitting you about getting someone you age yet alot of them befriend those very same little girls…why don’t they go make friends their own age? its a double standard….don’t blow a gasket over her talking to some dude on the pc. she probly just got into it and that can be addictive so that might be areason for her spending so much time on it..rather that speculate why not just ask her..

    don’t worry when you hear them commenting on what conversation you can possibly have with a 13 year old… she might be alot more matured and better at keeping a conversation than alot of the persons commenting on here…

    • Lady G
      January 28, 2011

      true true

    • Angry With Pervs
      January 28, 2011

      Can someone say pedophile? YES! Hell Yes you are involved with a MINOR for emotional reasons, sex or no sex. I LABEL YOU PEDOPHILE PERVERT. LOL You too are a damn pervert. What the hell conversation you talking about. All you just want to put dem young children in all kinda acrobatic positions all you wife and big woman girlfriend not willing to flip. Damn Perverts! BOY I have young nieces, and all I saying when it come to that JAIL DOH MAKE FOR DOG!

      • my boyye
        January 28, 2011

        de man not a perv the girl ask for it she get it…… allu must not look away from reality…… wat u think it is nuh allu bring kfc dominica and do want them children to mature before time…… stupes man…. mr have to sex dat thing then leave it…… maybe porn she watching online all now we…..

    • baby girl
      January 28, 2011

      she is a child eventually she will leave you and get someone else so please leave the child get some one else ok my dear u sounded like a promiseing young man and i do wish u all the best

  26. hurt it, my brother
    January 28, 2011

    well she is 16 now and legally can “take it” so what is the problem now? sackwae gass!

    • yes I
      January 28, 2011

      give it too her.. they like to watch porn now…

      • Angry With Pervs
        January 28, 2011

        Take what? Now d thing with all you those men dat like young children. You all are underperformers.You really cannot handle a woman! No wonder. Hurt what? All you dere to do is hurt someone’s child. Good for nothing pervert!

      • bullet....
        January 28, 2011

        hard my boy real hard……. cal to go and come back….. lol lol 8)

      • baby girl
        January 28, 2011

        I HOPE IS NOT YOUR DAUGHTER,NIECES ,GRANDCHILD OR COUSIN IN YOUR ….

        • brrrr
          January 29, 2011

          lol but why those retarded acting like they dont know time dem children reach highskool they taking how much big wood

      • lover boy
        January 28, 2011

        lol true

  27. Dr.No
    January 28, 2011

    MY GOD!
    THIS MEANS YOU WERE 19 AND SHE WAS JUST 13.
    YOU ARE SICK
    YOU SHOULD BE SENT TO THE TALIBAN IN AFGANISTAN.
    THEY WILL CERTAINLY FIX YOU UP WITH A CONGLUMERATE OF
    QUARTZ, FELDSPAR, MICA AND BITS AND PIECES OF FERRITE IN BETWEEN:

    IN CERTAIN PARTS OF HTE WORLD THEY ARE CALLED ROCKS

  28. Anonymous
    January 28, 2011

    but i find MR.man have balls.to even post that up for bella..i suspect that fella dere didnt have nuttin to do so mr just make a story and send that for Bella..but if that is really the case…..my boyy u need sm serious serious counseling….

    p.s all the others that are out there (RAT) leave them young Cats alone they inexperience

  29. FIRE
    January 28, 2011

    King Solomon took a young maden in his bead when he was an old i think.

  30. MHM
    January 28, 2011

    These days i find Bella a little bit too wild on those answers and the responses to the comments…Just now Bella will beat allu it seems papa A A….with that said….This is a critical time for the young girl. At 13 she was willing to fly into your arms because she was young and you gave her just what she wanted. But now she growing up and seeing that she doesn’t need you to get attention she needs. And it’s only natural for her to like someone else….soooooo move on and find happiness elsewhere cause now you hurting for no reason.

  31. Karkabeff
    January 28, 2011

    Garson you are an old enviole wanna be. Leave the person child alone and go get someone your age. I am sure while the child is smart enough to wait you there fooking someone else. LEAVE THE PERSON CHILD ALONE. She is still a child thats why she does not understand that her actions are hurt you because for her it poppy love. Garson take my advice before you end up in stocky. Hail Mary Full Of Grace…

  32. DISGUSTED
    January 27, 2011

    am really ashamed of some of the negative comments, actually am speechless. my people minds are in the gutter.

  33. Positive Student
    January 27, 2011

    I applaud this young man for not having sex with his girlfriend! We young people are too eager to jump in bed these days. If you are a Christian, you should not have held back because she was not ready, you should have held back because you aren’t married to her.

    I remember when I was 12, this 17 year old boy use to come and check me. Nothing happened, praise God, but when you’re young you sometimes don’t think. I know that’s no excuse for this young man.

    There are many single, beautiful ladies in Dominica (like myself) who are a little over the age of 20 and looking for a faithful man. Go look for us and let this child grow up.

    • queenie
      May 26, 2011

      you lieing…………
      i used to see the pardner coming to check u…………but plenty tings happen.

      you forget u ask me to cover for you if your mother come asking for you?

      dont try to pretend it never happened…….embrace the truth and it will set u 3………
      who u trying 2 fool nuh? :oops:

  34. hmmmm
    January 27, 2011

    Can u say statutory rape????

  35. alex
    January 27, 2011

    yes she is 16 now but when u hook up with her u were an adult and she were a child. THIS IS WRONG, WRONG, WRONG. it is child abuse.
    when i bring my daughter down d/ca u guys better stay away cause if the law won’t recognise child abuse then i’ll cut ur to-le
    some of u out there r real silly….
    if it were ur daughter what would be ur point of view.

  36. :) me
    January 27, 2011

    but if she “matitay”/”forced ripe” of cuss d man see light on her lmao. but he should’ve taken into consideration her age tru….

    • DISGUSTED
      January 27, 2011

      you sound as immature as they are. stupes

      • reality
        January 28, 2011

        shut up….. mr should cal that long time :-P

        • baby girl
          January 28, 2011

          i hope is not your daughter

        • reality
          January 29, 2011

          baby girl it cant be my daughter…. i dont have any yet…. and in any case if my daughter if my daughter reach in that situation i would be mad at her not the man…… cause she herself has to know that she is a child and has to act responsible enough to avoid this kind of situation… really it starts from the home. ok???

    • :) me
      January 28, 2011

      allu in allu bizness wi wen allu making like allu blind in d/ca.what if they grow up and have children together? raise them properly? tell their children how long they stick together? stupes…zor toh vite domnicheh. 2 sides to a story…

  37. adshamed
    January 27, 2011

    that’s jail bait.find someone older who is more mature and who can commit to a serious relationship. you sound like a stand up christian guy. i think god has a stand up christian girl for you. i don’t think she is the one or she would not have had you as stressed without regard to your feelings

  38. ham
    January 27, 2011

    I myself is big women i like. Age 30 and above….No children allowed… SO NOW YOU ARE A MAD MAN, THEY SAY YOU ARE UGLY, NO BODY NO WANT YOU, DAY SAY YOU HAVE GO PWELL, SO YOUR PRESSURE UP !!!!!!!!!!!!

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      Some like to swim and some like to rock de cradle :lol: :mrgreen:

  39. really
    January 27, 2011

    I backing my partner.grow your girl

  40. FIRE
    January 27, 2011

    How old was the vergin mary when…………..????????????????

    • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
      January 28, 2011

      @ Fire:

      It is exactly what I have always stated that some of your comments are so silly and out-of-context. They could be downright crude, rude and disrespectful. They lack substance that no one can learn anything from them. It would be better that you not comment at all.
      I do believe that you have nothing else and good to do with you time by making such comments as King Solomon also. What have these got to do with people and their action’s in the year 2011?
      Don should prohibit some of your comments which make no sense whatsoever to the article which is posted. I am unable to comprehend why DON will allow such and some other sensible comments are not allowed.
      Learn to comment educationally and wisely that others might learn something from your comments. Otherwise you are wasting your God-given precious time and you might as well not comment at all.
      Your ungodly statement makes my blood boil. Where does the Mother of God, the Ever Blessed Virgin Mary’s name come in and what does she have to do with a 22 year old man who is in love with a 13 year old child in this era of the year 2011? If you were a Catholic Christian and a practicing one at that you would never make such a comment.
      It saddens me that such comments are made against the Blessed Virgin Mary. Let it be known that nothing escapes Our God. Our Lord Jesus Christ has taken note and count of your words about His Blessed Mother whom He loves dearly.
      You have depicted that you do not have respect for Our Almighty Father, God – for His Blessed Son, Our Lord Jesus Christ, our King and Savior who will, one day judge all nations and people and for His Blessed Mother whom Our Almighty Father chose among all women to bear His Son.
      Many of you have not comprehended why Our Almighty Father chose Her to be His Son and some of you still do not which is why you make such derogatory statements about a holy one whom Our Almighty Father chose. God is not amused that you make such remarks. Know that one day you will be judged accordingly for your failure to do so.
      This is what Our Lord said in case you are not well-versed with Holy Scriptures:
      Matthew 12:33:37- A Tree and Its Fruits – …I tell you, on the day of judgment people will render an account for every careless word they speak. By your words you will be acquitted, and by your words you will be condemned.
      In other words, every idle word that man shall speak/state/comment he shall render an account thereof. Your comments are idle words and serve no fruitful purpose.
      Keep this in mind and write something sensible that the 22 year old man and others who are in need of godly advice could learn from. He wants advice; not stupidity and stupid statements which are irrelevant to the topic. They are not worth a laugh.
      We are each other’s keepers and we are to help others. This pertains to all articles/topics which DON posts for readers and users. Grow up and smarten up! Practice the faith and read Holy Scriptures specifically The New Testament. It will benefit you, mortally and spiritually. In this way you will be able to post sensible and relevant comments. God grants enlightenment which will assist you to comment wisely.

  41. hummmm
    January 27, 2011

    boy just leave the person f#$%^%@ child alone your damn perve

  42. charity begins at home
    January 27, 2011

    buh how d man love his ting padna wait till u get some of d kyat n bounce even if is d padna la westa

    • charity begins at home
      January 27, 2011

      u wait too long to give up now good things comes to those who wait

  43. is dat self
    January 27, 2011

    First of all padna it was wrong to get involved with a 13 yr-old child, sexually active or not. talkin about you trying to be a Christian and be patient. What on earth can a 13 yr od do for a man?

    Secondly, I’m not condoning what you did but on the other hand some of these young girls today quick quick.. But, simply, you were wrong…get someone your age

  44. real
    January 27, 2011

    what kind of man that is trying to be a christian goes after a 13 year old. for the 3 years you waiting is the first time she talking to another guy. so many nice girls in dominica to go after at 19 you find a 13. what kinda of cartoons you look at.

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      But is his 13 yr old he like aa aa :-D

      If the other girls he seeing in his church daykarlay already :lol:

      Yyyyyyyyyyyyyy look trouble :lol:

  45. Burrr
    January 27, 2011

    “I suggest you find someone your age and leave miss forced-ripe.”

    LMAO

    I suspect ADMIN is Bella yeh! That line sounds like something Admin would say! :mrgreen:

  46. The Analysts
    January 27, 2011

    Bella, I support you on that one.

  47. Check me!!!
    January 27, 2011

    Aye padner, I single uno and you sound like a serious person so u can always check me and you won’t have to worry about me being interested in someone else!!!!!! :-D

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      You sure :?:

      All starting off good and then is headache you know :-D :mrgreen:

    • alex
      January 27, 2011

      hahaha…but u will have to worry about he lookin at dem young girls

      • reality
        January 28, 2011

        so now like dat dominicans doing it now….. on D.N.O allu making break i hope u have age eh.. lol 8)

        • Anonymous
          January 28, 2011

          I’m very legal!!! Turning twenty in a six months so he should have no problems :-D

    • Ditmoi
      April 8, 2011

      I bet you on your boyfrien computer writing dat to de man. Tone down the desparation woman!

  48. Jay
    January 27, 2011

    JB they started dating when she was 13 that’s what she’s referring to…..but still she is 16 years right now. At thirteen dear she knew nothing at 16 she’s exploring so having a serious relationship with her isnt gonna work. At that age we tend to call it ‘kwaiib love’. hmmmm this guy is a sicko to be even writing in and expressing his ‘feelings’

    • M
      January 27, 2011

      Why is he a sicko for expressing his feelings? Maybe you should watch yourself first before judging others. I know there’s a bit of an age difference but still Love comes in no numbers at all. At least he is speaking from his heart and has a positive mind set for them both.

      But like Bella said, maybe he should just move on to somone more mature that he can grow with as an individual. Good luck to him in making better decisions in the future. My word to him is keep his head up and keep walking in the path of the most high like he’s been trying to do all along.

  49. hmmmm
    January 27, 2011

    my boy wait another 5 yrs then both of u good to go, that is if u really love her and i hope she will love u as much by that age

  50. da real...... HMMMM
    January 27, 2011

    hmm boi u doe easy 13 – 16 hmm u must get bon lil child da dr

  51. B
    January 27, 2011

    Sweet……. you’re faithful it is hard to find someone like that those days.

    Take my advice bro she is definitely not for you. Stop hurting yourself. Find someone you love and someone that will love you back. Would love to know who you are.

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      Love in this society? It hard wee, the man looking for a virgin woman to share his life with. It’s so hard to find a 20 yr old with virtues these days. Maybe the rural areas one has a chance in my view eh.

      • MOT
        January 28, 2011

        “Rural areas one has a chance…?! LMFAO!! Alot of those country chicks losing their cherry even younger than girls in the city…wheel and come again my boy.

    • reality
      January 28, 2011

      true word

  52. JB
    January 27, 2011

    bella…..the man said a 16 yr old and u respond with a 13 yr old, dont u go through your comments for error smh

    ADMIN
    Can someone with English comprehension skills answer JB please…

    • B
      January 27, 2011

      she was 13 when they started out ok. three years went by so she is now 16.
      THEY SPENT THREE YEARS TOGETHER

    • math man
      January 27, 2011

      i think it is a math problem JB has.

    • sweetness
      January 27, 2011

      :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • To JB
      January 27, 2011

      i take it like maths wasn’t your strongest subject in school. The young lady is 16, he started dating 3 yrs ago so therefore (16-3=13yrs.) she is still a child at 16 and she needs to be concentrating more on school work than on man. he need to stay away from the child and find someone he’s own age.

      • JB
        January 27, 2011

        i read wrong and i stand corrected, realised on my second reading

        • ProCon
          January 27, 2011

          ahahha you just made yourself look like a fool, you too fast! hahahha :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • wow
      January 27, 2011

      if u read correctly, she is 16 but they’ve been together now for almost 3yrs so she was 13 when they started dating, smh!!!

    • mama
      January 27, 2011

      LOL… Admin that was rather harsh don’t you think….. lol…. lollllllll

    • Just giving my two cents
      January 27, 2011

      ADMIN, sometimes it takes a second reading to get the gist…so no need for such a response. Alot can be inferred from you response….

      Professionalism should be maintained at all times, even in the eyes of incomprehension, lack of understanding, stupidity… you name it, everyone is subjected to missing the point somewhere along the line!!!!!!!!!

      • aye aye
        January 27, 2011

        Aye aye go easy on ADMIN eh I find allu tying up d man. Go easy

      • storm
        January 27, 2011

        i agree. you are just too harsh sometimes.

        • Sister souljah
          January 28, 2011

          If u cant read and comprehend dont comment!

  53. LADY BIRD
    January 27, 2011

    Weh weh …Lady B knows why she made that song eh….lol. Leave those little pussy cats alone and let them grow;And when they do, they will make you crow like a cock crow.

  54. Lady G
    January 27, 2011

    Good advice bella

  55. HMMMMM(1)PSYCHIC
    January 27, 2011

    First of all the young lady is 16yrs old and still a child. You as a young man should leave her alone and allow her the time to grow up. She is not ready for love (not with you nor this other guy). At 16 she is going to have alot of friends including male friends. She is going to talk to alot of guys and there is not much you can do to stop that. Leave the person’s child alone and try not making her life miserable

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      She’s not ready for love but she ready to be flirting and inviting herself for sex? Most of these teenagers are having sex all over the place more than grown women, but they cannot love or marry not true!

      • Angry With Pervs
        January 28, 2011

        Well you sound like you just breaking stick in your ears. ALL the advice on DNO not getting to you. I have your remedy!: Stockfarm, to sleep a night or two with JIM BOB and his friends, who like your behind more than bees love honey and you will learn your manners.Teenagers behaving how they behave DOES NOT give you the right to make those statements and go after them! Those poor girls have their fair share of teeange issues, and all you just preying on that. I tell you again Stockfarm NOT for chien!

        • M_A
          January 28, 2011

          Men have to rise up, fight until they change those damn consent laws, it’s too high, bring it down to 14 like many countries in South America :-D

  56. oh my my my
    January 27, 2011

    yes bella you put him in his place.seems he hasnt reached puberty yet cause i’m wondering what conversation a 13 year old can keep with a 19 year old man.get someone your own age or preferably older so she can monld you into a man.

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      You may be surprised the conversation a 13 year old can have with a 19 or 20 year old. Once I was approach by a 13 yr old girl some years ago. I knew her through her older sister whom I went to college with. She wasn’t easy, talking about the law and how oppressive they are to allow age of consent till 16. I told her, ‘I admire your level of reasoning, however miss you’re jail bait and that I prefer women my age group.’

      Trust me, some of these relationship can work, there are many in the world where it works especially where there is spirituality, love and virtues. It is difficult to work in the west because people are shallow and they think on a materialistic level.

      • SS
        January 28, 2011

        i find u commenting on every negative opinion to the subject… Pedophile Pervert in the Making.. watch yourself!!!!

        • M_A
          January 28, 2011

          Pedophilia is having sexual relations with a child. That young lady is not a child, she can have children that is divine law, stop the nonsense. I have my views but I wouldn’t break those stupid laws and spend at Stock Farm for a woman when I can get someone older then?

          I just find these laws make no sense! :-D

  57. here we go again
    January 27, 2011

    pussy kyat…………….thats all that needs to be said

  58. Trueth
    January 27, 2011

    Child abuse!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      Are you braindead? What child abuse? A man having attraction for a physically mature young girl at 13, there is nothing wrong with that. The crucial issue is NOT acting on those feelings.

  59. Twinkle toes
    January 27, 2011

    is dat i finding, bella

  60. :)
    January 27, 2011

    You sound like a faithful guy, go and find some YOUR OWN AGE!

    • M_A
      January 27, 2011

      The man waited for the right time, what is wrong with you? He waited at least for her to reach an age of consent where they could date etc. The age of consent is TOO HIGH. It needs to be reduced to 14 like many places in South America.

      • Natural Living
        January 28, 2011

        M_A you sounding like a true perv…. “The age of consent is TOO HIGH”…. U doh have daughters!!! ….”It needs to be reduced to 14 like many places in south America”…… What happen, you couldn’t find the countries that have it at age 11!!!!

        They need to start teaching some of the Dominican laws in schools, this thing (not knowing age of consent and what it means) should not even be an issue anymore, everyone should know this, especially those young boys and girls.

        M_A I suggest you rethink that statement of yours.

        • M_A
          January 28, 2011

          To hell with the Dominican laws. They are post colonial laws, get out of it!

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