Dear Bella: Your readers were quite rude in my last letter (See ‘Looking for Love in the wrong place?’ published on June 25 in Column section) where I was asking for help and advice.
I am a genuine person, and all I’m looking for is a serious relationship. I understand it’s a peculiar situation to be chasing after another person’s, girlfriend, but I can’t escape the way I feel. Maybe I’m going about the situation wrongly, but I have always followed my heart and it has not failed me yet.
But his situation is different, and I have seen for myself the true character of this young lady. I’m not the only person pursuing her. She has other “friends,” and she is also materialistic. I feel sorry for her overseas boyfriend because he is totally in the dark about her midnight rendezvous, early morning drops home, and “pick-ups” from work. Why are women so devious? I think I’ll stay far from Dominican woman, too much trouble. How can I find someone real?
Disgusted.
Dear Disgusted,
I believe you’re going to find it difficult to find any woman who you’re content with if you go on believing all of them are “devious.”
Have an open mind because just as women can cheat, men can also. If you find so many faults in this woman, why are you still interested? It’s obvious you’re implying that she is not trustworthy. As for your judgment that Dominican women generally are “too much trouble” is stereotyping a bit too much.
However, you should know what works for you. Finding someone will depend on what is your type and the qualities you admire in a woman, and while you have not been specific about what these are I can’t give you details as to how you may go about finding your type. Bear in mind though if you’re exploring going out to different activities and events is has a social advantage. If you like the party girl type you should have an idea of where to go or if you like the sophisticated, gentler woman you may also know at which places to go. Joining online social networks is a very fun and easy way to make female contacts as well. Expand your horizons, do new things- if you’re not already doing so and you’re sure to network with new female friends that have the potential of being your lover.
Bella.
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i can relate to this… it doesnt go away quickly, but dont waste life, find a woman who loves you. who will get sick if you dont call her for 7 hours or literally jump on you and get super affectionate and switch you on. or my own personal favorite….nail you right in the back of the car!!!! wooosh… dont waste time with them other chicks… go where the love is man. love who love you.
got to open up your mind a lil more. we have quite a few ladies on the island who are different for the ones or one that you are speaking of. search a lil deep but don’t allow your self to fall in love with that person too soon. some day you will find the one
@ El Tigre
Well said
dread its time to move on! Leave the person child where ever she is. If after all this stuff you going through, the lady not taking you on, something should register in your mind, “SHE NOT INTERESTED IN YOU.” Also don’t label the lady in a bad light, sounds like sour grapes to me. Also I doubt her overseas boyfriend in the dark, D/ca is a small place and people talk, so somebody clue mister in already or he must know who de character of de person(for the time they together). Best thing to do is look for single woman where you are and let de girl fly she kite & panty for man to see. They go handle she real good, so don’t worry.If did girl really a low blow skettel she go find out that looks along will not take you far, to get ahead in life is better to exercise what she have between her ears instead of whats between her legs. Lets just hope with her bed hoping she do give her overseas man HIV or AIDS.
@Wise up:
wise up,lol,we all like them just to pleas us in the bed room,not for a woman to have,lol,if they love it so well,let them have it so,when ever she looking for a husband she wont find any around for sure,
chemist your right!
may be to blunt,but my friend just move along, forget her, it happend to all off us one way of the other,and leave it up to the fella over seas,when ever he comes back he’ll find out,what ever happends in the dark will come out in the light,and look for a lady with values,it will take some time, but in the long run, it will be well deserved,
hasta pronto,
Inspite of – her boyfriend may still see her as a PRIZE – just the fact that every other man can sleep with her, may be what’s making him tick. Some men are psycho-paths and thrive on this type of
competion, they’re not happy if their girl does not flirt and flaunt herself at other men.
MEN LOVE SLUTS
temporarily
I can imagine what is happening to your ‘rod’ while you are scoping the lady my friend.
You sound like a jealous little boy. Grow up!
My dear if you are looking for advice, here are a few suggestions that may help:
1.Call or email the overseas boyfirend and inform him about what’s happening
2.Call the girl aside and tell her what she is doing is wrong. She is either with or not with the overseas guy
3.Mind your own business, do not get involved, because you only see the girl and have no idea what the overseas boyfriend is doing. You would be a fool to think he is innocent.
4. You can stop being a hypocrit. If you know the girl is a no good, why are you pursuing her? And you are just being a hypocrit because at the end of the day you looking for a piece of the pudding in spite of knowing that the girl is a skettel. Shame on you.
5. Answer this question. Are you just upset she isn’t taking you on and all these guys are getting? So long you’ve been veyeing and nothing still? FInd out what the real issue is. Are you sorry for the overseas boyfriend or are you angry for not getting a piece?
Dear Life have moments when it would seem like you become volunerable, take to mean that as a human being you a also subject to being volunerable, it is ok, remember though, that you are still in control, of every decision that you make. One of the best ways is to tredirect your focus on something bigger than what you are experiencing, I’d say like reading a great book understudying a mentor and so forth. You are always in control of both your behavior and reactions
wrong way to go bro
Maybe the time you spend writing these letters or spying on this girl you can take it to meet and get to know someone!!
You just looking for attention, period!!!!!!