It’s people I never thought would stab me in the back who ended up doing so. They don’t know I know about them trash talking me though; however I have totally distanced myself from them. I have stopped corresponding and hangings out with them like before and more and more I see their true colours.
The thing is I have never done anything bad to these people and if I hear gossip about them I dismiss it and stand up for them, unlike how they allowed other people to tell them false things about me and never said anything to stop it.
Should I make up with them and pretend like nothing happened?
Dear distraught friend,
As much as your so-called friends wronged you I think you should forgive them, but also bear in mind that forgiving does not mean that you should go back socializing with them and pretending that they are your “besties”.
Continue to keep your distance because they are no friends to you. A friend should seek to uplift you, cheer you up and be there for you in good and bad times, and not attempt to destroy your reputation. Make new friends, but do not be so quick to trust and be careful who you call your friends.
It’s not because you claim someone as a friend that you should admit all your secrets and tell them everything about your life. You will realize too that the more friends you keep, many enemies will follow as well. The tongue is a very dangerous weapon I like to say and people can manipulate anything you told them and make it into a deadly gossip.
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