My best friend is getting too close

Dear Bella: I think my best friend is falling for me. I believe she is getting too close to comfort and I am worried this can jeopardize a good friendship based on my experience.

I love her a lot, but I don’t want to get intimately involved with her and then things just end up being weird. I also have a girlfriend and she knows that, but lately she’s been giving me these unusual looks and touches. I mean we hug, play and joke around, but I can just feel like these are new feelings developing. She knows me like the back of a book like I know her very well. We share everything and talk about relationships. How can I let her know that I just want to remain friends?

Trying to save a friendship.

Dear Trying to save a friendship,

Simply ask your best friend if she likes you more than just a friend because you’re sensing that her way of behaving is different around you. If she admits let her know how much you cherish you friendship and that if she cherishes it too she will respect your stance on the matter.

Make her aware of how you feel, and that you don’t want things to complicate the relationship you already have. Sometimes the best friends make the best lovers. However, sometimes an intimate/sexual relationship with a close friend doesn’t always bode well.


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  1. Anonymous
    October 16, 2011

    this is why i always say a man and a woman can never be best friends. something will always go down sooner or later.

  2. September 6, 2011

    What is the big deal,you full around with each other and you are afraid being called a lesbian and pray to the Vergin Mary to help you to decide which way to go,
    You like what she is doing to you are you not a hypocrete,when she touch you never you say stop it but enjoy her touching you and the feelings you feel.
    Dominica is full of lesbians,even ministers are lesbians,with these feelings you feel you will not escape if you dont stop playing with fire you will not get burnt and every one on the Island will call you Zami with this one and that one and will want to do the same to a young girl like you later to join the secrete society. :-D :lol: 8-O :cry: :-P :oops: :?:

    • Alley franc
      June 27, 2018

      hey, this is a guy speaking, not a woman. he is not a lesbian. get your mind out the gutter

  3. September 8, 2010

    We cannot stop time or destiny. Whatever is going to happen has already happened. You must learn how to see it through the end, when u hold on u prolong the pain. Don’t risk what u cannot afford to loose. Life has many doors that may be opened and close. What u make of your life depends on which door u choose to open and which door u choose to close.

    August 1, 2010

    well my boy thing is if this doesn’t work out u gonna lose a very good friend the only one u go to in time of darkness the one who will always be there for u no matter wat….a friendship is something that we have to cherish so deeply and not try to get intimate no matter how hard it may seem…cause honestly at the end of the road we all need someone to go to and share our deepest fears and hurts.. and if that person is the one you just cant stand to see right now… then my boy you gonna be alone in this… finding someone whose gonna understand u like she did gonna be hard..think of it wisely and do wats best for the both of you…

  5. tete chaud
    July 31, 2010

    My padna I respect ur sin bcuz me aself in d same position and I honestly am finding it hard 2 resist considerin my best friend is SUPER sexy. Bt if u strong and maintain ur stance den u safe mn

  6. July 31, 2010

    u r 1 in a million!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  7. Pnuts
    July 30, 2010

    Trying to save a friendship,

    Love grows, and feelings develop when opposites are in close proximity all the time. Do not be afraid, just be polite when U level out things with her, and re-enforce the fact of your relationship with another. Let her know U rather remain as close friends.

  8. July 30, 2010

    Simple! BUY her a Dildo. Problem solve.

  9. hell has no furry......
    July 30, 2010

    u just proved to me that there r a( few good men) left in D/A.some guys would have their cake and eat it to.i see that your friends really mean a lot to u.your girlfriend is one LUCKY girl

  10. J
    July 30, 2010

    My boy, i believe you are the one that’s having feelings for her. Women like to flirt around and tease thier male friends .You reading too much into it. If she excite tell her your woman would not be please,

  11. Petite Soufriere
    July 30, 2010

    well bella is right. I think you should tell her how you feel and let her know that you have a girlfriend and her friendship is valuable to you. Then you will know how to move on

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