My boyfriend has worked obeah on me

Dear BellaI met this guy about three years ago and I was attracted to him since he was very nice, has a very good education and a good job. A very decent man.

Or so I thought.

Soon after we began dating I noticed that he was quite a different person. He was short tempered, drank a lot and is always ‘checking out’ other women, even in my presence.

I brought this to his attention and I was told I was over reacting and I should instead “expand my horizon.” I was kind of baffled his response, but I kind of let the whole thing go.

Until one night when he got really drunk and slapped me in front of a whole bunch of my friends. It was very embarrassing and I said to myself that was it.

Thing is I just cannot get him off my mind. I see him in my dreams, I think of him all the time, I keep watching his photos of Facebook and so on. Trust me, no matter how I tried I cannot stop thinking of him.

I remember he once told me that I cannot never leave him and no matter what I must come back to him.

A friend of mine told me its obeah he worked on me and I think this is true since I just cannot get this guy off my mind and it is driving me crazy.

I have seen one obeah man already and I have another appointment with him soon.

But I just feel as if I am not on the right track.

Is it true someone can work obeah on you in such a manner?

Everyone seems to be telling me the same thing.



Dear Baffled,

This whole thing about obeah is only in the head and you need to get it off your mind. This superstition is keeping you as a slave to a guy who appears doesn’t really love you.

It appears that your boyfriend gets violent when he consumes alcohol and this is not really what you want in your life.

You need someone who loves you, treats you right and doesn’t have to slap you in the presence of your friends. Get this guy out of your mind and get someone who loves you.

And by the way that person you are seeing as the “obeah man” is just ripping you off and I suggest that you don’t visit him for your next “appointment.”


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  1. January 15, 2018

    If someone work obeah on your foot and you can’t walk what can help u

  2. dread
    November 4, 2015

    remember science is real you drank from him eat from him a man can give you a drink that can kill you so obeah is science that all what u need to do is keep away from him as long as it takes an drink a lot of water what ever he gave u will be remove them pastor perform obeah to so watch it

  3. April 5, 2014

    Obeah is real! I been a victim most of my life. The people smile in your face and do you things for you to fall. My cousin did it to me so he can rob me my inheritance, my best friend did it to me so my biz would fail, the pastor son did it to me so I would get in trouble, it’s all over! But you can pray and send it right back, fasting and saying to the evil spirits go back to sender! Then you will see them falling into the very pit they dug for you! It’s the only way to save yourself. Do it now!

  4. Anonymous
    July 14, 2013

    obeah is real and yes I agree and believe that GOD can break any form of witchcraft, but you do need help you may need a spiritual bath to cleanse you and break whatever he put on you. I speak for myself being a numerous victim of obeah from people dirty hands and wickedness. The man you went to does not work with the devil there are people out there that help people in these situations. To anyone else I don’t want your comments that this is superstitious and so on. If you don’t want to believe that is your business, but I have experienced it first hand and I am far from delusional. There are some really bad people out here that is all I know that practice Santeria, obeah and all kind of witchcraft you think some Caribbean people is nice, shaking my head.

    • Kymani Taylor
      June 3, 2015

      Can you help me find a gud worker to help me in my situation

  5. May 15, 2013

    :twisted: p:( when I pray to god he all ways hi 8) mere my pain my wicked bad mind nabour and there does not like to see us prosper so they all ways try tocause afuss and say we are wicked but god all way be my refuge and strength a very present help in trouble god allway bring me in a hight lift up praise the lord

  6. February 5, 2013

    Dear Baffled: I hope by now you have broke free from this man’s influence. However, there are a significant number of people caught up in the occult practice known in the Caribbean as “obeah” and because of this I would like to share a few thoughts. Obeah is an offshoot of witchcraft or part of witchcraft. The Bible forbids witchcraft. It takes different forms in various parts of the world and doesn’t always look the same. But basically it is the practice of people drawing power from satan (or the dark side) to make good or bad things happen in their lives or the lives of others. I am not sure if this man practices obeah or not, or how advanced he may be in it or think he is. There is a devil (satan) and there are demons (devil spirits who sometimes give power to those in witchcraft who have given enough of themselves to the devil to “buy” his favours. But you should know that many (maybe most) of those who claim to practice any of these dark arts including obeah or any type of voodoo are absolute frauds. They are after your money or whatever else they can get from you. I don’t think you want to do business with the devil OR somebdy who is a fraud. So please keep away from the obeah workers. Your boy friend (I hope by now he’s your ex) was drinking alcohol which impairs the common sense and removes the normal restraints at the time he struck you. You mentioned that he shows signs of being attracted to other women. Drunkeness and lust, along with the use of drugs are usually acceptable in witchcraft. These things in themselves can open the human mind and soul to demons (evil spirits) and create a detructive influence. In extreme cases they can lead to demon possession but please remember I said in extreme cases. Christians (those who have been saved or born again by believing that Jesus Christ by His death on the cross paid the penalty for their sins and rose again, and have received Him as their Saviour according to St. John 1:2 and Revelation 3:20) have no reason to fear the devil, demons, or any obeah worker. The blood of Jesus Christ protects us from all curses whether they be imaginary OR real! We have power in the name of Jesus to expel and drive out demons because the power of His blood is in that name! I invite you to visit my website In the right hand margin click on to EAGLE COURSE. This 12 lesson workbook manual can be studies from the screen or copied absolutely free. No, I am not trying to sell you something! The very first lesson will tell you how to receive Jesus Christ as your personal Saviour and begin a life of blessing, power, and victory! Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • May 3, 2014

      He has a good education but that is not what makes a man and man.

      He is a coward. He slaps you in the face but he has to draw power from devil spirits to be equal with you.

      It may be that he is working obeah on you. But the only power an obeah worker has over you is the power you give him or her. Born again Christians have already been delivered from the power of the devil. Get your Bible and read Colossians 1:12,13. .

      I encourage you to receive the Lord Jesus as your personal Savior. Believe that He died to pay for your sins and rose again according to 1 Corinthians 15:1-4. Invite Him to come into your heart and save you according to John 1:11,12, and Revelation 3:20. Then pray that God will FILL you with His Holy Spirit! Luke 11:9-13, Ephesians 5:18. You will never have to fear the obeah workers. Satan will FLEE from you! Read James 4:7! God will give you power over he devil :!:

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. International Evangelist.

      Director of Living Hope Ministries: An Evangelistic Ministry of Deliverance for Spirit, Soul, and Body.

    • victorreadings
      May 12, 2015

      Its not right for relegious people to come and degrade black people culture as the white man did . we shall not fall for it again.

      if the “church ” was real the people would not be seeking natural help from the real god . people put all their trust in churches and pastors and priests and pope and bishops in return their boys and girls are used and abused sexually, instead of counselling sexual abuse of members wives and husbands. the prison are now over flowing , the hospital don’t even have bed crime is at its worst . so mr pastor or rev if something not working for you would you keep it??????????? stop trying to rationalize religion which is based on a lie .

    • Lala B.
      February 19, 2016

      Great job on this Rev. Hill. Thank you.

  7. jboo
    December 11, 2012

    pray darling pray.. if his tht wicked god will make u get over hm bt remember god helps those whom help thmselve so u ave to be WILLING to live the bastard

  8. DA Girl
    October 3, 2012

    :-D thanks for the laughs guys i enjoyed them all.

  9. femme dominique
    October 2, 2012

    i believe the term you are looking for is GWOPWELL! ain no obeah in it sweety… u n ur friend is 2 papishow! obeah wat? strupes… nonsense! my girl get a new man n get over it… oh shait man! lool

    • Confused
      November 11, 2012

      or mabe a tabanka

  10. tinz
    September 29, 2012

    blose she like so…d slap wasnt hot enough…

  11. mac
    September 12, 2012

    There is no such thing as obeah its an ego thing, all you need is a man that will work you good and you will forget him , I am coming to Dominica soon, one night with me, and not even his name or picture you will recognise, me you will say that obeah yopu

    • sue
      September 20, 2012

      lmao..good one

    • is me self
      October 24, 2012

      i convinced that we domni chen are THE funniest ppl on earth rotflmao

  12. Anonymous
    September 12, 2012

    Pupa Ghad Nager stupid wee, Listen girl we are in 2012 no one can obeah you, not now, not ever (AND ANYONE OF YOU WHO BELIEVES I AM TALKING RUBBISH, AND YOU KNOW A OBEAH MAN, TELL HIM I SAY HE IS A FAKE, JUST TAKING PEOPLE MONE ON FALSE PRETENMCE TELL HIM OBEAH ME) He DONT KNOW WHAT BUSH TO TAKE WIPE THEIR AR.. and that is an insult enought to make him do something to me ) Girl its an ego thing, the man hit you in public and made you shame, you go back to him, so you saying is obeah, is shame, and you using obeah as an ego defence, many people do that when they cant explain their actions,NO ONE CAN FOURCE YOU TO LOVE THEM, NO ONE CAN TAKE YOUR CLOTHES AND GIVE YOU BOO BOO, NO ONE CAN KILL YOU, WITHOUT GIVING YOU SOMETHING IN FOOD, OR TOUCHING YOU,DONT WASTE YOUR MONEY ON OBEAH MAN, GET A NICE MAN WHO CAN GIVE YOU SOME GOOD LOVING AND YOU WILL SOON FORGET THIS MAN,Better still i coming to Dominica soon one night with me and i promice you, when you hear his name mention or see his pictur,e you will ask who is that.

    • .....
      October 1, 2012

      You must not know waht evil lies in the world so unbeknownst to the innocent… obeah is rel… but obeah cannot counteract it.. only prayers and faith in The SAVIOUR CAN SAVE

    September 11, 2012

    What did the face say to the hand? SLAP SLAP!! You never said what you did to make the very nice, has a very good education and a good job. A very decent man PIMP SLAP you in front of your friends. The obeah you have on you is a PIMP SLAP, your body recovered from the SLAP but your mind still can’t believe you got PIMP SLAP. Once you get SLAP by a pimp another Pimp has to SLAP you to unlock the pimp juice, basically you need another SLAP to wake you up from your foolishness. SLAP! fyi his pimp game is so strong you still calling him your boyfriend lol. Pimpinn

    • sue
      September 20, 2012

      these ish funny mhen

    • M
      September 25, 2012

      Is true i didn’t even notice she still calling him her boyfriend

    • King
      October 9, 2012

      pimpin pimpin hey pimp juice that’s some real s!i% right there

    • Madman
      March 2, 2013

      Let’s say the pimp’s prayer. lmaooooooooo

  14. bouse
    September 10, 2012

    y Dominicans have hatians come to Dominica and take their money with no results ……..when it have DOMINICANS right here in dominica that is authentic 100000 percent in the arts both black and white. come on Dominicans time to trust your own and believe in your own people.ANY dominican that tell you they do not do obea or voodoo believe me, as the bible says that DOMINICAN IS A LIAR. they can profess christianity Dominicans Love the arts and its natural nothing wrong with that because thats our culture and our life . The sensay costume is actually spirit. If placed on a stand and you do the ritual it does wonders and even connect you the the outer universe( UFo). people get to understand your worth. Contradict my statement now! I talk the truth and the truth shall set me free.
    ps………….all of all you that saying go to God!!!! when all you have all you problem and issues all you do not face the church becuase them pastors well need help all you go to the same obea man so stop pointing fingers or hush up.

  15. Anonymous
    September 7, 2012

    Girl just crush some garlic…put under your pillow…under your bed…in your car…all over the house…boil it drink it, bath with it…when ever you see him dash him with some…(if you BELIEVE that garlic will work.. it will.. cause that is all in your mind)….or better yet take a ZANDOLIE deep it in hot water three times..put a pinch salt and drink it…that might work too…bonne chance..SOT..

    • mac
      September 12, 2012

      Go in the grave yard, walk backwards, pick up a handful of durt pick it up with your right hand, throw it over your left sholder, curse his mother three times turn around and walk out, don’t look back till you turn a corner, and when you see him next time make a cross with your indes fingers keep looking straight, and his right foot will turn into a snake

      • .....
        October 1, 2012

        NOT LITTLE

    • Marlpardee
      April 15, 2013

      Haha u know obeah man

  16. Really? Seriously?
    September 6, 2012

    You usually don’t know when you’re charmed. The fact that you are aware, means that you are infatuated with him. From you’re description of him, you can do better. Pray, stand tall, move on.

  17. copy
    September 6, 2012

    so to speak you dont have the willpower
    get the willingness in you and the power of the most high GOD at this time dont fight fire with fire

  18. concerned
    September 6, 2012

    so he worked obeah on you, now you want to work obeah on him?!?….hmmmmm Well i guess that would make things even. Eye for eye they say. smh

  19. Anonymous
    September 5, 2012

    hello, what for u to do,is go by astaphan buy 10 years of cloths and put bells at the end, and when u see him passing just start shaking that skirt for him. He will say u crazy, and he must leave u alone.

  20. Anonymous
    September 5, 2012 c’est gopwell… sa pas obeah tal tal tal!
    i understand it not easy eh…but seriously? obeah?

  21. stupes
    September 5, 2012

    You thing your boyfriend work obeah on you and by obeah man you going?? Woman ou malad!!

    I more think is obeah you yourself going to put on him and you exposing your own self to evil with your stupidity!!!!!!!!!

    You lovesick! Wake up, i’m sure he don’t deserve all that love you giving him! Nonesence story!!

  22. Think About It
    September 5, 2012

    Just when you think you’ve heard and seen it all here comes another crazy and paranoid person.

    • sweet
      September 6, 2012

      lol lol lol i must laugh that comment here made me laugh hard, because i just said the very same thing.

  23. u fraid? lol
    September 5, 2012

    I cannot even give my comment because all the other comments just have me rolling in a fit of laffter!!! Look jokes! **wiping tears** hahahahahaha

  24. Citizen
    September 5, 2012

    Many of u commenting are women and all you too bad.

    If is all you man that sick of a woman so and refuse to marry after house and children all you would say is shamay.
    Or if you want somebody else man and he not taking you on, you would say she have him dotish. so don’t be bias.

    • TRIXXI
      September 14, 2012

      i agree full tym set of stupid women

  25. alas
    September 5, 2012

    hold strong my girl.sometimes is his other woman that working d obeah on you.but god is in control.just not go back by that obeah man because sometimes is that same obeah man that working on you for him.i know what you talking about.b strong

  26. saying
    September 5, 2012

    girl this is plain and simple. u are head over heels in love with this guy.cant stop thinking about him?dreaming about him?going to vayay his facebook pics?yep.u are madly in love with him. however this is quite sad. him slapping u infront of your friends?this can b good now nor later. the best thing to do is leave mr alone.its gonna be tough but time and prayer heals all wounds.not no obeah man.

    • saying
      September 5, 2012

      *can’t (this can’t b good now nor later)

  27. JAH
    September 5, 2012

    I’m going to get a lot of dislikes and that’s ok cause we are all entitled to our own opinions. It’s about time the men turn the tables…you’ll (girls) have been doing it for far too long…how does it feel now?

    • Ebeh
      September 6, 2012

      lmao….too funny.

  28. Shameless
    September 5, 2012


    Can someone pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeee get TINY back on her medication? :twisted:

    Assertive, NOT agressive!

  29. joseph
    September 5, 2012

    i am a single man who live a loom in the village of cane field in my own house and is looking for girl friend to be my friend if you are interesting give me you number so i cod comtat you

  30. joseph
    September 5, 2012

    i am a single man who live a loom in the village of cane field in my own house and is looking for girl friend to be my friend if you are interesting give me you number so i cod contat you

  31. SHAME
    September 5, 2012


    • jAda
      September 5, 2012

      tell me about it! My mother put blight on me and now i lost my Job! But God is good!

    • mizztease
      July 14, 2015

      Well its unbelievable but I believe, because my ex mother in law did nasty evil things to me when I was pregnant. She tried to kill my unborn child and to kill me. How evil is that? Then she’s doing such things to keep her son under her control. So right now my whole life seem to fall apart because of her. My baby’s daddy don’t even want to see me and his child, but u know what; God is great. I believe truly in him and I am strong. Good always overcomes evil.

  32. Freethinker
    September 4, 2012

    Can any of the commenters on here saying obeah is real prove it in a way that can make skeptics agree with them? You can’t just say you had a strange experience one day (which can likely be explained in a simpler, non-magical way) and then leave it at that. I don’t care how many obeah men and women go around the place–that doesn’t mean they are practicing anything real. As for this letter–I hope this is a bad joke.

    Believing in something without good evidence may be good enough for you, but it isn’t for me.

    • JAH
      September 5, 2012

      Honey where there is good there is evil…Have you seen God? Do you know what he looks like? Don’t tell me you don’t think God is real. Some people believe Obeah is real just like some people practice voodoo as a religion. You have your beliefs they have theirs. Let’s just agree to disagree and respect each other’s beliefs and faiths.

      • Freethinker
        September 5, 2012

        No, I don’t think God is real. There, I told you.

    • Anonymous
      September 5, 2012

      who cares if you believe? Really! :mrgreen:

      • March 27, 2013

        Freethinker doesn’t think God is real. He’s wrong! I was talking to God this morning! And yes, He does speak to me. I’ve also met Him. For many years now I’ve been introducing perople around the world to Him. You say it’s all in my imagination? That’s strange! Because I’ve seen God change so many lives. Alcoholics and drug addicts have been made clean and free. Prostitutes have been made virtuous again. Thieves have been made honest. This is all because Jesus Christ died for for sins and rose again the third day! Check it out in 1 Corinthians 15:3-4. The benefits of His death and resurrection are available absolutely free to all those who believe in Him (trust Him), and receive Him as their pesonal Saviour according to Acts 16:31, Romans 5:1, St. John 1:12, and Revelation 3:20! It all hinges on the fact that He DID rise from the dead which PROVES God accepted the sacrifice of Hi death as payment in full for our salvation. You have trouble believing Jesus Christ rose? Let me help you. (I’m an evangelist and that’s what I do.) Go to my website and click onto SERMONS. Listen to my sermon MANY INFALLIBLE PROOFS. I will share with you the evidence that He rose – yes, literally and bodily – from the dead! I will actually give you the names of not one but several lawyers who have said that the evidence for the resurrection of Jesus Christ would stand up in modern court of law! One of these lawyers was NOT a Christian when he began to research the resurrection story. What he found converted him to Biblical Christianity! Warning: The evidence in this sermon has been known to radically change lives. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

    • boom
      September 16, 2012

      i don’t like atheist…..

  33. reach out
    September 4, 2012

    yep i kn it have some wicked people in this world but girl read your psalms and pray and i do hope that obeah man name is not that lying haitian man name nicky from canefield that taking people money to build his big house and shop saying the spirit say ;lol

    • Marlpardee
      April 15, 2013

      Do how u know that? Well look kicks. Butbu hsitian occupying da so nah. U c god wrath fall on haiti now look problem in da. Jesus is it .’pray pray pray.

  34. Opinionated
    September 4, 2012

    Obeah is very real, what this girl must do is to leave this fornicating relationship, fast and pray to the Most High.

    • September 9, 2014

      You are absolutely right. :-|

      When we have sins in our lives especially fornication it draws demons and evil spirits to us. 8-O

      Pornography, alcohol, and drugs also draw evil spirit to us. These things open our minds for demonic influences and even demon :oops: possession. They make it possible for obeah and voodoo workers to bring harm :cry: upon us. But if we are Christians trusting in the blood of Jesus Christ for our salvation, and we are reading the Word of God and praying, keeping our lives clean and free from sin, the devil can do us no harm. :-x No obeah worker nor witchdoctor in the world can harm us. :-P

      The only power obeah has over you is the power you give it!

      Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. 8) International Deliverance Evangelist.

  35. Dominicanpearl2
    September 4, 2012

    Put God first and forget the obeah man. God is stronger than any obeah. You have a broken heart “gros poile”. It will be a while before you forget him but as they say, time will heal all wounds. This too shall pass.

  36. Anonymous
    September 4, 2012

    Obeah is real now girl but this is not an Obeah issue. this is a you need to get over his pipe issue then you will be fine. find a new mister interesting and you will see how quick your ex will stay out of your dreams.

  37. (.) (.)
    September 4, 2012

    Maybe is you read your psalms daily and ask God to help you deal with such situation instead of going to obeah man he will go away. God said “be patient my child and things will go your way”.

  38. Lovebug
    September 4, 2012

    Girlfriend stop wasting your little money cause you may need it later as far as I can see you a suffering from a ‘go pwell’

    September 4, 2012

    “”You need someone who loves you, treats you right and doesn’t have to slap you in the presence of your friends””

    • JAH
      September 5, 2012


      • Anonymous
        February 18, 2013

        can someone work obeah an u af real

    • Papa Dom
      September 6, 2012

      LoL, I was thinking de same fing wi. Is Bella saying that it is ok for her to be slapped in private? I also get the feeling that if this story is true, this girl must have been abused all the time but she is only talking because it took place in the public.

    • Marlpardee
      April 15, 2013


  40. KoKo Naughts
    September 4, 2012

    Ok, fings I know about… Take his left shoe, make some “glo sho”, (use white sugar not brown, because de devil is a white man) pour it in the shoe and drink it. Make de sign of de cross in reverse. By the way use the dress shoe because the Nike doesn’t hold water well. Bap! U cure!

    • syborg55
      September 4, 2012

      Yeah Right!!!

    • Opinionated
      September 4, 2012

      Absolute rubbish!

    • me
      September 4, 2012

      lol lol lol

    • beholder
      September 5, 2012

      The devil is not a man and has no color you ever saw.

    • High speed
      September 5, 2012

      oh my……. my belly hurts! u people are really funny.. u made my day.

      • Marlpardee
        April 15, 2013

        I cannot stop laughing…. :lol: :lol:

    • syborg55
      September 5, 2012

      Ehbeh Weh, KoKo Naughts, you have jokes…I see you’ve met the Devil, you know he’s a white man…I really thought our people had gotten rid of all that cock and bull superstitions. you people need to pray and believe in God.

    • tutunee
      September 5, 2012


    • Madman
      March 2, 2013

      man you have me dying laughing ha hahahahahahahha :lol:

  41. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    ok i get the was o top of the fridge the entire time…i cant remember putting it there….do people below the age of $0 suffer from Alzheimer?

    maybe its the blows i get when i was a kid that give me dementia

  42. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    people …is there something wrong with the thumbs up and thumb down button on my earlier posts?….read it please…you know i always have to educate you people…..please scroll down to the first 5 comments

  43. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    here is my problem…i think there is an evils around me moving around my belongings…it TEMPTING ME TO GET ANGRY so i would curse…though i don’t use the f word………….i just put down a comb and i cant find it……
    this thing happens all the time……

    where is that comb….i just stepped in the bathroom in-front of the mirror and back…..where is that frigging comb………..that devil….

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      i still cant find my comb

      • Francis Chicago
        September 4, 2012

        Tiny)An unjust man is an abomination to the righteous, and he who is upright in the way is an abomination to the wicked.

      • grin
        September 4, 2012

        :lol: your hair too damn hard, that is why your comb hiding

      • Give
        September 5, 2012

        I love you Tiny!

    • tie toe
      September 6, 2012

      lol.tiny .i laughed @that one

  44. speaking logic
    September 4, 2012

    Get on with your life…time will heal,,go out with your friends and socialise you never know you might meet a really nice man…

  45. Liberal
    September 4, 2012

    The only obeah he worked on you is what you believe in.

  46. trolol
    September 4, 2012

    GIRL HUMBLE YOUR SELF (BIG SLAP) *POOOWWWW* all your friends probably watch all u like 8-O 8-O 8-O

  47. September 4, 2012

    Most people believe that “slavery” is doing hard work for those who are more advantaged than themselves, and receiving next to no rewards for their hard word, but that is not so at all. No reward of this world, can be greater than the reward that is piled up for us in Paradise.

    For the most gruesome form of “slavery” is the form that keeps the mind of a person in captivity–but that person is not aware of that fact–perhaps until it is almost too late.

    In the case of “Baffled” it is the product in her mind that her boyfriend played “obeah” on her. The more she continues to accept that idea, in her mind, as truth the longer she will remain a slave of that idea–in self captive through the thoughts of the mind; there are so many different ways this happens to us.

    Worst than that is, her friends are telling her: “yes it is obeah” and so, she is embracing that idea as the reason, she is till wrapped in the essence of that man–that is not “Love” either; it is a forceful case of human affection.

    We have to learn to speak against the negatives seeds which are sowed on our minds, the only way we can avoid the production of bad fruits.

    Now that “Baffled” has decided to visit an obeah man for healing, the worst is yet to happen, for healing comes by faith, and this faith is our trust and obedience to God’s commands, as He works in us to save our lives–both physically and spiritually.

  48. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    Francis Chicago…did you have an arranged marriage?…. was your bride chosen for you………….did you arrange your kids marriage?

    back to the old Jewish days when Mary was engaged to Jesus…an arrangement from her parents….

    well go live in the past ….this is 2012….we no longer stone homosexuals and fornicators and adulteresses to death

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      before the marriage of Mary and Joseph they were engaged…so they were boyfriend and girlfriend….and they did not have sex……but they had no say in choosing their spouse….

      one day you are single and the next day you are engaged…ridiculous……..and these arranged marriages have less divorce rate… know why….either the women are afraid to leave the relationship because she will be a dishonor to her family…….

      or they make the marriage work because there is no love involved…..they are in he marriage because of convenience….if you are not emotionally in love with a person….it is hard to expect much from that individual….you simply go with the flow …you do not expect him to listen an be mad at him when he don’t listen as a husband should….hey give him sex and he take care of me and my kids financially…

      • Francis Chicago
        September 4, 2012

        Tiny you need some bible knowledge understanding wisdom I feel sorry for your kids take some advise from Lizavier4Jesus.

      • September 5, 2012

        @Francis Chicago

        I thank you for the Spiritual build-up. I want you to know that you do not do that by your own wisdom–it the wisdom of Holy Spirit prompting you to declare that assurance to me, that He is doing His work through me–just join with me and to give Him the glory.

        I aay this to all you who accept my posts with a thumbs up–know that the work God does through me is on your behalf as well.

        God knows who you are–even if I don’t, so be sure that you are blessed, because you know His words by your faith. Continuous blessings to all of you, in the name of Jesus Christ! Amen!

  49. tellItAsItIs
    September 4, 2012

    foolish foolish girl; why is it that instead of scientifically looking for answers we turn to magic for answers. There is no such thing as obeah. It is something that the weak and coward use as an explanation to avoid fighting situations. You are just still in love and have a go pwell. Give it time. I promise you time heals. Your pain will ease but please please dont go back to him. You will only be undoing your good work. And stop throwing money away. oh and bella; good advice

  50. syborg55
    September 4, 2012

    Bella, Bella, I am very proud of you…That was excellent advice on your part, just one little thing, you said she should find another man, in which I agree,but you also said she should do so because he slapped her in public. MAN, no man have the right to slap any woman in public or anywhere for that matter. This story made my day, I am typing, but still laughing. How can anybody in this day and age believe in OBI-AH, if these so called Obeah people could work this sort of nonsense, don’t you think that they would be rich, THEY ARE CON MEN AND CON WOMEN…RIP OFF ARTIST. That young lady simply needs some time and some very good friends around her, nothing in this world is free, I believe you’re paying the price for one of the most wonderful things in life, LOVE, it can even drive you to commit mass MURDER, He isn’t worth your love darling,DUMP THE BUM.

  51. print
    September 4, 2012

    Lol…sounds like this girl from Massacre…u think u would run man all ur life ? haha

  52. Francis Chicago
    September 4, 2012

    I don’t like the boy friend girl friend thing.Now the works of the flesh are fornication selfish ambitions dissention, drunkenness envy my sister this is not the fruit of the spirit of love.

    • justsaying
      September 5, 2012

      I hope I am not misinterpreting the first part of your statement. But there is nothing wrong with the boyfriend/girlfriend thing. Without the boyfriend/girlfriend stage in a relationship how are two people supposed to get to know each other and find out if they are compatible before they decide to get married? If you are against fornication then that is one thing. But being against the boyfriend/girlfriend thing as you put it is something else.

      • Francis Chicago
        September 5, 2012

        I hate the words boyfriend and girlfriend, therefore I think its good to be engage, because you know you’re getting married soon.

    • jus4one
      September 5, 2012

      Various acts of sexual immorality, especially being a harlot or whore – definition of fornication

    • SAY
      September 6, 2012

      So you just gonna meet somebody and get engaged because you know you will marry them? smh There is such a thing as courtship.

  53. Tri-State Beauty
    September 4, 2012

    Ok that one take the cake! No honey he doh “charmay” you, you are still in love with him and can’t let go just yet emotionally. A perfect normal human reaction from a broken heart. While I believe there are other forces of energy in the universe I think this is just a situation of your heart not ready to let go.

    The money you’re wasting on obeah man go shoe shopping, take yourself to lunch, buy a new wardrobe, get a massage. Indulge yourself in you and find a hobby. Matters of the heart are complicated so don’t beat yourself up, just give yourself time, and don’t make contact with him. The reminders get rid off.

    • Admirer
      September 5, 2012

      I know I would find you here. Always on point and making great sense. I leave a message for you under the Labour Day section. I missed your warm presence :-P

  54. topi
    September 4, 2012

    I think you’ve been drinking too much cold water

  55. Listen up tan
    September 4, 2012

    I tell u lady Obeah is real but God has power to destroy all evil in ur life. But in this case I dont think it’s Obeah. Take some time and try to figure out why u r so attracted to an abusive man? U cannot change him. Leave in alone. Past history etc all affects our choice of mates. Only cowards and weak insecure men beat their women! He doesn’t deserve you, believe that. Take Time off fb for sure. Pray talk to a counselor and trusted minister of the gospel.

    • trolol
      September 4, 2012

      So why would god give people the power to make evil things magically happen to others, and not give people the power to make good happen to others? Education and basic understanding is key… People cannot turn into Cat and rooster, smh.

    • Jay
      September 22, 2013

      Why would god give people the power to make evil things happen to others, and not give the power to make good happen to others? In life, we tend to let things run it’s course when things are good. We don’t sit and chant about things when it’s going well. When we are wronged, hurt and devastated by someone wicked, we tend to believe in a power and give our energy to a power that will hurt or destroy them because of what they are doing or have done to us. The older folks in Jamaica who knows obeah, have seen it at work, can tell you, its real. Some will say its a mental thing and if you believe in it, it will happen. Some will say its BS. I know for a fact, there are people who can work magic and cripple you. This woman is still thinking about this man because she has low self-esteem and don’t think she can do better. And because of her low expectation in herself, she will continue to attract men who hurt her and stuck in the situation she is in. If she changes her mind about herself, treat herself right, do good things for herself; she will gain new insights, opportunities and a new lease on life. And probably get the man of her dreams. But obeah is real.

  56. hmmm
    September 4, 2012

    Apparently, Bella doesn’t seem to understand that the advice given shows a particular corner in which one stands in terms of beliefs! If you believe that “obeah” is superstition I do not want to know what you believe in, because it just tells me that whoever Bella is, does not believe in a higher spiritual being. Hence, the fact that she didn’t even mention that one should consider prayer.

    • beholder
      September 5, 2012

      Indeed prayer will help above all things. Each being is responsible for the condition they find themselves in. And this man is a mirror in which this young woman can see how she sees herself. Is she a victim? Or is she a free soul? Obeah only has the power she allows it to have over her. God is all powerful. She should put her trust in him.

    • Rev. Donald Hilla
      February 26, 2013

      Hmmm: You show a lot of insight here. There is much superstition in obeah but it is not only superstition. Most – if not all – obeah workers practice fraud. But it is not all fraud. The same can be said of voodoo workers. There are those (although I believe they are a small percentage) who have given the devil enough of themselves to literally buy into his power. They may still practice fraud. Some will actually MAKE their curses happen. This is the work of human hands NOT the work of spirits. But there are times when demons (evil spirits) work with them and make things happen in their practice. It is dangerous to have any dealings with obeah workers. God does not want us to go to the dark side for help. People have experienced mental oppression, addiction, compulsive behaviour, perversion,and bad things in their families after dealing with occult workers. God does not want people going to the devil for help. He is a jealous God! He said, “Thou shalt have no other gods before me.” You mentioned prayer. YES! Prayer to God is the answer to our needs. Prayer must be in the name of His beloved Son, our Lord Jesus Christ! Before we can pray effectively we must be in a right relationship with God. This means we must believe the gospel “…how that Christ died for our sins according to the scriptures; And that he was buried, and that he rose again the third day according to the scriptures.” (1 Corinthians 15:3-4) and receive Christ as our personal Saviour. The Bible says “…as many as received him, to them gave he power to become the children of God.” (John 1:12) We do this confessing to God that we are sinners and inviting Christ to come into our heart and be our Saviour. He Himself promised “Behold, I stand at the door, and knock: if any man hear my voice, and open the door, I will come in to him, and wll dine with him, and he with me.” (Revelation 3:20) When we do this and BELIEVE that God did what He promised He would do we are born again – born into the family of God! At that moment we become a son or a daughter of God. We no longer have to fear the devil. No obeah – no voodoo – worker has any power over us. The Bible says God “…has delivered us from the power of darkness, and translated us into the kingdom of his dear Son.” (Colossians 1:13) True Christians (born again people) do not fear the devil. In fact, the devil fears us! Why? Because God tells us, “… Resist the devil and he shall flee from you.” (James 4:7) The Lord Jesus said, “And these signs shall follow them that believe; in my name shall they cast out demons…” (Mark 16:17) This is the gospel the world needs to hear. It will deliver people from all their bondages, fears, and oppressions. Jesus said, “AND YE SHALL KNOW THE TRUTH, AND THE TRUTH SHALL MAKE YOU FREE.” John 8:32) Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

      • Jay
        September 22, 2013

        In the past, we used to believe in many Gods. Then we started to believe in Monothesiem; the belief in one God. When we needed rain, sun, our harvest to reap, all types of things done, we prayed to that God to grant us what we wanted. The Indians, Africans, Egyptians, etc. did this. This can be researched, if you want to know the truth. Some people will say that this religion, giving one’s power to God, takes away the power from self. For we are Gods, tricked and reduced because of our brain washed mindset. Rules and books are written that cut off – take the power from human beings, warps the mind and binds us to idiot rituals, beliefs and ideas. Some of us think that’s what your religion does pastor. Not everyone is stupid or believes in your religion.

  57. Anonymous
    September 4, 2012

    But I just feel as if I am not on the right track.

    You have said it. Obeah man does not have the answer, Look to Jesus without him you will be miserable and lost.

  58. FAIRNESS!!
    September 4, 2012


  59. El Presidente
    September 4, 2012

    Sista, please send me a picture of your sweeet self and I will set up an appointment with you.

    At the end of our appointment, you will forget about this obeah loving dude and you will send it back on him.

    Please send me the pix ok baby.

  60. Dantiguandagger
    September 4, 2012

    Gyal a some gud tool u want, come wadadli

  61. Conscience
    September 4, 2012

    It is not good to believe everything is evil but there is evil. I was in a similar situation like this woman. I was dating this guy for years. He too was very decent man, good job etc. One day he slapped me in the presence of his mother. I could have retaliated but I realize that it could have escalated. There I then I told myself that this is a relationship that I needed to end. Thank God no regrets since I am happy in another relationship.

  62. fly on the wall
    September 4, 2012

    Well if you dwell on that belief that is when he will stay on your mind! Everyone goes through this when they leave a relationship where they were really into the’s called gwo pwell and it will pass with time. Find new friends, pray and take a break from man for a while. As the that obeah thing please emancipate yourself from mental slavery!

  63. Cookie
    September 4, 2012

    Very good advise Bella. I hope she listen to you. Too often people see their obsession and weakness as obiah but we are the ones who hold ourselves hostage by believing its some evil fault.

  64. Tiger
    September 4, 2012

    I think you are seeing the wrong obeah man. Call me up and I will give you a better price and better results. I think you need an intervention by the best obeah man in Dominica.

  65. doc
    September 4, 2012

    hahaha..look jokes eh boy…allu blaming obeah for allu own

  66. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    and please no comment on her about me posting too much…please give up..I’m in that posting mood

  67. mouth of the south
    September 4, 2012

    HHHMMM…. a woman have an appointment with me…. if she don’t show up… well Bella… we have a date…. LOOK FOR ME EH!!! :lol:

  68. da
    September 4, 2012


  69. Kicks
    September 4, 2012

    :lol: You believe in Obeah Man, well I have a bridge down there I want to sell it for you, girl. :lol: :lol:

  70. me
    September 4, 2012

    Sot sa! obeah what? leave the looser alone, maybe you love him but time is a healer, you will forget him…. doh go by no obeah man, your money they eating, pray instead

  71. tie toe
    September 4, 2012

    you play obeah on him

  72. Ruthine
    September 4, 2012

    If it was really obeah last person u would have thought of is a obeah man

  73. September 4, 2012

    there is nothing obeah this a minf thing onc

  74. September 4, 2012

    Wats a ting. I fine people to wicked. Ahah. Oheah that’s so funny. Never heard of it. Lol. :lol: :) :)

  75. T
    September 4, 2012

    No Obeah. The blows you like!

  76. trute
    September 4, 2012


  77. pink
    September 4, 2012

    good answer

  78. Awa wi
    September 4, 2012

    Darling dont even think of going back to him if he puts his hands on you.He will say sorry and very soon he will find himself doing it again.If he loved you he would hit you infront anybody or hit you at all.

    And about that Obeah man your seeing…You should stop right away because its a doorway for demons into your body.Just pray and God will take care of your situation hun.

  79. AHA
    September 4, 2012

    go church and pray. good conquers evil in every way.

  80. Tele Tobies
    September 4, 2012

    I doe want to laugh, but the title really got me dying here lmao :-P .. Evil do exist though. :-|

  81. JC
    September 4, 2012

    why u giving Obeah man ur money, they will just ask you questions and use them back to make u feel like they know stuff about you and your b/f . Get on ur knees woman.

  82. Shameless
    September 4, 2012

    No one worked obeah on you. Its all in your mind because he told you previously you can never leave him…we call that psychology. Them Obeah man will only eat your money and just maybe use you in the process. Be careful because they may just want to have sex with you under the guise of “cleansing” you.

    Your mind is playing games with you because in your heart you love this guy and he knows it. However, if a man has the audacity to slap you then it is time to walk. In future, chop his hand off so it will be a reminder to all that violence against women is wrong, wrong, wrong! Leave that worthless guy where he is and move on before you start feeling more sorry for yourself. There is someone out there for you that will love you for who you are and not beat up on you. Let him stay of FB because this apparently his hunting grounds for another sucker! Good luck..

    Assertive, NOT Agressive!

  83. anonymous
    September 4, 2012

    I believe you. I had a similar experience in my teens, except that it was a friend trying to ‘charmay’ me to eventually get involved. i didnt know and told no one about it but i found it oddly ‘sick’ and gave back the ‘friendship’ ring he gave me.

    Get rid of any ring, jewelry, clothing etc he gave you. Take actions like deleting/blocking him from facebook, burn his pics etc. If you want to leave him find the will to do these things. dont give them back to him, destroy them, and of course, pray- i dont believe in obeah man.

  84. Jo
    September 4, 2012

    U tink it’s obeah? Then your case is indeed hopeless.

  85. goodjobbella
    September 4, 2012

    Baffled, its love that got you so not obeah, the only way you can get him out of your mind is by finding someone else, go out, date occupy your mind and eventually you will forget about him , no one deserves to be beaten… Love doesn’t hurt…move on its only gonna get worst, all the best

  86. Pearl From Wesley
    September 4, 2012

    u is a dam ass girl so becuz u always thinking and talking about a man and cant get him of ur mind is obeah girl shut ur retarded ass up u from marigot an

  87. TRUTH
    September 4, 2012

    Girl, turn to God and give him your all, read your bible and pray everyday for God’s guidance and protection. Ask your love ones and church members to pray for you, if you have not been to church please find one and go there and worship. Put God first and everything will fall in line. Leave that guy alone it was not meant to be. Good luck……..

    • Woodford hill girl
      September 4, 2012

      Obeah fobia, ypu allow your heary to be held captive by this anuser,I think his education and good job got you destroy all that reminds you of him and move on,cancel your Obeah appts,you’ll be the Obeah mans slave

  88. tiny
    September 4, 2012

    i saw a white woman from the US who said she went to Haiti to get back her boyfriend….she described it in detail…

    she was warned that it could be dangerous because the person might become obsessed with the other individual

    i think she said the guy left his fiance to be with her …and he dept calling her often like he was becoming obsessed with her…………

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      so people actually do that sort of thing……on the other hand it may be low self esteem that let individual remain in certain relationships and even commit suicide because of a broken relationship……they identify themselves as a girlfriend of the person or a boyfriend of a person….they do not have their own identity apart from the individual

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      oops..he began calling her very often unlike in their past relationship…..

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      correction again…i saw on youtube

    • tiny
      September 4, 2012

      ok for the simple minded…her ex boyfriend whom she wanted back….was engaged and living with another woman…..shortly after she came from haiti her ex boyfreind and her got back togeth

      • tiny
        September 4, 2012

        ok the post above got posted too fast by accident…..but she started getting scared because he started acting like he was obsessed with her and he did not act that way before….

        she was warned that it could lead to murder because of this obsession

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