My fiancé and I have been together a year next month on the 1st. My problem is we had a huge fight over something I posted on Facebook about our relationship, which led his friends laughing at him and making him feel embarrassed.
So he blocked me on Facebook and changed his password and his phone password. At first he didn’t want to give me his phone password but he finally did. A day or so passed and I asked him again for his Facebook password, he said no because he has no privacy and he blocked me because he didn’t want to see any of my post.
So when he was asleep I went through his phone and check his text messages, Facebook, call list etc. It hurt me so badly that out of everything he done to me, he had to go and block me. I’m like almost his wife and mother of his soon to be born son, why would he need to do that for? Is he cheating? Is he hiding something?
Even though it kills me so much and I want to keep asking him for the password, I let it go. I learned that if he does cheat and what so ever, it’s on his conscience.
I feel like I can’t be with someone that does that to me, it’s like I can’t trust him. I don’t know what to do or what to think.
Please help me, I am tired of crying and being hurt so badly. I told him to leave so many times because he said he is tired of us arguing and so on, but he never does leave. I don’t know why he says that and when I tell him to go he doesn’t.
Dear No Trust,
Recently I got an email from a reader with the same basic issue: Facebook passwords. I am going to tell you basically the same thing.
I don’t see the reason why you should be giving yourself such a headache over being blocked on Facebook. As a matter of fact, I don’t see why people are giving themselves such heartaches over Facebook.
Everyone should have some personal space and that is what your fiancé wants. No matter how much two people love one another, the two are entitled to their personal life.
Now, I do sense a huge issue of trust and insecurity here and for the sake of the relationship you need to take a look at that. Why did you go through his phone and check his messages? What is the source of this? Has he done anything to you in the past? Has he cheated?
I think you should look a the positive things in your relationship and stop losing sleep over being blocked on Facebook.
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