My friend is involved with a married man

Dear Bella: Let me ask you. I have this friend who is involved with a married man; he explained to her that he and the wife are not together for a while now, but he still lives at the house.

He is never at the home and he and that friend spends a lot of time together and he said he want to spend the rest of his life with her. He sleeps out etc. Do you think that this guy is for real.

Concerned friend

Dear Miss:

I am not sure why you choose to be concerned about your friend. There are some questions I would have hoped you would have answered in your request for advice: has the friend expressed any concern about the relationship? Does she love this man? Does she trust him?

From first impressions, having an affair with a married man is wrong. If he is doing that to his wife he can do it to your friend as well. It would be interesting to know why he and his wife are not seeing eye to eye. Makes no sense get involved now and regret later.

I think your friend should allow this man to fix his business at home first before sharing bed. Is he separated? Does his wife know about the affair? These are some of the things I would like to know.


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  1. Diva
    January 24, 2013

    NO. di man have his ting on di side and his woman at home. if he wanted to leave di wife, he would leave di wife.. how allu sot so nuh? jahhh!

  2. September 6, 2011

    Their is no fire if their no smoke,weather its you or your friend involve with this man you knew the man is married and are attracted to each other and you are fighting against your heart and want to screw.
    Going with a married man in Dominica is thing since Cristopher Columbus discovered Dominica and had his first screw with a carib on the island.Marriage is a civil contract to love each other till death,its not spiritual because you are human with flesh.The bible state what is flesh is flesh and what is spirit is spirit at the time of death you both go your own way.maybe one will end in hell if they dont have faith in the Lord to save them to have peace.
    God did not make any one perfect Gen 6.4 and repented,so what is the big deal if to people cheat to critisize like pastors that do the same and hypocrete priests who go with boys and tell you what this one did and
    but keep what they do as their secret.
    In as much as no one is perfect,if the man was happy with his wife he would not cheat on his wife,It is not the other woman who should care about the wife if she has a good time with the man she is free to go with who she fancy and hope she enjoy all who fancy her The bible state it is better to be single it is Moses idea a man like you an I who thaught it was better to be married to date their is much divorce as man cant keep their Word, an like to sin to make another not perfect like them.Perfection can only come through the Lord and Christ to create a Sprit in perfection in a body prepared for salvation by the WORD to be Holy Spritual. :) :-D :lol: :-| :cry: :-P :oops: :twisted:

  3. queenie
    May 23, 2011

    you sure is your friend or YOU that in the situation?!?! :oops:

  4. plz
    August 1, 2010

    If it good, eat it, when it gone sour throw it ass away. no worries, no headache. leave the divorse worry to the other lady.

  5. Rastababe88
    June 23, 2010

    U right wat goes around comes around but dont go accusin ppl of takin y'all husband when they ain't takin them

  6. Straight B
    February 5, 2010

    I dated a married man once, though we had to finish the relationship in the end. why? yes he had 3 kids, yes he still lived at their house (his wife leaves overseas going to school) and YES HE WAS NO LONGER WITH HIS WIFE ( infact the divorce finalised 2 months ago)…i am no longer with this man and to all dem ..mouth machine that have their input in what is not their business…if d man and his wife was together i doubt he would openly be with another woman right infront his wife face, another thing, i do agree her friend should end the relationship at least until he and his wife and legally divorced and he is living on his own. if he has kids trust me its goin to be hard to work that relaitonship because usually men of tht status have their continued way of life and its you who has to change to fit into their schedule, i am in another relationship right now and i can honestly say that married man is one of my best friends…MIND UR BUSINESS AND NOT UR FRIEND OWN, AND THE WAY U TYPE IT SOUND LIKE U ENT GOT NOTHING BETTER TO DO THAN BE JEALOUS OF WHAT YOU CANNOT HAVE!!

  7. January 17, 2010

    All i can say those women who are goin after people husbands, u all know it’s dam wrong..u all are putting curse on urselves and den u all say people do u all evil..u might enjoy the money, bling luxury wateva it may be, but it’s not gonna last..put y’all selves in the wife’s shoe..u wld never like someone to destroy ur family or relationship..
    women who engage themselves in these kinds of relationship are selfish and have very low self esteem..

  8. PEEPS
    January 16, 2010


  9. Anonymous
    January 15, 2010

    the woman life is hers she can do what the hell she wants. it would come to the same dam thing if it was her man cheating men can do it so can women. WHAT THE HELL TWO CAN PLAY THE GAME LIFE GOES ON MIND ALL U BUSSINESS!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  10. Muslim_Always
    January 15, 2010

    As I mentioned in the other article, until the shroud of hypocrisy is unveiled from the eyes of the Dominican people, there will be prosperity. The ratio of man to woman is usally 1:4 in our world, many women want stability, they want companionship and prefered ‘experienced’ men.

    Men are generally polygynous, live with it. I do not support cheating or having relationship back door, the issues need to be discussed at a national level. WAKE UP DUM IN A CAN!!!

  11. $uper$aver
    January 15, 2010

    CITIZEN i agree with you she is asking for herself…shame she shame the adulturous bitch the dominica women too like people husband but what they should know is the the married man always wake up at two am and go home to his wife..get your self a man that can go to bed with you and wake up with you the next morning..LEAVE PEOPLE HUSBAND ALONE AND STOP PUTTING TROUBLE IN PEOPLES MARRIAGE..Married men never leave their wives..SALOP SALOP SALOP

  12. citizen
    January 15, 2010

    the question is for herself she just ashame people will no who she is so dont blame it on your friend ask your question cause you was bold enough to put you with him why not be bold enough to ask the man and bella on your own behalf hahaha

  13. Well...
    January 15, 2010

    Women in relationships with married men should ask themselves if they would like someone else to do that to them. When they have a man they don’t want to share, but they have people’s husband. All I can say is what goes around comes around. My grandmother used to say that any woman who go after another woman’s husband bringing blight on herself.

    Women are their own worst enemies, and then we blaming men. It takes two to tango!

  14. attended the show
    January 15, 2010

    my dear ask your friend how does she feel being with a married. tell your friend to leave the married alone because its not going to benefit her at all. the man goes back home to his wife even if they are separated ( what does that say).

    this married man have no respect for his wife and as a young woman engage in a relationship/ not with the man i would tell him go be with your wife,,, treat her right and give her all the attention she needs.

    wives out there dont make those silly lil girls hold on to your man. the divorce is too high. you went to church/court, you took vows…. what happen to making things right. married couple are to eager to divorce and separate.

    husbands you have your wife stop searching for outside lovers,,,, if know that you are not ready for marriage let your better half know instead of being unhappy.

  15. contribution
    January 15, 2010

    Some other questions… how does this affect the man’s children with his wife? (I assume he has children with his wife). What kind of “relations” are there between the woman and the wife? How will this affect girl children especially? Does the man still put money into his home? Bottom line is that women should stay away from married men… not only because of so-called religious reasons, but because of SELF RESPECT and concern for the CHILDREN who are growing up CONFUSED in our society. Keep on the straight and narrow and all will be well at the end.

  16. hisperan
    January 15, 2010

    Girl instead for asking bella about if the man is lying or not why dont you tell your friend to LEAVE THE MARRIED MAN ALONG AND FIND HERSELF A SINGLE MAN?…you women have no shame and no morals and no selfesteem if you find the best thing to do is hooking up with a married man..SHAMELESS

  17. Karkabeff
    January 15, 2010

    Some people just cant mind their damn business

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