My husband wants a threesome

I have a small problem. It started like this, the other day my husband came home and I was watching TV. He told me he is interested in doing a ménage à trois and asked what I thought of the idea. Without thinking I said sure, why not.

Two days later he told me that things were “looking good” for the ménage à trois and he would give me more details soon. It was then I decided to go and look up the meaning of that term on the internet. Unknowingly, I had said ‘yes’ to a threesome because that is what ‘ménage à trois’ means.

After I learnt the true meaning of that term I told my husband I not into those kind of things. Now he is angry and is saying I am going back on my words.

Honestly Bella, I did not know. I was distracted by the TV and I simply said yes. Does that mean I am being dishonest as he is saying? I am a Christian, I don’t do these things.

Please help.

Concerned

Dear Concerned,

Apparently this was a genuine mistake on your part. It appears you never know what your husband was talking about as your were distracted by the TV.

Be honest and talk to him. Tell him how you feel about this situation and I am pretty sure he will understand.

But this brings out a larger issue. Men and women always go looking “for something else” when things get a bit boring at home. It appears the bedroom spark has gone down low and this could be the reason why you husband wants to explore other possibilities. So, work hard on re-igniting that spark and see how things work out.

Bella

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130 Comments

  1. Rev. Donald Hilla
    February 20, 2013

    Dear Concerned: Your case is not isolated. This type of bahaviour is more common than you might think. I hope by now you have worked your way through the problem. But because there are others out there in similar circumstances the issue should be addressed in a way that makes proper guidance available to all who are sincere enough to take it. It appears you are a respectable young woman who was caught off guard. Nobody can blame you for the proposition your husband has made. Once you realized the true nature of things you put the brakes on. This is to your credit. Now let’s go to your husband. What does this tell you about him? (a) He has no regard for what marriage is. It is a covenant relationship between one man and one woman to the exclusion of all others for as long as they both shall live. (b) He does not love you the way a man is suppose to love his wife. No man who loves his wife would ever share her with somebody else in the most intimate moments of married life. (c) Are you legally married to this man? If so you took marriage vows. For all practical purposes he has broken those vows. If he did not take his vows with the INTENTION of keeping them he lied at the wedding ceremony and those vows were taken under false pretences. Some church authorities would say this makes the marriage itself invalid. This is something you should discuss with your pastor if you are a church goer. If your husband will accept counselling and commit himself a true marriage well and good. Have your pastor pray over you and bless the relationship. But if your husband refuses to repent and take this step I can’t imagine any Christian blaming you for leaving him. I known the Bible says a woman is not to leave her husband. But in this situation he would be showing that he was not your husband and you did not have a true marriage. Also, if he DRIVES you out by this kind of behaviour it is not the same as you LEAVING him! Somebody needs to explain to this man – KINDLY but FIRMLY – what your options are. He should be given an opportunity to repent and dedicate himself to a true married life. (d) You have no guarrantee that he is not cheating on you now with another woman. Men like this sometimes bring a disease into the marriage. You have a right to separate yourself from such a risk unless he is willing to commit to a proper lifestyle and you are confident the matter is settled. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist. http://www.livinghopeministries.ca

  2. G-Man
    January 20, 2012

    is it a devils’s 3-way (2 guys) or 2 girls?? could be a game changer #just saying

  3. Disgusted!
    May 19, 2011

    If this man loved and respect you as his wife,he would not even think about a thing like that, much less to ask you to do it. this is so abominable!!!!. Fire burn!! lady my advice to you is to put Yahweh and his word first and he is totally against adultery!! Do not please your husband on this! Husband go repent!

  4. Anonymous
    April 21, 2011

    Ewwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwwww

  5. citezen
    April 20, 2011

    There is nothing wrong with having a threesome. Just make sure that it is someone of your choosing because you want to be comfortable.

  6. kool
    April 13, 2011

    which bloodclaat threesome.. gal a yuh husband dat…. put him nasty rass outta yuh house…. noo threesome my girl, no jose

  7. real recognize real
    March 14, 2011

    There are other ways to spice up your bedroom life without going to the extent of blatant adultry. be not deceived, God is not mocked, WHAT YOU SEW YOU WILLLLLLL REAP!!!!

    “freaky” is different from “nasty”. involving another person in your sex-life is grounds for real trouble and the beginning of the end of happy, trusting times for you. the mindset and culture of our caribbean people is not one that can easily do such things and not have trust shaken. we havfe been a God-fearing people for far too long to just be comfortable with such things, no matter how much we say we want to be ‘advanced and ope-minded’.

    stick with your priniciples and on Bella’s advice, spice up things in the bedroom. there are DVDs, books, and lots of internet advice (not porn) that can show you how, what and where to begin to rekindle the flame that will keep his heart and mind on you, not exploring other women “with” you.

    a word to the wise is sufficient

    • -
      June 22, 2011

      “WHAT YOU SEW YOU WILLLLLLL REAP!!!!”
      sew? or sow?

  8. just being me
    March 13, 2011

    You should just tell him it’s ok, but the third party should be a man of your own choosing. You would like to learn a few tricks if he is not contented with you. whether he agrees or not, tell him to go to hell with his ideas. Seriously speaking, you must ask him what gave him this idea of a threesome. whether or not you agree his answer is sincere, your job is to think back on the begining of your love life. If things are not as spicy as they were, then try to be more of a lover than a maid, that could help bring him back to sanity. Don’t forget to tell him the 3rd should be a man!!!

    • -
      June 22, 2011

      if she lives in South Carolina, Georgia or nearby, the 3rd will be a goat. they’re obsessed with goat sex in the south.

  9. MzTz
    March 12, 2011

    hmmmmph…. well don’t do it then, but… who knows… he might just have the three sum without u anywayz…… oh well….

  10. MissDanger
    March 12, 2011

    You, Him and His Brother (if he has one) lool. :-D

  11. mr CURIOUS
    March 11, 2011

    lol baby put on ur sexiest outfit and get ready 4 d party .lol but 1st tel him u want to try it wit one of his frenz i think u`ll now exactly which fren to pick dat wil jus blow his fuse sky high lol

    • Crackerjack
      May 4, 2011

      Words of wisdom from Mr. Curious. Mr C should consider becoming a professional advisor. LOL

  12. sweet pum pum
    March 11, 2011

    This is a matter of personal choice and if the parties in question feel comfortable, who is to judge them. The lady does not want the threesome, she does not know what a threesome is, all little school children know what it means…Don’t act so shocked Dominica is not in the dark ages. Threesome has been around for a long long time in Dominica and everywhere else. Some of you all in threesome, all kind of some and don’t even know it. How many people out there cheating on their spouses and partners what kind of “some” would you call that ? Please people don’t act so shocked and hypocrite, some of you all are so anxious to emulate the bigger countries all in the name of progress. It’s all good :lol:

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 12, 2011

      Well said….tell them again. It’s either they are still in the stone age or hypocrite. :lol: then again who knows what people did in the stone age? They walked naked all over the place

  13. Dominican
    March 11, 2011

    In my opinion: When some women gets married they forget about being a lover to their husband, they are cut up in the idea of being married and wearing a ring. We all talk about being a “Christian” and living in accordance to the rules of the bible” . Before they were married to be know as wife they were a girlfriend and would do what ever it takes to keep their boyfriend at the time interest in their relationship: their were no limits ( I am not saying she should do the three some ) but she have to go back to the days where, they were boyfriend and girl friend and do what she was doing them to keep her husband happy.

    • March 27, 2013

      Some truth in this. If people would do whatever they had to do to keep their boy friend or girl friend before they were married no wonder they think it is O.K. to do a threesome or whatever else they wish after they are married. I heard of a man who came home and found another man in bed with his wife. After he had thrown the visitor out his wife said to him, `You are the one who told me it was O.K. to have sex with somebody I was not married to.` Premarital sex is not a good foundation upon which to build a marriage. If parents want their children to get married, be happy, and stay together, they must teach them what the Bible says about sexual purity. We need parents, pastors, school teachers, counselors, and social workers to come aboard with us and spearhead a revolution of Biblical teaching and practice in the whole area of sexual behaviour. If some of them need to get their own acts together first then so be it! It is the only thing that will save western society from going the way of the ancient Greek and Roman Empires. Sincerely, Rev. Donald Hill. Pentecostal Evangelist.

  14. raw dominican
    March 11, 2011

    dont do it but he will get it else where do it hmmmm i dont no nah lady do what your mind tells u , u might enjoy it more than him eh

    • queenie
      May 22, 2011

      lol……………she will definitely like it more than him
      she will be looking for the partner next time

  15. JESUS IS LORD
    March 11, 2011

    lady don,t open up yourself for the devil to use you if he wants a 3some take him to court and give him his walking papers, at the end of the day aids, hepatitis, claps , herpes and the works they love company too, when he comes around again with his nonsense grab a hold of his 3some machine and make him understand what number is 3.

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 12, 2011

      You are so cold hearted. That’s the best advise you can offer to someone ? Why would you just come out and tell the woman to take her husband to court and give him walking papers? Aren’t you human? Humans make mistakes and no one is perfect. WE ALL HAVE SINNED , be it sexual, stealing, gossiping, being too conceited etc… ..all of these are sins. Advise the woman to talk with her husband and seek counselling. If every man/woman had to take his/her spouse to court and give them walking papers for something wrong not too many of us would be married today.PART OF THE Marriage vows….FOR BETTER OR WORST TILL DEATH DO US PART

  16. da real hhhmm
    March 11, 2011

    lady …. hope u no from da ur husband cheating on u … if u doe seein da well hmmm

    • MissDanger
      March 12, 2011

      not necessarily but yea that might be the case.

  17. row row
    March 11, 2011

    This is so sick! You all need Jesus, read your bible and pray

  18. Sweet Pea
    March 11, 2011

    hehehe…look lyrics! i just had to laugh when i see that one…well well well…
    it sounds like yur husband is looking for a bit of spice cause things are getting a tiny winny bit boring. Dont let the “christian” in you limit you. Its yur husband and you should go all out for him. NOT the menage a trois…no, no , no…i am talking about other things…hehe…(dress up in a skimpy outfit, whatever he likes, maid, police woman u name it. …YES i am talking to u christian lady! get a bottle of wine, put some music, do a little dance, (a sexi one eh madam) just do something that u have NEVER done before. spicing things up is the answer girl…let him forget about whoever else he wants, u can be the third chick in that menage a trois that hes looking for, just be different.
    Put in some SUGAR AND SPICE AND EVERYTHING NICE!

    oh ya..and also…u cannot do that menage ting… u are a christian lady…shocks man!

  19. Dr.Finger
    March 11, 2011

    Well we well hot in lovely Dominica papa. Hope you are not holding out on the man and therefore leaving him unsatisfied when you all do the workie-workie. Grown people make grown decisions so you and your hussy will have to discuss and come up with some kind of compromise. I wish you all the best in the process

  20. nervous rex
    March 11, 2011

    De wife should agree to a threesome only if the husband allow her to push a mopstick thru his “little window”

    • sweetness
      March 11, 2011

      mondieu pa fais moi ris,all u not easy,

  21. Charmer
    March 10, 2011

    Tell your husband someone invited you to a ‘menage-a-trois with his girfriend, and you are open to the idea. See how he reacts.

    • lol
      March 11, 2011

      nice one cuz as a man we like dem stupidness dere but we doh want our woman to do it double standard kinda vyz

  22. Crab
    March 10, 2011

    Mots I’m ashamed of u…what’s happening to u…where is the mots i love to hate

    • mouth of the south
      March 11, 2011

      i had to make an exception on dat one,,,, i love that u love to hate me but i hate the devil with a vengeance

      • MissDanger
        March 12, 2011

        lol i like dis guy ^^

  23. Muslim_Always
    March 10, 2011

    I’ll speak from an Islamic perspective. Madame, even in Islam where a man can have 4 wives maximum he cannot do threesomes with his wives. It is completely forbidden for a woman to expose her private to another strange woman.

    Secondly, the understanding of your marriage agreement intends that your bodies belong to each other ONLY. Thus, I suggest you communicate with your husband in a mature fashion. Ask him questions such as: When was the first time he started thinking about this idea? 2. What made him come up with this idea? In other words, ask him questions relating to these fantasies he has been having. Be open to his response, do not yell or argue but be mentally prepared for any response.

    If his answer is honest and you all can discuss those differences in a healthy manner, appreciate him for his honesty, share with him how you feel about it, come to an understand and pray sincerely to the Most High about it.

    Three some from your husband = honey may I commit adultery right before your very eyes? Do not disgrace yourself like that my sister in humanity.

  24. Dominican Man
    March 10, 2011

    Bring your husband,” The father, The son, And the holy God. Mindful i said the holy “God” read thru the lines.???????

  25. Fun
    March 10, 2011

    Girl go ahead and give your husband wat he wants. If you dont he’ll go get it elsewhere!! Spice up your sex life, if he asks for that you must be boring in bed so prove to him you’re not.

  26. ?????
    March 10, 2011

    You did not tell bella how your sex life is…Has it been fad? withour sell (salt),boring,dull,etc etc…I DO NOT RECOMMEND THE THREESOME, but some women are like a one routine all the time….You seem to be one of the no variety type…..SPICE UP THE SEX LIFE MAN….

  27. mete veye
    March 10, 2011

    wifey take my advice…a threesome doesn’t necessarily have to be you, your husband and another woman…it can be you, your husband and another man as well..if your husband is upset that you went back on your words it’s okay..tell him that you are in on the threesome..just tell him that you can’t wait to meet and have a taste of that other man he bringing home to you…see how he gonna feel now and see how fast he gonna change his mind about this threesome…yes your husband asked you if you are willing to do a threesome with him and you said yes..but what your husband fail to do is give you the details as to whom that threesome is going to be with…and because he wasn’t specific in his details you have the right demand whom you want…tell him you want a man in the threesome!

    • observing
      March 10, 2011

      why you had to steal my name? gosh man!

      • Sweet Pea
        March 11, 2011

        lol! i know right! of all the millions of names that out there they cant come up with their own!!!

        • MissDanger
          March 12, 2011

          i know for sure is not allu dat make name. :)

  28. Lexious
    March 10, 2011

    What should concern you is the fact that he said things are looking good to actually have the threesome….which means he already know and asked some other woman to have sex with her….and the feedback mustv’e been good.

    You should’ve waited to hear what details he have about it!!

  29. Freaky licky
    March 10, 2011

    You people are too damn closed minded …sex is sex once both parties agree..

  30. Pay attention
    March 10, 2011

    Why would you say yes to something even if your distracted? That’s just like some one just randomly starts speaking spanish and you say, “I don’t understand anything your saying, but i’ll do it.” To make it worst he is your husband not your son. >.>

  31. ANTICOM
    March 10, 2011

    :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D THE MAN SAID HE WANTS A MENAGE A TROIS BUT THE DEFINITION IS: Household for three; an arrangement where a married couple and a lover of one of them live together while sharing sexual relations WELL MY GIRL ASK FOR MENAGE A QUATRE , AND SEE IF HE WILL ASK YOU AGAIN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! LOL LOL LOL :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D :-D

    • Happy Dominican
      March 10, 2011

      love this response

    • ANTICOM 2
      March 10, 2011

      MENAGE A QUATRE…INTERESTING!!!LMAOOOOOOOOOOOO

    • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
      March 11, 2011

      I love this response too. It is said always think before you act/talk. If it were possible, she should have given it a good thought, even sleep on it as also the saying while thinking of an appropriate, funny and sarcastic response which would make him think too and quash this type of idea. See how fast he would change his ways.
      He has no respect for her and as his wife, does not regard her in high esteem. I view this as insulting.

  32. natrural dominican
    March 10, 2011

    sh&^love threesomes…but if lady if you not into it then don’t do it…as your husband he should understand

  33. lush lush
    March 10, 2011

    you need to give your husband some great sex and spice up the bedroom……….that will make him forget about a threesome……..what you giving is not enough he wants more gurl!!!!!!!!!!

  34. Anonymous
    March 10, 2011

    A threesome? A joke dat man?

    Tell de man get serious and bring on the orgies like they do on porn.

    • MissDanger
      March 12, 2011

      lolol @ the porn part.

  35. ...
    March 10, 2011

    What am i hearing there?

    YOUR HUSBAND WANT’S A THREESOME?
    He wan’ts to have sex with another woman right in your presence?This man has no respect for you or your marriage!

    So what if he decides to leave you for this woman involved in the threesome?
    You said you are a christian and you not in these things…..isn’t your husband a christian also?It sounds as if you all are brothers and sisters.

    I beliave by having a threesome,one encourages the other partner to seek other Man/Woman.It is cheating and what ever happen to the scripture reading that says “THOU SHALL NOT COMMIT ADULTERY?”

    • papamet.
      March 10, 2011

      plz hypocrite. u talk like u rightous. Lady u have one life to live, enjoy it, try new things. Explore, thats wats sex is all about, and guess wat is either u enjoy the threesome with him, which is a lovely experience, or he enjoys it with two others, which one would u prefere.

  36. Google
    March 10, 2011

    the lady is a real Christian woman – i am thinking in this day and age – you either got to be really young.. and innocent or much older to not know what a MENAGE A TROIS is that she has to go look it up.

    I must say your husband must have some spring chicken keeping him up to the time and down to the minute….cause he sure is acting like he knows the ways of the world

  37. stop the bleeding
    March 10, 2011

    i in that

  38. carnival finish?
    March 10, 2011

    Dear concerned,

    Tell him okay and then bring some other dude into the picture. He definitely wont want to cross swords with another dude.

    • notnice
      March 10, 2011

      that should kill the conversation lol

  39. Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
    March 10, 2011

    Bella’s advice is correct.
    Did this occur in Dominica? Do they have such men and also women in Dominica who practice that? I would be shocked if this occurred in Dominica. Not our Dominica, a small island but I may be wrong in this case.
    I have heard of this occurring in the U.S., Canada and Europe. Some years ago there was a U.S. comedy program about this. It brought out all what is occurring in specifically the U.S.
    Some of you who comment and endorse this man are morally and spiritually sick, giving ungodly advice to the lady.
    Today, what with Internet, TV and such books and association with immoral people, some people are influenced by what they hear and read. The devil is in the offing.
    Menage a trois – threesome – for this type of immoral activity is totally wrong. It is not as if they are going to the movies, visiting a place of interest, inviting relatives and friends over for brunch, lunch or dinner or just for a plain visit and having a conversation with three people.
    The man is morally sick. If he loves his wife, is not satisfied with her and the spark has died down, he should be man enough – matured to discuss it with his wife. He has damaged the relationship in their marriage by suggesting such an evil act. This is not what marriage is meant for and this will not keep the marriage intact.
    The lady appears to be a loving wife who loves her husband and is shocked by his suggestion. She innocently agreed because she did not know the meaning of those words. She should not blame herself.
    Lady, do not blame yourself. You are correct to refuse to participate in such an activity. God is pleased with you. Know that he is not pleased with your husband to even entertain such a thought much more to ask you to participate in this. This is the work of the devil, to divide people and marriages, to no good.
    Your husband is the one to be blamed, making you feel guilty by informing you that you rescinded on your agreement to this type of association. It is not as if you are unfaithful to him by not honoring your marriage vows.
    Discuss this with your husband. If this is what he is interested in and will not relent, I suggest counseling. If he refuses to counseling and continues with such an attitude, I am emphatically stating that you should separate from him and get a divorce. In the long run you will be far happier and peaceful for it.
    It is a painful situation but I would not encourage anyone to remain in such a relationship.
    The best you can also do for now is take it to the Lord in prayer. Ask Him for guidance, patience and peace of heart.
    God knows what you are presently undergoing. He wants you to be happy and not under the yoke of this man who appears not to be Christo-centered. Keep up the godly, moral spirit. May God bless you and assist you.

    • VIRGIN NOT!!!
      March 10, 2011

      You will be surprised to know what is going on right here in Dominica!!!! Dominica’s forests maybe virgin, but little else is, trust moi!!

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 10, 2011

      I don’t see why you a so surprised about menage a trois happening in Dominica. Are Dominicans that backward? It does not have to take tv or internet for people to behave freaky. I’m not surprised at all. People have too much tricks, especially those angelic and acting innocent ones

      • Truth, Justice, Love, Peace and Unity
        March 11, 2011

        @ HMMMMMM

        It is not a matter of being backward. I would not view Dominica backward about such an evil. It is also nothing to be proud of. Keep in mind that the article does not state being “freaky”. It states “Menage a trois – threesome”. Stick to the topic.
        The man did not just decide to do such a thing and with his lawful wife. He learnt it from someone and somewhere. They learnt it from a book, Internet or TV – what they heard and read. The originators are those adults who commenced it.
        I am informing you it was unheard of in Dominica – in those days. Today, people are exposed to a lot more and evil through specifically the Internet and TV than we were when these technologies were non-existent. Children are no exception. They also know more than many adults do because of Internet and TV.
        There must have been some sort of conversation which the man was exposed to. I state this originated from those so-called big progressive countries. It is evil and evil actions. Due to moral and spiritual ignorance or willfully, the man must be told that his thoughts and actions are not appropriate and conducive to his wife’s happiness. Such actions are immoral. .
        Most of all, in the sight of God. Give this a good thought.

        • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
          March 11, 2011

          Oh please…..you bore me to death Well, the article did not state ‘freaky’ . I stated it and I know that. :) So people cannot use whatever word they can in response to someone’s post? Well, to me threesome is freaky and I used the word freaky. I’m pretty sure you know what the word freaky means. You have too much moral for me eh. And, you know what? I thought marriage was for better or WORST till death do us part. It seems to me that she is happily married to her husband except that she said yes to something she did not know the meaning of . Maybe she should have asked him what it meant instead of being to quick to say yes. It looks like she says yes to everything without thinking or as she said and I quote ‘ her soul was embedded in the tv and to get her husband off her back said yes ‘. Loosen up my friend. Things happen in the most remote of places. As I’ve said ‘I’m not surprised at all’.

  40. Viciez
    March 10, 2011

    Talk him out of it, but if that doh work, Girl, get de biggest most well endowed man you can find (A real CHEVAL BWA) and station him tootooni in your living room when your husband come home from work (I hope you doh have children!) and tell your loving husband if is menage-a-trois he want, you take infront before infront take you, and being the good wife that you are you didn’t leave all de organizing up to him. If he doh change his mind after that well it doh have no water to wash mister, he is a freak plain and simple.

    • Observer
      March 10, 2011

      Careful. He might like that too :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

      • EDUCATION IS KEY
        March 10, 2011

        so funny i was thinking the same thing..
        pple are sxo freaky nowadays , u dnt knw whats thier preference,..

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 11, 2011

      :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • sweet pum pum
      March 11, 2011

      I like that one so she will have to hold auditions because she is not going to know who have what unless she measure it :lol: :lol:

  41. Dr.No
    March 10, 2011

    from a man’s peerspective
    if mr. hasn’t cheated on u already, he will in the future.
    does he even know what it means to be married?

    girl isuspect u in trouble

  42. DOG
    March 10, 2011

    hush bella… u toooooooo damn wicked…. d man right

    • notnice
      March 10, 2011

      lmao

      • i yah yah
        March 10, 2011

        LMFAO :lol:

  43. hummm
    March 10, 2011

    give the man what he wants

  44. GADA
    March 10, 2011

    Right now my girl and I are into threesomes..We need to be more creative people. If anyone interested send me your number

    • ANTICOM
      March 10, 2011

      gada you spreading some thing man( in patois: GO AND SHAKE YOUR BAG OF COAL WHERE YOU SELL IT EH STUPESSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSSS EH EH YOU WANT PEOPLE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

      • Anonymous
        March 10, 2011

        LOL….I STRONGLY AGREE!!!!!!!!!

      • papamet.
        March 10, 2011

        u dont have to be spreading n e thing to want to have fun idiot. come with ur girlfriend i will show u wat i spreading. Gada i support u big time, look me up on facebook.

    • impress
      April 15, 2011

      i think you need to spread ur # LOL :

  45. Homegirl
    March 10, 2011

    Next time ask your husband to be more explicit. Sweetheart, your husband has already been cheating on you, he just wanted you to know about it now. You are not going back on your word. Your word had been straight forward from the day you took your vows. You husband is the one going back on his word. Did he, at any time, say eventually he would want to trade you for someone else? I hope you are not considering accepting that proposal.

    • impress
      April 15, 2011

      home girl i agree wit u 200%

  46. hmmmmmmmmmmm
    March 10, 2011

    it is a freaky thing eh. know of this situation where husband and wife agreed to have a 3some with a woman, they did it the first time and vowed never to do it again guess what the husband ended up going back to the woman for more without his wife knowing, hmmmmm another twist the wife ended up going back to the woman for more so now husband and wife competing for the woman, what a b***h eh darling don’t do it , god dont like ugly! And this is real ugly!

  47. Just Giving My Two Cents
    March 10, 2011

    Dear Concerned,

    I say HELL NO!!!!!!!!!!! If you truly are a Christian woman, you know what your faith teaches you. Once you are married, there should not be any 3, 4, 5somes but only a TWO… if he wanted to live life, then he should have done so before he got married.

    I think it’s strange that 2 days later things are “looking good”. It’s a warnigng sign, a red flag. What does that mean? 1) He must have been thinking about it – it’s not out of the blue. 2) He must have had the candidates all picked out 3) It is all about him, you do not even have a say

    So, it’s time you address the issue. Tell him your insecurities. I am assuming that he too is “Christian”. Remind him about your beliefs and his. If he is so determined to spice things up .. experiment with toys, dress up for him, do whatever it takes between the 2 of you. Never bring a 3rd party into your marriage. NEVER allow your husband to have any sexual relations with another woman or man. Do not bring the DEVIL, into your house.

    And be on you toes, keep your eyes open. It’s time to talk to your husband and know where his head is at. Discuss ways to spice things up… find out his likes, what he fantasizes about – but do not go down the road of no return.

    It takes a certain kind of woman to do these things, and by your discomfort, you may not be that type. Think of the emotional stress, the stress of the unknown – what happens after, what happens if?

    Don’t do anything that you are not 100% comfy with and you wont regret… that’s just my two cents

    • Jayne
      March 10, 2011

      Honey they need to change Dear Bella to Dear Just Giving My Two Cents.

  48. tsk tsk
    March 10, 2011

    I ask the Almighty why do I have all these dreams of judgment of our nation, these deadly disasters and terrifying events. Why are so many people about to die. Then I come here, read these abominable things and think “oh, that’s why”. Repent people and pick up the bible every once in a while and read the dos and the don’ts of life as laid down by Jesus the Christ. Hell is real let us not work so hard to go there.

    • Lizavier4Jesus
      March 11, 2011

      tsk tsk

      We need to read and Study the Bible every day, not every once in a while. Because the Bible teaches us the Ways of Life, which are the Ways of Love, which is of God Almighty, Eternal Spirit, who is the Person of Jesus Christ.

      If we are going to read the Bible once in a while it is the same as praticing the Ways of Life from time to time. And that is trouble for us.

      So what does that mean? The majority of us human beings are simply existing, waiting to pass away like sand or smoke in the wind. But there is a time coming when God will call back all people to continue to know themselves forever and ever–regardless of their state of mind–so we cannot afford to pass away with a carnal mind.

      Why? Because with a carnal mind, we choose to continue in our death condition, as most of us are just following religious rules and depending on our church leaders, who are human beings just like ourselves.

      Human beings cannot save us and the rules and laws that they write for us to follow do not give us Life. The Words of the Holy Bible is the living Word of God. Jesus said they are Spirit and they give us Life.

  49. Lover Girl
    March 10, 2011

    RUN FOR YOUR LIFE MY LADY. You have a mad man on your hands!!! Your husband just confessed he is committing adultery!! While you are running give him three pieces of dry seaside stick on his head, that will be his threesome to sanity!!! What honorable thinking man wants to share his wife be it with man woman or other? What man? I don’t care how freaky you people think you are, this comes down to NASTINESS!!! Men your wives bodie’s are precious to you and you only. Okay you told her about your fantasy, but to actually want to go there. You are not right! I would reccommend you apologise to your wife, take her out on a romantic dinner, pamper her, and give your woman a good session of bedroom time, and leave those crazy fantasies alone. The only serve to destroy a marriage in the long run.

    • Just Giving My Two Cents
      March 10, 2011

      i agree with you! I’d be more scared than concerned. that is too fishy for me meme

  50. mwen meme
    March 10, 2011

    too much f>’*ing fast life style they does want to immitate. All over the tv, in the media, those “celebrities” and sh(*, that is what they are into sot hey feed it to the public. Lady do not make this mistake and even contemplate it. Call me old fashioned but the secred bond of marriage which you and your husband share is not to be cursed with forms of adultery. Ask him how he would feel if you were to bring up the idea of having another man in your bed. He is sure to think twice. Bottom line….do not allow the devil into your bed, he is already slowly working his way to your husband with his friggin mange’ idea. Pray my dear, and make sure you do it with your husband.

  51. SINISTER
    March 10, 2011

    IF Y’ALL WOMEN WOULD PAY ATTENTION TO Y’ALL MAN THEN U WOULDA UNDERSTAND WUT HE WAS TLKN BOUT!! Y’ALL TOO LIKE TO IGNORE THE MEN…. YES IS PEACE…. WELL NOW U HAVE TO DO IT TO HAVE PEACE

    • faithful
      March 10, 2011

      u r an a*&

  52. Wait!
    March 10, 2011

    DON’T DO IT…. IF YOU’RE NOT FEELING IT NOW YOU WILL NEVER FEEL IT…..TRUST ME HE’S ONLY GOING TO WANT MORE. MEN ARE GREEDY N IF U GIVE IN ONCE THAT’S IT… U WILL NEVER FORGIVE YOURSELF FOR IT OR GET OVER IT.. STICK TO YOUR VALUES WOMAN OF GOD… DO NOT DO IT!!!

    • Anonymous
      March 10, 2011

      if u dont stand for something, u will fall for anything.

  53. Lougaoo Mem
    March 10, 2011

    Lougaoo kwows a company that does it every Carnival; they call it bunga bunga. They strongly recommend to try it, because it’s good for living in peace, love and harmony instead of fighting with each other. Check me out with my two queens on the river-side in the South-east. Enough good stuff when you bunga bunga eh! (LOL)

  54. aye aye
    March 10, 2011

    Bor what d modda r(*^ is that nah? Tell him you want a 3some with 2 padnahs and check his response. He must wheel and come again!

  55. happy
    March 10, 2011

    lady u dont no wat ur missing. … my boyfriend brought up the idea and being the freek that i am i went up with it. it was fun and that made our relationship even stronger. now guess who is getting married :) :)

    • faithful
      March 10, 2011

      u r just nasty

      • Dr.No
        March 10, 2011

        i suspect thats an impersonator

        • hmm
          March 11, 2011

          i find the media have alu coming stupid in D/A wii pal

  56. Respect
    March 10, 2011

    yall people sick, i cant believe this is Dominica!

  57. Kalinago Empress
    March 10, 2011

    Threesome??! Ohhhh yessss! Just bring the ladies home bby! The more, the merrier!!

    Its time we women start thinking “outside the box”!

    • lolo
      March 13, 2011

      U R JUST A NASTY KALINAGO!!!!
      THE MORE THE MERRIER WITH HERPES, AIDS,..I HOPE U WILL FEEL MERRIER AFTER..

  58. Anonymous
    March 10, 2011

    I know a guy who forced his wifey of 3 years to try a 3 sum with another girl.. he begged her almost everyday. One day she agreed to do it on his birthday. She set it up and everything it was one of her co workers her and him. He was a verry happy man after that day but when he found out his wife was continuing seeing the co worker and always going on girls night out he got suspicious.. turns out his wife got a craving for puddy tat she didnt even know till that night. Long story shot the co worker the wife and the husband live in the same house.His wife told him she rather have sex with the girl more than him but she loves him..SMH.. He said he is trying everything to keep his marriage and he wish he never had done that 3 some in the 1st place.

    • ...
      March 10, 2011

      wHAT I HEARING THERE? PAPA GAD!111111111111

      • Lizavier4Jesus
        March 11, 2011

        ….

        It is not what you hearing, but it what you reading. But you make me laugh, the way you write that

    • Anonymous
      March 10, 2011

      it good for him.

      • hmm
        March 11, 2011

        that cannot be happening in dominica

  59. .
    March 10, 2011

    Good cause all you never pay attention to your men. see what happen as a result.
    I say try it!

  60. bunny
    March 10, 2011

    I must be really old-fashioned.

    • v
      March 10, 2011

      that makes both of us papa

  61. Piper
    March 10, 2011

    You dont want 3-some. What you want is to take your man behind his back. You think we doh know what christian woman like you does give?

    Christian woman have the most shaleh, but they undercover. You know how much christian woman I had when I was a teenager? They does take their thing in secret and walk with their head high the next day going to church.

  62. mouth of the south
    March 10, 2011

    hhhmmmm as a christian lady ur faith comes first,,, this is MOTS speaking the blogger who is bashed for speaking the most ridiculous things on d.n.o n i am here telling u that if u wasn’t saved then u are of the world then go ahead,,,, but u are a child of God,,, nothing comes b4 the love of the father,,, he would never condone that behaviour from u,,,, understand they will thumbs me down n reply in negative ways,,, wise ones will support,,, but many will go where the road is broad n a select few will tread the narrow n dark route,,, but have no fear the almighty will light ur way n provide guidance,,, let ur husband know or remind him u all are christians n such act is against the will of the father,,,, further more it will not stop here,,, he will demand u all do it more often,,, even for birthdays n anniversaries,,,, this doesn’t look good,, think of such thing leaking out,,,, how would u feel in front of the congregation,,,, though we all make mistakes,,, some stay scarred for life,,,, not forgetting u allow another woman to be with ur man in ur presence,,,, or worse yet another man to ride n make u scream in the presence of ur man while God is in the room watching,,,,, the mere fact u asked bella for advice for such an act which lots of worldly women would accept in a flash tells me u r setting up ur self for hurt n regret which u may refuse to forgive urself or your husband,,,, the devil has all ways of creeping into ones life n i sense he has taken hold of ur husband,,,, now only u remain so that he can destroy the HOME that God gave to u,,,,, take hold of ur sanity n shake the devil our of ur husband,,,, trust me the devil is at work here

    • EaSiLy
      March 10, 2011

      Well said MOTS! Couldn’t have said it any better!

    • Amen
      March 10, 2011

      For once mouth of the south I agree with you.

    • Cece
      March 10, 2011

      The family needs prayer. Something nasty has creept in for true. Lady stand your ground and honor God. The marriage bed is a sacred place don’t defile it with some crazy third party sent by lucifer. Threesomes are a sure weapons against marriage. you did not marry as a threesome. It’s logical then that you can’t have physical intiamcy as a menage a trois.

    • Lizavier4Jesus
      March 10, 2011

      Mots, you see, you have a huge thumbs up already! 19-1 right now. That is a piece of Truth, that you wrote here. And you know what? It was God’s Holy Spirit that spoke through you; so give Him the honor and the credit, okay! That is the way you love Him. You have loved that lady as well, through those words of advice.

      Keep on writing like that, and you will find out how through you, God can cause a lot of people to allow Him to work through their minds for their own salvation. Right now, you have more privilege to do that than me, because more people know about you than they do about me.

      Study the Word of God, and speak what you understand of them, my brother. The more you try, the more God will bless you with the wisdom and revelation of His Holy Spirit, as you build up in knowlege of Him and His Ways of Love, that He might do His work through you.

      Way to go, man! I really love that piece of yours.

    • Anti-hate
      March 10, 2011

      Damn MOTS you brought it on this post…

      I suspect you grow up in church, no wonder u’re online all day, don’t go to Carnival, and don’t have any game with women so you’re not getting any. lol

      Good post mayne!!

      • mouth of the south
        March 10, 2011

        hahaha mr hate,,,,, if there was a fair competition on getting woman trust me u wouldn’t see me on dat one,,,,lol lol :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

  63. hmm
    March 10, 2011

    who knows u might like it so much u leave ur husband and start goin down town, i no ppl tht have :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol: :lol:

    • HMMMMMM(the psychic)
      March 10, 2011

      :lol: she looking for advice.

  64. Justice
    March 10, 2011

    Try it you might like it. I am looking for a someone to do one also but terms and conditions apply.

    • mouth of the south
      March 10, 2011

      d/ca women smh :-x :-x :-x

      • Justice
        March 10, 2011

        Whoever said I was a woman….GROW UP MOTS.

  65. lady
    March 10, 2011

    tell your husband to take my number call on me 277 2777 send me

  66. Wesley massive
    March 10, 2011

    girlfriend u might actualy enjoy it. I am married and i brought up the idea to my husband and he was dead set against it, maybe we need to trade husband. make it fun think about it, u chose the girl blindfold him let him have some fun. Be more open minded.
    I have to show my husband this story to see if he will change his mind.LOL

    • ...
      March 10, 2011

      i WONDER WHAT YO WILL DO IF HE CHEATS ON YOU……YOU ARE ACTUALLY ACEPTING IF HE HAS ANOTHER WOMAN

    • MABELLA
      March 11, 2011

      lying hussy!!!

  67. Interesting...
    March 10, 2011

    My girl this is a fantasy of every man, even if all of them are not brave enough to express it! Who knows, you might enjoy it too…lol!

    • Smallville
      March 10, 2011

      yes they might enjoy it so much that they might decide that they like being with women more than men. I don’t think men think of the possibility of losing their woman to another woman.

    • LawieBawie
      March 10, 2011

      Don’t be mistaken! It is also the fantasy of many a woman except that women do not generally express these things like men do thus making us look like the ones who are always seeking to play outside of our relationships. I once worked at a restaurant where the bartender who was female expressed to me that she was indeed interested in trying a threesome. Things have changed. Maybe it is woman time?

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