Dear Bella: I have an ex who acts completely deranged and just won’t let me leave my life.
He is always in my personal business and bombarding me to give him information about my whereabouts even as we’re not together. This is driving me crazy. I was really starting to enjoy my single life because it’s less stressful and dramatic for me. He causes me to raise my voice and I get irritated by everything when he nags me so much. The thing about it is we got a kid. I try to be nice, but he always has to bring up some nonsense to provoke me. How can I deal with this without losing my cool so often?
On the verge of insanity.
Dear On the verge of insanity,
Try to have more patience with your ex and don’t let him allow you to be so irritable, frustrated and angered all the time. These are not emotions you want to display around your kid. Also when you go around crossed and miserable people are discouraged to interact with you and you can also give strangers the wrong impression.
If it’s petty don’t allow it to faze you. Once someone sees they’re getting to you that’s what they like- a reaction, so just don’t be bothered by it. However, stand your ground when it’s necessary. As young adults you should be able to both have a civilized discussion even when you disagree and let him know that as well. Pray for the patience and understanding to deal with him- that will facilitate your peace of mind. Additionally, what you do with your life is your prerogative, no one should try to control or manage it so you don’t have to answer to anyone once you are not in a relationship with him.
Bella.
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BUT THAT COLUMN DIE MAN???>..
i jus come dere i checking dat too lol,,,,d.n.o wah happen to bella n nice guy
do what i do, tell him LPM and go about ur day as normal…lmao…he ent in control of u, so u ent gotta bother with him…
You ex might still think that he has a hold on you, because you may sharing certain things with him that you should not be doing.
You need to let him know that the relationship that you still maintain with him is because he is the father of your children, not your sex partner or the man of your house. He gave up the right to be in partnership with you when he decided to go his own way. Or unless you are the one who kicked him and now you are showing him signs that you want him back in your life. I do not know, I am just searching for a reason why you think that you have to tolerate those kinds of nagging that he treating you with, which flaws your emotional conducts and attitude..
Why don’t you try harder to let him get it into his head that you have no business with him,except to relate to him for the sake of the children who yours and his.
It is unfortunate that some men use the children they have with us, as an excuse to get back in bed with us, even to boss us around because they are the father of our children, while they still choose live outside of the home. Unless you are not really serious about this man nagging you so much, why don’t you find yourself another man, to let him know who the true head of your earthly life is.
Yet still if you are not interested in another man, you just have to be firm with your ex. Do not surrender to his come ons. By doing this you are giving grounds to think that he is still the head in you and your children’s life. Sometimes we just have to let the man know that we do not need them, by rejecting everything that they are offering to us.
HMMM you sure do enjoy your EX’s attention. If it’s over and he is still nagging you just call the damn cops on him
GIRL AM IN THE SAME POSITION WITH YOU, BUT I RELY ON GOD FOR MY CALM AND PLIANT SPIRIT. RIGHT NOW HE IS WISHING THE BEST FOR ME ALTHOUGH HE STILL WANTS US TO MAKE BACK TOGETHER. TRUST IN GOD GIRL AND DON’T SHOW HIM THAT HE IS IRRITATING JUST DEAL CALM WITH HIM AND THINGS WILL SOON CHANGE.
@Health Remedies:
its not leave you life its live your life
Strange things do happy in life